This is my first child, i wish to deliever naturally but have heard horror stories, any advice?

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Keri - posted on 09/16/2009

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I am sorry if I am repeating what anyone else said, But I would give birth naturally over and over again before I would ever have another C-Section. I had my daughter naturally and I really did not have anything bad enough that it is the biggest memory of that day. Once I held her I was pretty much over any pain I had. With my son though I had to have a c-section. He was breech and coming fast and there was no other way. I hated the spinal epidural they gave me. I hated having to be strapped to a table. and the biggest most saddest thing is I was not able to hold him right after because my arms where still pinned down. And the pain afterwards was horrible you can't cough,laugh,bend without feeling pain. With my daughter All I felt was itchyness from the healing stitches. Go natural!!

Melissa - posted on 09/16/2009

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well, I had twins naturally, And recieved alot of stiches, but ask me today to describe the pain...and I really cannot remember! It is not the easiest thing to do, but yet I am sure there are things that are more painful! There is an upside to natural delivery, you are more mobile after the delivery, and from what I hear, you heal faster!

Tash - posted on 09/12/2009

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my advice is not to set your heart on one or the other, the bub is the one making all the rules. and as long as you have a doc that you trust it will all work out in the end. have had three kids, one with pethidine, one natural, cause she came so fast and the last was induced cause the silly nurses gave me medication for my asthma which stopped it all. good luck and just listen to your body, and if you feel that something is wrong tell them. even if it is nothing. :)

Katie - posted on 09/10/2009

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Just remember, you only ever hear about the bad one's, not the good one's. Everyone is differant, you have to do what you feel is right.

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Sarah - posted on 09/18/2009

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My advice to you is to at least try to go natural, it is a great but painful experience, I only had a little bit of pain meds with 3 of my four kids and I wouldn't change a thing! I think that child birth is a wonderful experience and as long as you can focus and keep yourself calm by breathing through your contractions everything will go smoothly!

Good Luck!!!

Rachelle - posted on 09/17/2009

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Horror stories!? WTF? Women have given birth for thousands of years NATURALLY. Its not exactly a walk in the park, but there are complications in many things in life.

Kimberly - posted on 09/17/2009

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it is ok to deliver normal thats how i deliverd my son and he came out quick. and everything went fine

Kimberly - posted on 09/17/2009

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it is ok to deliver normal thats how i deliverd my son and he came out quick. and everything went fine

Brittney - posted on 09/17/2009

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dnt listen to the horror stories trust me i wnet into labor thinkin it was goin 2 b 100% worse than wat it was every persons experience is goin 2 b completyly different once your baby is out ull 4get all about ne paon u felt ne way

Brittney - posted on 09/17/2009

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dnt listen to the horror stories trust me i wnet into labor thinkin it was goin 2 b 100% worse than wat it was every persons experience is goin 2 b completyly different once your baby is out ull 4get all about ne paon u felt ne way

Celina - posted on 09/17/2009

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I delivered both my children naturally. I had no complications and no horror story to tell. If I have any more children it will be natural. I won't lie, it does hurt, but to me it was not unbearable. I do have to say that I don't have long labors 8-9 hours was about how long it took me for both. The best advice I can give you is to listen to your body, and stay calm. Screaming and yelling will only make the delivery worse. There is no way to tell how your delivery will go because everyone's body is so different and the same with tolerence of pain. If you have any questions for me feel free to ask.

Amy - posted on 09/17/2009

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I too had heard plenty of horror stories but went on to have my daughter naturally (with a little help from gas). It wasn't nearly as bad as I expected. Just remember that the horror stories seem to make for better story telling and there are plenty of women around who have fond memories of their natural labour.

Kristen - posted on 09/17/2009

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You shouldn't be scared it just makes the experience bad. I was very nervous having my daughter but once everything started to progress my tension eased. If you are afraid when giving birth you will make your experience bad. Enjoy it, just remember this is the last time everyone's focus is going to be totally on you so enjoy your moment in the spotlight with everyone waiting on you and it will go great.

