Stupid people mistaking my baby girl for a boy

Amanda - posted on 06/29/2010

that happens to me all the time also.. i think it just happens to everyone lol. i do the same thing i put bow's in her hair. i just ignore them when they do that haha

Lauren - posted on 06/29/2010

Skye, Say whatever you want to but I don't have a complex about my child. I am just astonished that people can be so dumb (and I'm not talking about elderly people, as a few others suggested that its older folks) Just take a look at my daughter and you can tell that she is a girl, and theres no doubt about it. I want my kids to know their gender, to understand the way that God made them, a BOY or a GIRL. In todays society the gender rolls are blurred and maybe thats why I take this issue so seriously but thats my right as a parent.
Thanks for all the stories and opinions. I have enjoyed reading them.

Alison - posted on 06/29/2010

i hated it to thats why we decided to get her ears pierced

Elizabeth - posted on 06/29/2010

You can tell that your child is a girl or a boy because you know and the people around you know as well. You assume that everyone should "know" that this clearly is a girl or clearly a boy. Many people that make these comments are older or may even possibly need glasses. You say don't judge a book by it's cover, you should follow the same guidelines.

Elisa - posted on 06/29/2010

PPl is stupid..they dont think when they talk... my babygirl got a Pink carrier with flowers...pink pacifier..pink everything..wearing a dress or a skirt and they still call her a boy...i'm like are u dumb or what...whatever!!!
And even worst..since she's half italian (white) and half afro american..but the mix came out pretty dark..they always ask me "IS IT YOURS?" even the doctor at her shot this morning asked me IS SHE YOURS??? c'mon now..she even have my last name....

Melissa - posted on 06/29/2010

I just laugh at them and ask " Do you need glasses?" Lol. Some people are just blind and thta shows how blind they are to the things around them.

Brianna - posted on 06/29/2010

I have a 3 month old little girl and we had bought a neutral green car seat before she was born and we used it for a little while.....i would have her dressed in pink and people would still call her a boy.......my husband got so upset about it that he told me to go and but a pink car seat and stroller........so no i dont think you are being ridiculous........im sorry but girl and boys have different looks about them........people make me mad when you know they have children and cant tell the difference between a boy or a girl

Michelle - posted on 06/29/2010

Lol, don't worry about it. My son is a year old now and people come up and say "SOOO CUTE, boy or girl?" I think it's blatantly obvious he's a boy especially with a "Daddy's little slugger" onesie on. But, since his hairs curly, he has big eyes, and very definitive lips people just get confused. He's just a pretty boy.

Stephanie - posted on 06/29/2010

OMG I go throught the same thing. I will have my son that is 6 months old dressed in all kinds of blue and be out at the store and people come up to me and say something like "oh she is so cute". I stand there and be like oh I know you did not just call my little boy a girl. With me if I cant tell if it is a boy or a girl then I say "your baby is adorable" I will not say he or she.

Melissa - posted on 06/29/2010

Then again i do use unisex clothes as well but you can see plain as day that my baby is a girl.l

Melissa - posted on 06/29/2010

That is funny because I'm going through that with my 9 month, however, mine has alot of hair and wears pink and all that and people still call her a boy even when she's wearing a pink or purple blanket.

Charmekia - posted on 06/29/2010

My daughter was born with a head full of hair and I would take her out with pink on and people thought she was a boy!! It would get on my nerves so much that I went and got her ears pierced. The earrings didn't help much until I did her hair in ponytails. I use to get so mad and wonder why someone would ask such a stupid question.

Alyssa - posted on 06/29/2010

I have peopel do that all the time. My littlest one has hardly any hair and they always call her a boy now matter what she is wereing. The little boy I have has really curly hair and they ask if he is a girl becuase he has such blond curly hair. And my oldist they thought she was a boy to. I know how you feel but dont let there stupidy bothere you. Just have fun dressing her up and making her a girly as possibal it is fun. Hope this helped:)

Skye - posted on 06/29/2010

so dont know why people get worried about this sort of thing unless they have a complex about there child

Christine - posted on 06/29/2010

I have to agree with Caitlin that it doesn't bother me that people can't tell if my girl is a girl or a boy. I also dress her in really frilly clothes - but you know there are some parents out there that are "gender bias" opposed and dress their little guys in pink and vice versa. So you can't really blame people for not being able to tell anymore. When/If people ask I tell them she's a girl and if they make the mistake of saying "he" I'll slip a subtle "she" into the following sentence. That way people know and they don't have to feel bad about making that mistake.

