Spoiled or not?

PATRICIA - posted on 06/13/2010

Well I dont think she is too spoiled, You cant spoil your kids with too much time or affection, I think she probably is just out of sorts from being soo many different places all the time and when shes with you she wants to be with YOU at all time because she knows she will be at grandmas or dads or whatever, So maybe get her to help you, clean or cook or set her up with a snack and a movie or ask grandma to come over and watch her while you tidy! even better.. She probably is just feeling out of sorts, and once she is independent she will never go back to being a little tiny baby wanting to spend every minute with you, so indulge in it! love it! its all you can do for now and shes just showing you how much she LOVES you!

Minnie - posted on 06/13/2010

Very very normal for a one year old. Many mothers find that a soft carrier like a sling, ergo, wrap or mei tai, is helpful with this. You can strap baby to your back and have two hands to get things done while she gets to have that contact with you she needs.

Kiki - posted on 06/13/2010

my girl 2 years old now n she's independent very well:) .....but when she was 1+, i can't go anywhere without her, even she follow me to the bathroom:( i was feel very stress..so, i think i know what u feel now..
this what i do to my daughter , give her some art toys, maybe drawing book or some toys with music and play with her for some time..n then try to leave her, but before u go, u tell her that she must stay there n play with her toys, just leave her for 5 minutes...try againt n againts, with the variety time, maybe 5 or 10 mins, but u must peeking at her..if she can do that, u must tell her thats she's so good girl n give hug or kiss:)
or sometimes i put vcd with the kid's songs, n let her watching that...
good luck n i hope thats could help u :)

Alanna - posted on 06/13/2010

my girl was abit the same, all i wanted to do was get things done and i talked to people about it and they keep saying that the house work can wait and to spend time with her. and they were right. i realised that all she wanted was my attention and to play with me. when i started spending more time with her she felt satisfied with that and then was comfortable playing by herself and i could get done what i needed. we are both much happier because we are spending quality time together and she doesnt cling or whinge for me anymore. and if she wants me and im busy doing something then i get her to help me. it makes her feel special because she helped me and made me smile. my partner works up to 14 hour days so im home alone alot but im not a single mum so i dont know what its like and im not trying to critisise anything you may have been doing but just trying to give you tips so i hope i haved helped

Elizabeth - posted on 06/13/2010

i kinda know what u mean. my first was a breeze so independent. but now i got an 8 month that is needy. lol. . and its even harder when u have 2 kids and my oldest only being 26months. i have a lil cousin who loves to cary my baby around like her own lil doll then after she goes home hes all grumpy and wants to be held all the time.. then i found out its not that he really wants to be held he wants to be in this standing position but not in his toys... and playing with me and his brother. so ill let him stand holding my hands and hell go on forever. and he is so lazy lol...

he doesnt want anything but the bottle! im having a hard time spoon feeding him he just stops and then i have to give him the bottle.. so i guess some kids are just a hand full. the only advice i can really give is with kids u have to try things and stick with it for a few days. for they can be picky or something can be not right and they just dont know how to tell you!

so keep trying. and if all else fails and u need a break there is nothing wrong with puting her in her crib and take a few minutes breather and come back and try again! adventually it will work!... its a lot of stress i know im a stay at home mom and my husband works full time. and my oldest is a mega mommies boy and the youngest is a daddys so its hard but it will get easier as they get older! good luck!