Special Needs kids-vent about drs appt

Alecia - posted on 11/18/2010

where do u guys live that keep getting all this slack?? 25 is not a young mom IMO. ppl used to have kids before they were 20 all the time. i have never gotten any kind of rude remarks for being young (22 when my daughter was born). i think its best to have babies before, or around 30 bcuz after that the quality of eggs do decrease with age (of course older moms do have great babies too). im sorry u had to go through this. just keep ur chin up and know that u are a great mom and ur kids love u!!

Christi - posted on 11/18/2010

I cannot tell you how many times I get crap like that. Last night, as a matter of fact, we ended up taking my son to the ER because he hit his head hard and was babbling incoherantly. He too is Autistic and has Epilespy. We weren't there long, thank God, but the doctor came in and asked if I would mind getting the child's parents so she could discuss his situation with them. My husband and I looked at each other and laughed. She was like oh, I assumed you were the babysitter and this is your bf, I held up my ring and was like, no, we are married. She got to kind of looking at his head and asked if my husband was the father. I got all hot and said, um, yeah, wouldn't have married him if he wasn't. She then looked at his chart and saw that he had been diagnosed with PDD and asked how old he was. I told her he was 23 months and she laughed. I asked what was so funny and she started talking to me like a baby. She said, "he is too young to be considered Autistic, you would know that if you were older." I wanted to punch her in the face! She said they couldn't be diagnosed until they were 7! She must have gone through med school in the dinasour age cause it can now be diagnosed at young as 18 months. She laughed even harder when I said that and I just looked at her and said fine, don't believe me, ask the three different specialist and all his therapists he sees on a daily basis. Shut her up! I got the same kind of slack when I went to the genetist too. Try to let it roll off your back and know that you are doing what is best for your baby and that is all that matters!!!

Catherine - posted on 11/17/2010

WOW that just got me really angry!!! Why on earth would a doctor treat you that way. Im 26 my oldest son is 9yrs. old, but I have never been treated that way. You are not an Idiot you are a young mom trying to raise your kids and get some solutions your concerned about, as for him asking if they have the same father that is a question that is really irrelevent to what you came to the app. for. I hope you can find a way to reort the doctor for unprofessional behavior to a patient. You pay this doctor to diagnose not to judge you as a person. Sorry you had to deal with that.

Sarh - posted on 11/17/2010

WOW! I'm so sorry you had to go through this! I though it was just me because I had my daughter at 16, I am now 21 w/an almost 5 year old and a 5 month old. There is no other specialist around that you could see?! You are an amazing mother having 2 young children who need extra attention, love, and care!! Keep up the good work mommy!