What was it like when you saw/held your baby for the first time ? Describe what you felt .

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Candace - posted on 01/19/2011

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My little on was 7wks early and I was so sick that I didn't even know that he was born until he was three days old. I wasn't allowed to get of bed to see him until he was 4 days old. Since he was NICU I was scared to see him because I didn't know how I would react but when I did see him that fear went away. He wasn't as small as thought and had been removed from the breathing machine so the only thing odd on him was the feeding tube. He was sleeping and I thought he so beautiful and looked exactly like my baby picture. I was also sad because I felt guilty for him being in the NICU even though I had no control over what happened. I fell in love with him immediately!!

Iysha - posted on 01/18/2011

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It wasnt seeing her or holding her that made me cry...It was hearing her that brought tears to my eyes. My daughter was born premature and the last 2 weeks before I gave birth I was in the hospital trying not to have her. The NICU doctor told me that if she cries, then he will know her lungs are okay and I can hold her for a bit before she gets taken to be evaluated...If not, they would take her right away to the NICU. Once I heard her scream I felt like a big weight had been lifted off my shoulders...I was so happy that she was okay and all my worries dissapeared. I cried as soon as I heard her...she was okay. We were going to be okay. After being told throughout your labor that your unborn baby would come into the world having to struggle and begin life with problems and being told that if your baby cries then she will be fine you better believe I was so grateful to hear that blood curdleing scram! She was cleaned before I got to hold her but I remember thinking, "she's so small...but she has chunky cheeks." lol...I remembered and ultrasound photo of her face and she had full lips and round cheeks...I was thinking of that when I was looking at her. She was the tiniest little thing and I remember also thinking "thank god she doesnt have my ears." lol

Meaghan - posted on 01/18/2011

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I don't know if I can describe it, but I will try! I heard her cry and that was like wow! and they put her on my chest, and she just looked at me like, "oh my gosh what just happened" and wow! it's you, my mommy" look on her face! and was quite! It felt so surreal, like a dream! and I just started boo hooing, crying a cry I have never cried before! Happiness, Love, Joy, overwhelmed with emmotion! I was a little nervous and scared too. All I could say was OMG I'm a mom, I am really a mom! and for the first time in my life, the second i looked into her eyes, I felt complete and like well, everything was perfect! I still feel like that to this day! The birth of my daughter was the best day of my life! I never knew you could love something so much!

Emily - posted on 01/20/2011

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I know this sounds terrible, but I dont remember the first time of holding him exactly. I remember bits and pieces of it. But my son was born at 27 wks..3 months early. Just the shear emotions going up and down, was to much and i dont remember half of it. I was taken in when my water had broke. But he came so fast, (from no contractions to having him in 45 mins) I didnt get time to get meds. And because my contractions were so hard, and painful it drained every ounce of energy i had... my husband actually had to hold my legs because they kept falling off the stirrups. I remember gonig in and out of consciousness and hearing my son cry and the doctor saying hes mad. lol.

But as far as holding him it was a good 3 wks before I could. By then I was on auto pilot (I live 2 hours away from the hospital, so i drove back and forth) and just happy that he was still alive. I remember the nurses name who let me hold him, Jill. And the looks he gave me, and doing the cuddle care (Kangaroo Kare). It was the best feeling in the world. I do think that I was still to worried that he wasnt going to make it that it scared me. And then the monitors.... they would always go off, and then u had to deal with that... I didnt want to let hi go... i only got like maybe 5 minutes of holding him...and i didnt want to let him go. I wanted him to stay right there and grow next to me.. Now I hold him and I still get that feeling, of WOW he's mine.... he came from me and my husband. the best feeling in the world. (hes now 10 months old and kickin butt)

Chelsea - posted on 01/18/2011

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as much as i hate to admit it the first time i held my daughter all i could think about is how much pain i was in, i had a 3rd degree tear and was in more pain then i was when i was pushing so i didnt really see her or concentrate on her little face even though she was on my chest, once the local anistic kick in i was amazed by the little baby that was asleep on my chest. She only cried a few seconds when she came out and then fell fast asleep on my chest for the next 45 minutes.It was peaceful i just wish i could have enjoyed it more.

