Sleeping in Own Room at 3months.

Briana - posted on 04/10/2010 ( 109 moms have responded )

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I have a almost 3month old baby boy. Is it to early for him to sleep in his own room? I feel it's a little early, but my husband says know. Our son wakes up around 3-4AM, then has a hard time going back to sleep and sometimes he is fussy; and my husband can't stand it. So, he wants to move him into his room??



So, Should I try it and see how it works or wait??? Need suggestions..

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Allie - posted on 04/13/2010

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I had my daughter in her own room since she was 1 week old. Literally. She didnt get as restful sleep when she was with me in my room. I had the baby monitor on. I got up for her when she needed or wanted something. I would try putting him in his room for naps to start and see how that goes. I actually had my daughter swaddled until she was 6-7 months old. We had long, hard nights due to acid reflux and colic combined. Swaddling her made it so she was comfortable and slept longer and more restful.

Morgan - posted on 04/13/2010

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My daughters been in her crib from the night she came home, the bedroom is for me and my husband not the baby.

Amber - posted on 04/13/2010

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Everyone is different, both of my children slept with me while I nursed and then went to their own beds. Their father is the same way, he said "lots of babies are put straight into their own beds and have grown to be just fine"! Well, I was not ok with our daughter (our first) to sleep in her room at 4 months old (I didn't mind her sleeping in her crib), but that was because the master was on the second floor and the other two bedrooms were on the main! I ended up sleeping on the couch until I felt comfortable with her sleeping on the main level by herself! If you aren't comfortable, you need to decide what will or won't work for you! Good luck!

Helen - posted on 04/13/2010

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our little man went into his own room at 12 weeks as we are both light sleepers and we ended up keeping each other awake - also i went back to work then so he was able to stay asleep while i got ready for work

Nikkole - posted on 04/13/2010

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we moved are lil girl into her only room at 3months. and we never had a problem. some times if you wait to long it becomes a problem. my friend has a lil brother that his 5 and he still sleep in the same room with his mom and dad, and they have a room to put him in and they wont do it

Morgan - posted on 04/13/2010

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Our son has been in his crib in his own room since day one as well. We did move our mattress in to his room for the first 7 weeks but have now moved back in to our room and just use the baby monitor. He has been sleeping for about 6 hour stretches for the last few weeks (he is almost 8 weeks old) and even takes naps in his crib. I think the earlier the better, gets them used to it!

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We moved into our new home when my son was 3 months old and he was in his own room from that moment and he's nearly always slept in his own room. The only exception is when he's been ill and has come through in the night!! I found it easier on me having a room in the house that was in a non child take over state too!! Hope this helps!!

Rebecca - posted on 04/13/2010

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I made the mistake with my first to cuddle and go in at each little whimper until he was 7 or 8 months and it made my life impossible when we tried to get him to sleep through the night or to fall asleep on his own so with our second i wasted no time! My husband went out of town when my son was 2yrs and our daughter was 3 months and he was gone for a month. I took it upon myself the first night he was gone to move her to her crib and she only woke up once. She is now 9 months and doesn't wake up, it's VERY rare if she does, and she doesn't need to be rocked or cuddled to fall asleep. I loved having my bed back and i lived having the whole bed to myself for 1 month! My husband is a bed hog so i enjoyed it while it lasted but my son still doesn't sleep through and was always in bed with me so i really only got rid of 2 people...and to this day i'm still working on getting our son to stay out of our bed:(

Jennifer - posted on 04/13/2010

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both of my children started sleeping in their own room at around 2 weeks of age, which was when my husband went back to work. It is definately something that they need to get used to and it will help Mommy and Daddy to get a better sleep and be more functioning parents

Angela - posted on 04/12/2010

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My little girl went in her own bed at 2 months. I was very relieved to have some personal space again. She now loves her crib. I mean loves it. She likes to sit in it and just chatter to her toys for up to an hour each morning. Just crank up that baby monitor and you can hear each little sniffle. In fact, more often than not it would startle me out of a sound sleep because I could hear it so well.

Jessica - posted on 04/12/2010

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We put our son in his own room at 4 months and it seemed like it even helped him sleep better through the night. He's a light sleeper so if one of us got up to use the restroom or anything we would wake him up and then have to feed him. I know it's nerve wracking for the mom to move them from your room to theirs but you may find your baby prefers it.

