Under dressing for my age

Kari - posted on 10/21/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )

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I am 24 years old and have a 2 and 3 year old. I have been married 3 years now... anyway... i was getting ready for a date night and my husband says to me" you dress like a 34 years old mother"!! Thats is all i have been thinking about for the past week. What do I do? How do I get that confedince back and still act and dress my age?

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Hon, never wear work-out clothes on date night. Mommy or not, date night is your night to be a wife, not a mommy.

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I find it easiest to buy good quality classic clothes that don't go out of style. Get an awesome pair of jeans and khakis and black pants (throw in a skirt or two if you like). Then pair these with good quality solid tops of various styles and fabrics. Those basics will last year to year and be easy to pair when you're in a rush. Then each season, buy one or two "fads" inexpensively to put with your classic clothes. Jewelry is a great way to make your solid tops look special for a night out. One or two statement pieces each season or year should be plenty! For shoes get a pair of comfy cute tennis for when you are with the kiddos. When you want to look cute, embellished flip flops for summer, cute flats for spring and fall, comfy cute boots for winter... and pumps for date night! That's just what I do. Quality tops and bottoms that can be mixed and matched...a few inexpensive fads...some statement jewelry to dress up my outfits...and a few pair of shoes that go with all my mix and match tops and bottoms!

Jennifer - posted on 10/26/2010

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whether outside or inside of the home, we all get into a fashion rut. i have been blessed that i work in retail, and therefore am required to stay somewhat fashionable. my rule for date night? if i wear it to the park or to work, it doesn't go out on date night! :)

Myetta - posted on 10/26/2010

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i HAVE THE OPPOSITE PROBLEM....sorry for the caps...I dress like a 13 year old..complete with bookbag for my pump...i need ot learn to dress older

Kari - posted on 10/26/2010

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thanks guys these are great ideas i am going to try and give me some me time and go play dress up! Then when we do go out he will be supised and wowed.

Chrystal - posted on 10/25/2010

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I think you need to talk to your husband and tell him that what he said really hurt your feelings. Good luck:)

Jordan - posted on 10/24/2010

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who cares as long as your comfortable and you had kids, when he can pop one out and call it a vagina, then he can complain to what you wear. You don't have to change your clothes just bc your a mom though. I don't, I'm 25 and I have a 4 year old with baby number 2 on the way I am 4 weeks preggo. and not showing yet but there are so many cute clothes you can wear that make you look sexy/sophisticated and without looking trashy. H&M, New York and CO, Express, JCPENNY, boutique dress shops, save up some money and go shopping just you by yourself or take a friend that is good with fashion. Do a day just for you, get your nails done, hair done, you will feel like a brand new woman!! I love those days! good luck.

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I don;'t know what stores are available to you but I now steer away from any store that carries "junior" sizes. I now go to the stores which carry regular sizes. I look at magazines and try to find the pieces of outfits I like for a lower price in store. It's a hard transition but it is great to wear clothes that makes us feel beautiful and are comfortable.

Melissa - posted on 10/22/2010

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I am 25 and I work in a professional setting I look at what I wear compared to the other ladies and most of it is the same... When I go out anymore it consists of jeans and a t-shirt, anything baggy. I think when you become a mom you don't lose your sense of fashion just your sense of what is comfortable. It has alot to do with what people think "looks good" anymore. Too many people put out there that you have to be skinny with a nice rear and rack to make outfits look good. I have had 3 children and am a little heavier than most but have started to get back to being comfortable in my own skin. Have your husbands keep the kids go to the store with some girlfriends and find an outfit make it a surprise to him for your next date night and blow his socks off! You can do it girl!

Tammy - posted on 10/22/2010

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I know what you mean. Sometimes when I am walking down the street, i think hmm maybe I should be more dressed up as I'm only 22- I used to wear skirts etc but now I am just way too comfortable in a tshirt and shorts. Alot easier to sit down and play with my son in shorts thats for sure! We dont really have date nights but I made myself go buy a nice dress so that way I've actually got something to wear if we do!

Christina - posted on 10/22/2010

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I have given birth to four kids and I wear nice clothes, and sexy clothes when I'm going on dates with my husband. I love my kids, and while my body is not perfect any more, I am proud of it because it has nurtured four children. As long as you are confident in yourself and your husband finds you sexy, who cares what you wear!

Katie - posted on 10/21/2010

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I had the same problem! My husband told me that I am just as beautiful as I was before I had my daughter but I don't dress my age anymore. I was always so worried about being one of those mom that dressed like they were going out to a club when really they were in Wal Mart and I over did it. I started saving ads from clothing stores and deciding what I liked that was cute but I was still comfortable in and went into stores like Maurices that has comfortable but cute clothes. Sounds like you need to start looking and go out shopping even if you only end up with one thing, don't get discouraged, try to have fun and eventually you'll be able to be more comfortable in what you wear. Hope this helps!

Kimi - posted on 10/21/2010

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My problem is that I find it's far more fun to purchase clothing for my 5 year old step daughter then for myself. My wardrobe lacks variety and I look like I'm 16 years old most days.

Kari - posted on 10/21/2010

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I was wearing workout cloths haha thats all I wear!!! Thanks Jennifer i think thtis what he wants.... Ive lost 20 pounds and he thinks I need to dress like I did..

Jennifer - posted on 10/21/2010

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All women have a hard time adjusting to there mommy body and need that reassurance from there partner that they look ok. Remind your husband that you need his support in this time as appose to stewing in it by yourself (isent that what marriage is all about communication and unconditional love). Go out togather and pick out a new date night outfit that fits your new body and his tastes. Youll feel great and he will show you that you look great! ; )

Megan - posted on 10/21/2010

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i thought I was the only one with this problem. I am 29 and dress like I am 40+. Some of it is I got a bit bigger and I was never a small girl to begin with (heavy boned and 5'11" means that even when a healthy weight, I am still a size 12-14) there just aren't many cute "young mom" options out there for me. I don't know either how to get that confidence back.

Bonnie - posted on 10/21/2010

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Well hun, you are a mom so if anything you way of dressing is going to change as it does with most moms. I'm just wondering, what was it that you had put on? Maybe ask him what it is that he would like you to wear out that he feels would be appropriate.

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