Two Daddy's...

Christina - posted on 01/30/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My oldest daughter has always called my husband, who is not her biological father, daddy. Her biological father told her the other day not to call him daddy because he is not her daddy. I was very upset about this. My husband has been in her life supporting her financially & in every other way a father would since she was 3 months old. I have never told her to call him daddy. I have always told her she can call him what she wants to. Am I wrong for this? Should I confront her biological father about what he told her?

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Kristina - posted on 01/31/2010

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My oldest two have a different biological father than my younger two do, but they all have one Daddy. Daddy is an earned tittle, it's a privialge not a right like most believe. My ex-husband has not earned the title. If your ex wants the title tell him he needs to earn it.... Your daughter deserves a Daddy all the time not just once or twice a month!!!! If you don't want to be confronational about it, just talk with your daughter about it. Tell her that you she can still call him Daddy and that your ex just does like because she's so special he wants to be her daddy too. If she can understand not to say it in front of your ex, try that if you like.... Just do what makes life best for your daughter and let all the stress fade away..... Always remember... Just keep swimming....

Anna - posted on 01/31/2010

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It depends on how involved her biological father is. The man who is caring for and providing for her in most ways, and supporting her in all ways should be given the title daddy. The man she spends the most time with is her real father, and should be acknowledged as such. Plus if she chose to call him that, then I wouldn't confuse her by trying to change it.

Lydia - posted on 01/30/2010

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If her biological father has been a consistant part of her life then I think he does have that special privelidge of being her only daddy - I would be really upset if my daughter called someone else mummy and my mum was extremely upset when someone else tried to give herself title of granny to my daughter. I think a great solution would be to discuss an alternative title for your partner that identifies his special relationship with her without taking the daddy title from her biological father.

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Christina - posted on 01/31/2010

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He isn't a big part of her life. He see's her when it is convenent for him. Which is only once or twice a month if that. And he doesn't ever call to see how she is doing. He pays child support sometimes, but even that is sporadic. My husband has been more of a father to her then her real fther ever has.

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