Tubes tied at 26?

Cori - posted on 05/20/2011 ( 65 moms have responded )

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I have a son who will be 2 in a couple weeks and we are due with a daughter in September. I had to have an emergency c-section with my son and I lost an ovary to a large dermoid cyst. I am going to have a c-section with my daughter so that the OB can check my remaining ovary for the start of cysts.



I'm pretty sure this is it for us. We only wanted 2 kids. My mom and grandma think I should go ahead and get my tube tied. I just don't feel ready for that. I want to get an IUD to give us a few years to decide for sure and then my husband would get a vasectomy. I know just going ahead with getting my tube tied would be easier but I'm not sure I am ready to give up my fertility at 26.



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Alejandra - posted on 05/21/2011

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I see that a lot of replies are advising you to go ahead "if you are sure", as some of the young women did themselves. I don't think you should do it, even if you think you are sure, because you are young, and you don't know what is going to happen down the road. What happens if you end up divorced, remarried, and want kids with your new husband? Of all the replies you have received, I guarantee some of those marriages are going to fall apart - with unforeseen consequences to all. And that is the best worst case scenario. What if, God forbid, your child dies unexpectedly? It is easy to say you don't want more kids when you think that you are set up for your white-picket-fence life, but what happens when/if all that falls apart? This happens to people every day.

Oh no, get your hubby to have the vasectomy - that at least is reversible, should his theoretical new wife want kids. You should keep all your potential as long as you can, you never know when the unexpected will make you want to use your abilities again. Use an IUD, birth control, whatever works.

Katie - posted on 05/20/2011

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I am in a similar situation. My husband doesn't want anymore kids and most of me doesn't either, but there is a teeny tiny part of me that is sad to never have another newborn after this one (I am due the end of july with my second son.) I'd say that if you have ANY reservations don't get it done. Don't let anyone other than your husband have a say in the decision because it is your body, life and future. Good luck!

Tina - posted on 05/24/2011

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I am in the same situation.. Go with the IUD.. Then decide later. I felt the same way

Ashley - posted on 05/23/2011

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they did it after my sister had twins (she had a son previous-so 3 kids) @ 23...they usually won't do it until ur 23 and have had 2 kids, so if u want to u definetly can--but its very expensive & hard to reverse so i wouldn't do it unless ur absolutely sure. we r 6 weeks prego with our 2nd & i plan on having it done as long as everything goes well with this pregnancy.

Rebecca - posted on 05/21/2011

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I'm only 24 and am getting my tubes tied during a c-section (after baby # 2) in a couple weeks. The best advice I was given was to ask myself if I would be doing the procedure even if I wasn't having a c-section. My answer was yes, whether it was my husband or me, one of us would have gotten a "permanent" procedure.

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Kelli - posted on 05/25/2011

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I dont think you should have it done, my mum had hers done when she was in in twenties for health reasons and she went through a very rough time because of "early menopause" she was on hormone tablets for ages etc and also in the future if you did want another child you would not have the option.... If there is no threat to your health I think you should maybe have a wee think about waiting until you are a bit older.

Kylie - posted on 05/25/2011

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know how you feel.
I am 27 and had an emerg C/S with my first so the stigma of having to have another is therefore evident in the medical profession. when I was in labour with my second I had to have another C/S and the OBSGYN said to me about having my tubes tied - and I felt the same - I felt too young to do this - not ready to think this was it the finalle....go with what your heart says lovely do what you feel is right for your body xx

April - posted on 05/24/2011

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I'm 25 and got my tubes tied in April. I have my 2 boys and couldn't be happier but I definitely think ya'll should wait to get your tubes tied. They say it can be undone which it can but the risks that go along with that just aren't worth it, so wait and see :)

Bernadette - posted on 05/24/2011

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if you aren't 100% certain, then WAIT. You don't want to make any decisions this big without being absolutely certain. A reversal is a lot more trouble than getting them tied, and not always successful if you change your mind.

