Trying to Plan Baby 2-Health, Money & Housing Issues

Shauna - posted on 02/15/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




I have severe fertility problems. My husband and I started our family early (I was diagnosed with infertility but somehow we conceived and now our daughter is about 21 months) because we wanted to have children and we didn't want to have to worry about invasive expensive fertility treatments.

But the problem is that we live in a very expensive area. House and apartment prices are like 1800-2000 dollars a month for a 2 bedroom place.

We were lucky to get a 1 bedroom apartment for 950 a month and only pay electricity. Plus, we save a lot of money by walking/bicycling to work (we only spend maybe 30-50 bucks a month on gas and car stuff).

We also have good insurance through my work (I work for local government) but I still don't get paid ALL that much, and my husband works in the evening while I work during the day so our daughter doesn't need to have daycare.

We save a lot of money here and I doubt that I could sustain our level of living elsewhere.

But we want to have another child once our daughter turns 2.5-3 years old. And with the horrible economy and plenty of other problems, I just keep thinking how will I ever do it? Plus, I feel horrible about the idea of raising two young children in a 1 bedroom apartment. Would I be a bad parent if I did that because I don't want my daughter to be too much older than her younger sibling? Also, I love having the time to spend together as a family, so even though we make less money than if I got another job, we're able to see each other.

Anyway....I am wondering if anyone else is in this same situation or what you think about my situation?

I feel like my healthcare status (full coverage that doesn't force me to pay for pregnancy/childbirth services) and health problems are the most pressing problem right now, and I want to make sure that we can complete our family even if we do have to live in a smaller place....does that make me a bad person?

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If you wait for finances to be perfect you will never have another baby. If we had waited we never would have had kids lol. I would look into maybe moving to a cheaper location. If it needs to be farther out from your current location check into public transportation. (Bussing, train...) Anyway dont stress out about it. Adding another baby never comes at a perfect time. It might seem perfect when you get pregnant then 100 things could change the "being right" But in the end it is always right whenever it is.

Stifler's - posted on 02/15/2011




yeah I'd move to a cheaper area. I couldn't raise even 1 kid in a 1 bedroom apartment.

Liz - posted on 02/15/2011




At the moment my husband and I live in a two bedroom apartment with our three kids. We have b/g twins that will be three in June and we got surprised ( was on the pill when we conceived) our youngest son. he will be one in July. We're in the process of getting finances in order though so we can move into a bigger place.

If it's a spacious enough apartment I don't see why not. I would just suggest keeping your eyes out for another opportunity to find a bigger place or perhaps relocate your family to a slightly cheaper area. Just a few suggestions though.

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