Ashli Faye - posted on 09/17/2009

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have a good coach and partner leave the stories behind thats why they call them stories its not that bad get through the labor the delivery is a sinch make somebody breath with u and hold your hand i promiss i did it u can too naturnal is the best

Ashli Faye - posted on 09/17/2009

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have a good coach and partner leave the stories behind thats why they call them stories its not that bad get through the labor the delivery is a sinch make somebody breath with u and hold your hand i promiss i did it u can too naturnal is the best

Amber - posted on 09/17/2009

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I heard all those stories too and was so scared to give birth but when it came I was a little surprised. Now I'm not gonna lie and say it didnt hurt cuz it did, but I had to do it without an epidural because I progressed too fast and I did it without much trouble. It just depends on you and how much you are willing to work to get him out.It is a lot of work! lol hope that helped.

Alicia - posted on 09/17/2009

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You should go naturally- just get a mid-wife or a dr. to be there in case anything goes wrong. =) I had the first by an emergency c-section after trying to go natural. I then had the next naturally after being told that it wasn't possible after having the surgery.

Kathryn - posted on 09/17/2009

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i only had about 8 stitches and and 2 shots of pain meds before i went into labor but after you hold your baby its totally worth it and you dont remember the pain

Kathryn - posted on 09/17/2009

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i was really afraid of going into labor naturally at first but as long as you have a good doctor and dont hold back when you push its not bad at all

Rachel - posted on 09/17/2009

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I found it's better to never go into it with a plan just try to relax and do what's best for you and the baby. i thought the same thing but it did not stay that way but now i am on child number 5 and you forget all about the labor pain you adored during labor once the baby is out

Jolien - posted on 09/17/2009

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i had an epidural and i was very happy that i did it! it didn't hurt at all and you feel everything during the labour but it hurts less! you don't have to be ashamed to ask an epidural!

Jolien - posted on 09/17/2009

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i had an epidural and i was very happy that i did it! it didn't hurt at all and you feel everything during the labour but it hurts less! you don't have to be ashamed to ask an epidural!

Tracy - posted on 09/17/2009

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i had all my children natural (no drugs) minus the twins who they made me take drugs just in case i had to have a c section. honestly i didn't think it hurt that bad. my labors were all fast 3hrs 45 min, 1 hr 45 min, twins 1 hr 15 min, 45 min. so i guess i never really had a chance for it to be in pain. but the little bit of pain you do feel is all worth it in the end and you quickly forget about all the pain as soon as you see that little face :)

Dora - posted on 09/17/2009

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I gave birth to my first four naturally at a birth center, and my fourth at a hospital.

I greatly end joyed the Birthing center over the hospital. I was able to move around and eat thay had many more options to help keep me as comfortable as possibe. 1) hot bath, 2) warm towels 3) scented oils etc.

Dora - posted on 09/17/2009

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I gave birth to my first four naturally at a birth center, and my fourth at a hospital.

I greatly end joyed the Birthing center over the hospital. I was able to move around and eat thay had many more options to help keep me as comfortable as possibe. 1) hot bath, 2) warm towels 3) scented oils etc.

Destaynee - posted on 09/17/2009

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Go natural girl you can do it!!.. I wanted to go natural.. but i was induced and my baby's breathing wasnt consistent... so we had to do a c section.. to be safe.. But your always gonna hear horror stories.. I heard them about delivering naturally and getting a c section.. but every mommy and baby is different.. but if you feel you can do it.. do it!!

Lauren - posted on 09/17/2009

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i delivered naturally. not by choice. because my nurses we're retarded and wouldnt give me anything.. but ill tell you.. it hurts like hell. but its so worth it. i cant even remember the pain.. thats how worth it, it was.

Stephanie - posted on 09/17/2009

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well if u have a very high pain threshold then go for it! u get no medals tho for giving a natural birth, at the end of the day all babies come out the same and labours pretty much the same, the pain reliefs there to make it easier. i needed the epidural in my opinion the pain was un real, i coped well without pain releif for 8 hours my labour was 13 hours, at the end it just got too much for me, im happy i did get the epidural as when i was pushing i needed the metal vacum and if i felt that been shoved up me i think the whole of the hospital wudda herd! lol anyways good luck with your birth and i hope it goes well for you :)

Melody - posted on 09/17/2009

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I would have to say, go with what your comfortable with. A lot of people were telling me horror stories and I was freaked out but once I had my little angel I thought to myself, it wasn't all that bad.

