WHAT...there is nothing wrong with my child

Melissa - posted on 10/11/2010

I would say keep your distance. My son took naps until just past his 4th birthday, even then he probably could have stopped earlier. I had to ask daycare just to give him rest time at 1 point. I understood they have nap time, but my son was outgrowing nap. It depends on the child how much sleep they need. Maybe your friends child sleeps longer at night. Frankly, I wanted time with my son at night but i wanted him in bed, so modifing his nap time was what worked, because i didn't want fights. Looking on the internet you'll see most kids start around 3 or 4 outgrowing naps

Jane - posted on 10/10/2010

enjoy the fact your daughter still naps, gives you a bit of time to do things yourself, even if it is just some more housework, she will stop napping when she is ready. my daughter napped until about 3

Breanna - posted on 10/10/2010

let kids nap until they are ready to be done! kids need sleep and each kid is different! my oldest napped until he was 5 and my others, we will see. you are probably freaking a bit more because of the history. i think it is time to let them be separate from your life now. you are going different directions with your families and you don't need that stress! good luck!

Melanie - posted on 10/10/2010

My soon to be 8 yo still takes naps nearly every afternoon. When they are ready to stop taking naps you will know. Because they will be in their room reading, playing, or singing, but not sleeping. Now if she were 10 or older I might be concerned "if" she were not in the middle of a growth spurt.

Amber - posted on 10/10/2010

I defintely would not take what she said to heart. The one thing I have learned about having kids is that every kid is defferent and you can not go based off of what someone else is doing. My daughter just turned three and I still give her a nap in the afternoon because if I don't she will seriously get cranky. Same with my son and he just turned one. So if you feel your daughter still needs to nap then do not feel bad about it what so ever!!

Michelle - posted on 10/10/2010

My daughter will be two in December and she still takes one nap a day! If she doesn't she's SO grumpy! I run a home daycare and I have a rest time where all my group is required to rest (they don't have to sleep, but do need to lay quiet) and I have to four year olds who still nap! Everyday they are out 5 minutes after putting their heads down. Their parents say it makes them less grumpy and they have no issues with it at all. Your "friend" sounds like someone you don't need!

Rochelle - posted on 10/10/2010

no nothing is wrong with her lol, but my child is 20 month and he doesn't like naps he only takes them if he is really sleepy r I have to lay rite there and not move r he gets up. But kids have different sleep habits. like most parents have problems w/there new born baby not sleeping at nite my baby slept through the hold night every since he made 2 months. crazy and un normal but really. i wish i could get my baby to take a nap tho!!! but anyway yeah we mite be reading into that situation a lil to much. just keep her an arm distance as you have been doing

Kate - posted on 10/10/2010

gosh she is only 2!!!! don't worry I'm sure they didnt mean it in a bad way but because of your past experiences with her its easy to take it the wrong way. I have been in the same position. All kids are different but having sleeps at 2 is very normal. I would just cut ties with these people she is clearly using you and upsetting you. Don't need people like that.

Alana - posted on 10/10/2010

my son stopped napping every day at about 18 months old, but he did still sometimes nap, and does sometimes still now and he is five. theres nothing wrong with your kid, dont worry, but i think u have took it a bit to heart probably from your past experiences with her x

Angie - posted on 10/10/2010

While there is nothing wrong with your daughter there is something wrong with your friend and her husband. I wouldn't be ok with 1 going to help clean her sons room and 2 taking care of him for that long without advance notice. Now I might be wrong but it sounds like too much to go and spend the day at my friends house cleaning and watching her child when I was suppose to be helping. As for your daughter you are lucky she takes naps. Mine doesn't do that all the time and I really wish she would.

Jamie - posted on 10/10/2010

there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with naps at TWO... seriously? that chick sounds whack! In most pre-schools nowadays they have "nap time" and I am also 24 and I LOVEEEE naps! lol =) p.s. don't stress her- she's your child, and you know best!