Jessica - posted on 05/24/2011

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If your not ready then dont do it but I should mention the down time for a women with her tubes being tied to a man after a vasectomy is a large difference, the operation is a lot less involved since a simple cut across flesh for a man but they need to go through muscle and fat for a women, my fiance had a vasectomy and was able to walk home after the operation (not recommended but we dont get out of the house often and lol took that as some time alone) a gf of mind not the healthiest was over a month recouping after getting her tubes tied and went into depression after my fiance didnt have any of these issues

Alicia - posted on 05/24/2011

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I say go with the IUD its like 99% accurate almost as close to having your tubes tied my doctor told me because I was scared of getting prego again right away since our first wasn't planned and I was on birth control. Good thing about a IUD is you have 5 years to decided before they take it out again. Good luck :)

Nakeia - posted on 05/24/2011

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I would say the IUD I'm 23 almost 24 and hubby and I are having number two in September, I always said one but one girl, but I don't want to get my tubes tied then regret it in the long run. So I would say take time to think about it with your husband first...

Cleo - posted on 05/24/2011

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If you don't feel ready then don't do it. You don't want to regret getting your tubes tied later on because of a hasty decision you made that you were not ready for.

Jessica - posted on 05/24/2011

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i thinkin tied is the best way to go because iud can get lost in your uterous n thats scary.

Katie - posted on 05/24/2011

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Though I'm sure that your doc would do it if you were 100% sure since you already have 2, any good doc won't if you so much as pause before saying a definite, confident "yes!" when they ask if you're sure. It's a big decision. I am also 26, but expecting my fourth! I plan to have the Essure procedure done. I don't know if you've discussed options with your doc, but with my last pregnancy mine told me that he used to recommend that the guy be sterilized because it was just so much easier (unless you tied during c-section, of course, since you were already in there), but things have changed! With Essure, they can go in during an office visit, insert plugs into your tubes which scar tissue then grows over, and then they test you to make sure that you are sterile and you're all set! There's virutally no recovery AND, with ANY sterilization procedure, you GREATLY lessen your chances for developing reproductive cancer! So now that it's so easy for us to do it, many obs are recommending that we do instead of our hubbies! Since you're unsure, I would say go with the IUD--they're good for up to 5 years! Then, if you choose to, have Essure done at your yearly visit!! Good luck!

Cherri - posted on 05/24/2011

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I'm not gonna tell you that I don't regret getting my tubes tied because I do. Here I am 23 a mother of 2 little boys. I got my tubes tied because at that point I didn't want anymore kids. Now I am with my boyfriend that I have known for 6 years and we want to try to have a baby down the road. I just want you to be 100% certain that you don't want any more children before you make the decision. The average price for a tubal reversal is $ 10000.00 a hefty price to pay! Hope I helped. :)

Ashley - posted on 05/24/2011

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It doesn't sound like you are ready for that.. so I wouldn't do it. You may be done now, but you may decide in a few years you would like another one. So eventhough your family thinks you should. I would wait and go with the IUD for now. And in a few years if you really think you need to have that done, then do it.. But now, you don't seem sure, so I wouldn't do it. Good Luck :)

Crystal - posted on 05/24/2011

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I have thought about the procedures and probably need more info to consider the best option. The main person is your health at the time. After caring for your newborn and young child there is very little time for yourself. If this is a permanent choice and best for your family . Then prepare for the future. I have decided after the birth of my third child , that our family unit .

Melissa - posted on 05/23/2011

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i am 25 i have 3 girls and they have all been c sections i want to get mine tied but because of my age am having a lot of problems getting the procedure done as they dont want to do it

Patricia - posted on 05/23/2011

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I am 26. I wish I could have my tubes tied, but my husband won't let me. So I have the IUD. I feel the same way. I want more kids some day.

