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Bri - posted on 11/04/2008 ( 28 moms have responded )

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I am 22 years old and have an 11 month old and am also 6 weeks pregnant with baby number 2. We were planning on having another, but we didn't plan on being pregnant so early. I'm excited but very nervous my first born will suffer....any suggestions??

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Kyla - posted on 09/26/2010

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i am in the same vote as you i have an 11 1/2 month old and the second on the way...... i am currently 9 weeks along and i am very nervous and excited all at the same time

Donna - posted on 09/25/2010

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yur baby will be fine, Take it from me I had twins. It'll be a little difficult but I'm sure yu'll manage just fine

Liz - posted on 09/25/2010

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I am 23 years old and have a set of two year old b/g twins. We recently just had our yongest in July of this year. We weren't planning on that either ( was on the pill when we concieved) but its all working out now. It takes some time to adjust but you'll do fine!

Annie - posted on 09/25/2010

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My children are 13 months apart. It was hard at first b/c Caysen was used to all the attention being on him. But that quickly went away. Now Caysen is a lil over 2 and Cayleigh-Ann turned 1 Aug. 27. I didnt plan on having them that close together either, but i love it. Trust me its going to be okay!

Christa - posted on 09/25/2010

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you're first born will be fine. my little girls are 13 months apart (21 months and 8 months). it may be a little difficult at first but when you get the hang of it, it will be fine. i couldn't imagine it any other way. my oldest knows mommy loves her and she loves mommy. my youngest is the same way. you will be fine

Martha - posted on 01/15/2009

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i have two daughters that are 15 months apart and they are great together, my eldest was a bit jelly at first but i think they would be at any age. As they get older they will be so close and that is what i wanted, your guys will be fine, i found when i really praised my eldest when she was gentle with my second, and make sure that you still have quality time with your older one even if you get someone to watch your youngest for a while. good luck

Martica - posted on 11/13/2008

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You have nothing to worry about with your first born, she'll be just fine and all she'll be is too young to understand what is going on LOL. Congrats to you, and they'll be the best of friends to battle mates hehe.

I have 3 children, my older two are 5 and 3 having the first few months be a hand full. They are 22 months a part, and we got preg when our first was 13 months old. I love their closeness, and same time the bickering can get to me they can do the least of it though. I love how they grow with each other, learn from each other and when their not together you can tell their bored. My son is 1 years old, has a good relationship with his sisters yet being a boy of course there's a difference in play along with age. The age gap is both close, and same time a great one. We got out of diapers the same time with the older two, and just have one in diapers. NOW that is a happy dance moment hehe, and just have to wash more underwear.

Don't stress to much on the age gap, or if you'll hurt your first born *hug*. She'll LOVE (I see pink towel so guessing girl lol) her sister, or brother and have a play buddy her age. If you can't do play dates much, or stand to leave the house with kids in tow their not bored having one another to be with.

Robyn - posted on 11/13/2008

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My first two children are 1 1/2 years apart almost to the day and I was extremely nervous when I found I was pregnant again. I was scared that my first was going to suffer and not feel included and loved, etc. The key is to play into your child's strengths. My oldest was always cleaning, from the time she could walk so we got her to help with the baby by 'cleaning'. She would take a wipe and clean her sister's tummy when she had a diaper change (we did it on the couch so she would be low enough), she got to wait with a cloth in hand during feedings and clean up any spitup. Because it was something that she already seemed to enjoy (I'm not kidding, some days she did a better job of cleaning the house than I did!), it was also fun for her. The one thing you will need to be prepared for though is later on as they get older, the younger one will want to emmulate everything the older one does and at home, this will create a lot of fights, tempertantrums, etc. but once they are in school together, 9 times out of 10 they are closer than anything at they'll always rely on each other for friendship and protection. Congratulations and don't worry, it all works out in the end, neither of them will suffer for it (even though you may feel that way somedays!)

Jewel - posted on 11/11/2008

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Oh, it will be just fine. My kids are 20 mos apart and it was hard at first, but there is so much for the older child to experience with a new sibling that there isn't much time to be left out.

Brittani - posted on 11/11/2008

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oh honey you iwll love having two close together!!!! Although when they get my lil girls age there's going to be like 15 arms at once lol!!!! Gaby is 2 1/2 and we are now trying for baby number two. Count yours as a blessing!

Megan - posted on 11/11/2008

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Oh Bri!!! I gave birth 3 times in just under 2.5 years. I have 3 kids under 3 years old. It's the craziest thing that has happened to me and it certainly wasn't planned and my pregnancies were horrible while I was chasing around toddlers. However, it's the best thing that has ever happened to me. There's no such thing as too close. Everyone's family is different and that's an awesome thing. Your little one is so cute in her bathrobe. I am 23 so I know what it's like to be young and surrounded by little ones. They will be best friends and you will be the one they are thanking someday! Keep your head up!

