What is the most out -of -line or weird thing someone has said or asked you

Amber - posted on 03/31/2009 ( 161 moms have responded )

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In regards to children i'm forever being surprised what complete strangers think they have the right to say or ask...In walmart the other day my son didn't have socks on it was around 70...while in there at least 3 people mentioned that he wasn't wearing socks.."where are his socks" "aww he's cute..not wearing socks!" Like it was a huge deal. so he took them off in his car seat..i have 3 kids to get in and out don't feel like screwin with socks. Or how people will ask if they all have the same dad..none of your business...or when i was huge pregnant with number 3 people would say " wow what are you gonna do with 3..thats crazy!" because they were close together. (2 years not that close) like they knew what kind of mom i was. I really don't like "wow you have a handful!" no they're really well behaved thanks...or "better u than me" Yep i'm glad they aren't yours too...even "did you have your baby vaginally?" who the hell do some people think they are..i'd like to know from other moms your experiences and reactions when people ask you things that aren't their business..thanks!!

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Anastasia - posted on 05/07/2009

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I hate the "are you and the father still together"? question and when i say "yes" they give me this I'm so proud of you look and a few assholes have even said "good girl" who the hell do they think they are!!



also halfway through my pregnancy i decided i'd finally officially tell my workmates i was pregnant and carrying a boy and one man said very judgmentally "you shouldn't know that you're having a boy, it's wrong".



A nurse who was taking that blood sugar test that you get when i was pregnant commented on how small my belly was (it was just because my shirt was huge), with this extremely concerned look on her face and she asked me if i was sure that i was due oct 08 and not oct 09.



this lady came up to me in the supermarket once and told me i had to put a beenie on my bub coz his head was cold. how the hell would she know if his head was cold!

Annie - posted on 05/06/2009

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I always get a laugh out of the "oh HE'S so cute" when my daughter is wearing pink or even a dress. LOL. There's one lady at my church that always calls her a boy. I know she doesn't realize it and we both laugh about it when I correct her in a loving way! :D I don't always have her in pink or a dress so I've learned to not take it seriously.



The best though was at Sam's Club a guy thought she was a boy and his wife starts off with, "With all that pink!" She was more worked up than I was! We all laughed about it.

Glenda - posted on 05/06/2009

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Quoting Mary-Ann:



Quoting Amber:




Quoting Kylie:

I'm 24 and have three daughters aged, 4 1/2, 3 and nearly 11mnths. I'm forever getting comments regarding having them close...'wow you have your hands full' is sumthing i hear everytime i'm out with my girls. Yeah things can sumtimes get stressful and im not gunna say that there little angels but they are well behaved the majority of the time. It's all about how you raise a child and if your willing to put in a little effort (and discilpline) you'll reep the rewards. In my opinion i can handle my three just fine by myself but for all those who are wondering their dad is still very much involved. We've been together over 6yeas but have known each other alot longer. He works full time to try and give our girls the life that either of us had as a child. So for all those out there who like to look down upon and snub us mums who have our kids close together..go get yourselves a life cause we have great ones :)








Thank you for saying this lol. I get this crap ALL THE TIME. Kylie (my oldest) will be 5 in July. Camryn just turned 3 in Jan and my son was 1 march 10th. They say " boy you've been pregnant your whole marriage!" or saying i'm crazy for having them "Close" ok..2 years and 2 months isn't really that close..the 19 months was kinda close but thats none of their business...just because my hubby and I didn't stop our sex life after #1 like some other uppities in this dang city!










HAHAHAHA  I laugh when people think 2 years or 19 months is so close. No one beside multiples are closer than my sister and I.    I was 10 and a half months when my sister was born.  I don't think it's possible to be any closer without actually being twins.






I have to laugh when people comment on things like age difference, my mother had 4 children in a time frame of  5 year and 5 days.  We are at the minority 16 months apart roughly.  My mother was a great mother and handled each one of us differently.  I remember people saying these things to my mom,.  I have people tell me I shouldn't bother trying to have more children now that my son is 9 because I would be starting all over and it wouldn't be fair to the children not being able to get to know eachother. Funny how words can hurt.  I have my first at 18 and decide to wait until I am married to have more and then people have the nerve to say something like that.  Right.

