This is a little embarrassing but... did it hurt to have intercourse after giving birth?

Jennifer - posted on 01/03/2010

It was super uncomfortable for me and my hunny let me wait a wooping 4 months!!! (I know poor guy, what a trooper!!) But my mom gave us a bunch of lube and it helped, and this might be too much info but I used soooo much and it helped a bunch!! don't be afraid to help yourself out a lil bit and use some lube, hormonaly your body might be changing and needs a little something extra. . ..Hope this helps :)

Suzie - posted on 01/03/2010

I had intercourse 2 days before my 6 week check up so that I could tell my doctor if I had any problems. There was some pain, but the doctor said that was normal, but I am still experiencing some discomfort 1 year later. I have been told that I had been stitched up a little too tight (the husband likes it!) and I tear a little each time we have sex!

Ashley - posted on 01/03/2010

I waited 5 weeks after having my daughter & the sex was better than before i had her!!! maybe you should have waited another 2 weeks.. ask your doctor.

Amy - posted on 01/03/2010

HUH we must have the same husband lol. My husband did the same but i was so afraid of getting pregnant and of it hurting that i waited till my 6 week check up. And then i waited another week. It idnt hurt surprisingly. It was a lil uncomfortable but after a few minutes it was ok. I hope this helps a lil

Krystal - posted on 01/03/2010

I did it after my 6 weeks and i had a c-section but it didnt really hurt. I guess it really depends on the person.

Samantha - posted on 01/03/2010

it kinda hurt me and it sometimes still does it makes a difference if you had stiches or not if you did you prly should have waited the six weeks but thats too late lol. just make sure the preasure isnt on your peri area that would make a big difference and just take it easy for a while

Jessica - posted on 01/03/2010

I waited till 7 weeks and yea it hurted also but after a few weeks later it felt normal again. So maybe the extra 3 weeks would of helped but dont worry im sure after a while everything will feel a little normal back with sex.

Amanda (Nikki) - posted on 01/03/2010

Three weels is a little soon to jump back in to intercourse it sounds like because you have to remember that no matter what your man wants....your body needs to heal. Your body has just went through a major change and it needs that time to get back on track. I can tell you this....Tell him to go get fixed and have his jewels cut and snipped and she if he wants to get freaky went his genitials are swollen twice the size. Please just take it easy, your body is telling you it hurts for a reason and not letting it heal properly could hurt you in the long run. My sister is a RT and her husband is a Doctor so that is coming from medical points of view.

Mandy - posted on 01/03/2010

We waited at least the six weeks, and even then it was a bit uncomfortable for awhile after. It will get better, but I recommend not doing anything that hurts; only you can decide what you're comfortable with.

Emily - posted on 01/03/2010

I had an almost 10 pound baby and he ripped me inside and outside top to bottom it took the doctor almost an houst n a hlf to stitch me up and I almost had to have a blood transfusion. Sex was the last thing on my mind for almost the first 3 months I couldn't even sit with out the donut thing but when we finally did it we were real slow and careful and it turned out fine.

Jessica - posted on 01/03/2010

Six wks after my daughter was born I got the MIrena. I waited 3 days after that and it hurt. It felt like pressure.

Janessa - posted on 01/03/2010

Mhy son is 7 months now and i waited for 5 months to have sex to bad for my boyfriend. i carried the baby i tear really bad inside and there cut me and plus i had hameroids and it still hurts when i have sex. I was so small everywhere to begian with i told my doctor i wanted a c-section .i swear not all viginas are the same size my was small just thinking about the labor makes me hurt.

Jenna - posted on 01/03/2010

My son is 6 months old and it still hurts sometimes..i also had a 3rd degree tear...and also some tearing inside...and i think that i am just super sensitive because of this.

Loralie - posted on 01/03/2010

I WAITED WEEK AND IT KILLED ME,BUT EVRY ONE IS DIFFERENT

Stacy - posted on 01/03/2010

no. The doctor might have added an extra stitch or two, and it will eventually stretch to conform!

