What is your take on baby showers?

Angie - posted on 07/01/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )

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Should you only have one shower for your first born or is there certain circumstances where it is ok to have more for other children?

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Rebecca - posted on 07/01/2009

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Usually it is considered socially acceptable to have additional baby showers if there is 5 or more years between children, or if you are having multiples.

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Kristi - posted on 07/05/2009

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I have three kids and only had one shower. I had a girl, then a boy, then a girl. We keep everything that was giving to use from the first shower. I had gotten clothes from family and friends for my son to start. Then went to the children resale shops for the rest. With my last girl I had some clothes that were 24mo on but nothing form 0-12mo because we thought that we were done but we had a miss hap. So again family and friend brought clothes for us and we went and got the rest. We kept the bed, crib and other big items just in case I might need them later and I did. I think a second shower are for those that either have been another relationship and are starting a new family then it is OK. But if not then just reuse and have a bithday party after baby is born.

Andrea - posted on 07/05/2009

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I think that it is okay to have a second baby shower. I have heard of ppl who have them or are thrown them and the gifts are diapers. I can see how this is a good idea if you have the same sex as the child before this one or just to get some help with diaper because they are outragious... I have known ppl who are given/thrown 3 baby showers for the first child, is it a big deal if you have one per child even if gifts aren't given!!!???



My daughter was born 10 weeks early and was in the hospital when I had my baby shower so I never really got to enjoy it, I felt gulty about her being there and me being at a party. My mother told me if/when I have another baby she will through me another one so I can have fun and can play all the fun games... lol

Ashlee - posted on 07/05/2009

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I had a very small shower with my second son - it wasn't expected, but it was a nice surprise. I got a few things that I'd wanted with my oldest, but couldn't get at the time (a pack 'n' play, etc.) and I got a ton of diapers, which was never a bad thing. I don't think there's anything wrong with more than one shower - things get broken, you have a baby of the opposite sex, new products come out - it makes sense.

Sarah - posted on 07/05/2009

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i think it kind of depends on the circumstance. i had a friend who had a second shower because she had all boy stuff from her first child and was having a girl. i think it also depends on how big of an age gap between children.

Jenni - posted on 07/04/2009

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I think the shower is perfectly fine, no matter what, it's to congratulate you on having a baby. The gifts and registry, however, I think should be for the first, multiples, different gender, or a few years age difference.

Example: If you have a girl one year after just having a girl, I think that is a bit much. If people WANT to bring gifts, fine, but it should be stuff like diapers, wipes, bath stuff, etc., things that get used up.

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I don't think there is anything wrong with baby showers for subsequent children - new babies are always a good reason to get together and celebrate. Certainly a party for a second or third child is more low-key than for a first born, though. If someone wants to throw a shower for the mom-to-be, there's no reason she should feel it isn't right. I do however, think it is always inappropriate for the mom (or dad) to host a shower for themselves.

Crystal - posted on 07/02/2009

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I believe it's called a "baby sprinkle" for what Megan's talking about - if you want ppl to come but not bring gifts. Which I think is a great idea!
But if you're having a girl now, and your sister wants to throw a party, I'd say DO IT!!!

Megan - posted on 07/02/2009

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I always think that its ok to have a baby shower if the first and second baby are different sexes. I think its silly if your 2nd or 3rd baby shower is of the same sex as your 1st, you really should everything you need by now. If there's more than 10 years between your childre, then sure go ahead because you probably got rid of all your first baby stuff anyway. If they are all the same sex, then specifically word it to say, no gifts please, just food and fun!

Rebecca - posted on 07/02/2009

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Quoting Angie:

Thanks my son is three and I am having a little girl in December. The reason I asked this is because my sis in law wasn't able to be at my first shower and was wanting to throw me a shower for this one. I was always told that you should only have one shower.I just wanted to see what others thought of this. I still don't know if I am going to allow her to throw me one or not. It is to iffy.


