what age is a good age to have your first child or does age not matter?

Christina - posted on 04/12/2010

I had my first about two months before my 24th birthday. She is now 7 1/2 months. I think we had her at a good time. But each family is different, so what is good for my husband and me, may not be best for you and your partner. I do want to say that if your partner is not ready, then it may be best to wait.

Megan - posted on 04/12/2010

Me personally I think once your 20 years of age is good to start to have children.

Crystal - posted on 04/12/2010

age is very important, just remember one thing...the older you get the less energy you have :) i personally say its better to have them young, but not too young, like under 20.

Christine - posted on 04/12/2010

No matter what your age is, you just need to make sure that you are ready financially, emotionally and every other area. Age isn't as important.

Monique - posted on 04/12/2010

i think the younger you are the harder is it. but then again everyone has different support and different stregnth. i had my daughter at 22 and it was a struggle for me. i am 24 now with 2 lil ones and if it wasnt for the help from my mom we would struggle and stress at being parents. my mom taught me a lot and i have her to thank for making me be a good mom at a young age.

Jessica - posted on 04/12/2010

when ever your ready, or whenever it happens. its not something you can control so i think it would be kinda hard to pinpoint a certain age. but if you can plan it and it dont just happen for you, then you will know the right age for you...

Melissa - posted on 04/12/2010

I had my first two weeks before my 19th birthday, my hubby and I got married just after my 17th birthday. I have never regretted having a child so young. I like to tell people at least when I'm in my 40's my children will be grown up and my hubby and I can go on cruises w/o having to worry about babysitting services. I do however feel that having at least a year or two of alone time (before children) with your bf/fiance/hubby is very important especially if you plan to have them in your and the childs life since it helps you get to know them a little better. If you and him have the same values that you want your child to grow up with then I'd say go for it if both of you are ready to make the leap.

Having a child is very rewarding on so many levels! I wish you lots of luck in making your baby whenever that may be!

Shannon - posted on 04/12/2010

i had my first a week after i turned 23, her father was 21. i've always been the person for younger moms... but not too young! lol. i wouldnt ever hope a 15 or 16 year old get pregnant. but i think once you're in your 20s, then go for it! because then once your kids are grown up, you wont be an old lady, you'll be middle aged, and then you can have a whole 'nother life lol. thats what im hoping for anyway. but whenever you feel ready is the right time for you :)

Stephanie - posted on 04/12/2010

We had our son when we were both 20. I think it was great since we were both in college. It seems like we could manipulate our class schedules A LOT more than we could if we were older and working full time instead of part time. I think the most important thing is that you can financially support the baby and that is something both you and your partner want.

Jaimie - posted on 04/12/2010

My son was born a month after I turned 21. I was on my own and have a good job so it works for me. Everyone is different though. It all depends on when you can personally handle the responsibilities.

Christina - posted on 04/12/2010

i dunno if there is a specific age you should wait until, i think its up to the individual and when they are ready. My Daughter was unplanned, i knew i wanted a child but didnt expect to get pregnant.. I love her to bit she is my world and i wouldnt change HER for anything... However in hindsight i really wish i had been a bit older, with a better income and a stable life myself. I was 21 when i had her with a adequate job and still living at home.. ive done everything in my power to set up a good hoome and pay for everything she needs and want and we are more than happy.... i just wish i had been set up before i'd done it!!

Keely - posted on 04/12/2010

Hey Tina x
I was 17 when i had my first, although i fell pregnant at 16, and i wouldn't change it for the world!! Im now 22, 23 in August and my fourth is due to be born by c-section at the end of august. I think it depends whether you are a maternal person and whether you have a good support network around you, but once you find out your pregnant, planned or not you have plenty of time to prepare and make yourself "ready" to be parents
Good luck x

Tina - posted on 04/12/2010

thanks im 22yrs old I want one but my partner says his not ready did anyone have this problem? iv had a couple miscarriages one at 12wks last year so i want to try prepare again

Tammylee - posted on 04/12/2010

I think that any age is fine(maybe above 18), as long as the baby is being brought into a happy stable household. If you know that the baby is going to get unconditional love then age doesnt really matter