Jessica - posted on 05/23/2011

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I in the same boat. I have 2 boys 2 and 3 now i got another one on the way in august , I m thinkingi done but i dont know if i want to get my tubes tied i dont think i ready to give my fertilty neather . At 23

Katie - posted on 05/23/2011

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I have the same issue, right now I don't think that I want any more kids (I will have my second at the beginning of July and I am 25) and my husband says that he doesn't really want any more. We have talked about it, but it's so permanent, and I think I am the type of person that as soon as I got my tubes tied I would want another child. I have personally decided that waiting a little longer is the best idea for me. I will go on the pill though, I tried the Mirena IUD after my first child, and I bled nearly the entire time I was on it, and the string never softened the way it was supposed to, so my husband had quite a few complaints about that lol. I asked my doctor about getting them tied, and he told me to think long and hard about it. He said that it is pretty much permanent, meaning if you do want to get it reversed, it's not always 100% and even to try to get it reversed is an expensive surgery. So in other words, if you have ANY doubts whatsoever, don't do it until you are 110% sure.

Agib121 - posted on 05/23/2011

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Don't give it up just yet. Honestly, I have several friends who did that and desired children later down the line, my mother included. Congratulations on the new baby.

Miranda - posted on 05/23/2011

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I am now 29 and we don't plan to have any more either but like you I didn't feel ready to get my tubes tied. I have the Mirena and don't mind it at all. The reason that I didn't get my tubes tied and I didn't have my husband get a vasectomy is because what if...what if we change are mind and a few years down the road we would like another....I don't think that is going to happen but I just don't think that is worth not ever being able to have another child. I guess a part of me does want another but I know that I am in love with the kids that I have and to add another to them and take attention away from, I am so very happy with what I have but that WHAT IF always jumps in there!!!! Good Luck with your decision!!!!

Tanya - posted on 05/23/2011

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Go with your gut, and make your own decisions! Don't let others pressuring you into making such a permanent decision, when you don't want to! It is your body and only YOUR choice. ♥

Karen - posted on 05/23/2011

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I thought I wouldn't want anymore after having my 2nd son. But ended up getting preggo with a girl! Again planned on getting tubes tied then the docs refused. Not long after I wanted to try 1 more time for another girl. Miscarried that one. Thought I was done for sure and a yr. and a half later here I am preggo again and things r going good. This time it's definite. I'm getting them tied. i'm 27 will be 28 in august. You have to think down the road a couple of years. My kids are all older 7, 6, and 4. they will be 8,7,5 when the baby gets here so when they get old enough to move out, this one will give me a few more years to learn how to cope with an empty nest. lol.

Amber - posted on 05/23/2011

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I am 23 years old and have two boys and will be having my 3rd child in september, which is another boy! I have decided to get my tubes done b/c birth control doesn't work for me! I think you will be fine and if I could i would not get my tubes done but i would rather not have a fourth child within 4 years of my first!

Dea - posted on 05/23/2011

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if its a medical thing that might cause u ur life or the fetus live in ur near future then they well probably tie ur tubes if ur done. I have to kids also and i got my done when i was 23. I had a blood cloting problem that turned into if i got pregnant again it could cost one or both of us our lives since i already had to i didn't think it was right to play jeoperdy when i needed to be a mother to the kids i had.

Trista - posted on 05/23/2011

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im 20 but will be 21 when my son gets here i already have a little girl and i know im done after this one ive only ever wanted 2 kids but i dont think in ga u can get ur tubes tied till later so im stuck w an iud i wish i wasnt

Stephanie - posted on 05/23/2011

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I think that is a huge deal. In my opinion 26 is too young to get your tubes tied. I think you should get the IUD and wait awhile until you're 100% sure that this is what you want. No other opinion should matter, when you're totally sure, you will not have any doubts. Good luck on whatever decision you make :)

Penny - posted on 05/23/2011

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I had my tubes tied at 24 after I had my second son. The main reason that I did was because I have type 2 diabetes. I would for sure say that you should think about it. I wasnt sure if I wanted more kids but the possible health issues is what made me decide. I wanted to be here and healthy for the two kids I already had! It is a decision that you and your husband have to make!!

Kristen - posted on 05/23/2011

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I am 27 and I got my tubes tied but I also just had my 4th a year ago. We were positive we didn't want anymore but if you have ANY thoughts that you may not want to do it then don't. I say get the IUD (I have had them and they are great) and when you feel 110% you don't want anymore then you can get it done.

