So embarrassing but need advice. DO NOT need judgement!

Jennifer - posted on 03/14/2010 ( 153 moms have responded )

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I had my youngest child nearly 3 years ago but ever since I was 9 months preg with her I pee a little when I cough or sneeze. I know that it is some what normal while your prego but I don't think that it is normal for it to continue. It does not happen every time but it still happens enough! I have been checked and I do not have any heath issues so I have no idea what could be causing it. Anyone have any advice?

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C. - posted on 03/15/2010

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PLEASE READ THIS..

Sarah Hofland wrote "Try stopping and starting when you are peeing".

Please, PLEASE, ONLY use that to make sure you are squeezing the right muscles. If you are continually stopping and starting your flow of urine, it can cause you to get a urinary tract infection. So please only do that once or twice in the beginning to make sure you are using the right muscles. Just wanted to clarify that.

Sarah - posted on 03/14/2010

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Agrees with Jessica. The joys of being a woman after having babies. This is very common and you would be amazed at how many people have this problem. Keegal exercises will help. I find the easiest way to do them is when you pee. Try stopping and starting when you are peeing. You can do them pretty much anywhere and no one will know you are doing them, but I have a hard time figuring out if I am getting it and doing it right so doing them when I have to go to the bathroom works better for me. Another thing that will help is to wear a panity liner (another thing you would be amazed at how many women wear due to that occasional sneeze or cough).

Jessica - posted on 03/14/2010

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Keegal Exercises are supposed to help with this issue. I think this is more of a common issue then you think. Don't be embarrassed.

Sheree - posted on 03/15/2010

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You are not alone, i also had this problem and i also suffered it during intercourse, and let me tell you that was horrible and embarrassing. I saw my dr about it and she recommended pelvic floor exercises, and also said it gets worse with each child you have. If you google pelvic floor exercises it tell you exactly how to do it. Best of luck and I hope it works :)

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Tara - posted on 03/18/2010

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I had this problem when I was pregnant. I don't know how much you pee, but I used to wear pantyliners.

Margarita - posted on 03/18/2010

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Well it happens because your bladder is not in place... it is lower than where it should be. There is a simple surgery or simple exercises that you can do to correct this, but I would ask my OBGYN about it and to check it. I have the same problem and I do the exercises, you just have to contract your vagina muscles as if you had urge to go, for a couple of seconds, lets say count to 10, and the let go, repeat let say about 5 times. Do this every time you remember to do it.. even if you are at a restaurant, driving,,, no one will notice, also when you are peeing, pee a little bit and the hold it for 10 seconds, and then let go for a little bit and then hold it again if you still have pee left... Neway these is what my doctor told me to do and it works, at least is not surgery if you really don't need it. I know how you feel and I know is very uncomfortable to ask. but I hope this helps.

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That is normal after kids. I have had four gorgeous babies, and I still cross my legs when I cough or sneeze.

Andrea - posted on 03/18/2010

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This is usually a result of weak pelvic floor muscles. It starts with pregnancy but doesn't always correct after delivery. Do some research on Kegel exercises. They are specifically designed to help this problem. If it becomes frequent and begins to interfere with your life you can always talk to your GYN about surgery to correct the problem. It's a pretty serious step though. I strongly recommend starting with the Kegels.

Abigail - posted on 03/18/2010

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It happens to almost everyone....Do keegle exercises and that should almost eliminate your problem.

Shannon - posted on 03/18/2010

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I've heard of that happening. I was told that it is stretched muscles. (For obvious reasons) Although, it usually happens after you've had several children. You can see your Doc, I believe you can have surgery done to fix the problem. Don't be embarrassed, it happens to many women.

Cat - posted on 03/18/2010

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Kegels! Best way to work that out. It's totally normal for that to happen after pregnancy, especially after such a long, physical beat down :)

Breanna - posted on 03/18/2010

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lol i do the same thing lol some times i would have just gone and i can start laughing really hard then boom im screwed lol its just a matter of doing your kegals, all my sisters have been out of pregnancy for like 3 yrs and they still do it im sure its normal its just embarrassing but if you can laugh it off then all you really have to do is change

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Melissa - posted on 03/18/2010

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Seriously nothing to be embarrassed by. I have the same problem. My daughter is 4 years old and it has happened ever since I was pregnant with her, even though I'm told I'm perfectly fine. Now that I'm pregnant again I have to run to the bathroom whenever I sneeze or cough really hard. I think it just has to do with the muscles having been stretched.

