tryjng to fall pregnant part II

Natasha - posted on 01/28/2009

I really feel for you, My mother in law, also tried very desperately to fall preg, (many, many many years ago),  she was married for 7 years before she eventually fell pregnant for the first time, and he was still born, then she had 2 sons after that and then she miscarried. This all happened in her late 30's, but the morel here is that it will eventually happen, If you’re both well and able. Her Dr. gave her this advise...... Book a holiday and forget about it, and that’s exactly what she did, just before departure she found out that she was carrying and had to cancel the trip.... she was so busy organizing everything that she wasn’t even thinking about falling pregnant, and that’s when it happened for her... Hang in there.....

Hanna - posted on 01/28/2009

Hi Lizzy,

First of all, congratulations on your big decision -- it is definitely a life-changing experience that is one of the most rewarding things in life that you could possibly do.

To answer your question, well i would consider doing several things: 1. go talk to your OBGYN and have him do a check-up on you (technically you should do one at least once a year) to see if everything is in order. I would mention to him that your periods are irregular (maybe he'll run some test to see if it's normal or if there's a reason behind this -- less periods usually means lower egg production). my periods were irregular, but by irregular i mean +/- 3-4 days & it usually was 2 weeks late right before my birthday (for whatever reason the cycle re-set itself every year since i was 15 & i always ended up on my period 10 days before my b-day, which happened to be my wedding day & wedding anniversary later on -- fun fun, however, that's also how i knew i was pregnant since it didn't come this past year). if, god forbid, there's something wrong, then the doctor will definitely catch it & maybe will tell you to consult a fertility specialist or give you some kind of prescription to help you (it may not be what you want to hear, but at least you'll know & can figure out a solution from there).

i would also get a clearance from your partner's doctor that it's safe -- last thing you would want to do is put in all these efforts to get pregnant only to find out at week 20 that baby has some chromosome disorder due to ur partner's meds.

if you get a clean bill of health then just figure out when exactly you're ovulating (these days there are digital monitors that help you determine that) & having sex right around that time definitely helps, although i wouldn't tell your partner when exactly that is to minimize the "pressure to perform", which can actually lower his sperm-count. There are also natural supplements you can take to increase your fertility (they are over-the-counter & safe, although i would consult your OBGYN before taking them just to make sure they're beneficial for you). just look up fertility supplements online -- you'll get a few.

I hope this helps a little bit. Good luck to you!

Liz - posted on 01/28/2009

Also forgot to mention that I already have two girls a 6 yr old and a 4 yr old

Natasha - posted on 01/28/2009

I really feel for you, My mother in law, also tried very desperately to fall preg, (many, many many years ago),  she was married for 7 years before she eventually fell pregnant for the first time, and he was still born, then she had 2 sons after that and then she miscarried. This all happened in her late 30's, but the morel here is that it will eventually happen, If you’re both well and able. Her Dr. gave her this advise...... Book a holiday and forget about it, and that’s exactly what she did, just before departure she found out that she was carrying and had to cancel the trip.... she was so busy organizing everything that she wasn’t even thinking about falling pregnant, and that’s when it happened for her... Hang in there.....