Jessica - posted on 05/06/2009

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I got prego at 17, had her at 18. None of my friends could relate to my situation. I was hanging out with my best friend at the time, we grabbed an ice cream and were sitting by the lake talking, I think i was about 4 or 5 months along. She started asking me about the baby and then went into this long, condescending speech about how overpopulated the world is, that we're running out of resources, how selfish and stupid it is to have a child with no reason. How there is no reason for anyone to ever have children, and people only do it because they have no meaning in their lives. After her speech she turned to me and said, "oh but I don't mean you" Of course she meant me! and every other mother out there.



All ready emotional enough as it was, I was just about in tears trying to defend myself.



I wish I would have known then just how amazing and meaningful it is to be a mom, and just how UNSELFISH it really is.

Amber - posted on 04/06/2009

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I'd like to thank everyone for their stories..i got a nice laugh! Glad to know i'm not the only "bad mommy" who had my son's socks off at the store lol

Mary-Ann - posted on 04/06/2009

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Quoting Amber:



Quoting Kylie:

I'm 24 and have three daughters aged, 4 1/2, 3 and nearly 11mnths. I'm forever getting comments regarding having them close...'wow you have your hands full' is sumthing i hear everytime i'm out with my girls. Yeah things can sumtimes get stressful and im not gunna say that there little angels but they are well behaved the majority of the time. It's all about how you raise a child and if your willing to put in a little effort (and discilpline) you'll reep the rewards. In my opinion i can handle my three just fine by myself but for all those who are wondering their dad is still very much involved. We've been together over 6yeas but have known each other alot longer. He works full time to try and give our girls the life that either of us had as a child. So for all those out there who like to look down upon and snub us mums who have our kids close together..go get yourselves a life cause we have great ones :)






Thank you for saying this lol. I get this crap ALL THE TIME. Kylie (my oldest) will be 5 in July. Camryn just turned 3 in Jan and my son was 1 march 10th. They say " boy you've been pregnant your whole marriage!" or saying i'm crazy for having them "Close" ok..2 years and 2 months isn't really that close..the 19 months was kinda close but thats none of their business...just because my hubby and I didn't stop our sex life after #1 like some other uppities in this dang city!






HAHAHAHA  I laugh when people think 2 years or 19 months is so close. No one beside multiples are closer than my sister and I.    I was 10 and a half months when my sister was born.  I don't think it's possible to be any closer without actually being twins.

Mary-Ann - posted on 04/06/2009

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Quoting Anelida:

I had 2 women ask me if my son who is dark skin and the little boy I babysat who is really light skinned, if they are twins! I mean they look nothing alike! Silly women,



My sister and I are 10 and a half months apart.  meaning I was 10 and a half months old when she was born.     My Dad is Blonde curls and blue eyed and my mom is half Native with darker skin and dark brown poker straight hair and brown eyes.   I have my moms colouring.  Right down to the poker straight brown hair.  My sister has My dad's colouring and his blonde curly hair.    I imagine she had many comments and looks.   Most people didn't even believe we were related let alone sisters.     A group of kids at school actually cam up with questions together, seperated the two of us and asked us questions about our family just so they had proof we weren't lying.  



 



When I was 14 I was holding my 8 month old niece and someone thought she was my kid.  I was horrified to think people thought I was old enough to have a kid.   I corrected that person, she was shocked.

Rhiannon - posted on 04/05/2009

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I moved in with my partner, after meeting him at work 6 months prior. We struck up a relationship very quickly and I was pregnant within 6 months. We miscarried the first baby, which his father (who lives in the unit out the back) had the audacity to say (behind our backs as well) was such a blessing, as I was trying to trap his son. Laughed my ass off when I was pregnant again 11 days later. 5 and a half months after Landon was born, I fell pregnant with our second and am currently 4 months pregnant.



My biggest hate is friends and even family guffawing when they found out and asking if we ever actually get off one another! I am sorry we are actually in a healthy relationship that involves sex (*gasp! no!!!!!*) We wanted our children close together! Even strangers give me lectures on contraception! Thanks, love, but I knew breast feeding was not a contraceptive, and I still had sex anyway. Could it be I planned the baby?!