Julie - posted on 10/10/2010

Most children take at least 1 nap until 4-5 years old. My son stopped napping around 2 yrs old, but trust me your child is the one doing what is considered more "normal" Sucks for them they don't get a break all day long and that's probably why they wanted to make you feel bad about your daughter taking one. She's lucky you even invited her to the party cuz if one of my friends pulled that clean my son's room and babysit for me crap on me I'd have never spoken to her again. You sound like a very giving person with a great heart and I hope you don't spend too much more of your positive energy on this "friend" of yours.

Joel - posted on 10/09/2010

There is absolutely nothing wrong with your daughter, 2 year olds are suppose to take naps still. i work at a school a few years back and even the kindergarteners were taking naps so dont worry that girl does not know what she is talking about.

Iris - posted on 10/09/2010

Short answer: Every kid is different. My daughter is 2 as well and she still takes a good 2 hour nap every day.



I understand completely with trying to keep the peace between friends you've made in the military where your husbands are battle buddies. You're doing the right thing in keeping your distance but you need to make sure to put your foot down at times like the one you mentioned where you became the babysitter & maid for 4 hours. You can not allow yourself to become the kind of friend people can just walk all over because people will if you let them. You need to stand up for yourself or you will be dealing with "friends" like this no matter where you go.



When it comes to their comments, you're just going to have to find a democratic way to tell them that unless you ask for their opinions they should really keep it to themselves. When they say things like that to you just reply with "Every kid is different," or even "Thanks for your input but I really wasn't asking for your opinion". At some point you're going to have to let her get mad at you or you will be miserable for the 3 years you're there - or however long you have left.



Other than that, I would say she is just jealous that you get a break every day when your kid takes a nap and she doesn't. Don't take it too personally due to the fact you've been mistreated previously. Remember, people only treat you the way you LET THEM (not yelling) treat you.

Natasha - posted on 10/09/2010

My 4 year old still takes naps and honey get rid of the bad apples in your friends list. You dont need negative people in you life. My three children take 2 naps a day. No option for just one and those are my rules. There is nothing wrong with your little one they are just discusted by your good parenting because they dont know how. Keep it going you are doing great!!!!

Brianna - posted on 10/09/2010

my mom runs a day home and well kids have naps till 4 or 5yrs.

Kimberly (Edwards) - posted on 10/09/2010

My oldest son is 3 and he has a nap every day! I mean kids in kindergarden take naps during school! No offence but I think you would be better off not linening to that friend! P. S. If it about your kids you can never take things to much to heart!

MamaTo2 - posted on 10/09/2010

Anyone with half a brain knows that different people, toddlers and adults, have different sleep and rest needs. It sounds to me like she's just one of those people who looks for any little detail to use as competetion. Why, I don't know. Maybe she has insecurities and is jealous of you for some reason. Either way she's making something out of nothing just to belittle you as well as your child. People like that drive me nuts because it's almost like their whole purpose in life is to humiliate others just to feel
like they know everything and do everything "right." When she tries to take advantage you could come up with some reason why you need to take off (gotta start dinner, get to an appointment, meeting someone for coffee, etc.) Or when she makes comments in that dramatic incredulous way implying you're absurd over nothing, you could cut her off with a change of subject or some distraction to do with your child and needing to check on her or stop her from doing something. Or (and this is probably what I'd do, but also why I sometimes come off as a bitch, haha) you could just smile and very bluntly say something like "Good for you...but this is how WE do it, because everyone is different and has different needs. This is what works for US." I wouldn't say you should necessarily cut all ties, you're the only one who can decide that, but I'd be extremely cautious of spending much time around her with your kids. I've met lots of people like this and it's VERY likely that her son will pick up on this behavior very soon and be doing the same sort of things to take advantage of and belittle your daughter. Just for the simple fact that he is being taught in subtle ways that he is better than other children and the way his family does everything is the "right" way so everyone else's routines, habits and lifestyles must be "wrong" and ridiculous. It's easy to tell you as an adult to just blow her off, but if her son picks up on this same pattern when other children do things differently than him it won't be so easy for your daughter to not feel hurt, self conscious or embarrassed by his words.