Skye - posted on 06/29/2010

Yes i have a 6 month old boy and he has not much hair either.He wears very boyish clothes 2 and people still ask me.

Sunel - posted on 06/28/2010

I have twin girls. People always ask me. oh is it twins. Dont you just want to scream, they are wearing the same clothes and clearly u can c that they are sisters. Then you get people asking Is it a boy and a girl. i mean open your eyes. they are wearing pink not blue and pink. well that just gets to me

Breanna - posted on 06/28/2010

ugh i get it all the time mostly when my daughter is in pink never when she is any other color tho

Kristi - posted on 06/28/2010

I had the same thing happen, but I had to shave my daughter's head, because she decided to give herself a reverse mohalk. They still took her as a boy, even with girlie outfits on!!!!

I just tell them that this is my daughter, (name). And don't judge a book by its cover.

Karina M. - posted on 06/28/2010

omg i have a 7 mo old son and he has alot of hair and everywhere i go they mistake him for a girl and im like are u kidding me he is wearing all blue common and it does bother me sometimes and i dont know but if u see a baby wearing all blue or green with dinosaurs it must be a boy

Cindal - posted on 06/28/2010

I feel the same way! My little girl is 13 months and just starting to get her hair. And TO THIS DAY people will ask if she is a girl or boy. She could be in her pink stroller, in a tutu, and pink shoes, and people still ask. I just think it shows how stupid people actually are.

Samantha - posted on 06/28/2010

When I was a baby I didn't get my blonde hair in until I was about 3 years old. I was bald also and it drove my mom crazy how much everyone would mistake me for a boy when she had me dressed in all pink and my ears pierced. She still complians about it today and Im 22 years old pregnant with my own baby haha. I think its just something that happens to some and it will be over soon Im sure. I became quite a cute kid after a while but I did go through my awkward stage where people didnt know what sex I was. Your daughter is beautiful and people are not very smart!

Jessica - posted on 06/28/2010

Telling your childs name might not always work as my sons name is jamey.

Elizabeth - posted on 06/28/2010

People are not being "stupid" or "mean", babies are babies. My daughter looks like my son did at 8 months old. He even had more hair! Some people mat use hand me down clothes that are not the "appropriate" color for that particular sex. They make pink clothes specifically for boys and blue stuff for girls. Both my children were called the opposite, just politely correct as people stated with a thank you and the childs name. There are WAY more important things to worry about!!!!

Amy - posted on 06/28/2010

my mom used to get that all the time for me, she would dress me in frilly dresses and tape bows to my head and still get "Oh what a cute little boy!" just because I didn't get hair until I was probably 2! They have done it to my daughter too, in her pink clothes and pink carseat, and she has more hair than I did at a year old. It's annoying, but if my fiance is with us he will usually say something smart like "yes SHE is great we love HER" only once did someone actually acknowledge their mistake, it was a little old lady I felt so bad! It's an awkward question to ask, "is it a boy or a girl?" but highly doubt any parent will be dressing their boy in pink. Although we weren't 100% we were having a girl, we still bought all girl stuff, so if she had turned out to be a boy...maybe lol.

Michelle - posted on 06/28/2010

People always mistake our son for a girl. I use to get mad but now I just take it as a compliment. He has had a full head of hair since the day he was born an is absolutely gorgeous, so no wonder people think that. Anywho dont let it bother you.

Kathleen - posted on 06/28/2010

i have my daughter in a PINK carseat, with PINK blankets, PINK diaperbag, PINK clothing, and bows. people still call her a boy!