The other comments I hate include the "So it was an accident?" I actually told someone in Big W one day that I was sorry that their parents had found them to be such a huge mistake, but I was very much excited about my PLANNED second child! So what if they are going to be only 14 months apart? I am young, I want a career in my 30's or so, and so I had my babies close together to allow me to get back into work once they are at school and have time enough to build up retirement!



My other one that I feel to be so out of line is the comment on my saze. I didn't start even SHOWING with Landon until I was 5 months, and this baby (especially being so soon after my first) was showing by 10 weeks. So pregnancy #1 I was too small and pregnancy #2 they have missed the second baby in the ultrasound, as I couldn't possibly be this big with just one!

Amanda - posted on 04/05/2009

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i am a mom but the craziest thing i can remember happened to my mom, me and my younger brother are adopted (she couldn't have children) and my brother is from South Korea, at the store one night a woman walked up to my mother and asked "what is it?" she replied "he is a boy!" and walked away. we still remember this years later .

Stacey - posted on 04/05/2009

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I'm 5"7 & only 120lbs so when I'm pregnant I'm all belly straight out in front. One woman in a health food store took note of this about me and came to the conclusion that my belly was gross. :-(

Autumn - posted on 04/05/2009

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an older couple told me my little brother looked cute. (I'm 23) I told them he was mine and they looked funny and said "arent' you a little young to have a baby" and I told them I was 23. and they were like "oh we thought you were 16 or 17. Crazy people.

Rachael - posted on 04/05/2009

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I work in an OBGYN office and one day I was bring someone back to a room and she looked at me and so your pregant again I said no (my baby was only like 3 months old) and she said then you realy need to go to the gym I was so shocked I had nothing to say after that but I did sit at my desk and cry!!!

Shandy - posted on 04/05/2009

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The only thing that was said to me was "oh shes so small", what do you say to that... well shes in the 50th in her weight and 60th in her height. and shes only 2mo! sorry shes not a fatty, I starve her! and of coures the gradma thing, you better put a hat on that baby shes gonna get sick.at 1 year!? really?

Shandy - posted on 04/05/2009

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Quoting Morag:

People usually make silly comments like, oh your baby doesn't have any hair, as if I had never noticed this fact! But the worst by far that really really upset me, was in a discussion on extended breastfeeding where this woman (a mother of a toddler) told me (and she directed the comment to me as she used my name) that breastfeeding a baby beyond a year old was the same as sexual abuse and caused psychological damage especially if you have a boy!!!! She knew my LO was a year old and still breastfeeding. I was so so upset. She might as well have said to me that I was a pedophile! I said to her that if I had made a similar comment about the way she chose to feed her child, she would have taken a chunk out of me...which she did anyway because apparently I insinuated that she was poisoning her kid. I never mentioned how she fed her child or that she was poisoning him!!. I just walked away from the whole thing. I would never have won the conversation, and why waste your breath on some one so ignorant and hateful. She had some real hang ups. :s



I can't believe the nerve of people! I would have loved to breast feed longer, my daughter would bite. It just shows how stuped people really are even about breast feeding.

Ashley - posted on 04/05/2009

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A couple of weeks ago it was about 70 degrees outside and I took my 5 month old to the grocery store with me.  I had her in a short sleeved onesie a pair of jeans and no socks.  I had her in the baby bjorn in the grocery store and this woman who I have never seen before in my life walks up to me, grabs my daughters arm and says "She's cold!"  I just looked at her for a second because I was so shocked at what had just happened.  I backed away from her and said "She's fine" and she says "well, she looks cold to me" and walks away.  I thought that was incredibly rude and very ballsy to put her hands hands on a strangers baby.

Helen - posted on 04/05/2009

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I have always been fairly chubby and i was told by a nosey old lady that i was selfish and irrisponsible for getting pregnant while i was so fat ( about 20lb over weight at the time), that my baby would come out obese and it was as bad as taking drugs. I was so shocked that i couldn't say anything.



gave birth to a healthy 7lb 9oz baby!