Ashlea - posted on 01/03/2010

I had intercourse the next night after being home with my daughter and it didn't hurt me at all. But, every person is different.

Megan - posted on 01/03/2010

i did and had the same thing my son is 4 months old now and i dont experience the pain anymore i think its just the effect of ur body getting into the swing of things again and would happen even if u waited 6 weeks

Emma - posted on 01/03/2010

Quoting Laura:

This is a little embarrassing but... did it hurt to have intercourse after giving birth?

After having my daughter my significant other kept asking me to be intimate with him and about 3 and a half weeks after having her I finally gave in and ever since then it's uncomfortable every time I try to have intercourse. I'm wondering if it's because I didn't wait the six weeks or if this is common?

My daughter is 9 months old and I still find it slightly incomfortable, I did tear badly during the birth though which I think has a lot to do with it.

At my final physio session the lady said its because I have scar tissue along where I had stitches and that needs to stretch before it becomes less painful.

My advice is use lubricant and take it slow at your own pace and if it hurts too much stop, and a lot of it is in the head if you know its gonna hurt you tense up without even realising it so try and relax too!

Goodluck x

Jacqueline - posted on 01/03/2010

everyone is def. different but honey if you are not mentally ready, you will not find comfort. Being in the right state of mind effects the experience. I waited for my stitches to heal and jumped on my hubby, no pain...but I was ready I had no confidence issues and wasn't scared I listened to my body and had no worries :)

NOOR KARIMAH - posted on 01/03/2010

make sure you always do the kegel exercise...to make that 'part' stronger...

Tameka - posted on 01/03/2010

i was so scared i waited 3 months with my first lol by then there was no pain.

Nikki - posted on 01/03/2010

i waited the first 6 weeks with my first and it did hurt. the doctor told me there would be a bit of discomfort for a few weeks of intercourse once id started having it again. its to do with lubrication, healing and your body still getting itself back to normal

Elle - posted on 01/02/2010

I waited 6 weeks but still hurt alot. After about 12 weeks it hurt a little and now at 4 months it doesnt hurt if we use some lube. I had a really long labor and an emergency csection though. Hope it gets better soon..

Chelsea - posted on 01/02/2010

i dont know about you but i tore during the birth of my daughter, up and down which i didnt even know was possible till it happened,, anyway i had to be repared so i think it has something to do with it but i had a lot of discomfort and pain for about 6 months after i had my daughter and we waited not only 6 weeks but 10 weeks to be intimate because i was still healing.

Megan - posted on 01/02/2010

i had the same problem and it hurt me too i dont know if it was caused by all my complications or just that i wasnt ready mentally.....i ended up having an emergency c-section and after my second son i waited and didnt have any problems but i think i was more prepared having a planned c-section and a really good understanding guy.....

Candice - posted on 01/02/2010

i waited the 6 weeks and it hurt the first 2-3 times but after that was fine

AMANDA - posted on 01/02/2010

I gave in at 3 and a half weeks too...and yeah it was uncomfortable but it it hurts you than i would say stop! Maybe try different positions because i know doggie style was just NOT happeneing for me at all. And honestly if your man is still "getting his" im sure he wouldn't mind the delay in the actual act....I hope this helped you!

Brandy - posted on 01/02/2010

I think it depends on the person. I had a natural tear with 8 stitches and had sex 3 1/2 weeks later and felt weird but no pain and a friend of mine still had pain in certain positions a year after birth.

Veronica - posted on 01/02/2010

We waited til the stitches were gone and then went very very slowly. Make sure your partner realizes how painful it is for you and if it is too much try something else... different postitions, other ways to make him feel like you care, etc. Ours has been better since having the baby. Good luck. Hope it gets better!

Emmylou - posted on 01/02/2010

ever since i had my first three years ago!!!!! it has always been different, i had to learn to use different positions which would be comfortable for me and i also like jessica had a c section, i just had another bub 2 weeks ago and am not even gonna go there for another few weeks at least. it's not unusual by the looks of it no matter how long you wait.