Holly - posted on 03/18/2010

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I'm still like that too, my baby was born Sept 09. I'm sure you've read this several times by now, but I'll post anyway. My dr told me keegal exercises and HOLD it as long as you can to tighten it even more. Once its tightened the way it was pre-prego/birth, the little surprises should stop. Its hard to remember to do it, but when I do remember I have more luck not getting embarrassed. LOL

Jennifer - posted on 03/18/2010

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this is actually very common after you give birth and beyond, part of the reason is, you spent 9 months with a __lb baby sitting on your bladder, and that weakens it and make the muscles looser. there may not be a full 'cure' for the issue, but there are steps you can take to help tighten them back up! kegal exercises, taking long walks, and pelvic presses can help! good luck, and you are not alone!

Desiree - posted on 03/18/2010

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your bladder muscles weaken when you age and when you have children. Its a lot more common than you think. Kegal exercises help but you may also need surgery. I knew a couple people who had to have surgery to help the problem.

Tracie - posted on 03/18/2010

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Dont be embarrassed it happens to me all the time too, i always have to wear a liner.

Samantha - posted on 03/18/2010

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Agree with most mommies here! Kegel Exercises. Like Jessica said, much more common than you think! I also kept panty liners in my purse for this reason. Until you get it down with the Kegels and Panty liners, you might want to take some extra trips to the restroom, that helps me too.

Lacey - posted on 03/18/2010

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Sorry, no advice. I just wanted you to know that you weren't alone. That happened to me even before I was pregnant! Anytime I would laugh really hard especially. It is totally normal, even Whoopie talked about it on The View the other day, haha. :)

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The same thing happened to me for a while after I gave birth. My mom never recovered from it though (her doctor said it was because the size of the baby constantly pushing on her bladder). Long story short: she ended up having surgery where they went in and actually lifted her bladder permanently.

Brandi - posted on 03/18/2010

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That same thing happended to me too! A couple of doctors told me to to do those excercises but they did not work. I eventually found an awesome doctor who just put a sling on my bladder. So if u get one of those u should be totally fixed up the thing is is finding a doctor with the patience to test u to see if u need one and a doctor that wont keep telling u bs about how its not gonna last!!! So good luck

Pamela - posted on 03/18/2010

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i am not sure what you could do about it but i have he same problem and i have a two yr old i think that it continues to happen becuase the babies were resting on our bladders

Nichelle - posted on 03/18/2010

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no youre not the only one as you cane see. i have the problem where im still running back and forth like im still preggo. or when it fills like the baby is pushing on your bladder and you gotta go rite then and there...i still get that feeling. i was pretty embarassed at first as well and now i know im not the only one.

Megan - posted on 03/18/2010

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it happens every once in a while to me too if your worried about it talk to a doctor but im pretty sure its not too big of a deal.

Marsha - posted on 03/18/2010

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Your not the only one. My son will be 5 and I still have this prob and a friend of mine is the same. I heard that it can be disharge or its extra that we just dont get out when we go to the bathroom. I could be wrong but our not alone.

Randee - posted on 03/18/2010

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I have had 4 birth and it still happens 13 months after my last baby. I was told due to my son being 8' 13 my muscles went as strong. He was my third. I almost alway wear a pantie liner and keep spare one in my car, office and purse just to be safe.

Laura - posted on 03/18/2010

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I've had two daughters and am now pregnant with daughter no 3.....and this is a really big prob for me!! Been told pelvic floor exercises and wear a pantyliner! Hopefully it will get better in time! Good luck. x

Angie - posted on 03/18/2010

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I know you've gotten alot of responses, and I hope they all helped. Start strengthening your muscles when you pee chica!! :) I still go through it and my youngest is 18 months!!

Otilia - posted on 03/18/2010

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im not gonna lie i have the same problem. i talked to my daughter and he said everything checks out good soooo me n u r in the blank about it. my mother said that keegal exercises r supose to help with that lol

Megan - posted on 03/18/2010

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Def. Keegal exercises! It works trust me! Dont be embarrased! It happens to the best of us ....

Jennifer - posted on 03/18/2010

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I do Keegals everyday 4 sets of 5. However I still will sometime accidentally pee if i sneeze of cough especially hard. Nothing to be ashamed of. Lets just say that ones bladder can never be the same after a baby has used it as a trampoline and pillow for nine months.

Karen - posted on 03/18/2010

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I think it is much more common than you think! Most people are not going to admit this happens to them, but I will! It didn't start until after my second was born. I agree with the Kegals but it doesn't happen often enough for me to warrant surgery for it. Just wanted you to know that you are not alone. Take care

Karen - posted on 03/18/2010

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I think it is much more common than you think! Most people are not going to admit this happens to them, but I will! It didn't start until after my second was born. I agree with the Kegals but it doesn't happen often enough for me to warrant surgery for it. Just wanted you to know that you are not alone. Take care

Angela - posted on 03/18/2010

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I wouldn't be embarrassed b/c it happened to me once when I was prego but my youngest son is almost 2yrs old & I still have to go pee like every 5 to 10mins so I know what you're going through. And it's very annoying.