Erinn - posted on 04/05/2009

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Well I have now had a few people ask me if both of my children have the same father!! Makes me feel like a horrible trampy mom or something and I think thats just a rude thing to say!

Just the other day I had both of my children at the mall with me and some friends. My daughter was crying, like she usually does and this young woman comes up to and asks if she could hold her. Well it was a super stressful day so I let her. She asked me how old she was and when I said almost 5 months old and she said, "Oh..... I thought she was a newborn!" Like she only wanted to hold a newborn, not an older baby! That might not sound like a big deal, but it kinda got to me!

Ashley - posted on 04/05/2009

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my children r 11 months apart and EVERY time we r out I get the auto " oh look at the twins r they ever cute" not many ppl bother to ask if they're twins they just assume so I laugh and walk away and the more they find me I turn and say sry to burst it on ya but they're not twins just close in age.



I getthe same oh look at the earing because I got my sons ear pierced as well and some comment like its cute or others walk away thinking I cant hear and say some thing about it like its cruel or gonna be a faggot and so on. I do not let what others think and say get to me.



Same as my daughter having a spaz out for not getting her way, ppl look at me like it is nuts and she shouldnt be cryign and I should give her what she wants-- um not because this is why she is this way- others not wanting to listen to the crying and give in so yeah they do not have to comment, their look says it all lmao

Amber - posted on 04/05/2009

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Quoting Kylie:

I'm 24 and have three daughters aged, 4 1/2, 3 and nearly 11mnths. I'm forever getting comments regarding having them close...'wow you have your hands full' is sumthing i hear everytime i'm out with my girls. Yeah things can sumtimes get stressful and im not gunna say that there little angels but they are well behaved the majority of the time. It's all about how you raise a child and if your willing to put in a little effort (and discilpline) you'll reep the rewards. In my opinion i can handle my three just fine by myself but for all those who are wondering their dad is still very much involved. We've been together over 6yeas but have known each other alot longer. He works full time to try and give our girls the life that either of us had as a child. So for all those out there who like to look down upon and snub us mums who have our kids close together..go get yourselves a life cause we have great ones :)



Thank you for saying this lol. I get this crap ALL THE TIME. Kylie (my oldest) will be 5 in July. Camryn just turned 3 in Jan and my son was 1 march 10th. They say " boy you've been pregnant your whole marriage!" or saying i'm crazy for having them "Close" ok..2 years and 2 months isn't really that close..the 19 months was kinda close but thats none of their business...just because my hubby and I didn't stop our sex life after #1 like some other uppities in this dang city!

Cherie - posted on 04/05/2009

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I am of mixed hertitage 1/2 black and 1/2 white and my Fiance is Irish white. When we had our Son Oliver, The Nurses tried to put him down as being White, which really offended me and then someone else said how could I be offended it wasn't like I had given him a 'black' name....what. Also when my Son was born he was darker than me!!!! Also we have double barrelled our surname as I am the last Lewis...literally and people keep saying that I am just making things dificult for the NHS and School system....what? I have done it in memory of my Grandad and my Mum....Grrrrrrrrrr

Angel - posted on 04/05/2009

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My brothers and I look very much alike..especially my youngest brother.  I mean if you look at my 3rd grade picture it looks like it's him with a wig.  anyway, My 2 boys look just like my brothers as well. Their baby pics match my youngest brother. Well, within the hour after I had my first son, my step aunt that everyone in the family can't stand, had the nerve to walk into my hospital room, pickup my child and say with such conviction.. "aww he's so cute Angel, he's looks identical to your brother brandon though..hmmm...are you sure you and he didn't have a little bom chicka wow wow instead of you and brian? It would make perfect sense with the way this child looks?"



 



OMG I screamed to Brian get her the F*** out of my room before I jump off of here and kick her A**..



as she left she said I'm sorry I wasn't trying to offend..it's just it would make sense..he looks identical to brandon..



 



She wouldn't stop even as I was having her butt kicked out of the room.. I mean HELLO??? My bros and I look alike!!! Of course if he looks like me he'll look like my bro!



 



UGH!

