What is the best age difference to have between children?
Laura - posted on 07/28/2009
My kids are about 2 1/2 years apart and we haven't had any issues with jealousy. Me and my siblings are far apart in age. 11 years between me and my older sister. 4 1/2 years between me and my younger brother. My sister still says having a baby brother at the age of 16 was the best birth control ever- and why she waited until she was 31 to have kids!
Nicole - posted on 07/27/2009
I'd like to wait till my son is 18 months old before we start trying for #2. If I managed to prevent pregnancy for 4 years I think I can prevent it for another 10 months, lol! My brothers and I are all 3 years apart. I'm the oldest. I don't remember much jealousy with my middle brother, but I remember it with my youngest brother. We used to gang up on him. Meanwhile, my husband and his sister are almost 10 years apart and they get along great. I think 2 or 3 is a good age to have another one, that way the first one is more independant and doesn't need your full attention, but they're still a baby.
Cherie - posted on 07/27/2009
I have a 2 1/2 year old and i have 8 weeks left for the second one, but from what i have seen it all depends on the childs personality. Some can take the lake of attention from the parents and others cant. So personally i dont think that the age matters its the you make time for both children. But some times thats easier said then done. Im hopeing for the best with mine and i hope you the best when you do decide to have another.
Personally, I want to have my kids closer together because I think it would be a drag to have a kid who's been out of diapers when I have to start all over again with the whole diaper thing. Don't get me wrong I love the baby stage but I'd rather have all the sleepless nights, diaper changes and nursing bras over with in a few years rather than spread across half my life.
Kammi - posted on 07/27/2009
I am very glad that my kids are two years appart. They fight as much as anyother siblings. The will both be in school this year and I hope they can help each other.
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Sarah - posted on 07/27/2009
I have a 3 year old, a 2 year old, and a 10 month old! The 3 year old is actually my step daughter and we just got custody of her about 2 1/2 months ago. After we had our first (the 2 year old) I really wanted another one. I've always wanted my kids to be close in age. So he was about 16 months old when we had our last one. It's pretty crazy with the 3, but its worth it. They are great kids. They are all play-mates and I hope they will remain close when they get older. Feels kinda weird to be done having kids cuz I'm only 23. Maybe once these 3 get older, I might change my mind! It requires a lot of patience!
Tandra - posted on 07/27/2009
I had my first and then my daughter came like in Aug. of 98 and my son was in Jan of 97 and they got along very well when they where young. But they are both preteens now and she is a girl and he is a boy, so there"s a little more drama now! But my oldest son protects his sister and then I had another boy in 2002 and they all got along! Of course the have there little spats but for the most part they watch over each other and take care of each other on the bus from school and at school! But my mother was a firm woman when it came to 4 yrs apart but your 8 yrs apart from your last! But I really think if u do things with your children and bond now matter how far apart you have them they are siblings and they will love one another!
Lucy - posted on 07/27/2009
i have 2 lil girl and they are 10 months apart its crazy but they are best friends i never had to deal with jealousy cause lexy was only 10 months old when i had jasmine so to her jasmine as always been there and they do everything together
Emma - posted on 07/27/2009
me (youngest) and my brother (eldest) are 5 years apart with 2 other sisters in between, we've always mainly got along. My daughter and her little sister/brother will be 2 years apart. I've always wanted my children to be close is age b/c me and my siblings were so close in age and everything else and I wouldn't have it any other way lol :) i say 2 years apart is good but it depends on your circumstances :)
Amanda - posted on 07/27/2009
I have a daughter who will be 5 next month and I just found out I am pregnant (about 6 weeks along). I was worried about the age difference because my mother and her sister are 5 years apart and never got along well, as well as my 2 younger sisters who are 6 years apart. On the other hand my sister and I are 2 years apart and we got along fine but were never extremely close because we just have very different personalities. I think it might have to do more with personality then age when it comes to your relationships with siblings. I know if I have another one I will do it shortly after I have this one! I would be nice to have another child to keep the younger one occupied. My 4 year old is always so bored.
My older sister and I are 4 years apart. We were best friends until she hit puberty and I was "just the annoying little sister." This phase lasted until she moved out of the house to go to a college an hour away (she was 19 since she had done her first 2 years at the community college first). After she moved away it was like we were best friends again and we are still very close to this day.
My little brother is 2 years younger than me. We have always gotten along (as well as a brother and sister can!) and I can see we always will. He recently moved 9 ours away and I miss him terribly.
Saying that, my older 2 are 5 years apart. This was not planned (my oldest came with my hubby when we got married), but it is working out pretty well. My oldest was able to be a part of the pregnancy and she has been a great help, but I am worried about what happened between my sister and me. My youngest 2 are only 16 months apart. This was not planned either (we were going to wait until the middle one was 2 before even trying to get pregnant again), but I think it will be good in the long run. We are teaching our kids to always get along and I hope the younger 2 will be best friends and (hopefully) leave my oldest alone when she hits puberty and gets moody (like my sister did).
I think in the end it's up to you and what you want. I am very close to both of my siblings and I love them dearly. They are 2 of my best friends! :)
Sarah - posted on 07/27/2009
I always said I thought it would be good to wait until my first was in kindergarten so that he didn't feel like so much attention was suddenly being taken off of him adn put onto the baby, this worked great as a way to have him be really excited about the baby and wanting to help with very minimal jealousy involved. I can see the other side where closer together might make it easier in terms of them playing together and keeping eachother occupied but my sis and I were 2 yrs apart and it wasn't an experience i wanted to repeat with my own children, to much fighting, jealousy and everything else going on.
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