So fustrated 4 boys and a child for a Boyfriend !! I want out, what to do ?

Christine - posted on 08/08/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I am 28yrs old mother with four kids, "I hate it" I love my kids but I want to just leave them with my boyfriend and never return. Only my youngest boys are his but my older boys have only known him and he does love them all equal. My oldest are 12 & 8 and the twins are 2. I feel trapped in someone elses life, this isn't for me. I'm not meant to be a mother. My boyfriend makes me sick, he like a big CHILD he can never make a decision by himself, he never cleans, and he is so stupid. I use to love him but now I'm just there because I don't want to take care these kids alone. My oldest thinks he is grow and is starting to not listen, talk back, bad grades etc. My second oldest is lazy and doesn't like to baths and the twins just run around and break things all day. When I get home from work because I work later hours than him, the house is a mess and I instantly want to fight him and anyone else around. I am at the end of my rope. I have no friends or anyone to talk to I need some real advice.....

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Christine - posted on 08/09/2012

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Thanks ! I will try that, I never really thought of going to counseling but it seems like that might help.

Julianne - posted on 08/08/2012

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I think you may be depressed. I would go to a counsellor for your personal issues, and a couples therapy to help you talk things out with your boyfriend. That way you can learn how to tackle parenting as a team and voice your concerns to him in a structured environment.

Dove - posted on 08/08/2012

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I agree with Lauren. Get some counseling. EVERYONE gets tired of the 'mom thing' at one point or another. Add to that the fact that you started this at 16, have FOUR kids (not to mention TWIN 2 year olds), and get what appears to be no help from your boyfriend... and even the strongest woman would 'crack'.

It sounds like you are seriously burnt out and need some help. Counseling can give you the emotional support you need right now as well as coping tips and relationship advice. You and your boyfriend need to sit down together and have a real discussion about what is going on and how much you need him to be a part of this team. And if he won't step up.... let him know that you're hiring a housekeeper and a nanny on his dime. ;)

Lauren - posted on 08/08/2012

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i think you need to get some help.