Katie - posted on 04/05/2009

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I was about 8 months pregnant with my daughter and was out to dinner with some girlfriends. One of the girls who i didnt know very well was very clucky and asking all sorts of things. The worst question was "have your nipples started leaking yet?" Gross! It was asked very loudly in front of about 10 other girls- not one of them have been through pregnancy and neither had she!! Being my first pregnancy and the first in my group to be pregnant, i didnt know how to respond and was so embarrassed by this question. I havent spoken to her since. But everyone remembers that conversation and wont ever forget the silly questions she was asking.

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i was 17 when i fell pregnant with my first daughter and i was in a shop waiting for some household objects and this old lady told me 'you should be ashamed of yourself having a child at your age' why having a child is the most wonderful and natural thing in the human race. no one knows what sort of parent you are only you and the close people to you. when i 15 i was told i would never have children as i had a to have my appendix out and they had complications with it. i am so proud of my girls and wont listen to any busy body that doesnt kniow me

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i was 17 when i fell pregnant with my first daughter and i was in a shop waiting for some household objects and this old lady told me 'you should be ashamed of yourself having a child at your age' why having a child is the most wonderful and natural thing in the human race. no one knows what sort of parent you are only you and the close people to you. when i 15 i was told i would never have children as i had a to have my appendix out and they had complications with it. i am so proud of my girls and wont listen to any busy body that doesnt kniow me

Amber - posted on 04/05/2009

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Quoting Amelia:

when i was pregnant with my first child i was on my way home and had to stop by the supermarket i was about 8 months pregnant and VERY big i only needed to grab a couple of things and preceded to line up while as i was lined up a elderly lady lined up behind me. next thing i know she pushed her trolley full force into my belly and told me to get behind her in the line as she should go first. and that i am going to hell for being a young unwed mother and if i knew what was good for the baby i should give it away. i ended up having to stay in hospital until i was due as my stomach ended up purple and they wanted to keep him monitered.



OH MY GOD! how in the hell did you keep from throttling that old hag??? i dont know if i would have been able to contain myself, someone pushing a cart into my belly?? i probably would have snapped! and then to tell me IM going to hell? she's the one whose trying to harm a defenseless pregnant woman AND her unborn child! kudos to you for not choking her right then and there!

Gayle - posted on 04/04/2009

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Oh...so many.

When I was pregnant and people would rub my belly I would reach over and rub theirs' in the same way. I found they didn't like it much. Hopefully, it made them think before they would do that again.
Also, during my whole pregnancy when people said things like "so, you're pregnant?" I would ALWAYS answer "nope just fat, thanks!"

A few weeks ago I had dressed my son in shorts for church and a friend who has a son just a month older said she thought about dressing her son in shorts that morning too but thought she would be a 'bad mom' if she had done that. I said 'I guess I'm a bad mom'

The morning of my first ultrasound while I was pregnant my dr told me that I had gained way too much weight that month (I guess 10 lbs is too much) and if I didn't slow down I would basically end up on bed rest for some other horrible fate. I tried reminding him that I just started gaining weight again since during the first part of my pregnancy I suffered with horrible nausea and had lost 10 lbs from throwing up so much, so really I was just catching up to what I would have been. He then proceeded to tell me that I was too heavy to begin with and that losing the weight had actually put me in the right weight category for my height. I tried explaining that I hadn't eaten anything different that month but apparently he didn't believe me because he said I needed to stop all my 'snacking' (I was like 'are you listening to a word I'm saying...I haven't done anything different this month!). I was pretty upset. He just assumed I was either lying or didn't know what I was talking about. We ended up going to a midwife instead. At least she listened to me.

Amanda - posted on 04/04/2009

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Quoting Liz:

The worst comment was when I was 8 months pregnant. I only gained 13lbs throughout my entire pregnancy, finally popping at the 8 month mark. Most of my co-workers had actually forgotten that I was pregnant. Well one day one of them said "wow, you're so big for only 4 months...are you sure you're not having twins?" I laughed becaused I thought she was kidding with me and when I realized she was serious I reminded her that I was 8 months along. She then proceeded with "Are you sure everything is okay, is the baby growing correctly? You're too tiny for 8 months" Needless to say I went back to my office, closed the door, fought really hard not to cry but called my doctor to make sure that everything was okay with my baby.