Karissa - posted on 10/09/2010

Wow! To each there own, but taking naps at age 2 is more than normal. I think they should take naps up until they won't do it anymore. My daughter has never been a sleeper. She is almost 3 and still naps. Don't think to much of it. Napping is good.

Nai - posted on 10/09/2010

she sound's horrible, there's nothing wrong with toddlers/pre-schoolers having naps, my LO does (he's nearly two) & we're not planning on trying to get him out of naps until close to his third birthday

Toshia - posted on 10/09/2010

WOW!! I can't believe she would say that so loud In front of everyone. She sounds like an attention seeker, has to make a big scene everywhere she goes! My son is almost 3. He takes naps e eryday at daycare but rarely at home because I let him sleep in on the weekends. I wish he would though sometimes. Nothing wrong with naps at any age. I agree with other posts, she's jealous of you & your daughter and needs to put you down to make herself feel better. I would limit my contact with her, stay close enough friends to keep an eye on her she sounds like trouble!

Kristina - posted on 10/09/2010

Thats crap, my daughter is 3 and she still takes naps sometimes.. there is nothing wrong with it and every child is different anyways. hope this helps

Katherine - posted on 10/09/2010

there is nothing wrong with her taking naps my oldest is 3yrs and still takes naps its good for them

Falicia - posted on 10/08/2010

There is nothing wrong with naps. When I was younger I took naps everyday until I started school. Naps are regenerating and refreshing for everyone even kids. This situation your having with the so called friend with my opinion the friendship should just be ended. I have a few friends like this and it just drives me absolutely bonkers its not worth your time nor stress darling. Exclude the negative people in your life & friendships and you'll be a happier gal. Hope I helped...F

Anna - posted on 10/08/2010

thats bs dont listen to them its none of their business

Tara - posted on 10/08/2010

I think that there is NOTHING at all with your 2 year old taken naps hun, you do what you feel is best for you and for your child, not your friends and there kids, you sound like your doing the right thing, so try not to take it to heart, and hang in there... but next time she calls and wants you to do something weither it be hang out or go to lunch id say no the first few times so that way she realizes that she did mess up, n honestily id probably say somehting to her, about how you feel and make sure to stay that that was NOT right atall.. its not your job to clean her sons room, and watch her kid, no for sure not ok to do that to a quote on quote friend... Keep ur head high.. Good luck.

Leanne - posted on 10/08/2010

No worries! She is probably jealous because her child doesn't take naps. It is good for them to have naps during the day! They still need it! As long as the children still go down good at night, I say naps until they go to school!

Krista - posted on 10/08/2010

there is nothing wrong with naps it is very health for kids to nap. batween 2-4 they should sleep 12-14 hours. My daughter goes to school in the morning naps then plays when she gets up. she dosn't cry any more because she is not tired. Sometime other think there way of parenting is law and you do best what work for you.

Charlie - posted on 10/08/2010

kepp doing what your doing

Christine - posted on 10/08/2010

Oh my goodness! NO WAY! You are not crazy because your daughter still takes naps. I have a 3year old and a 7year old and they still take naps. Not everyday but pretty often. I think I would cut that friend out of my life all together.

Jodie - posted on 10/08/2010

REALITY CHECK FOR YOUR FRIENDS... 2 YEARS OLD IS A BABY, BABYS TAKE NAPS.. oh wait unless they are part of thegroup of shitty parents that lets there kid scream at the top of there lungs everywhere they go , eating, shopin visiting friends partys.. but look at you like yourcrazy bcthere kid is screaming and you hear them across the grocery store. you are a great friend for doing nice things for your friend. everyone keeps one far but close to control flippn out on them haha but you are more of a women than me bc when theywere shouting at me at MY childs bday party i woulda shouted back hey just cause your shitty parenting skills doesnt mean that i dont have my daughtwer on a healthy happy schedule so i dont have greys by 28 like alot of parents that dont have parenting to a regular. sounds like you need a better friend. ill clean your whole house anytime and would love for you to get out with your other half to enjoy being 24 and love taking napsas well hahaha

April - posted on 10/08/2010

My daughter takes naps almost every day! There's nothing wrong with it, especially if she's very active and runs around like a loon the way mine does.