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Megan - posted on 01/24/2011

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I had such a long labour (26 hours) that when he eventually came out he wasnt crying or breathing so he was only on my chest for a split second while they cut the cord and took him away. My husband and i waited for what felt like forever to hear him cry and after a min of him not breathing he gave the softest little cry but it was enough for us to know he was alright. I didnt see him cause they took him up to the nursary and put him on machines. So once i had been stitched up ( vaginal birth) and i was all clean my husband wheeled me up to go see him for 1st time and he was gorgeous even with the tubes. I was allowed to hold him for 1st time and then i could finally feel the attachment that this was my baby. I had to leave him in the nursary over night, he wasnt allowed to come to the ward till he was stable but the next evening they brought him to me and he was allowed to stay with me, no more tubes and then i was finally happy that he was ok. now im crying just remembering all this.

Candi - posted on 01/23/2011

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I had a c-section so I couldnt hold my daughter for a half hour :( but when I first seen her I cried and was like wow Im now a mom, she's not in my stomach anymore. Then when I held her for the first time I cried again and it just felt completely amazing.

Chesnie - posted on 01/23/2011

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Well I had a c section and when i first heard her cry for the first time but hadnt seen her yet, i was like "oh my" then when she was cleaned up and wrapped my husband put her down towards me and she blinked at me and she had the bluest eyes I ever saw. I was speechless but was also medicated..lol..I gave her a kiss. That night though when she was crying and i was trying to sleep I was thinking "please put her back in my belly, she was so much easier to take care of then." She is 19 mnths now and a handful but very sweet!!

Cindy - posted on 01/23/2011

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Amazed that I created and grew such a special person that I will nurture and watch grow up.

Nadia - posted on 01/23/2011

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with my first one (and i must have been really drugged up cuz i don't remember this) i apparently told my husband to hold her first... but when i saw her in his arms i started crying! she was so beautiful and perfect!!!! but i felt so awkward holding her... like i might break her. and it felt so surreal.... with my second one it was an overwhelming sense of relief! she was a tough labour and she got stuck halfway out so the second she popped out and they put her on my tummy it was such a relief! but also i felt sooo much love and pride (we tried for 2 years before i could get pregnant with her, and i had a miscarriage 6 months before we conceived her...) i was sooooo happy to finally hold her! i just remeber saying to her "i'm your mommy!" over and over.... it is the most wonderful, surreal, sensational, overwhelmng feeling in the world to see and hold that little miracle for the first time!

Christina - posted on 01/23/2011

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The feeling of holding your child for the first time is amazing!!! Honestly there is no word to describe how you feel. So many emotions run though you ( you wonder is the baby ok, your relieved the pain is over, you cry & you laugh all at the same time) For me, when I first saw my baby all I could say was OMG, He's gorgeous!!! Over & over and over. Most moms usually cry but I didn't I was more less relieved that he was here, he was fine and I having no more pain ( or well alot less pain) My child was born 1:48pm so it wasnt until that night I actually cried! My child & I finally got some one on one time & it became so real to me that he was mine, and I was a mommy :) My boyfriend on the other hand, all he did was cry, he couldnt even speak he cried so much. He had lost his mom due to Cancer back in December 2008 when he was 18 years of age, so it was a very touching, yet sad moment for him. He really wanted his mom to be there.

Savona - posted on 01/22/2011

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When I came back from recovery from my emergency c-section I was all drugged out still and sleepy and after I came to a lil bit more I cried cuz I couldnt believe that something so small and so precious and beautiful was created inside me. Even thinking back to the births of my children I still get teary eyed =,)

Ricky - posted on 01/22/2011

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I was so happy and full of energy. I had been up for 30 hours by the time my son was born (I started labour at midnight and couldnt sleep through it). But as soon as he was in my arms and on my chest I was so full of energy. I just stared at him with the biggest smile on my face, I didnt want to let him go or sleep ever again because I didnt want to miss a single moment of his life. I dont remember what I said or what anyone said or did my attention was solely on my son.

