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What should I do?

Elibeth - posted on 03/02/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My 3 1/2 year old told me that her 8 year old cousin kissed her and touched her private parts during a sleep over at her grandmothers house, I am not sure what my next move should be?

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Ariana - posted on 03/02/2010

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I don't agree with Mandy's suggestion about seeing if your child is lying. But I would have a talk with the cousin's parents. And maybe warn Grandma about what happened so she can keep an eye out for any other weird behavior that may happen. My sister's next door neighbor's kid had picked up french kissing from his parents and tv. He tries to do it to all the kids. So we all keep an eye out. When we talked to the little boys parents about it they just acted like we were crazy. So it does help to inform everyone. I'd also have a talk with you child about it. Some kids it's hard for them to tell their parents about stuff like that. Plus your child could be traumatized by it. Good luck. This really is a tough one.

Jessica - posted on 03/02/2010

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i would sit down and talk to him and his parents their family they should be able to do that point out what he did let him know that it is wrong maybe that might work. just a thought

Elibeth - posted on 03/02/2010

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Thank you so much for all of your replies.

Melissa - posted on 03/02/2010

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99.9% of the time the children are telling the truth. I wouldn't schedule any more overnights at Grandma's house and if she asks why, then I'd tell her what your 3 year old told you. I'd also call the cousin's parents and tell them and then if it's true call your local chapter of CAVA because she'll need counseling to deal with what's happened to her.

Anna - posted on 03/02/2010

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I don't think that a 3 1/2 year old could make that up. Having a conversation with the parents should be the next step. Think about how hard it will be for them to think about thier child doing such a thing, so maybe try to be sensitive. I know that will be hard since the wrong doing was done to your baby. You may also want to have your child see a professional, or do the talking yourself. Also, maybe suggest that for your child's cousin. Could it possibly be that the cousin has been molested also? That just seems a little mature for an 8 year old to know what that stuff means too. Good luck and Im sorry that has happened,

Tiona - posted on 03/02/2010

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yeah i agree with mandy on this one its tough and some ppl will be mad but it has to happen

Mandy - posted on 03/02/2010

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Wow, that is a tough one. It's not likely that she is lieing, unless she saw something like that on tv or something. I would explain to her the difference between a lie and the truth and then ask her which one her story falls under. If it is true then you need to call her cousins parents and have a conversation with them! It will be a very difficult conversation but needs to happen.

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