Lucy - posted on 04/12/2010

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ive got a three month old boy and my partner and i are not sure whether to put him in his own room yet or not....i guess i'm so used to carrying him in my stomach for the last 9 months that i want him around me 24/7. He is already getting too big for his bassinet so i think im going to take the advice above and trust my inner instinct...its different for everyone....but i think ive got to bite the bullet...im going to get a baby monitor and place him in his own room...starting next week

Liane - posted on 04/12/2010

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I don't think its to early, the only reason they say the baby should sleep in your room for the first couple of months is because they have a quiet cry and I think its more for the parents than the baby..My daughter has slept in her own room since she was about 3 1/2 months old, and she has done fine....I honestly think its your preference on what you feel most comfortable with.

Kristen - posted on 04/12/2010

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my son still sleeps in the same room as me, but thats only because i dont have an extra room to put him in. there are so many people that put their babies in their own rooms immediately after bringing them home from the hospital. and theres nothing wrong with that. if i would have had the extra room for him he definitely would have had his own room at about 2 months. i think there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. it might be a hard adjustment at first, but it will get easier... :)

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My daughter slept in her own room from the day she came home from the hospital and has only slept one night in our bed...

Louise - posted on 04/12/2010

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Had this discussion earlier actually with my cousin. Here the recommended age is 6 months but the official world health organisation recommend a year. This is to reduce the risk of cot death. studies show that the closer a baby sleeps to their mother the more regular their heart rate and breathing and the less likely sleep apneoa is to occur. It's got something to do with the relative immaturity of their heart and lungs.

Although I did keep my kids in our room till 6 months I didn't know this stuff. My cousin was telling me today.

Hving said that I know people who put their children in their own rooms earlier.

It's your baby and you know better than anyone else if they are ready to sleep in Their own room or not.

Jamie - posted on 04/12/2010

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dont wait , i put our daughter in her room at 6 weeks , its was hard forsure but it was the best thing we ever did ....

Kim - posted on 04/12/2010

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My son was 8 weeks old when he went into his own room. up until then he barely slept at night, once in his own room he started sleeping through. (i still say it was daddys snoring that woke him up). he now naps in his room too, and goes down to bed and nap time awake as he's familiar with his surroundings and is aware that his room is for sleeping in! it was a move i didnt want to make but was so pleased when i did! just make sure you have a monitor on.

Katie - posted on 04/12/2010

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I suggest you give it a try. My son started sleeping in his own room a little before 3 months and now he sleeps through the night!

Jenna - posted on 04/12/2010

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ouch, my husband gets up with our month old son in the middle of the night =P
were just waiting until hes too big for the bassinet to move him into his crib in his room.

Trista - posted on 04/12/2010

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I put my daughter in her own room when she was 3 months old and it did not seem to bother her at all. My husband use to have to get up early to go to work and I did not want the baby waking him up when she woke up, so I put her in her own room and it made everyone happy. She even seemed to sleep for longer periods of time.

Rebecca - posted on 04/12/2010

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They can go into their own room at any time that works for your family. That said, the SIDS risk is lower in the forst 6 months for babies that sleep in their own bed but the same room as you. Also I have read studies that suggest up to 6 months of age babies sleep better in the same room as mum, but from 6 months on they tend to sleep worse (wake more often). Obviously this change doesn't happen overnight so the ages are a guide.

That said, I had my 3 in a bassinet in my room until they outgrew the bassinet - then I had no choice but for them to go to their own room because the cot didn't fit in mine! That meant the longest anyone was in with us was 16 weeks, and we had no dramas at all with the move.

Good luck with whatever you decide. You need to find a way you can both be happy with the decision...

Lisa - posted on 04/12/2010

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My daughter was 3 months old when I put her in her own room but if your not comfortable with it tell your husband to sleep somewhere in the house.

Helena - posted on 04/12/2010

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Hi Briana! I only moved my son to his own room at 10months and I didnt get much sleep, but after the first week he was use to it and so was I. I guess the sooner the better - while they still cant understand whats going on!! In the end its harder for us than it is for them!! Good Luck!!

Stephanie - posted on 04/12/2010

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I think we moved our son into his own room (which was about 10ft away) when he was a couple weeks old. Both of us had to go back to school when he was about a couple of weeks. We rotated waking up with him each night so it made it much better for the person who wasn't "on duty" =) I think it was a good thing personally.