Vicki - posted on 01/22/2011

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I had a section so couldn't hold her straight away but the minute I heard her cry a tear came to my eyes. I was a mummy at last!!

When I saw her for the 1st time I noticed she looked like she had 4 layers on her head and that worried me, but soon as I held her I fell in love! She is 2 now and im expecting baby no 2, can't wait to see my new baby for the 1st time, nothing in this world beats that feeling xx

Brianne - posted on 01/22/2011

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Instantly fell in love with my little boy. I can't even describe the rush of emotion I felt, it is something you never know til you experience it.

Monique - posted on 01/21/2011

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I knew right there I found true love and noone or anything can come between that!! no matter what my girls come first!

Lindsey - posted on 01/21/2011

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I had to have a c-section with my daughter and I had to be put to sleep, so when I finally saw her I was like "whos baby is this?" she looked like a lil indian baby lol but of course I knew who she was it was just a shock and amazement that I can finally put the face to the name that I had given her months before. I was overwhelmed after that and was so tickled because even though Im only 24 I've always wanted children and to have her in my life and to know that she's here to stay is an awesome feeling. She makes me want to better myself everyday of my life and I would not change not one thing about it.

Andrea - posted on 01/21/2011

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With my son I was in labor for 4 hours and 8mins. He was born at 6:08 A.M. on Sept. 03 2007 At 37 weeks at 6lbs, when he came out all i asked was is he alright, then they place him on my chest and i just cried it was the best thing in the world to meet the little man who i loved more then anyone in the world i couldn't wait to just hold and kiss him. That was 3 years ago.. To this day that feeling has never gone away nor will it...

Now almost 2 years ago on March 30th 2009 at 6:03 P.M. I gave birth at 36 weeks to my little 3lb baby girl who had Gastroschisis { her insides were all outside her body} So when she came out i didn't get to see her till after they got a breathing tub, and ventrualivne line in her. So after what seemed like FOREVER { only prob 10 to 20 mins} they rolled her over to me and all i could see was this little tiny face from her nose up as they told me they were not sure if she would make it.. 2 hours after she was born i was aloud to go in and see her laying in a warm with her insides hanging above her head and tubes and wires covering her tiny body. I walked in looked at her and cried turned to my hubby and said I am so sorry my little peanut... He held me while we both cried looking at our little peanut. I didn't get to hold her till she was 9 almost 10 days old After she had her surgery to put every thing back inside only to leave her with a hole that had to close on it's own. So when i first got to hold my daughter i was so over come that i was getting to hold the baby they told me had a 50/50 chance at life.. As I sat in the chair holding my Daughter and my Son I will never have words to explain the feelings and the emotions that ran through my head and body... It was the best thing in the world.. I will never ever have a feeling like i did the first time i held both my son and daughter together.. The best thing is i have that feeling every time they both want to sit with mommy n now say i love you mommy.. Thank you for this post, made me realize just how amazing it is when you first see n hold your baby for the first time...

Lashanda - posted on 01/21/2011

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I was so tired and exhausted, but it was the best feeling in the world to finally see my baby and he was healthy and well. I was in disbelief, couldn't believe I was finally a mother.

Alexis - posted on 01/21/2011

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It didnt seem real at first, in fact it didnt seem real for a few days, kind of like i was watching someone elses child. I was also very concerned because they had gotten my name mixed up with somebody elses when I first came in and they took my son straight to ICU for antibiotics. I made my hubby follow them to keep eyes on our son, just in case the mom's names were still mixed up somewhere. I then finished up with the docs. It was defiantly surreal and while I took care of my son didn't really start to bond with him or feel like he was mine until about a week later. Maybe it was because I didnt feel the actual birth (epidural) that I wasn't as connected to the fact that I now have a child? IDK I guess I am wanting to tell you that I wasnt bonded at first sight to let you know that if you don't\didn't feel it right away, its ok. I wasnt depressed or anything, if your do feel that way\felt and continue to feel that way then I would ask your doc about it.

