Step children with behavioral issues rubbing off on my toddler... what to do?

Misty KK - posted on 10/13/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My husband's ex, the mother of my step children, let them do whatever they pleased with no moral or structure. The 14yo boy for the last 3 years swears, hits, lashes out and still throws baby fits. The soon to be 11 yo girl still wets herself and acts like a baby and refuses to clean her self up. My husband and I have had full custody of them for the since my son was a month old, my son is now 27months. The teen is so bad that he steals(stole a car from school), break things, says F*** u to any one who tries to help him and has complete lack of respect and moral. We recently with me expecting another child sought mental help for him and his biological mother removed him and now has both kids at her house. She is now letting him smoke, drink and run the streets. Major problem! My issue with this post is to ask how to reverse the influence he made on my 2 yo. My little one has become demanding and will punch and smack and scream at people to get his way as his brother did. This has me worried, will this be possible to reverse? I am not raising my lil guy to be this way, he still has manors, but his fits have influence written all over it... WHAT SHOULD I DO?

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Misty KK - posted on 10/15/2011

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the older 2's mother doesnt seem to keep up with it, my husband worked alot when he was with her and barely saw them even though he lived with em. Their mother never got them the help, my husband and i were the ones who got them over several humps and the kids have rebelled the whole way. As bad as the oldest is, we are pretty worn out.

Misty KK - posted on 10/15/2011

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Well his daughter asked to go stay with her mom, and when we sought mental help we got harassed in his holding counseling until he released him to her till the date of his mental help. All of it has really just went really bad.

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How did the mother remove them if your husband has full custody? If he had custody for 2 years and the boy has been like this for 3 years.... why was help not sought for them sooner. Of course the 2 year old is going to copy what he has seen work for his brother.... and of course it is reversible if you are willing to parent him.



DON'T let his behaviors get him what he wants. Ignore the fits and put him in time out for being violent.



Don't put this all on your stepkids either. Two year olds are difficult creatures even w/out any negative influences.

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