TO GET MY TUBES TIED OR NOT TOO GET MY TUBES TIED????????

Anna Marie - posted on 05/28/2010 ( 19 moms have responded )

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hi i'm going to have my 4th baby soon and also my 4th section the drs have suggested having my tubes tied this time during the section! although im not against getting my tubes tied at some stage not too sure if i want to go there just yet always wanted a big family! there are pretty good gaps between my kids with them being 8 6 and 3 by the time the baby comes and i haven't had any problems or any trouble healing after the other 3! if anyone has been in the same position or has any info on the subject would love to hear some opinions!! thanks

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Veronica - posted on 07/18/2010

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Research and get questions answered about the c-sections instead --- how many can your personal body handle? Where are you being cut, and is your uterus becoming weaker? You really need to check out complications of having more children first - before deciding whether you are done having children or not.
I know a lady who had 6 c-sections -- im not sure how she is now - haven't seen/heard in a long time -- but it really is only up to you to get tied or not, not the dr. or anyone. And being that you are about to have a baby, is not a rational time to be thinking about no more kids. You are in discomfort, and wanting the baby out now! LOL and then you fall in love with having a baby again and dont want it to end ;) I know - I just had number 6, and as much as I want to say this is it -- i cant - Im not ready to say no more....Im not ready to get rid of anything and be final about having children.

Seriously look at the risks involved for having more children, and really think about it from your heart what you really need to do.
Good luck with baby #4, I hope everything works out for you, that you have a healthy delivery and baby :)
Congrats!

Angelica - posted on 06/04/2010

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If you have to ask this question, don't do it, it is not something you can change your mind on after the fact, and you can always go on birth controle and decide later.

Ashley - posted on 06/04/2010

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i had my tubes tied after the birth of my 2nd daughter and i have regretted it ever since it has also caused me to have to have numerouse surgerys and one of those was for a etopic pregnancyand a hysterectomy if i could do it over again i would not but again this was just my experince i would say if your having doubts dont do it i would not want know one to go through what i went through please consder this very much before doing it as i sadi i would not want you to go through what i did then again you may not have no problems it is a chance you have to take. i urge you to really give it allot of thought. i wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide i know this is a very tough choise to make. good luck and congrats on the new baby.

Nicole - posted on 05/29/2010

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if you are having second thoughts DONT DO IT. this is a practically permanent procedure. there is a reversal surgery but it is not guaranteed because of individual complications. If they cut too much of the tubes when you have them tied, and you later get a reversal, you have a high chance of miscarriage. plus tubal reversal is expensive; $3000-$4000 I think.

Becky - posted on 05/29/2010

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The fact that you are asking this question means you are not ready. Wait it out and talk with your doctor about it more. Don't rush into this as im sure you know how big of a decision this is

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Kristal - posted on 03/19/2012

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I had mine tied 5m ago just after the birth of my second baby. It is the worst thing I have ever don;( I'm in almost constant pain. The cramps are so bad I will vomit. And no Meds will help. But this is me you might be different. I know I wouldn't do it again.

User - posted on 03/19/2012

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hi anna i am 35 yars old i did have my tubes tied a mounth after the birth of my second daughter

i dont regret it but some side affects i wish the dr. would of told me were after 3 years i started to bleed real bad at that time of the mounth mood swings are realy bad and the pain every mounth is like giving birth X3 with no drugs i went back to dr lots of time was checked for every thing and they found i was in good health i have been ready alot and found that alot of woman are saying the same thing healing after wards was sohard the pain really bad my sister had her done at the time of her c-section and the pain was not so bad i think it has something to do with the way they do it these days hers was 16 years ago and she dont have alot of the probs i do

Crystal - posted on 07/19/2010

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I agree, if you are unsure that you want them tied and think you might want more children then don't do it. Have you considered having another baby vaginally if you get pregnant again? I have heard that it is still possible after a c-section (but maybe not after 4??) but I dont know wht your situation is and why you got c-sections in the first place. My husband and I have 2 boys and dont want anymore kids. HE is getting the vasectomy because its usually safer and easier and less healing time than the woman. If you do decide you want it done, they have something called ESSURE that is "permenant birth control" but you dont hve surgery and youre not getting anything "tied" so its much safer.