Brandi - posted on 01/21/2011

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My daughter was born almost a month early. While I was pregnant, it didn't feel "real" to me that I was having a baby. (I have 10 nieces and nephews!) I felt like somebody else was. When she came out and my doctor held her up... I hate to say it but I didn't really feel anything. I was happy, of course... but I didn't feel what I thought I would. I didn't cry. There wasn't a choir of angels singing. It was like they handed me somebody elses kid. I knew I loved her but it took a while for me to REALLY feel it. It actually took me a while to bond with her. I suffer from PPD.

If I could go back and do it again... I would want to go back knowing what I know now. So, maybe I would of felt different and maybe not feel as guilty. All I could think to myself was, "She's my baby. She's my daughter. Why am I not feeling what I should?" I cried for days and felt like I was a horrible mother.

Maleah - posted on 01/20/2011

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I had the same feeling with both my babies.. I cried and smiled and just had a breath of relief that they were breathing and healthy..

Kayleigh - posted on 01/20/2011

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I feel like It was kinda strange for me... Someone once said on another forum that they felt like they would know there child as soon as they were born, but when it actually happened they felt as tho they had been handed a total stranger..
I have to say I think I felt a lot like that... She was born in a birth center, in one of the baths... I was only in hard labor for 2 hours... and when they pulled her up out of the water and handed her to me, with the cord still attached (and really short for some reason O.o) my first reaction was "oh wow! She's SOOOO CUTE!" in honest astonishment.. I mean aren't newborns supposed to be wrinkly, gross, and kinda look like Gollum from lord of the rings (or Winston Churchill for some god-awful reason.. lol)?
But even tho she was born in a very intimate environment, with no drugs, and labor progressed very effectively, with no complications.. I never experienced that emotional rush and "love at first sight" thing that so many mothers talk about... she was REALLY cute, but seemed like she wasn't really mine.
My husband had no trouble with bonding... she loves him a little more anyway.. lol. its ok, I knew it was gonna happen, Hes awesome and she knows it too ^_^
It took me weeks to really bond with her... It really did seem like forever too. I was really disappointed in my self for not being more attached to her... felt like I'd done something wrong or there was something wrong with me. We just needed time to get to know each other ^_^

Kim - posted on 01/20/2011

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it was the most incredible moment in my life...as soon as he was placed in my arms i was absolutly in love...he was born at 3 am and i did not sleep at all that night i just kept staring at him thinking how absolutly perfect he was and how much i loved him already :):)

Chloe - posted on 01/20/2011

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It was overwelming but so amazing! Holding my little one for the first time I don't think I could ever forget that moment! And the first night in hospital I had one hr sleep! He slept next to me most of the time! It's a very special time in your life that never gets forgotten!!

Amanda - posted on 01/20/2011

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I was happy,scared, and sad...I didnt get to hold my daughter who is now 19 months until she was about a day and a half old because I had to have an emergency c-section and then she had to go into the NICU for 2 1/2 days because she swallowed the maconium...So it was really hard and emotional for me especially because everyone that came to visit got to go see her before I even got to see anything other than a picture :-(

Kyla - posted on 01/20/2011

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I had been in labor for almost 2 days when my son was finally born via C-section that I was so tired and on so many different drugs that I had no idea what was going on at all. Until I saw him the doctor pulled him out he got cleaned up and then my husband brought him to my head and everything went away, I wasn't tired, I wasn't cold I felt NO pain I was just there looking at the most perfect little boy I had ever seen. He took away all the pain and hard stuff I had gone through and he still does to this day. He was taken out of the room and the doctor knocked me out to finish my c section, but nothing compares to seeing your little one for the first time, for me anyways.