Carol - posted on 06/28/2010

I felt the same way. Someone actually asked me if my daughter was a girl or a boy when she was wearing a dress and bloomers. I had a problem with my son but he has long thick lashes so I gave people the benifit of the doubt there and no one surprisingly asked about his gender a lot I remember exactilly three people asked but everyone with girls ask if they are boys or say they are boys no matter what. When people ask how old he is I just simply smile and state ," SHE is (her age) and this is her brother he's (his age)" its a lot easier then stressing over it or getting to upset. Also they feel stupid. Even my husband says our son looks more girly then our daughter I swear its the eye lashes but babies are like unisex till they are older so unless people start birthing babies that have boobs and makeup we will have to live with it. One question , how do you paint her nails? I can't get mine to sit still to get dressed

Melissa - posted on 06/28/2010

My daughter is 2 years old she has super long curly hair. I will be pushing her in her PINK stroller and people still ask me that! I don't worry about it though, I figure there must be something wrong with these people! lol

Kerry - posted on 06/28/2010

I dress my daughter in pink almost all of the time and I still get that question. I think people might use it as a conversation starter because they want to talk about their own kids or grandkids.

Ashleigh - posted on 06/28/2010

I didn't have that problem with my son but I know my mom had that issue with me when I was little. I even got called a boy when I was 8, that's when I was finally allowed to grow my hair out.

My only suggestion is to maybe make a cute name tag, maybe that would help. Good luck! I can't imagine how frustrating that is.

Misty - posted on 06/28/2010

One response I used on someone I know when they asked if I had a boy or girl and I had just gotten sick of it was "Yeah, I always hoped to have a little drag queen- I'm starting him out early!" Then the moron felt like a complete knob and even blushed.

Morinade - posted on 06/28/2010

My 2yr old was bald too when she was born and didn't really start getting hair until she was almost 1. All the time people would ask if she's a boy or girl. I mean if the kids is dressed in pink and has bows on it most likely is a GIRL! People just say whatever pops in their head. With my 2nd girl people ask me if she's a boy or girl even though she has a head full of her and i keep her in pinks and purples.

Misty - posted on 06/28/2010

Some people are just ridiculously unobservative! I had my little girl in curly pigtails and a pink fluffy dress and she STILL got called a boy. There will always be idiots that just don't get it. You just have to ignore it and not take it seriously. It'll never change until we outlaw idiocy. :)

Ashley - posted on 06/28/2010

my daughter was bald until she was almost three years old...i got so annoyed how many people ( mostly older couples) thought my child was a boy i was like no its a girl...i put pink on my child and everything and it still got on my nerves

Jacqueline - posted on 06/28/2010

LOL. Don't worry. I get that ALL THE TIME too. My daughter is 19 months and bald as ever. I could have her dressed in PINK from head to toe and I'll still hear people say, "Hey buddy!". Blah! People are just dumb. Don't let it get to ya ;)

Monica - posted on 06/28/2010

lol some ppl think my kids are twins just because we have a double stroller lol. Ppl always used to think my son was a girl. You def should not let it bother you, who cares what they think?? and ppl who have never had kids or who it has been a long time since they've had kids are just rusty lol and you shouldn't get mad at them!!!

DEANNA - posted on 06/28/2010

I FEEL WERE U COMING FROM MY BABY ISN'T BALD BUT PEOPLE STILL CALL HER A BOY EVEN WHEN SHE WERE GIRL COLORS AND THAT REALLY MAKES ME MAD BUT ION LET I WORRY NO MORE WHEN PEOPLE SAY SHE A BOY I JUST SMILE AND CORRECT THEM :-)

Lisa - posted on 06/28/2010

People thought my daugher was a boy up untill she was 1.5 years old. I always dressed her in pink frilly clothes cuz she was bald until she was 1.5 and people still thought she was a boy. I just said "um she a girl. Shes wearing pink not blue" so they felt like an idoit for not paying attention

Leticia - posted on 06/28/2010

I would be upset, especially when your little girl is sitting on her pink and orange cart cover..it's like HELLO PEOPLE ! I had my daughter sitting in her pink flower carseat in a pink dress and pink shoes and a lady asked if it was a boy or a girl. I looked at her and I said " Ma'am do you need your eyes cheecked ? If you couldn't tell by all the PINK SHE is wearing, then I would make an appointment with an Optometrist" and I walked away. Some people are so dense.

