suggestions on potty training

Liz - posted on 10/29/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hi. I have a set of two year old b/g twins and would like to start potty training them. Already before their bath at night we let them sit on the potty. We give them an m&m just for sitting on the potty, another one if they go pee, and two more if they go poop. My question is how do we approach the next step? I also have a three and a half month old son, and am at home by myself during the day while my husband is at work.

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Amber - posted on 10/31/2010

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Potty training is hard. Girls seem to catch on pretty quick, but it takes boys a longer time. I didn't even start potty training him until he was closer to three.

There are several methods to choose from like putting kids in underwear and letting them have accidents, to letting them be naked or whatever.

I kept my son in diapers for the first week or two. But before we left the house, before a meal, a little after a meal (pay attention to their typical potty times), before/during/after some playtime, etc, take them to go potty. One at a time.

At this point, they'll be on the potty for a lot, but you want them to have a success. Have a mini party in the bathroom with lots of praise and affection when they do go potty/poop. Kids love attention, especially positive attention so they'll start to repeat the act that gets them the attention. If they sit on the potty but nothing happens. Give them a "good try" kind of thing, but don't make it as good as the "you did it" excitement.

We used a pee chart and for every like 10 potties/poops he got to pick something from our grab bag. The grab bag was made up of dollar store items and such. He was given a sticker of his choice and put it on the chart and at the end of ten he got the grab bag.

It took us about a month to be accident free. But after the first 10 days or so he was in underwear and usually made it to the potty.

Jessica - posted on 10/31/2010

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I used colored marshmellows and gave him 1 for peeing and 2 for pooping. Also we went straight to underwear! No pull ups and no diapers until bedtime. Also I didn't buy pull ups b/c I personally don't like them until my son was not wetting most nights. They cost more money and you get fewer of them. Once my son wasn't wetting every night I started getting pull ups b/c diapers hold a lot more and I just personally like them better. Now with my son I didn't use cheerios or fruit loops or ne thing like that b/c my son wasn't tall enough to reach the toilet...he learned sitting. It take a LOT of encouragement and not getting frustrated when they wet!! Now I worked in childcare and we used packing peanuts for boys that didn't want to use the potty b/c they dissolve when you pee on them and cheerios. Potty training is really all about trial and error. You never know what is going to work for your child until you do it! So maybe use a potty chart also so you and your children can each see how they are doing. It might help that they are going to be potty training together it might encourage them to do better. Now what I also did is when my son had a good week with few wets he got to pick out a new package of underwear! It takes a lot of underwear to potty train!! then we moved on to bigger and better things b/c my son was one of the hardest children to potty train...so we did books if he had a good week. Well I wish you the best of luck and just have a lot of patience b/c it isn't easy for your children either...and it isn't always as easy as we would like it to be.

Kristi - posted on 10/30/2010

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With my 4 year old son, we made a potty chart, and gave him a star every time he used the potty. To get him to go, we put fruit loops in the toilet and let him try to aim for them and sink them. That made going potty fun, like a game rather than a task. I'm not sure what I would do for a little girl, though, aside from the potty chart. My son loved his chart, he felt so proud of himself when he got a star and he showed everyone that came into our home at the time. Good luck, potty training sure isn't an easy task =)

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Sarah-Anne - posted on 10/31/2010

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we got my 19 month old daughter a potty chair as soon as she started walking at 8 months. we didn't push the issue at all. she would sit on it before her bath and sometimes she'd go, most times not. with in 4 months (at a year old) she refused to go on the potty chair at all. she wanted to big potty, so we got her a smaller, padded seat that fits right on the toilet. she used her old potty chair as a step stool. right now we ask her if she needs to go potty and take her about once every 45-60min when we are home. sometimes she says no, other times she just sits there and looks at a book. she used to get 1 mini m&m just for sitting, but now it's 2 for pees and 3 for poops only. we still use diapers and/or pull ups. once she turns 2, we will be switching to regular underwear. i tried underwear with her for one day in the summer and she would just take them off and run around naked, peeing on the carpet and placing a pillow over the wet spot. her big thing is watching us go, and saying bye when flushing. we can usually get her to go right after we go. defiantly don't push the issue, just give them the option. and try to have them around as many same age or slightly older children who are potty trained. they will want to copy to be a big g/b.

Megan - posted on 10/31/2010

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We didn't push the topic of potty training. We had the potty for a year before she decided she was ready for it. But just after she turned two she decided that she wanted to start using the potty. As of right now she just pee's on the potty not poo but that will come with time. I will be happy if she is fully potty trained by age 3 which will be August 2011.
We did start off just giving her a smartie if she sat on the potty because she hated it for the longest time. Now she will get 1 smartie for a pee and 2 smarties for a poo.
I won't do just underwear during the day as we have carpet and are renting and I am not about to ruin floors especially since they are not mine! lol Nor do I want her to possibly pee while sitting on the couch and ruin that.
Don't push it. In my opinion that is just counter productive and will make them wait longer and longer to decide to use it. Have it available to them so if they do want to use it they can.

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