Sarah - posted on 11/11/2008

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Your first will not suffer! If anything your 11 month old will be old enough to kind of understand and get ready for the new addition. There is enough love for both of your children. I wouldn't stress too much about it, just be aware of your older one once the baby arrives and see how it goes from there! Enjoy having one right now, you will have your hands full with two soon enough! Congratulations!

Karen - posted on 11/11/2008

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hi im a mum of 42 years old, i have two boys and are about 13 months apart. They play, fight and learn together. My first child was an ivf baby and my second child was a happy accident. I love them both, but its hard work.

Ricci - posted on 11/09/2008

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My two youngest kids are only 13 months apart. It was hard at first but now I find it better. They play together and will end up on alot of teams together so it will make it easier on me when it comes to Hockey tournaments and such . Just enjoy them both and try to make time for them seperately.

Janyne - posted on 11/05/2008

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Just make him or her feel very special in the next several months. Also ask visitors to make a big deal about your child when they come and visit. Also the best advise I ever got was to make special mini dates with the older child so they dont feel so left out.

Brynn - posted on 11/05/2008

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My first two are 20 months apart and it is great. They are the best of friends. It is important to keep your little one informed as much as they can understand. Have them help you out in any way they are able once the baby is born. And enjoy the next few months you have with just them. But having them close together is great, in my opinion.

Kristen - posted on 11/05/2008

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my kids are 21 months apart and i love it, Your first born will be finem just include him or her as much as possible also make time for just the two of you and have daddy do the same call it special mommy or daddy time. My kids are now 2yrs 2 mon and 3 yrs 10 mon and they are the best of friends, yes they do fight but all sibling are going to fight at some point in there life.. Life is what you make of it, good luck

User - posted on 11/04/2008

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First of all congratulations! How exciting to be where you are in your life right now!!!



I can't speak for the rest, but my two are 14 months apart and the best of friends. My daughter is the oldest and she likes to think she's a mommy to her brother and he just takes it in stride. My daughter experienced a little bit of jealousy in the first couple months since most of my time was with a newborn, but she quickly adjusted and now she doesn't remember what it's like without her brother. Leah is right, it will seem overwhelming at first but you will develop a rythm and wonder why you worried in the first place. Good luck and God Bless.

Leah - posted on 11/04/2008

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My two oldest are 13 months apart. They have no other memory than being with each other. It's been quite a blessing. You'll be very busy but you'll get a rythym down and survive just fine. The babies and you will be fine. Your love for your first child is not divided. Somehow your heart just gets bigger and you'll have enough love for them all.

Paula - posted on 11/04/2008

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Hi, I have three children. My youngest two are only 8 and a half months apart (They were all preemies). I totally understand your concerns. I was heartbroken that my little girl wouldn't get to be the baby long enough. Now Shelbie is 17 months and Cyle is 8 months. They are already best friends. They both have their own personalities and demand the attention they need. Shelbie is more demanding of my time, but she goes to bed earlier. After she is in bed Cyle and I spend an hour of time focused completly on him before he goes to bed. I know everyone is different, but I feel like my babies are both getting the attention and love they need. They are definately not suffering, and they are so close! It's hard, but I can't imagine life any other way. Congratulations!

Sarah - posted on 11/04/2008

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When I had my second son, it was so hard the first four or five months that I cried almost everyday. One thing that I kept in mind though, was to remember that these are children who need a mother to love them. After a while, I got used to it and they are best friends now...most of the time. I don't think your first born will suffer as long as you are sensitive to his needs and take notice of varying moods and act accordingly. Good luck! And congratulations on the pregnancy!

Cari - posted on 11/04/2008

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I have three children and am 3 months pregnant with my fourth. my boys are currently 41/2, 21/2, and 13 months. I never planned on having my children so close either, but feel very blessed. It is alot of work during the first few months, it takes adjusting. I don't think my kids have suffered at all I try to show each one individual attention and also do alot of things as a family. They also are very lucky to have each other and entertain each other quite often. So congratulations and good luck.

Lauren - posted on 11/04/2008

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Congratulations! I think you're so lucky to be having kids that close together. It'll probably be a little harder at first, but in a way, I think you're firstborn will suffer less because he won't have become so accustomed to being the only one. And they will be really good friends probably!

Melissa - posted on 11/04/2008

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Your first born will be just fine. The important thing to remember is that your lil person is a person. He/she is a lil sponge. and the more you talk about mommy having a baby in her tummy and being a big brother/sister and making sure he/she is a part of this new adventure then things will be great. Of ourse there will be sibling rivalry and maybe some behavior issues but doubtful since you lil one is still so young. YOu wont see it until he/she is 3 maybe. The more relaxed and optimistic you and daddy are the more excited he/she will be as long as you keep them involved. They understand and comprehend so much more than parents think. Good Luck

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