Julie - posted on 03/18/2010

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Some women have that problem because the blader was damaged or streched , nothing to be embarrassed about.. I my self have a week blader and go alot now and have to get there fast !! Ask your dr to send you for some test to make shure its nothing more .. just remember a child sat, kicked and punched it for 9 months. it took some beatings from that small bundle of joy .. so dont be embarrassed its just won more mark of something wonderful you brought in to the world!!

Debbie - posted on 03/18/2010

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My Mum is a Continence Consultant here in Australia and we have had many discussions on pelvic floor muscles and leaking urine. It is common during pregnancy and there isn't a lot you can do about it while you are pregnant, but if you do your pelvic floor exercises you should be able to control the weakness. It is not considered normal, but it is quite a common complaint and as has been shown here not talked about as it is a bit embarrasing. The best thing to do is to try and get in contact with a nurse/ therapist that deals with such things. I have no idea who to contact in the USA. The other people that may be able to help are physiothrerapists as they deal a lot with the strengthening of muscles. They could probably show you how to strengthen the muscles assosiated with bladder control. If that doesn't work find a doctor that will take the examination further. Often bladder issues can be resolved with exercise and diet alterations and don't require surgery so it is worthwile looking into it.

Andrea - posted on 03/18/2010

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sometimes after youve given birth it weakens the strength of your bladder and you wont be able to control it... im not really sure if there anything you can really do but i knew someone who had this problem and she just wore panty liners....sorry i dont have a ton of answers but i figured it might help to know you not alone in this problem...

Ashleigh - posted on 03/18/2010

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I agree, Keegal exercises will strengthen the muscles. That is what happens when our babies sit and kick on our bladders. :-)...

Rebecca - posted on 03/18/2010

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i think its just pelvic floor exercises that can put that right it will tighten ur tummy musscels up it happens to most of us i think so dont get embarrased x

Jennifer - posted on 03/18/2010

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Please don't be embarrassed. It happens to me to! I have had three kids and my youngest is 2! I don't have any advice on how to control or stop it I just wanted to let you know that you were not alone! The bladder is shot after having kids!!

Tonisha - posted on 03/18/2010

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my mom had that same problem and she had a surgery to stop it. not too serious though. just a couple of stitches. hasn't had that problem since.

Jessica - posted on 03/18/2010

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it should go away with time some women have it til they get older like in their sixtys or more. not to feel embarresed i have it to sometimes.

Lebogang - posted on 03/18/2010

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Don't be embarrased, it happens to women all over the world, Try kegel exercises as the other ladies have already said.

Jaime - posted on 03/18/2010

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I think it is totally normal due to while your pregs and giving birth stretches the muscles and your ment to do the keegal exercises every day to get back in to shape.. there has been some great advice on here so dont be embarrassed. all the best

Trish - posted on 03/18/2010

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had the same problem...Pelvic floor exercises are vital hun.. seriously I think so many women go thru this but dont talk about it. No way can anyone criticise you for it and you should have been informed about the exercises to prevent it :) good luck

Trish - posted on 03/18/2010

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had the same problem...Pelvic floor exercises are vital hun.. seriously I think so many women go thru this but dont talk about it. No way can anyone criticise you for it and you should have been informed about the exercises to prevent it :) good luck

Kristal - posted on 03/18/2010

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pelvic floor muscles are the muscles you use to stop peeing mid stream, if u tighten and loosen these muscle u may strengthen up a wee bit and this could be the cause. But childbirth does alot to your body some things u only find out afterwards, but you def arent the only one this has heppened too. hope this helps

Chantelle - posted on 03/18/2010

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practice your kegal exercises while peeing once you can get you pee to stop compleatly and be able to contol it while on the toliet it should emimante it all together

Anne-Marie - posted on 03/18/2010

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I get the same thing, its nothing to be embarresed about it happens to a lot of people who have children. I know it happens to my partners mother aswell. Pelvic floor muscle excersizes are suppose to help. if u are unsure of what they are try looking them up on the net or going to a doctor to find out. Good luck

Jessica - posted on 03/17/2010

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I don't have any advice but when i was 2 months PP I was having bladder control troubles and at least some of it subsided but i still am bad about accidents when i sneeze at times. the only advice that has worked for me is crossing my legs and trying to tighten everything else up down there when i sneeze or cough lol. i look silly but not as ssilly if i would pee my pants lol.

Erin - posted on 03/17/2010

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you know what i have never said anything to anyone but i have the same problem and i feel relieved that i am not the only one i do not know what to do either i always wear a panty liner

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