Destinee - posted on 02/25/2011 ( 92 moms have responded )
So my ex, who is the father of my son, and I split up not long after our son was born. He now has a new girlfriend, and wants to take our son out of town with them for two days. I said that was fine but I wanted to meet her first. He proceeded to inform me that I had no right to ask that and that he had enough against me to take our son away from me and that if he didn't succeed in a court of law, he'd simply take him and I'd never see him again. I have no idea what brought that one considering all I did was tell him I wanted to meet her first.
At any rate, I am now scared to death to have him anywhere with my child alone. He is 20 years old, an alcoholic with no license yet he still drives, has a job but refuses to send child support, kicked us out and left us homeless until my parents intervened when my son was 2 months old, abandoned us in the hospital when our son was born (he was 2 months preemie; we had to stay in the hospital for a week. Daddy was drinking and partying the whole week.), still lives with his parents, has been receiving state help when he doesn't need it, never finished high school or obtained a GED, and has threatened on more than one occasion to simply take the baby. I am 20 years old, graduated high school, attend college, have a job, live on my own, never left the hospital the week our son was there, have been there through everything with our son, and have managed to come out of horrible postpartum depression with a healthy, happy baby boy. Our son left the hospital at just over 4 lbs. He is now 7 months old, 24 lbs, 30 inches, can talk, use a sippy cup, crawls, sits on his own, can feed himself with finger foods and occasionally a spoon (yogurt's easiest for him), sleeps well, and is generally very happy. My fear isn't that a court would take him from me; I may have done some stupid things, but they were all before him and I am not an unfit mother (in my opinion...for what it's worth!). My fear is that if I let him take him for any length of time, I'll never see my son again. I want to take him to court and either get supervised visitations or strip his rights, but I don't know if I can? What do I do?