Brean - posted on 04/12/2010

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first off, i dont think your husband is being selfish. i do think if he has a demanding job or works long hours than he does need his sleep. my fiance is in law enforcement and works 12-14 hr days, our daughter sleeps in a bassinet right off my side of the bed and when she wakes up to feed, we stroll on over to the rocking chair in her room and feed there and wait until she falls back to sleep to go back to our room. on the rare night that she is fussy and not wanting to fall back to sleep, we go to the spare bedroom and lay down together in there. i dont think your son is too young, most of my older family and friends with children say to put babies in their crib at 3 months, so that they can get used to it, because no one really wants a 4 year old in bed with them every night. I have tried her sleeping in the crib and at 3 weeks, she did just fine, and it was me that couldnt let go so i slept on the floor right near her crib. i think its more the parents fear of letting go than the children actually needing us so close. hope that helps, but ultimately the decision is yours to make hun.

Sequoia - posted on 04/12/2010

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my daughter, now 6 months, has been sleeping in her own room from the day we brought her home from hospital...the headboard of our bed is on the same wall as her cot so i can hear everything (and we had a monitor)-i dont think its ever too soon as long as you are happy with it...it is better to get them in their own beds before they NEED you to stay with them, eventually they are going to have to sleep alone, so why not start now? good luck x-x

Susanne - posted on 04/12/2010

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If you are worried about him sleeping in his own room, why not just try it during the day for his day sleeps and see how he goes. A friend of mine did that, and they found that a few weeks in the bub just slept in their own room all the time. Also if you do it during the day, when you are awake to scheck on him, it may help you to feel a little more secure about it, and get used to the idea.

Sarah - posted on 04/12/2010

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With my joungest i didnt move him into his own room until he was 6 months, but that was only because he was going to be sharing with his brother who still got up during the night. If however he had been going into his own room i would of done it alot sooner. Alot sooner like my second, she was in her own room at 4 weeks old and she did fine. :)

Pam - posted on 04/12/2010

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You just have to do what works for you and your family. Some kids do well sleeping in their own room/crib right from the start, and others just can't handle it. And some parents do fine with having their child sleep in their room, or even their bed, while others can't sleep with this arrangement. It could be selfishness on your husband's part motivating him to want to move your son to his own room, but it could also be a legitimate problem for him. If your husband needs the baby to sleep further away, I say give it a try and just be open to the possibility that your son may not accept the arrangement. Be open and willing to try things, and see what helps everybody get the most sleep.

My son, for a long time, couldn't sleep away from people. He slept part time in a pack-n-play in our bedroom (after a bassinet) and part time in our bed. Then, all of a sudden, he couldn't sleep with us anymore. We all started waking each other up, and it was time for him to move. My best advice is just to be flexible. There's no right or wrong way to do things, just what works for YOU.

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I had fully planned to keep my son in my room for at least the first month... six days in and he was in his own room! We (personally) found that he was keeping us awake with his snuffling and moving around, and we think that we were keeping him awake (eg with our moving around and partners snoring lol). So we purchased one of the breathing monitors (which we also hadn't planned to buy) and moved him out. BUT that's just my experience, and I do know of some people who have successfully had babies in their rooms for up to six months.

Sarah - posted on 04/11/2010

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If you feel it is best to wait then do so, If you are the one doing the AM feedings then it should be your choice. Also at 3 months if your son is waking up he is hungry and NEEDS to be fed during the AM whether your hubby likes it or not so there is no way, even in his own room that he will not be bothered somewhat. Tell him to get over it and do what you think is best!

Susanne - posted on 04/11/2010

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My daughter is 8 months old in two days. We put her straight in her cot in her own room the day she came home. We picked her room because our room is too cold, and her room is right across from the loungeroom where the fire is. Plus Nigel works early hours and is back late, so for those reasons we felt that it was better for everyone that she was in her own room. At three weeks old she was sleeping through the night She still does now, until recently because she is teething. But in a way I was lucky because her bedroom is right beside ours, and I am a light sleeper, so if I woke up, i could just lay there and i could hear her breath. I never used the monitor except when she was asleep inside and i had to go outside to the laundry or clothesline. She was sick a few times as a a young infant, and when she was, i slept in the loungeroom just to be closer to her. But we haven't had a problem. But do what you feel is comfortable. You are the only person that can tell is you are ready or not.

Danielle - posted on 04/11/2010

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My daughters been in her own room since day one. Shes going to be 2 months on the 15th of this month. Like some of the mothers said whatever you feel is right for your son do, thats what Ive been doing for my daughter whatever I felt was right for her Ive been doing.

Susanne - posted on 04/11/2010

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I say, do what you feel most comfortable with. But my daughter was put in a cot in her own room, the day she came home from hospital, and we have never had a problem.