Megan - posted on 06/28/2010

NO! Ppl do it to me all the dang time! I have her in headbands all the time and I guess because they're not pink shes not a girl! It irratates me to no end! Who puts headbands, with flowers and bows on them, on their son? None that i've seen!! I do have a lot of neutral colors because I honestly hate pink and I hate people that think because your daughters not in pink she's a little boy!!! What effin rule says a girl has to have pink and a boy blue???

Lexi - posted on 06/28/2010

I have the opposite problem. hehe My son has a lot of hair and huge blue eyes with long lashes. Even dressed like a boy people still mistake him for a girl sometimes. I just try to laugh it off. They probably feel embarrassed for getting it wrong and they are just trying to be nice by commenting on your baby. Just smile at them and come up with kind of a standard response. I always tell people "yeah he is a little too pretty for his own good! He got his daddy's eyes." You could say "she's taking after her grandpa, bald and cranky! " or "we like em bald in our family!" It's going to happen no matter what, just try not to let it bug you so much.

Your baby girl is beautiful, even if people get a little mixed up right now. She will have long gorgeous hair soon enough and you will be cutting gum out of it and listening to her scream while you brush out the tangles! lol

Vixi - posted on 06/28/2010

My daughter's 17 months and up until recently, had the brightest pink pram u could ever imagine, as well as a name plate with Emily Grace on it, which we attatched to her pram.

I never really got asked what she was but on the bus if an elderly person got on they'd comment on how handsome he was and how well behaved he was, so I'd reply yes SHE's always been a good girl and is very beautiful! They'd soon get the hint.

I think the elderly are very old fashioned and don't get the blue means boy pink is a girl thing.

Shrug it off and enjoy being a mummy xx

Deedee - posted on 06/28/2010

You know what... it totally bothers me too! Everyone thought my son was a girl because by the time he was 7 months, he had curly hair down to his shoulders. I am not kidding. Everyone was like, oh my gosh! What a beautiful little girl... uhhh excuse me ma'am! Can you not see that he is DECKED OUT in blue?

Rachel - posted on 06/28/2010

I think people just dont pay attention before they open their mouths. When my son was a infant, I was in walmart and this older lady ask me if he was a boy or girl...ummm he has a BLUE outfit on!!!!! I just roll my eyes. I've had a lady here recently tell me he is a pretty little girl...he has a very short boy haircut and had boy clothes on and I just looked at her and didnt say anything. Crazy lady. My son is almost 4 so I wonder when it stops the questions if he is a boy or girl!

Kesha - posted on 06/28/2010

I understand completely. I have a brown and pink carseat/stroller set and my baby wears pink and purple more than anything, But I still get asked is it a bot or a girl? Its like who in their right mind puts their infant boy in pink and purple and bows or flowers?

Jessica - posted on 06/28/2010

My son was bald till sometime after his first birthday . He was wearing blue and had a base ball cap on and some women said ah ant she cute. All I did was laugh. If they are so silly that they can not see that these kids are dressed in clothing of pink or blue then just laugh and shake your head.

Krystle - posted on 06/28/2010

I'm so sorry to hear that. But i cannot relate to your problem mines is the opposite of yours mines have too much hair. But anyways if they cannot tell that she is a girl than somethin is wrong with them. I would of known she was a girl just by glaring at her. It really shouldn't bother u that ppl ask that. I see it this way u know what u gave birth to right? So when ppl ask u that just say a girl and just leave it at that. Some ppl do it to be funny and others do it cause they just are confused. So u have to take that into account and maybe it will be a lil better for you no to feel so overwhelmed about the situation. I'm sure her hair will grow in soon enough. She is adorable by the way too!

Michelle - posted on 06/28/2010

It never bugged me when my daughter was little with no hair! I have a neighbour who to this day will call her a boy. Everytime she asks how my son is I tell her "he's great". I have given up correcting her! If she can't tell she's a girl then there's nothing more I can do! My daughter is always dressed in "girl" colours and usually either has a ponytail or pigtails and she still gets called a boy. I suggest to try and let it go (hard as it can be!) Good luck!

Carly - posted on 06/28/2010

Im the other way around, my son was born with a full head of hair and even when he is in blue people ask if he is a girl or boy. It doesn't bother me at all though x