If someone wants to throw you a shower I would say let them, it's not like you are asking for it, and every little bit helps, Right.

Tara - posted on 07/02/2009

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I would have a second shower only if the second child came many years later and you dont have your first baby's things anymore

Christa - posted on 07/02/2009

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I think you have one for your first and then only for other children if people want to give you one. Like if you've changed jobs and have new friends who weren't around for your first. But I definitely wouldn't have a second shower and invite many of the same people that came to your first. I think friends will buy you things anyway if they want so you don't need to have a shower.

Staci - posted on 07/02/2009

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I had one that my mom threw for me I didn't register I just told people to keep it simple because I didn't want anyone spending to much on the baby.. I was just at one however for my neighbor she has a 9 year old daughter to a previos marrige and now had a shower for her baby boy where she registered and chose things like a crib and furniture it was way to much...

Angie - posted on 07/02/2009

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Thanks my son is three and I am having a little girl in December. The reason I asked this is because my sis in law wasn't able to be at my first shower and was wanting to throw me a shower for this one. I was always told that you should only have one shower.I just wanted to see what others thought of this. I still don't know if I am going to allow her to throw me one or not. It is to iffy.

Ashley - posted on 07/02/2009

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Quoting Kelly:

I think baby showers these days have grown to astronomical standards! Originally they were meant to be the same sort of thing as a kitchen tea - you give the essential things that all babies need, like diapers, wipes, lotion, maybe some clothing. I can't believe people have a gift registry!



ya but sometimes a gift registry is the easiest way to go. when i had my baby shower for my son i was told to do a gift registry because nobody knew what we had or needed and they kept asking my mom. she knew what we needed but didnt know who got what. i will agree that some people do go over board. i dont agree with putting cribs, strollers, swings, things like that. our registry was 1 page and i would say the most expensive thing we had on there was a bath tub that was 40. some people do take advantage of a baby shower (my step sis is one). she ended up having 2 baby showers which i dont agree with. one is plenty. i am due in 2 wks and ihad my son last may. i told my mom to not throw me one because i just had one and there is absoultey  nothing that we need.  now if there's a big age gap between children then i do think having another one is a good thing because you prob dont have anything.

Michelle - posted on 07/02/2009

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I've never had one, I've been to one and I didn't really like the whole idea of it, so I didn't really want one, we never actually had a need for a shower, probably due to the fact that I made sure we had EVERYTHING we needed lol but yes i do think if you have a child of a different gender then you should be able to have one.

Melissa - posted on 07/02/2009

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I think you should be able to, especially if you had a boy first and are then having a girl or visa versa you know? :)

Kelly - posted on 07/01/2009

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I think baby showers these days have grown to astronomical standards! Originally they were meant to be the same sort of thing as a kitchen tea - you give the essential things that all babies need, like diapers, wipes, lotion, maybe some clothing. I can't believe people have a gift registry!

Lorraine - posted on 07/01/2009

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a friend of mine had 6 children, the first 5 all girls. she had a shower for the first daughter. the 6th a surprise boy! friends threw her a shower for the boy and she received simple gifts like clothing and diapers. I think in that circumstance it is ok. or you could have a meet the baby where everyone brings a casserole for your freezer. I would have appreciated that so much more than a bunch of baby gifts, especially after a c section. I think a shower would also be ok for a second child if your children are spaced very far apart. say 10 years or more difference. because who honestly keeps and uses baby gear that is 10 years old.

Devon - posted on 07/01/2009

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i had twins so i only had one baby shower. i think if you have more children you should still get a baby shower. you might not get a whole lot of gifts because people will think about you just giving the new baby hand me downs, exspecially if it is the same sex as the first child. but i think it's a good idea, as long as the children aren't to close in age.

Ashley - posted on 07/01/2009

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I think it would be nice to have a casual gathering of women with maybe some food and activities to celebrate the new baby but without the registry and gifts that come with the first. Some people say it's not ok, but why not celebrate every new life?

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