Melody - posted on 09/17/2009

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I would have to say, go with what your comfortable with. A lot of people were telling me horror stories and I was freaked out but once I had my little angel I thought to myself, it wasn't all that bad.

Melody - posted on 09/17/2009

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I would have to say, go with what your comfortable with. A lot of people were telling me horror stories and I was freaked out but once I had my little angel I thought to myself, it wasn't all that bad.

Heather - posted on 09/17/2009

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I wanted to go naturally too, I wanted no drugs at all! I understand where you are coming from. I sadly ended up with an epidural not because of the pain but because I was so exhausted that I knew I wouldnt be able to push, and thank god I had a wonderful epidural I felt everything except for the pain. I believe that anyone can have a baby naturally if they put their hearts to it! I had been up since 9am and didnt go into labor until 9pm when I was going to bed and by the 5 am I was so exhausted that I had to have the epidural but I wish you luck and you can do it if you want you really want to!

Heather - posted on 09/17/2009

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I wanted to go naturally too, I wanted no drugs at all! I understand where you are coming from. I sadly ended up with an epidural not because of the pain but because I was so exhausted that I knew I wouldnt be able to push, and thank god I had a wonderful epidural I felt everything except for the pain. I believe that anyone can have a baby naturally if they put their hearts to it! I had been up since 9am and didnt go into labor until 9pm when I was going to bed and by the 5 am I was so exhausted that I had to have the epidural but I wish you luck and you can do it if you want you really want to!

Alana - posted on 09/17/2009

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i had both my sons naturally. i wanted to at least see how far i could go doing without drugs...and it turned out to be the most amazing thing in the world!!!! my dr said that alot of women who opt for the drugs end up sleepier than without,,,well...of course i didnt want to be sleepy when my baby was born...or out of it at all.

both of my boys weighed over 9 lbs too. i would never do it with drugs...but its really what you feel comfortable with of course!!!! my first labor took 17 hours..and my 2nd baby was only 4...

just keep things in mind...women over the decades b4 drugs did it completely natural...thats what our bodies were intended to do!!!! good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 09/17/2009

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listen dont be scared everyone is different. when delievering it dosent take long so trust me when i say it will be over before you know it. I had my daughter natural 8lbs 9oz its painfull yes but that wont last as long as a c-section. this being ur first mentally prepare ur self for the worst pain u have ever felt BUT it will be over before u know it

Sara - posted on 09/17/2009

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Really, like everyone said, you ALWAYS hear of the bad ones, but not the good. My sister delivered 3 babies naturally with no pain killer, and the third was at home with a midwife. I went through my pregnancy with the desire to have a natural birth with no painkiller. Towards the end, I got a little nervous. I read everything I could find on relaxation techniques and tips for getting through labor. I had signed for an epideral just in case I couldn't take the pain. It was my first so I didn't know if I could handle the pain or not.



I had a very slow labor - 23 hours to be exact. I was having trouble dilating, and my doctor urged me to take a shot of demmoral (sp?) to help me relax so my body would allow itself to dilate. After a few hours of resistance, I finally took it and it did help me relax a bit. I ended up getting two more shots of different pain medicine, but not enough to knock me out or anything. It did help just take the edge off the pain.



I had some pain in the contractions - the hard part is towards the end you barely have time to rest in between. If you use the breathing techniques and just try to focus on that it is much easier. Actually pushing my baby girl out wasn't bad at all. I think your body's adrenaline helps take away some of the pain and by that time you are just so ready to be done with labor/delivery that you'd go through anything! I promise, as soon as they lay that baby on your tummy, all the pain simply disappears. You don't care about any of that - just so happy to finally hold that baby in your arms.



The important thing for me to remember was that I had to be flexible. You never know how your labor is going to progress. You have a plan as to how you would LIKE things to go; but remember that plan may have to be adjusted to fit your labor. I was dead set on not getting any pain killer, but the reality of the situation was my body needed it. Part of me still wishes I had been able to go without it, but the important thing was my baby was delivered without complications. She didn't even have the "conehead" that some babies have because I was able to relax and hold off on the pushing until the last minute (literally 3 pushes and she was out).