Donna - posted on 05/23/2011

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go with the iud, thats my plan. ive been using the nuva ring. Im in the same position you are in. I know im done but im not ready yo make it official lol

LauraBeth - posted on 05/23/2011

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She also tied my tubes right after my schd. C-sec so I wouldnt have to come back for another surgery

LauraBeth - posted on 05/23/2011

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I had my tubed tied at 28 after my 2nd child we were pretty much in the same boat, and after being high risk with GB with my little girl we felt it was best to go ahead an tie them, We always wanted 3 so me and my hubby are going to foster children and give children that dont have momies or daddies a loving home!!



And FYI, they told me that later on down the road your body could revesre it, it happened to 3 of my friends (and no I didnt go to their Dr that tied their tubes lol)

Alison - posted on 05/23/2011

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Hubby and I are at the same crossroads. We have a 1yr old boy and are due with a daughter this Aug. We've only wanted 2 and are also debating whether to get tubes tied or IUD. As Hubby was adopted we're leaning towards tying tubes, and adopting down the road if we decide to have more. Biggest reason we're unsure is that I'm only 23; him 25. Though we've heard a tubal can be reversed down the road, it seems rather final :/

Lakeshia - posted on 05/23/2011

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I would get an iud only if getting your tubes tied is necessary for your health. I understand I'm thinking of getting my tubes tied at 28. I'm not going to because its so final there's only a 30% chance of having a reversal. Get a iud for now wait until at least 30 or 32 before making a definite decision.

Nicoele - posted on 05/23/2011

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I'm pretty much in the same boat you are except I'm due at the end of June. Get the IUD in the rare occasion that something happened to the baby due in September that way you can try again. I know nothing can replace a child.

Amanda - posted on 05/23/2011

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I have 2 beautiful girls, I had a iud at 26years. Here you either have to be 30 years or have 3 kids. If you had issues near the end of your last preggo I'd say do it. Don't wanna risk having something bad happen in the future. I got my tubes tied this past January and I'm only 29, I wasnt given a hard time bout getting it done.

Christina - posted on 05/23/2011

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"I see that a lot of replies are advising you to go ahead "if you are sure", as some of the young women did themselves. I don't think you should do it, even if you think you are sure, because you are young, and you don't know what is going to happen down the road. What happens if you end up divorced, remarried, and want kids with your new husband? Of all the replies you have received, I guarantee some of those marriages are going to fall apart - with unforeseen consequences to"

My marriage did fall apart. And I still don't regret having my tubes tied. My husband knew my tubes were tied when we met. And yes, there are times he thinks about having another child. But it can't happen, and I don't regret that. We already have five children.
And both my husband and I have had a child die (separately, not together) and I can tell you that having another baby does not make up for your baby dying.

Louise - posted on 05/22/2011

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Its really up to you,im 28 and have baby number 7 due in oct.I was going to get sterilized after my 5th but the only way to do it the day he was born was by c-section.Or i could have gone back 3 months later for key hole surgery.I didnt want to leave him as i was breast feeding,and didnt want c-section as recovery would of been a nightmare with 4 others to look after.I worry something would go wrong with c-section and im not the sort to take it easy( it drives me mad) This time however im really considering getting done,not cause i dont want more cause i need to stop .No matter what i do ( what contraception) i use i fall pregnant.Im very fertile docs say so if i dont get sterilized i will have 10 before i know it( lol)My hubby kept saying -what if you change your mind? hes excepting that ive done with this baby now when its born.You really must be sure though as people do change there minds and regret there decisions every day of the week ,and its to late .Good luck and keep us posted as to what you decidex

Sheelah - posted on 05/22/2011

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I am turning 28 my sons just turned 2 and another boy on the way due aug 3rd and i am going to make my dr tie my tubes we only wanted 2 and i also have a teenage step son so dad definetly doesnt want anymore kids......if your not ready to have your tubes tide then get an iud......sounds like your unsure if you want more kids but dont get the surgery unless your 100% sure you dont want more....