Heather - posted on 10/08/2010

i would just seperate your family from them because if something was wrong with your daughter then there would be a problem with my 23 month old to because he still takes naps!

Rhea - posted on 10/08/2010

I think you should just ignore her. If a kid needs a nap, they should nap. Two year olds should probably be still taking naps as a habit. I'm 29 and I still take naps!! ^^

Liz - posted on 10/08/2010

There is nothing wrong with her taking naps. My two year old b/g twins still take naps during the day. Some children don't need naps, although personally i think that's too young to not have your child nap during the day. My twins would never make it through the day if they don't nap at least once. Also have a son who is almost three months old.

I don't think you should take to heart what they're saying. All people have different ways of parenting, and it seems to me she is trying to force her way of parenting on you by making you feel guilty about yours. I'm sure you're doing great for your daughter, just keep up what you're doing. You know what your daughter needs and no one can tell you differently how to care for her.

Sabrina - posted on 10/08/2010

one other thing and i will stop talking lol, my son is also two he thinks he does not need a nap but when i put him down for rest time he is almost always out within 5 or ten min.

Sabrina - posted on 10/08/2010

oh and if someone just left me with their kid and to clean their kids room i would have left with the kid. let her wonder where you disapered to for 2 hours.

Sabrina - posted on 10/08/2010

I don't know were you live but in IL. it is part of the requirments that daycare centers give the children at least 20 min. of rest time in the afternoon until i think age 4 if they fall asleep they can sleep for an hour if not then they can get up and play quitly. also i just went to a kindergaten observation for school and they had rest time after lunch for like 15 min. also studies have shown that children that do not get enough rest have a better chance of being over weight. children that age should get 12 hours a sleep a day. So if your sweet girl needs a nap she should get it. I am like you I take things to heart to much also. Just don't talk to them anymore i leared that i have better friends then the one that was like yours my friend told me that boys are slower then girls and that he would catch up. our children are 2 months apart and she seems to forget that. after that i stoped talking to her. just hang in there do whats best for your child and lose that friend it will make you feel so much better.

Kiara - posted on 10/08/2010

In GA they don't take naps anymore in Kindergarten. Which sucked b/c my daughter still needed them.

Rebekah - posted on 10/08/2010

Don't they have a nap time in Kindergarten?! My son is 3.5 and still takes a nap about 4 days a week (and the other days he just rests).

Kiara - posted on 10/08/2010

By the way, my 8 year old still takes a nap.

Kiara - posted on 10/08/2010

1) A 2 year old should take a nap. 2) Stand up for yourself. Everyone's parenting is different. I think you should talk to her about her leaving you with her kid and cleaning her home, because it obviously still bothering you. If she's being a bad friend - you need to give her a chance to improve her actions. If not stop being her friend.

Jasmine - posted on 10/08/2010

My 3 yr old nephew still takes naps and when he doesn't he gets very crabby. It's def. your choice if you think your kid needs a nap then it's your choice. And you don't need people like that in your life.

H.J - posted on 10/08/2010

Wow they are some peice of work! I have worked in Child Care for longer than I care to admit and I would have to say 95% of the 2yr olds I have worked with NEED a nap! They obviously cant get their child to sleep so they think every other child doesn't need a nap. I would seriously talk to your husband about this relationship it's not your responsibility to be cleaning up after somebody elses kid. Even if they are your husband's friend I would make it clear that Iyou don't want to go over ther, him going over there it's okay for but you don't want to be treated like dirt by these people! I wouldn't be letting people like that into my house if they are belittling you and your child. My husband has a few friends that I have said aren't welcome into our house due to certain things that have happened and he is fine with that. There are certain people I don't invite into our home because I don't think my hubby will be comfortable with them in our house so it goes both ways.

