wanting another child! son has health issues!!

Maria - posted on 03/14/2011

I think making the decision to have another baby is completely up to you. Yes, another baby now probably would be hard. But if you think you and your husband think you're ready and can handle it then that is your choice. No one has the right to tell you when/ whether or not you should have another. I can't imagine what you must be going through! That said. It sounds like you're asking for advice on shaking the "I want another baby" feeling. As far as that is concerned I have no idea! I have 3 that are between 3 1/2 yrs old and 8 months, and am getting that "I want another baby" feeling myself. I'm not ready for that quite yet! Luckily for me my husband doesn't want another baby yet so that helps. I guess if you really want to curb that feeling, remind yourself on why it wouldn't be a good idea? Rememeber, I'm not saying you shouldn't, no one has the right to tell you that, I'm just assuming that's what you think. Good luck! hope that helps.

Veronike - posted on 03/12/2011

im undergoing the same problems... my baby is now almost 4 and he has huge health issues. he was born with 4 congenital heart defects,3 brain defects and one blood disorder and he is still in a semi-baby phase. He started walking and talking this part september ( and gosh he cant stop talking!!! ) but i have been struggling with the idea of another child ( i also want a little girl) but i found a way to deal with the wait. My son has an upcomming heart surgery in 2012,for his 5th bday,( its the last part of the Fontan surgery) and we decided that if all goes well and he is back to being the almost normal little man alive, that maybe we could try for a girl.. but i can say, gosh im scared... i know its not hereditary ( cuz we dont have anyone with any of his birth defects in me and my man's family) but were still soo scared that that next baby could spend his life in the hospital like Simon does... i would probably die inside if i would have 2 kids in the ICU at once... you can msg me if you want to talk about it with someone who is living the same thing :) have a good night :)

Emily - posted on 03/12/2011

Children are a blessing and come in all shapes and manners. Maybe you are feeling this with the hopefull wish that the next baby will be easier and healthier.

If things are too hard right now with one imagine how hard it will be with two (whether healthy or not).

The best thing you can do is find out if this is hereditery and the chances of this happening again.

In the end it is your choice whether or not to bring a bundle of joy into the world. best of luck

Rachel - posted on 03/12/2011

Personally I would wait until your son is at a better stage. And his medical stuff is under control. he needs all of your attention right now to get better. Just my opinion but i would wait. Take time to get him healthy and then think about having another child. Good luck with your son I hope the chemo works