 



 



My entire freaking pregnancy people were telling me that I was soooo tiny. It drove me nuts because I felt HUGE! People would tell me that I was so lucky that I was smaller than them when they were pregnant, that really pissed me off because I had all of the same problems as they did. I had backpain and I waddles...etc. They had never seen me before I was pregnant either! I gained 50 lbs during my pregnancy and gave birth to an 8 lb baby. Do you call that "tiny?"



The worst thing that anyone said to me during pregnancy was, my best friend's mom. She saw me when I was like close to 20 weeks or something. I wasn't showing very much, but she had the nerve to ask me if I had been to the doctor to see if there was a baby in there. I was sooo offended!



It sucks because I let people make me feel like there was something wrong with me because I wasn't a HUGE pregnant woman.

Carolyn - posted on 04/04/2009

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When I found out I was pregnant with my first we went to tell our friend and the first thing he ask was "Who's is it?" while I was standing there with my bf who I had been dating for a long time

Christy - posted on 04/04/2009

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Quoting Laura:



I am sure someone has already said this, but my biggest pet peeve while pregnant was "Are you sure you're not having twins?" 






Maybe I am a sensitive person, but I found it quite insulting.





I got this one to. I just laughed it off and went on my merry way.

Emily - posted on 04/04/2009

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Quoting Brenda:



Oh, I have another one.  We are pregnant with our second, and we have a boy already.  I had a gal I hadn't seen for a while email me and ask me what we were having.  I said it was another boy.  She's like "Oh I'm so sorry!  You must have wanted a girl!"  I was like, no I wanted a healthy child actually.






I also get the "so how long before you try for a girl?" and I'm like never.  This is our last and get the "oh" and the poor thing looks.  Sorry, but this baby factory is shut down after this baby!






i no that feeling i have 2 girl and every 1 says to me dint you want a boy like you can pick im just happy my babys are here safe as i fell on the ice and spent a lot of my pregnancie in hospital

Emily - posted on 04/04/2009

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i was once pushing my daughter and nephew in a trolly in a shop and a women turned to the child she had with her and said look at that greedy lady she has 2 babys whats that all about what does it matter if i have 6 babies as long as i look after them and thier healthy lol

Brenda - posted on 04/04/2009

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Oh, I have another one.  We are pregnant with our second, and we have a boy already.  I had a gal I hadn't seen for a while email me and ask me what we were having.  I said it was another boy.  She's like "Oh I'm so sorry!  You must have wanted a girl!"  I was like, no I wanted a healthy child actually.



I also get the "so how long before you try for a girl?" and I'm like never.  This is our last and get the "oh" and the poor thing looks.  Sorry, but this baby factory is shut down after this baby!

Emily - posted on 04/04/2009

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im only23 and was 20 when i had my first i took her swimming and a random woman as me if i had given birth to her i just said well how else do you think she got here



also i was shopping and my daughter now 3 wouldnt stop touching so i was telling her off and a woman in her 70s told me it was my mums job to disaplin my sister

Laura - posted on 04/04/2009

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I am sure someone has already said this, but my biggest pet peeve while pregnant was "Are you sure you're not having twins?" 



Maybe I am a sensitive person, but I found it quite insulting.

Sarah - posted on 04/04/2009

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Man, some people are soo rude! I get comments about my daughter all of the time. She was born 6 weeks early (4 lbs 11 oz) She's now almost 11 months old & she's still little for her age (in the 5%) People always comment on how cute my 4 months old is. I tell them she's almost 11 months & they look at me like I starve her to death. So what if she's tiny - she's had a lot of weight to make up! Also, we often don't hassle on putting sock on Kennady (unless it's really cold outside) People always comment on how "cold" her feet are. Um, they are pink & they feel pretty warm to me. Kennady retains heat very well, which means she's warm a lot & the lack of socks actually makes her happier. People also think she's a boy, even though she's in a pink car seat, wearing pink clothes & has a bow in her hair. Crazy. People need to think before they speak.