Sara - posted on 01/20/2011

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THEREIS NO WORDS HOW 2 DESCRIBE ITS AS IF YE MELT JUST DONT NO WERE ALL THE LOVE CUMS FROM THT QUICK

Rachel - posted on 01/19/2011

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When my son was born by c section since i had been in labor for 36hrs and not getting anywhere. The first thing i said about him was he looked like a monkey lol. I still call him monkey till this day even though he has no clue why. I was on morphine and was acting weird lol. but that is the first thing i said when i saw him. and my little girl she was born by c section too and i said omg she is beautiful and looks just like her brother.

Nichole - posted on 01/18/2011

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I don't know how well I can describe it. I was overwhelmed. I had been having preterm labor on & off from 21 weeks until I had him at 36 weeks. I knew I was a lot further along, that he had good odds of being perfectly healthy. But I was still so scared. When the doctor broke my water, she muttered to the nurse....But I heard her and asked if she said there was meconium. She said yes, but not to worry. When my son was born, he cried, but kept choking. He swallowed some of the meconium. So for the first what seemed like millions of minutes, the nurse had him on the other side of the room sucking him out. Then she finally brought him to me. He was beautiful. Perfect. I was overwhelmed with how much I loved him and how glad I was that he was here, and how scared I was that he might be sick or something. He was VERY jaundice, I called him my little pumpkin cuz he was so orange and had little yellow eyes. And he had a hematoma the size of half his head. I just kept looking at how beautiful he was to me (must be a mom thing, cuz my friends say he is cute now, but that he looked like an alien when he was a newborn...). I kept praying to myself as I held him that he'd be okay, and kept appologizing to him to myself that I couldn't keep him inside me longer. I was an emotional wreck. Then the doctor told me he was going to be okay, but we had to keep an eye on his Juandice & the hematoma. (both got better, he's great now at 16 months). But I did struggle for a long time with severe seperation anxiety towards him. I would break down in hysterics if he got to far away from me.

Rachel - posted on 01/18/2011

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i was sooo overwhelmed i cried with excitement i coulnt wait to meet my preciouse baby girl i new wat i was having so i said she is a girls isnt she make sure.... then they put her on my chest and i stared at her in total shock and said hello princess jasmine ..... the room was total silence me and my partner looked at each other and he said how proud he was of me and how gorjus she is we told each other how lucky we are and how much we love each other.... then every one come rushing in screaming with excitment ...i had soo much love for her and when she got sick 4 days later i never new how ur life can change and how much love u have for some one that u have only met just a few days ago.....

September - posted on 01/18/2011

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It was filled with emotion and more special than I could ever begin to put into words! ♥

Stifler's - posted on 01/18/2011

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Honestly... my baby was purple when he came out and screaming and I was like "OH LORD THERE'S SOMETHING WRONG WITH HIM!".

Emma - posted on 01/18/2011

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i know it sounds awful but with my eldest i think i was that tired and had so many drugs all i could say to her dad is ar she looks like you but i held her and she didnt even feel like my baby she could have been any ones! it took me a few months to bond with her i was terrified of feeding her and changing her nappy incase i got it wrong! now she is nearly four and i wouldnt swap her for the world! i also have twins who are 1 and had a c section with them as one was breech and i felt completly differnt when they were born just joy! i knew what to do so i wasnt afraid i couldnt wait to get stuck into changing nappies and feeding again it came far more naturally the second time around!

Elfrieda - posted on 01/18/2011

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It sounds strange, but I was surprised to see that there actually was a baby in there! I held him on my chest when he was still attached to the placenta inside me, and I was just in awe. It was like a miracle. I couldn't believe it. He was so big, but so small, and I put one hand on his back and one on his head, and tried to talk to my husband, who I was leaning back on, but we couldn't find any words.
Me: "Wow." Him: "Wow." Me: "Wow." Him: "Wow.
Midwife: "Look, it's a boy!" Him: "Wow." Me: "I told you so!"

I always snickered at people who talked about "the miracle of birth" because it's not a miracle if it happens every day! Well, I take it all back. It felt like a miracle, like an amazing crazy thing that nobody could have expected, but here it was! I'm getting all teary, so I'll stop. :)

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