what do mothers feel about proping the bottle up ?

Natalie - posted on 12/19/2009

It does not make you a bad mother i myself have never propped a bottle but i am paranoid about a billion and one things!!lol my daughter didnt leave the house for the first 2 months because my doctor said even a little cold could kill her!! i was over obsessive!!lol but you know honestly if you are just careful make sure that he is sat up as much as he can be because of the possibilty of ear problems and you keep an eye on him! You know your child better than anyone! oh and dont mind these dumb people on here thinkin they have the right to pass judgement on you as a person or mother! you know what kind of mom you are! goodluck ; )

Catlin - posted on 12/19/2009

Wow! I think maybe this thread needs to be locked! I think that everyone needs yo chill
First, if you ask people for their opinion plan on getting it whether you like it or not. Second, there is no need to belittle people for their choices. We are all legally adults on here, so please act like it. Thank you

Megan - posted on 12/19/2009

Quoting Jamie:

Megan, apparently you feel the second child deserves less attention and less bonding with mom then the first> I have 2 kids 14 months apart with a husband in Iraq and never had to prop a bottle to get stuff done.

And by the way jamie I am obvisouly not the only one who think that you are just being plain old rude and disrespectful. these sites are to help and inform new mothers. Not degrade them or make them feel bad. And if you are such a super mom then why are you on the computer and not giving your child the attention you say you give them 24 -7!

Megan - posted on 12/19/2009

Quoting Jamie:

Megan, apparently you feel the second child deserves less attention and less bonding with mom then the first> I have 2 kids 14 months apart with a husband in Iraq and never had to prop a bottle to get stuff done.

And by the way jamie I am obvisouly not the only one who think that you are just being plain old rude and disrespectful. these sites are to help and inform new mothers. Not degrade them or make them feel bad. And if you are such a super mom then why are you on the computer and not giving your child the attention you say you give them 24 -7!

Megan - posted on 12/19/2009

Quoting Jamie:

Megan, apparently you feel the second child deserves less attention and less bonding with mom then the first> I have 2 kids 14 months apart with a husband in Iraq and never had to prop a bottle to get stuff done.

Well Jamie apparantly you didn't read that I said I have propped both of my childrens bottles. I don't know whyis it relevent to tell me that your husband is in iraq and that you have two children 14 months apart.  If it is so tell me you have no help at home, well you do not know my life nor anyone else's on here to know how often my husband is home and how often he isn't home. I don't know where you get off saying i feel like the other deserves more attention. You cannot tell me that you give gave your second just as much attention than your first baby. That is impossible and if you did then you neglected your second. Yo have to share your time. And also every baby is different and mabe you have had very good babies who knows. Do you want me to praise you for not having to prop a bottle to get something done! Not going to happen. I don't see any warning signs onthe bottles when I by them that say do not prop this bottle!

Diane - posted on 12/19/2009

Quoting Jamie:

Wow, why did you have a second child? You dont ever prop a bottle for any reason. Your right it is lazy. When you have a child your life stops for them, you feed them when its time. Sad to say you were smarter with your first child. And yes you can do harm, just read this article http://www.associatedcontent.com/article...

Wow, this comment was just plain rude...asking for a helpful opinion shouldn't get you shanghaii-ed.  And personally as a working mother, a mother who attends school full-time and a mother who has a husband to take care of 365 days a year, i would lay my child in front of me with a propped bottle while i read a chapter in a book.  As far a being smart or smarter by propping or not propping a bottle, i personally think there are more important issues to attack mothers for than whether or not they prop a bottle for their child.

And as for stopping my lifefor my children, i would want them to grow up and know that there is more out there than being a mom...especially my daughters.  I want them to know that their lives do not have to stop for child rearing because this isn't the 19th century.