Michelle - posted on 01/02/2010

I waited about five weeks, I didn't want to wait out the last one that my doc told me to..... It's different for everyone, depending on tearing, episiotomies, etc..... It sounds to me like you rushed it just a little bit. Depending on the kind of pain, maybe try using lubricant for a bit?? That's a common problem for the first little bit after giving birth. Also I think you need to explain to your sig other that giving birth is a HUGE thing to do to your girl parts and he needs to be a little more patient. Being intimate after birth is the WOMAN'S choice. Period.

Patti - posted on 01/02/2010

didnt hurt for me.. im sure its different for everyone tho

Fiona - posted on 01/02/2010

I waited about 4 and a half weeks after I had my daughter - I had tearing with her (12 stitches). It was uncomfortable the first time my partner and I had sex again, but he was very gentle and patient. It definitely didn't 'hurt' though, just uncomfortable. Now it's 12 weeks since our daughter was born and sex is pretty much back to normal.



I am with all the other ladies on here who have suggested you see a doctor. Don't be embarrassed...they are used to this type of thing and are trained professionals.



Hope everything is okay :)

Tammy - posted on 01/02/2010

Well, it's no surprise that it hurt the first time, but to hurt all the time? I'm stumped. If I were you'd I'd see the gyno to make sure you're ok. Definately sounds like you need a trip to the Dr. if not for anything else, peace of mind. If the Dr. says you're ok, I'd use the K-Y vaginal lubricant and see if that helps things. Sorry you're going through all this.

Gemma - posted on 01/02/2010

HI i had a c section and waited the 6 weeks and took a good few weeks of havingg intercourse before i was comfortable again

Jessica - posted on 01/02/2010

The first time I had sex after I had my son I fingured that it was going to hurt so I made my husband get luberacant and it did not hurt as bad as I thought it would... I can't remember how long I wanted but if was a couple days after the stiches were gone. One of my friends did not even wait 2 weeks after her son was born... She also told me it hurt like hell because she had stiches and they broke open well that is my guess.

Ashley - posted on 01/02/2010

i waited 6 weeks and it did hurt a bit. maybe try some lube? the pain eventually goes away. but for me, its been 15 months, sex still isnt the same as it used to be and im sure it never will be. i had an episiotomy too.. hope this helps. if its unbearable pain, talk to your doctor. good luck!

Kim - posted on 01/02/2010

It was uncomfortable at first but it will get better. Make sure you take care of yourself.

Elizabeth - posted on 01/02/2010

It really depends on your body. Some heal faster than others internally and they don't have any problems if they give in early and others just do not heal as fast. Also the pressure on your uterus may be the problem because it takes a very long time for it to go back to normal. You may want to go see a doctor though and I recommend this because I had problems like that and it turned out that there was a big problem with my uterus after having my youngest that required surgery. I wouldn't wait either because I waited and ended up rupturing and bleeding out into my stomach cavity. Even if there is nothing wrong at least you will know.

Jasmine - posted on 01/02/2010

I was very unconfortable with in my first 4mths, and now even after 10mths i still get some discomfort during intercorse. I did how ever tear upwards towards my citoris so that might have alot to do with it

Sheryl - posted on 01/02/2010

it may be! but one way or another its going to hurt! it would hurt more if you riped during givng birth! i did with my first and it was about two months after my weeks for it to stop hurting! plus, i would be very carefull if you don't wont to get preg. again. it easer to get preg. in the six weeks! well at least that what i heard! you know you can't always belive everything you hear! hope that helps!

Erin - posted on 01/02/2010

I don't know, but I waited about 7 weeks and have had no problems. At 4 weeks I was still very uncomfortable and would not have been able to have sex. I would say listen to your body and what your body doesn't tell you, your doctor can.

ASHLEY - posted on 01/02/2010

I waited 8 weeks and it hurt I had an epistiotomy though. By 12 weeks it was better

Jessica - posted on 01/02/2010

Waiting the extra 3 weeks may made a difference but I wouldn't know, I didn't wait either. It hurt for me too. I had a c-section so I didn't think it would. Boy was I wrong!