Shauna - posted on 02/15/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
I have severe fertility problems. My husband and I started our family early (I was diagnosed with infertility but somehow we conceived and now our daughter is about 21 months) because we wanted to have children and we didn't want to have to worry about invasive expensive fertility treatments.
But the problem is that we live in a very expensive area. House and apartment prices are like 1800-2000 dollars a month for a 2 bedroom place.
We were lucky to get a 1 bedroom apartment for 950 a month and only pay electricity. Plus, we save a lot of money by walking/bicycling to work (we only spend maybe 30-50 bucks a month on gas and car stuff).
We also have good insurance through my work (I work for local government) but I still don't get paid ALL that much, and my husband works in the evening while I work during the day so our daughter doesn't need to have daycare.
We save a lot of money here and I doubt that I could sustain our level of living elsewhere.
But we want to have another child once our daughter turns 2.5-3 years old. And with the horrible economy and plenty of other problems, I just keep thinking how will I ever do it? Plus, I feel horrible about the idea of raising two young children in a 1 bedroom apartment. Would I be a bad parent if I did that because I don't want my daughter to be too much older than her younger sibling? Also, I love having the time to spend together as a family, so even though we make less money than if I got another job, we're able to see each other.
Anyway....I am wondering if anyone else is in this same situation or what you think about my situation?
I feel like my healthcare status (full coverage that doesn't force me to pay for pregnancy/childbirth services) and health problems are the most pressing problem right now, and I want to make sure that we can complete our family even if we do have to live in a smaller place....does that make me a bad person?