Katie - posted on 12/19/2009

I agree that I would never prop a bottle. I can under stand being busy with another child, but I have 4 kids all 19 months apart and never propped a bottle. I breastfed all of my kids, but they all weaned themselves around 9 or 10 months. So we did eventually use a bottle for at least a little while. By this age they were totally able to hold their own bottle, but I was so used to the snuggle time, it just continued. My other kids enjoyed feeding time with the baby and we all usually snuggled together on the couch or in my bed. I also think that is was much easier to wean my babies from the bottle shortly after their first birthday because it was only a sleepy time cuddle thing and the cuddles continued even when the bottle stopped being involved. I never let them just walk around with a bottle hanging out of their mouth. If they were thirsty I gave them a cup.

Heather - posted on 12/19/2009

I used to work with a women whose daughter and son in law would prop up their babies bottle all the time. The Doctor kept telling them not too but they apparently did not feel like listening. The infant kept getting ear infections over and over again. The formula was draining down into her eustacian tubes. They even had to irrigate her ears to clean out the wax and formula. I wouldnt do it. There is obviously a reason they say not to. I think they were doing it at night alot though so they were not watching her eat.
I guess if you absolutly must, do it where you can watch your son so you know he is fine and the bottle does not slip. Also you know exactly when he is done drinking and can then take the bottle away and then burp him of course. Is your first son old enough to help feed his brother? That could help you get time. Just do what is safe....sometimes the dishes arnt really that important :)

Jamie - posted on 12/19/2009

Megan, apparently you feel the second child deserves less attention and less bonding with mom then the first> I have 2 kids 14 months apart with a husband in Iraq and never had to prop a bottle to get stuff done.

Megan - posted on 12/19/2009

Quoting Jamie:

Wow, why did you have a second child? You dont ever prop a bottle for any reason. Your right it is lazy. When you have a child your life stops for them, you feed them when its time. Sad to say you were smarter with your first child. And yes you can do harm, just read this article http://www.associatedcontent.com/article...

don't think you needed to go as far as asking y she had another child..come on now! I have a 5 year old and a 4 month old and my children are just fine! how is it being lazy, yes if she propped it to watch tv or be on the computer yes but she is being active!

Catlin - posted on 12/19/2009

bottle propping can be dangerous, they can choke, and if you're not paying attention that could be bad. It could also lead to overeating, baby bottle mouth, etc. It's not a good idea and you should talk to you babies doctor about it, maybe they could help you so you can still feed the baby and get stuff done around the house or play with your first child

Jamie - posted on 12/19/2009

Wow, why did you have a second child? You dont ever prop a bottle for any reason. Your right it is lazy. When you have a child your life stops for them, you feed them when its time. Sad to say you were smarter with your first child. And yes you can do harm, just read this article http://www.associatedcontent.com/article...

Megan - posted on 12/18/2009

I did it with my first a few times but do it more with my second. I don't do it very often but if i need to get something done around the house and he hasn't been letting me do much that day I might just prop it. He does like for me to feed him though I think he likes the cuddling time! I don't think anything is wrong with it, it is just a choice and some moms do it and some choose not to do it. :)

Christine - posted on 11/22/2009

My doctor claims it makes them more gassy, but I did it with both kids. I would say make sure you are not always propping the bottle up because you still need to bond during the day. And my youngest was less gassy with propping it up, so phooey on the doctor.

Ashley - posted on 11/22/2009

they only negative to proping a bottle is you don't get that bonding time. It's the only reason a doctor will tell you not to do it.

Kimi - posted on 11/22/2009

I know my mom did it with me and all my siblings. I don't think there's anything wrong with it. As long as you're nearby so you can save him from being sprayed with milk when it slips out of his mouth.

Katt - posted on 11/22/2009

I had to do it with my daughter when she started not letting me hold her and feed her, I did it for about 4 months now she's off the bottle....Just make sure he doesn't fall asleep with it or once he's asleep take it away...thats what can cause all the problems ie-ear infections, tooth decay..ect I know lots of mothers who do it but it's not like your propping it and sitting on the couch watching tv... now that would be lazy!

Becca - posted on 11/22/2009

i did it when my daughter was first born... and she is just fine...