I'd also like to point out that an epideral doesn't always equal a painless labor/delivery. my SIL delivered 6 weeks before I did; she had an epideral. She was in delivery - that is, actually pushing - for 2.5 hours. They then took a 30 min break and then she was able to finally push her baby boy out. She didn't have as much pain through the labor, but then had to deal with the pain of the epideral wearing off at the end when pain is at it's worst.



I hope that helps. I'd be happy to offer more encouragement if you need it!!

Olivia - posted on 09/17/2009

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All Natural Isnt Bad as you would expect you will ahve pain but i think its better then a c section with a c section it will take longer to heal so my opinion i think natural is great and its all worth it in the end when you get to see your beautiful baby in your arms

Carley - posted on 09/17/2009

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People only ever talk about the bad experiences, so don't let all those stories scare you from going all natural.

I had my baby 3 weeks 1 day ago, and i went 19 hours all natural. It was no where near as painful as i imagined it would be- but everyones experience is different, and I had let people's stories convince me it would be horribly painful.



It went great, i highly recommend going all natural, you'll be proud of yourself for doing it, and it'll give you branging rights too ;p

Jennifer - posted on 09/17/2009

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girl epidural!!!!! cant say it enough i had first child all natural no drugs not even a tylenol and it is beyond painful. had epidural with secong kid it was so much easier less painful. people say you lose all feeling in your legs not all true my belly and crotch were pretty numb but i could still feel my legs. if you can get it by all means get it!!! other than that birth is awesome and as long as you stay calm everything will go smothly

Kristina - posted on 09/17/2009

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Don't sweat it. Everybody is different and every pregnancy is different. Try to relax and not worry and the worst thing you can do is listen to everyones horror stories on their labor. And remember when you do go into labor the doctors are there and they are going to tell you what they think is best for you and your child. More importantly just enjoy the experience, it is unlike anything you are ever going to experience.

Coco - posted on 09/17/2009

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dont listen to the horror stories!! every birth is different. i had 2 natural births( no drugs at all) and 2 with drugs!! to me, the only difference besids the pain,was that with no drugs,i was completely full of adrenaline and after i delivered,i was not so doped up.it's all your choice.

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You may wish to deliver one way but the baby may have other plans for you. Naturally could mean so many things as well. You may wish to just not have a C-section and that is your choice as long as the child is in the proper position, or you may wish for no medication and no surgery. Whatever your choice do your best to stick to it. And remember minutes to days after you have had your child you wont really remember much about the delivery anyhow because you are too focused on that beautiful child in your arms. Good luck to you, Congratulations, and God Bless

Lily - posted on 09/17/2009

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and plus I was calm thorughout my whole pregnancy...some people can not take pain so they SCREAM! But Yeah if you're a person who can take pain then go for it--naturally! I was in labor for 10 hours...it was worth it!

Lily - posted on 09/17/2009

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I delivered naturally with my first! You should probably ask your doctor if you have anything that can prevent you from having your child vaginally delivered, if not I would reccommend you to go naturally. Alot of my friends that took the epidural had back pain in the long run...Forget about the horror stories you've heard...every women in labor is different. Some have their baby whithin a few hours or less and some can be in labor up to 16 to 20 hours. It may be very exhausting, but believe me it's worth the pain to go through, because after the pain it's a relief instead going through the recovery of C-Section and the after affects of Epidural in the long run! But Best f lucks for wishes for a safe and healthy delivery!!!

Lily - posted on 09/17/2009

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I delivered naturally with my first! You should probably ask your doctor if you have anything that can prevent you from having your child vaginally delivered, if not I would reccommend you to go naturally. Alot of my friends that took the epidural had back pain in the long run...Forget about the horror stories you've heard...every women in labor is different. Some have their baby whithin a few hours or less and some can be in labor up to 16 to 20 hours. It may be very exhausting, but believe me it's worth the pain to go through, because after the pain it's a relief instead going through the recovery of C-Section and the after affects of Epidural in the long run! But Best f lucks for wishes for a safe and healthy delivery!!!