Rowena - posted on 05/22/2011

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go with the IUD and give ursself and your husband some time to think about it don't rush into surgery

Stacey - posted on 05/22/2011

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Yeah 26 is young to get your tubes tied i have a friend in her early 30s and they said only two kids would do then her husband got the snip after they had two kids and two years later she want another baby and wants him to try a reversal. I think your right and you should wait and just look at other alternatives for now.

Lolita - posted on 05/22/2011

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You have to go by how you feel. I have two sons and had a very hard time delivering them one was an emergency c section other one was planned c section. I am very happy with my two boys I wated one more but had my tubes tied cause I was dangerous for me to have any more then later had to have my baby equipment removed. I regret that the choice was taken from me but I am still greatful for by babies. You just have to know what is right for you go by how your heart is telling you. BTW I awas 25 when I had to under go the surgery of removing the female baby making parts it is hard letting that part go but if it is truely what you want then why not go for it.

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I'd say have hubby get a visectomy. It's easier to reverse for the men...plus you've already had your fair share of surgeries. This will also prevent you from that looming feeling of not being able to conceive again if you should change your mind.

Cori - posted on 05/22/2011

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Nicole- Mine was actually a really weird case. I have never had regular ovarian cysts. I never had any pain at all. I just had irregular periods and I got pregnant with my son on bc. While my doctor is doing the c-section he tells us that there is something wrong with my ovary. Then he tells me I have a giant cyst tumor and he is going to try to save the rest of the ovary. In the end it had been taken over. My bc pill failed because that was the point in time when my ovary had died and the other was taking over for both. We decided to the c-section this time so he could check out the other ovary. If there is a problem with the one that is left, he can take the darn thing. That is fine but if it is ok, I'm pretty sure I'm not ready to say "no more babies forever". I think I want to hold out till we are at least 30 before doing something more permanent. This is only my second child and I'm only 26. My husband is pretty sure he doesn't want anymore either but he is still a bit unsure too.

Camille - posted on 05/22/2011

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Kids are a handful and a responsibility. I got my tubes tied at 26 (with just two daughters) and my youngest is 4.

Tatiana - posted on 05/22/2011

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I think you answered your own question. Having your tubes tied is permanent. You are not 100% sure so don't do it! You just never know what the future holds!

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 05/22/2011

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Ovarian cysts are no joke- my mom had one the size of a grape she said was so painful it popped, she hit the floor, went in and they said that is what it must have been..... meanwhile, my boyfriends mother just had a 12 lb growth taken out of her after years of being in pain because it started as an Ocyst so I would be very careful and monitor your situation. Don't worry about tying your tubes if you don't want to and can get around it, but if the cysts are going to be a problem - get it taken care of. They are so painful

Christine - posted on 05/22/2011

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Im on baby number 5 at 26 and they wont do me! but will do my partner who is 24!! x

Alexis - posted on 05/22/2011

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They probably will do the operation if that's what you want. I am 27 I have 3 boys. I got pregnant on the pill and with the iud. Just be well informed on any decision you decide to make. That being said, my husband voluntarily had a vasectomy lol.

Amanda - posted on 05/21/2011

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no offence alejandra but if a child dies having another one does not make up for the lost one. and vasectomys can be reversed but so can your tubes from being tied (my sister in law did it) but its not 100% sure you can have children after the reversal. Its a bigdecsion to think about it have them tied that only she and her husband can make. things do happen yes but then they may be one of the few that make it also...anyways i say get the iud till you know for sure what you want to do, i personally got mine tied at 21 and don't regret it but i'm not you....

Lacye - posted on 05/21/2011

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My sister had 4 kids by the time she was 21 or 22. She demanded to have her tubes tied.

If it was me, I would have mine tied. I'm 26 now, will be 27 in October, and I really don't want anymore kids. I have an IUD put in right now simply because they wouldn't let me have mine tied because this was my first child. Even though I wanted one, the doctors would not allow me to have one. But do what you feel is right. If you feel more comfortable with having one, then have it.

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