Jessica - posted on 12/01/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )
I need advice....
Me and My boyfriend got together almost 4 years ago when his daughter was 2 years old and we've lived together since then (but then we were living with his mother) Recently we've moved into our own place and it's just the 3 of us now. His daughters biological mother comes to get her every other weekend on Saturday and is ready to return her Sunday by 9:00 a.m so basically I don't get a break from her, and her mother never calls and pretty much isn't involved in her life (For Ex: She didn't even call her over the Thanksgiving Break, or didn't even want to see her). Her father works 8 hours a day 5 days a week. So I'm left to deal with his daughter for the better portion of the day (he doesn't normally get home till about 6 o'clock in the afternoon 2 hours before her bedtime) I wake her up in the mornings, I fix her breakfast, I fix her lunch, I get her ready for school, I'm here when she gets home from school, I help her with homework, I cook supper, I go to doctors visits, I go to school functions (her teacher knows me and NOT her real mother) etc. But I get disrespected all the time by a 6 year old and to me it seems like I'm the only one that is trying to discipline her. And its making me feel like the bad guy! No matter what I say she doesn't listen. When she wants something she'll go and ask Daddy because she know that I will say No, and normally she gets her way with her dad. And i think that is mainly because her father doesn't acknowledge her behavior like he should. When i tell him the things she does it's a 2 minute discussion when he gets home then he hugs and kisses her like what she did is okay, and it makes me feel like CRAP! I don't know what to do, its got to the point where I'm ready to give up on everything and say the heck with it because I'm not bound to this relationship and I personally don't think I should be run over and treated the way I do by a 6 year old. I need advice can anyone help?