Charmaine - posted on 10/08/2010

BIG BITCH!!! Im so over everyone having an oppinion on everything my dd how s almost 2 still have naps and if she didnt id be a wreck by the end of the day stupid people every child is different... ITS HARD BUT WHEN U HAVE KIDS U DONT NEED PEOPLES BULL CRAP TRY AS HARD AS POSSIBLE TO AVOID THIS WOMEN AND IF U FEEL BAD I HAVE A QUESTION WOULD SHE COME TO UR HOUSE CLEAN UR CHILDS ROOM AND LOOK AFTER HER THE WHOLE TIME WITHOUT COMPLAINING.... Sorry for being so to the point but i have just done a huge clean out of friends about 6 months ago and i am so happy 4 it!!! U GO GIRL!!!

Tiffany - posted on 10/08/2010

There is nothing wrong with a child taking a nap. Children actually do BETTER throughout the day if they get periods of rest. My daughter's 1st Birthday party is next weekend (16th) and we planned it around her nap time and will do it again for her 2nd, 3rd and maybe even 4th Birthday if she still needs naps. Sounds to me like your friend is not a very good friend, and you should speak up. If she is your true friend, she will fix how she is acting towards you. Don't feel bad about talking to her about it. As long as you do it in a calm manner, it shouldn't escalate to where your husband and her husband couldn't remain friends. I would just let her know that everyone has a different way in raising their children, and that her comments offended you and you would appreciate it if she didn't act like that any more. If she has a problem with it, good riddance. As for her leaving you with her child, next time stand up for yourself and just say no! Sounds to me like she knows she can abuse your friendship. Then again, she may not even realize what an b***h she is being. Either way, don't hold back and speak up. =)

Raelene - posted on 10/08/2010

omg ignore them i have 3 kids my youngest is 2 somtimes she dont nap but often she still dose i think its important for them to nap mostly if they have a big day/night ahead as they do get crubby mother no's best when it comes to there own child so stick to what your doing and dont worry about any one eles

Nicola - posted on 10/08/2010

Take no notice at all i have a little girl who is almost 3 and she if wants a nap she has ones if anything it makes life easier for you cause they wake up happier and friends like her who needs enemys x

Alexandria - posted on 10/08/2010

Oh god yeah I would'nt even bother talking to her again. First off you so called friend is a *#$%@. I know you two were really close once before and it sucks but people do change as you get older. As you become an adult alot of friends usually grow apart from eachother. You usually only stay friends with 1 or 2 friends. Anyways on to about 2 year olds having naps. I wish my daughter would take a nap everyday but its so hard to get her to take a nap at times. My daughter is also 2 by the way. I notice usually at certain times she starts getting really crabby and I know she really should take a nap. Naps are good at times for kids that age. They do still need them. Your friend is full of it! All kids are different some may need naps more then others. Don't worry about it. Your fine. I know you are probably a great mother. Also don't worry about others. Take care of yourself and your children. If someone asks you to help you with something and you really don't want to say no and don't feel bad saying no. Stick up for yourself and start feeling more confident in yourself. Stop taking care of others and their children and start taking care of yourself only and your children. I know for myself i was always doing things for others and not myself and it would stress myself out. I recently have been changing that and I have been feeling ten times better!

Chelsea - posted on 10/07/2010

I wouldn't worry about whatever anyone else says. You know your daughter and what her needs are. If she needs a nap then let her take one. Don't stress over someone elses' opinion. You are mommy and they aren't. Naps are great for children. They keep them refreshed and not crabby during the day. I wish I could get a nap in here and there lol!