Jennifer - posted on 04/11/2010

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My daughter is 2 1/2 months and has been sleeping in her own room since she came home from the hospital. Right now she sleeps until about 2:00 and then sleeps until 6:00. She seems to do fine in there.

Sarah - posted on 04/11/2010

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It is really up to you and your husband. My son was in our room until he was 3 months old. I think I would have put him in his own room sooner, but due to lack of another room he was in our room until we moved. My daughtwer was in her own room since we brought her home from the hospital. I had a baby monitor right by our bed (not that I needed it--could hear her just fine without it). I actually liked it better with her in her own room. I slept better and it was nice to have that time with my husband without baby, especially when baby was pretty much all we did at that age. Each family is different though, so do what works best for the two of you. Find a middle ground that both you and hubby feel good about.

Sharaya - posted on 04/11/2010

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My daughter was 1 month old when we put her in her own room. Her room is just right across ours and so we leave the doors open so I can hear her just fine if she wakes up and starts crying. And since she's right across the hall, I've never even had to bother with monitors. She started sleeping 8 hours every night when she was about 3 or 4 weeks old...

Jen - posted on 04/11/2010

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My daughter went straight to the crib the night she came home from the hospital. My husband and I agreed that we didn't want a baby in the bedroom. She only woke once or twice at night so I'd go and feed her in the living room and lay her back down. I usually brought her in to bed for her 6am feeding and she'd sleep on my chest or next to me for 3-4 more hours. We had to put her boppy in the crib with her though because she was so tiny in such a big crib lol.

Nichol - posted on 04/11/2010

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my daughter is 15 week and has been sleeping in her own room since six weeks beacuse she was too heavy for her bassinet. I probably got less sleep the first few nights because I was constantly checking the monitor but she actually slept better and for longer periods once we switched her to her crib.

Jacki - posted on 04/11/2010

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my son is almost 2 and still tends to wake up once or twice during the night, it took me untill he was a year and a half to get him out of my bed and even though he does sleep in his own bed his bed is in my room because its easier than getting up and going all the way across the hall 3 in the morning... now thats just my story... u could could hear a million different stories but it all comes down to what is comfortable for you

Tonya - posted on 04/11/2010

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my son has been in his own room since he was born and he just turned 4 months old.

Katherine - posted on 04/11/2010

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I did not move my son out of my room untill he could sleep through the night. However my son slept through the night at 3 months. I started him on rice cereal at night to help keep his tummy full so he would sleep longer. Some parents agree with starting rice cereal and some don't. My mother gave me and my siblings cereal, and my friends did the same with their kids, and I did with my son, and everyone is perfectly healthy, so it's really up to you. But the greatest thing is getting a full nights sleep knowing your child has a full tummy and will sleep through the night. I plan on doing the same with my next son who is due in June. Good luck.

Nikki - posted on 04/10/2010

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My husband was the same when our daughter was about that age, but as much as I understood where he was coming from I couldn't bear to put her in her own room yet, so to compromise I would take her out of the bedroom while she was unsettled and settle her before she went back to sleep. She is now 5 months and only wakes once in a 12 hour period for a feed but she doesn't fuss any more and he doesn't wake up. I think it's a personal choice that you both have to agree with. Good luck

April - posted on 04/10/2010

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Hey Briana, I started putting my daughter in her own room whens he was 3 weeks old. I found our room was too dark for her plus my hubby found it hard to get back to sleep when she was fussy too and what not. Once she was in her own bed she began sleeping through the night on a regular basis, and for a min of 7-8 hrs straight!!

Best of luck!!

Jennifer - posted on 04/10/2010

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We started putting our son in his crib at 3 months and i must admit we rested so much better. I was always afraid we would wake him up and since my husband worked and i didn't i was also afraid his sleep would be distrubed. You can hear so much over a baby monitor so i was reassured by that. You can always try it and if it doesn't work for you put him back in your room. Every baby is different and so is every mom, if you don't feel comfortable with it don't do it though.

Lydia - posted on 04/10/2010

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Our daughter went to her own room at about six weeks and we have never looked back! It took a bit of getting used to - we checked on her more regularly for a little while until we were used to it but we got much better quality sleep because we only heard the noises we needed to respond to rather than every little shuffle. It worked for us - but everyone is diferent.
If you arent comfortable with being seperated overnight you can always put him in his own room for his day naps and then start putting him there overnight in a couple of weeks...?

Cheslyn - posted on 04/10/2010

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my daughter was 6 weeks old when i moved her bassinet into her bedroom. my husbands snoring was waking her up!! LOL! she slept through the night everynight since then. with sick exceptions of course!

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