Lily - posted on 09/17/2009

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I delivered naturally with my first! You should probably ask your doctor if you have anything that can prevent you from having your child vaginally delivered, if not I would reccommend you to go naturally. Alot of my friends that took the epidural had back pain in the long run...Forget about the horror stories you've heard...every women in labor is different. Some have their baby whithin a few hours or less and some can be in labor up to 16 to 20 hours. It may be very exhausting, but believe me it's worth the pain to go through, because after the pain it's a relief instead going through the recovery of C-Section and the after affects of Epidural in the long run! But Best f lucks for wishes for a safe and healthy delivery!!!

Krissie - posted on 09/17/2009

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I've had the "lucky chance" lol.. of doing an epidural with my son and naturally with my daughter and let me tell you that en epidural is very relaxing and natural is.. well i'm not gonna lie to you it hurts like hell and feels like your vagina is on FIRE. but i'm only 5'2 and weigh 115 ans she was an 8 pounder....so If i can do it you can too. I find it helps to hold in the screams as it keeps you more calm and in control and LISTEN to the doctor as he will help you with having minimal tearing (I had none). I know it's going to be hard to listen to him but TRY as hard as you can. Once the head is down there it goes quick and the pain is instantly forgetable once your little one arrives. Push hard and as much as you need to unless the Doc says to stop of course. Either choice is yours and yours only so don't feel like you have to do either or or feel bad on which one you choose. People have babies everyday and on a scale of 1-10 more than half get the epidural. Hope this helps.

Krissie - posted on 09/17/2009

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I've had the "lucky chance" lol.. of doing an epidural with my son and naturally with my daughter and let me tell you that en epidural is very relaxing and natural is.. well i'm not gonna lie to you it hurts like hell and feels like your vagina is on FIRE. but i'm only 5'2 and weigh 115 ans she was an 8 pounder....so If i can do it you can too. I find it helps to hold in the screams as it keeps you more calm and in control and LISTEN to the doctor as he will help you with having minimal tearing (I had none). I know it's going to be hard to listen to him but TRY as hard as you can. Once the head is down there it goes quick and the pain is instantly forgetable once your little one arrives. Push hard and as much as you need to unless the Doc says to stop of course. Either choice is yours and yours only so don't feel like you have to do either or or feel bad on which one you choose. People have babies everyday and on a scale of 1-10 more than half get the epidural. Hope this helps.

Solicity - posted on 09/17/2009

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Well when i was pregnant people always tired to scared me with horror stories about natural death well my best advice to you is don't listen to other peolpe it is something you have to experience for yourself because different people have different views of natural birth. DON'T BE DISCOURAGED

Catherine - posted on 09/17/2009

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hi! i gave birth to my first baby naturally.. of course everybody who have their first is scared.. but for me thats my motivation.. i asked all moms about their experience..yeah..there are some scary stories.. and really im scared too.. so what i did is i bought some books or read some article on net, there are some proper diet on pregnant women on and some simple exercise to in able to have a natural birth..you should have self dicipline on what you eat..im super scared so all my mother and doctor's advice, i take it..anyway its your own good and your baby as well.. all the hardships and sacrifices are very worth it when you see your first baby and feel him/her..very fulfilling..:)

Shawna - posted on 09/16/2009

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Ok I commented earlier but after reading some of these posts I have to comment again. First of all, "Natural" childbirth means NO meds. It is not natural to have meds. That doesnt mean that I dont think some people need or should take it, I do. But its not natural or we would be born with the epidural already in our spine. Also, DO NOT go in thinking its ok if I cant do it. Thats a self fulfilling prophesy. You will definitley want it when you are in the middle of things, but you need to have someone there that knows how important it is to you so they can remind you of your clear minded decision when you are not so clear minded. If you read all of these posts, you will realize that most of the women that tell you to allow yourself to change your mind changed thier minds. Good luck sweety, and stay strong. Youll be glad you did.

Andrea - posted on 09/16/2009

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Go in telling yourself, if the plan changes, its okay. I wanted to do natural as well but was induced and the pain was intense and fast and my progress was not happening. At the time I felt disappointed for getting the epidural but now, I realize, whatever I had to do was okay, as long as my baby's healthy.... so play it by ear is what I suggest.

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