Caroline - posted on 04/04/2009

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Yep! 'Wow your young!' is the most common. And then there's the looks (especially when i was pregnant)! The way i see it... if your baby is healthy and happy its none of anyone's business how old you are. Wasn't it normal to have children in your teens years ago?

Joanne - posted on 04/04/2009

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Quoting Laura:



Quoting Kady:

I have 3 boys, and the negative comments i get make me so ANGRY!
things like "oh, well, are you going to try again for a girl" - umm, wasn't trying for a girl in the first place, just happy to have another baby, and one woman recently told me how she was "lucky" to have one of each - NO, you are lucky to have 2 children, since when did gender become sooo important?? It wasn't until i was pregnant with my beautiful baby Luca that I realised that to some people it is, and they expected me to be dissapointed because i was having "another boy", as if all boys are the same, and don't have their own individual personalities!
Kady.






I have two girls a 2 1/2 year old and a 1 1/2 year old now im having twins in October. I absolutely hate when people say " hopefully you will have two boys" like i care. Sure it would be nice but you get pregnant because any baby is welcome. My mother in law is the worst! She acts like we need males for our own private army or something! But i hear it All The Time!  Im 12 weeks today so we'll find out soon....Im just looking forward to my new SUV that can hold 4 car seats! Like i'll be driving anywhere lol!






I know just how you feel when my 2 and a half year old was born we took her around to meet my husbands parents.  His dad said 'What is It" and when I replied 'she's a girl" He turned to my husband and said "well your no b****y good are you.  He then took her up stairs to mum who was still in bed at lunch time, and when dad woke her up and told her to have a look at her new granddaughter all she could say was can I go back to sleep now Bobby.  Needles to say I have had a set of twins since then and neither one of them has seen my husbands parents and if we have our way never will not that we had any relationship with them before hand..  I have no intention of our two girls getting made insecure because we now have a boy that grandma and grandad have been dieing for.  I'm just glad that Ebony was to little to remember her first and last visit to her grand parents.

Kylie - posted on 04/04/2009

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I'm 24 and have three daughters aged, 4 1/2, 3 and nearly 11mnths. I'm forever getting comments regarding having them close...'wow you have your hands full' is sumthing i hear everytime i'm out with my girls. Yeah things can sumtimes get stressful and im not gunna say that there little angels but they are well behaved the majority of the time. It's all about how you raise a child and if your willing to put in a little effort (and discilpline) you'll reep the rewards. In my opinion i can handle my three just fine by myself but for all those who are wondering their dad is still very much involved. We've been together over 6yeas but have known each other alot longer. He works full time to try and give our girls the life that either of us had as a child. So for all those out there who like to look down upon and snub us mums who have our kids close together..go get yourselves a life cause we have great ones :)

Kylie - posted on 04/04/2009

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I'm 24 and have three daughters aged, 4 1/2, 3 and nearly 11mnths. I'm forever getting comments regarding having them close...'wow you have your hands full' is sumthing i hear everytime i'm out with my girls. Yeah things can sumtimes get stressful and im not gunna say that there little angels but they are well behaved the majority of the time. It's all about how you raise a child and if your willing to put in a little effort (and discilpline) you'll reep the rewards. In my opinion i can handle my three just fine by myself but for all those who are wondering their dad is still very much involved. We've been together over 6yeas but have known each other alot longer. He works full time to try and give our girls the life that either of us had as a child. So for all those out there who like to look down upon and snub us mums who have our kids close together..go get yourselves a life cause we have great ones :)

Alison - posted on 04/04/2009

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Thinking about pregnancy this one takes the cake for me. I was induced for labor with pitocin. My contractions regulated fast.. When I was 5 cm my contractions were so close together that there was no break in pain or the actual contractions, they were back to back. It went from a lot of pain to almost unbearable pain. The anesthesiologist had the nerve to ask me questions right when I was peaking in a contraction. I couldn't really talk and she kept asking me to speak louder.

Alison - posted on 04/04/2009

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Here is my story:



My baby was at her first visit with her pediatrician post natal (4 days old). We got signed into the office and two other mother's showed up with their kids after us. While we were all waiting for the receptionist to return one of the moms walked right by us and coughed right onto my daughter with no hand/kleenex over her mouth and didn't apologize or anything. I couldn't believe someone would be so unconcious of their actions! It's cold and flu season. Isn't it common courtesy to cover your mouth and turn the other direction?

