Jennifer - posted on 07/23/2012 ( 16 moms have responded )
My son is 3 years old and has never met his father. I havent even spoken to his father since I was about 4 months pregnant. He thought I was cheating on him and it wasnt his child. He told me several times he wanted a DNA test, but he never went through with it. I have never filed for child support. But now that I moved out of my moms house and to a different state than his father lives in I want to file for support. I am worried about visitation. I dont want him to get visitation, for a few reasons. 1. He lives in another state, about 4 hours away from me. 2. he has never been present in my sons life. 3. When we were together he was really heavy into drinking and drugs, was very unreliable, and irresponsible. 4. He lives at home with his parents still, along with about 7 other people in the house. His dad(my sons "grandfather") has serious anger issues and I saw him in the past physically abusive to his other grandkids. Child protective services was called but since the children were already placed in his care by CPS they didnt look to far into it.
I know I want the child support from him, but I do not believe he should have visitation. My son already has a dad in his life who has been there since he was 6 months old. And is the only man he knows as his dad. Does anyone know if there is a way get child support but not allow visitation? Or possible take away his parental rights but still get child support? I know some people may think it is wrong to want his money but not allow his to see his child, but he has had 3 years to want to be involved and never tried. But I know I need the money from him.
So can I please get some advice. thanks everyone