Jenna - posted on 07/19/2010

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Totally up to you.

Me, personally? I am pregnant with my second child, and that is all we wanted, so I'm having my tubes tied immediately after this c-section. This pregnancy was an oopsie pregnancy, even though we were on BC, so it came a few years earlier than we wanted, but oh well. I chose not to do the Mirena because longterm implants carry a higher risk of developing cysts and tumors in the uterus and around the ovaries. In my immediate family history, the possibility of cysts was pretty inevitable. I watched my mom go through a very painful and agonzing death that started with endometrial cancer.

So, my advice would be to check out all your BC options if you choose not to get your tubes tied. And when you are done with having children, maybe having your partner sterilized is the better choice? If he is willing, of course! lol

Danielle - posted on 07/18/2010

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It wasn't really your idea to have your tubes tied in the first place so I don't think you're ready for that. It's a very permanent decision. I'm sure it's just protocol for doctors to recommend after so many c-sections that you have your tubes tied as certain risks may go up in later pregnancies.

Kandice - posted on 06/05/2010

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I debated on getting my tubes tied. i was so unsure,but after my third pregnancy in 4 yrs and severe complications I had it done! The choice is up to you!

Lacye - posted on 06/05/2010

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if you aren't sure, i would say no. don't get em tied. when i was pregnant, they asked me if i wanted to but then turned around and took the option away from me because it was my first one. and now i'm glad they didn't because i'm still debating on if i want another one or not. then i was just so sure i didn't and i'm glad that the choice wasn't taken away from me.

Angelica - posted on 06/05/2010

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".well the good thing about getting a tubal is that you can have it reversed."



Not really, they can "reverse" it but 9 out of 10 woman cannot get pregnant after and most of those that do misscarry. It is not safe and quite expencive to have reversed. I use the 5yr mirena also and i swear by it. I have 2 children, and i am unsure if there are more in my future. If i decide to have another in the next 5 yrs i can take it out any time and begin trying to get pregnant. It's a simple process to have put in and taken out and the side effects are typical of any birth control.

Beverly Bunny L - posted on 06/04/2010

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well the good thing about getting a tubal is that you can have it reversed.

Cynthia - posted on 06/04/2010

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I think that getting your tubes tied is your decision to make. I have two children, both girls, and I got my tubes tied after my youngest (who will be 7 weeks on Monday June 7th) was born. The pregnancy with her was really rough and I personally thought my body would not be able to handle another one.

I made this decision when I was about 24 or 25 weeks pregnant because of pelvic pain that I was experiencing.

Kristal - posted on 06/04/2010

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Having your tubes tied is a permenant solution. I myself have the mirena which is a type of birth control that is inserted inside your uteris and lasts for 5 years but they also have one that last 10 years. I had two c-sections so far with no complications, I'm only 24 and knew I didn't want anymore kids within the next 5 years so the mirena is perfect for me. You would probably regret getting your tubes tied especially if you wanted to have a huge family like you said.

Chelsea - posted on 05/28/2010

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hi i got mine done july last year i have two kids 2 n 4 yrs i never made the decision to do it quickly i thought about it for 6months it a big thing n u need to think about why ur doin it but dnt do it if ur unsure for any reason

Laressa - posted on 05/28/2010

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My mom and doctor would advise waiting till baby is at least a year old before making a decision. That way you are certain whether you are prepared to try again or not.

Amy - posted on 05/28/2010

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If you don't feel like you are ready then don't. Also, I would suggest talking to your dr about all the possible complications from having a 5th c-section, etc. I know women have done it, but at some point it isn't safe. I've heard many women getting 5 c-sections but not much more then that.

Also, if you decide after you have this c-section that you want your tubs tide (but didn't get them done), you can always look into other options.

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