Alison - posted on 04/04/2009

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Quoting Julie:

The worst I heard was from my mother-in-law. They came to visit when my son was 4 months old, and my son had RSV. He ended up in the hospital, and we were very worried and doing everything we could for him, but my mother-in-law spent her visit implying that we had made him sick because we didn't have carpets! We have wood floors downstairs, and she saw me lay him down on a blanket on the floor to play one evening, and that's how she decided it was my fault.


 



I'm sorry! That's awful. As a new mom myself I know how hurtful comments like that can be. Carpets carry dust, wood floors are cleaner!

Erin - posted on 04/03/2009

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Yea people always asked me how far along I was after I had my babies, Its actually very insulting and it makes you feel even more ugly

Erin - posted on 04/03/2009

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O and one more thing I hate when people (even friends) act like my life is over, or not as exciting or good as theirs because I have two kids. I just want to tell those people that my kids are wonderful and that I would never trade places with those people in a million years and if they only knew how great if feels to be the mother of these two wonderful boys they would not be saying such things.

Christy - posted on 04/03/2009

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Quoting Amanda:



I'm also tired of everyone telling me that my daughter is SOOOO tiny. She is almost 7 weeks old and fitting just fine into 0-3 clothes. Is that really that tiny? I think it's pretty normal.





My daughter is 3 months old and she just now fits into 0-3 clothes. She wore preemie and newborn up until now!

Erin - posted on 04/03/2009

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Yes i agree with you all, people say the rudest things and I don't understand why. Once I mention my children people are quick to ask "Are you married?" and "How old are you?" While kind of looking at me up and down. I think that is so rude! I love my babies more than anything and I am a good mother, I am with their father, I am 23 and he is 25, what is the problem?? And I hate when they ask if my kids have the same father, that's not really your business if I just met you. I swear I've heard it all and I'm very polite about it but seriously people need to learn how to be polite themselves.

Christy - posted on 04/03/2009

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Quoting Amelia:

when i was pregnant with my first child i was on my way home and had to stop by the supermarket i was about 8 months pregnant and VERY big i only needed to grab a couple of things and preceded to line up while as i was lined up a elderly lady lined up behind me. next thing i know she pushed her trolley full force into my belly and told me to get behind her in the line as she should go first. and that i am going to hell for being a young unwed mother and if i knew what was good for the baby i should give it away. i ended up having to stay in hospital until i was due as my stomach ended up purple and they wanted to keep him monitered.


What?! You should've pressed charges for sure! That is not even right!

Christy - posted on 04/03/2009

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Quoting Crystal:



After reading these posts mine will be a little out of line, as I am currently pregnant with my first, but thought I would share with the rest of you mothers out there. :)
As I told family and friends that my husband (of 3 years) and i were excepting our first baby. Several friends and a few family members said..."Well how did that happen?"
I was like if you don't know, I not gonna tell you...thought about asking them if I needed to draw a picture for them. :)






 





LOL! You definitely should've drawn the picture for them.

Christy - posted on 04/03/2009

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Quoting Kris:



this is my last one lol..when I was pregnant ppl criticized me for wearing the cute maternity clothing that showed off the pregnancy bump in a nice classy way....said I should wear clothes that hide the bump...Why would I hide something Im excited about





I agree. I don't think you should hide your bump! It is something to be celebrated. A life!!

Courtney - posted on 04/03/2009

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When I returned to previous employer, after giving birth to my daughter a year prior, the manager said, "Aw..she's already 18months!! How cute!! If I re-hire you, you can't have any more kids"...I'm 14 weeks prego and terrified to tell them because they will screw with my job, though I can still so my job until I pop, as I did with my daughter! Anytime someone comes in that's prego, she looks at me and says, "Don't think about it! Infact, don't breath the same air...don't want any accidents". She is a very bad word that I won't say.



Have to say that I got the "What...no socks?" one ALOT with my daughter!!! I would just brush it off.

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