Unfair treatment of my children over my step daughter?

Mommy - posted on 11/09/2011

Jodi is right, and you can file your own papers pro se...I have done it with my husband dozens of times. The other thing is, you may just need to accept that she does not want a relationship with your kids. I know as moms, we always think "how could anyone not love my kid?" Well, there are people who don't, or who do but don't like to spend time with them. It is what it is, and if she doesn't want to be close with them there is nothing you can do to make her.

Jodi - posted on 11/08/2011

Why do you need a lawyer if she is in contempt? I know where I live, you simply file that the other party is in contempt of the court orders. She is in violation. It's not a new custody hearing, it is contempt of court. Your husband has every right to walk up to her house and take the children in accordance with the court order. If she tries to stop him, well, she is breaking the law, not him. No lawyer needed.

Lacy - posted on 11/08/2011

thanks chelly i will try something like that and see what she does usually she makes up some reason she can't but ill try again

Chelly - posted on 11/08/2011

If you don't want to come out and say it like you said here... Perhaps you could go a different angle like... The kids asked if you could visit this wednesday, they want to go play mini golf with you or the children would really love it if you could visit another time during the week. In other words, something that makes it about the kids that she can't argue with.

Lacy - posted on 11/08/2011

i just want her to show the attention and love she shows my step daughter. my mother in law calls her everyother day. is in the same town as my kids and cant even stop to say hello

Lacy - posted on 11/08/2011

jodi we cant afford the lawyer and legal aid wont help because we live in a different state we live in nebraska and she lives in iowa

Lacy - posted on 11/08/2011

this only happens once every few months but my concern is, that thats the only time she wants anything to do with my kids is when she has my step daughter.other wise she doesnt call to talk to them or come to ever see them

September - posted on 11/08/2011

Just tell her how you feel. Let her know that it hurts your feelings. You can express the emotions you're feeling without being rude. Good luck!

Teresa - posted on 11/08/2011

So your kids spend one night a week w/ their grandma and you're complaining? Sorry, my own dad only lives 15 minutes away from us and to tell you how involved he is w/ us.... I just about had a heart attack when he actually approached me about wanting to spend time w/ us over my birthday weekend.... even though my stepniece spends EVERY weekend for the whole weekend over there. MY kids have to practically beg him (and my stepmom) in order to ever spend the night over there.

Your kids are lucky.

Jodi - posted on 11/08/2011

If you have court ordered visitation and the mother is not allowing it, why is your husband not filing for contempt?