What would you say if someone told you you looked to young to be a mom?

Sheyla - posted on 01/28/2010

Oh hunny! Did I have the same problem! I will be 23 this year and I also had my son at 21! I am a well rounded individual and wise for my age so I just answered them with a smart remark. Especially because the lady who was talking trash about my being to young, her daughter had a baby at 13 and she was on her 2 by the time I got preggo! So I simply stated" if I look young then your daughter must be a baby! Oh yea she is a baby" LOL! Not the adult thing to do but it sure was funny!

Lydia - posted on 01/28/2010

LOL - yes my arguement for a cut off age for kids is that Im going to kick em outta home at 20 and I'll still be young enough to enjoy my money and life at the other end ;) Just say it with a grin...

Jaci - posted on 01/28/2010

ive been told that by TONS of people.
I just tell them its a good thing I'm the one thats gonna be a mom and not them, they'd be dead before their kid graduated high school. LOL (no offense to anyone whos had a spouse pass away before your child graduated. i was talking about the 60ish age range asking me the initial question)

Charity - posted on 01/28/2010

in my line of work many people told me that,(i'm a stylist), i would just say, yes i started young because i wanted to still be young and hot when they graduate and not look like and old grandma and embarrse them.i have 4 kids and had my 1st when i was 18,2nd 19,3rd at 25 and 4th at 28.

Yve - posted on 01/28/2010

Initialy it would piss me off, but im my culture 21 is OLD lol!
There are so many responses:-

I would say "If I'm old enough to adopt then im old enough to give birth"

or "I would take offence to that IF people didnt ID me every time I ........, But I know I look younger than I am so...er.. thanks" LOL!

or "sorry but how oooollllllddddd are you again" (really emphasize the word old)

Or "I know its great, I'm going to get to see my kids age up, then I'll get to see my grand children grow up to where as other people may not be so fortunate" (if you realllly wanna piss him off then look at him like you'd feel sorry for him)

HAHA I know its mean but its better than feeling down about yourself!

Kelsey - posted on 01/28/2010

I would have asked him how old he thought I was, and how old he thinks a mom needs to be, and go from there.

Lydia - posted on 01/28/2010

"How young is too young to be a Mum?" or "Dont you think that questions a little rude?"...best option is probably to ignore the comment and let it slide as rude and ignorant of your abilities to be a good parent.

Sarah - posted on 01/28/2010

Hi I would just say thanks and walk away

Danielle - posted on 01/28/2010

i have had it happen to me when i was pregnant! i was only 19yo. i just ignored them mainly. because there are people out there who are really nice so i ignore the bad,lol..
When i was about 6 months pregnant i took my 2yo niece to the shops and we had lunch and a lovely old lady had no where to sit so i offered her to share my table..she was soo nice and kept on complimenting me about how good of a mum i was, i informed her that i was only 19yo and that it was my niece and she said "well from the looks of how good you are with your niece you will b a fantastic mum" it made my day :)

But yeah just ignore it...if u can give your child a safe and happy environment and have a well behaved child then you are NOT 2 young.

Kiana - posted on 01/28/2010

I used to get upset and offended by people who said that (I was 18 at the time) then I thought screw what other people think!!!! I eventually got used to it and started taking it as a compliment lol

Kirsty - posted on 01/27/2010

i woulda laughed and said yeah im just well preserved

Brenale - posted on 01/27/2010

i was 20 with my first and the OLDEST at a full hospital birthing cenert! and i get the looks and the aint ya to yough ta have kids thing all the time. i was marride for a year when i became preganet , people just like to judge others! rember you will be able to do things with your child and not just sit in a chair wishing you where youngh enough to do something with them!

Renee - posted on 01/27/2010

i have heard that so many times i was 17 when i had my first and i am 27 now and still it never ends i just say thanks and smile

Megan - posted on 01/27/2010

ask him how old he/ his wife were when they got married and had children its only a hundred yrs since the average woman was married and had her first child by 16

Fleur - posted on 01/27/2010

hi ya



i had the same thing when i had my son i was 19. hes 7 now and i still get it. i ignore it but fuk its hard to sometimes. im not sure if i would have ignored it or not.people are always giving me looks but i dont care. i used to get very defensive but just fuk them. by the way you are not to young to be a mum. ur baby looks great.? ur doing the best job u can?

Sasha - posted on 01/27/2010

I get that all the time..I just take it as a compliment..what more can you do???

Jamie - posted on 01/27/2010

Last time this happened to me I just said thank you and believe it or not I have 2 LOL. I was 23 when I had my first and had my second 5 days before my 25th birthday. I just look young and since my pregnancies my skin has had bad break outs. I can't believe how rude people are next time just toss your id over at them and then ask them what they think.

Candice - posted on 01/27/2010

In addition while I was prego(esp. at the end) I look super young.So I got a lot of funny looks.I was like "wtf I'm not Juno" :p

Candice - posted on 01/27/2010

Tell them ty and it's good to be young and spunky enough to chase after kiddos :)

Roxanne - posted on 01/27/2010

i look like i'm about 12 even though i'm 21, ha, when i was pregnant i worked front of house in a cafe and people can be really rude, and pretend your deaf, had heaps of nasty comments, i just laugh at people now. what worse is if my mums with me everyone thinks its her baby : ). she has the same problem now, your to young to be a grandmother,

Melinda - posted on 01/27/2010

I had something similar happen to me when I was at work once. This guy was a customer of mine and saw that I was pregnant and was talking about a show that was going to be on tv that night about teenage pregnancy. I told him that I was 22 and he didn't say anything.

Minerva - posted on 01/27/2010

well i was 15 when i had my son im 26 now so i wish i was 21 so tell him at least you are an adult making adult decisions and if you responsible by all means he should just shutup hater

Ashley - posted on 01/27/2010

i woulda told him that its none of his buisness what i do with my life and prob would had a go at him lol

Jessica - posted on 01/27/2010

Girl.. I get it all the time too. I just say, well I might be young but I am in fact a mom and a damn good one. Depending on who I say it too, I either get a shocked look, a nasty one, or a look like you go girl. No one has the right to judge a young mother. And guess what.. when our children are 20 something, we'll be hot young 40 something year old moms! Dont ever let anyone get to you for having a baby young, your babygirl loves you no matter how old you are, and thats all that matters!!

Javeena - posted on 01/27/2010

some1 as b4 my baby farther is muslim well we talk 2 his ex wife and go 2 eachothers homes for dinner and stuff and one day me and ex wife was going 2 get some meat 2 make food and she siad to me let me hold the baby so i let her and then she siad.... when we get in the shop dont say that this is ur baby say she is my mates and im baby sitting cuz her mum as gone pakistan and ur just my friend cuz u look 2 young 2 have a baby .... i took my baby off her and walked off cuz i 4t that was so cheeky

Ashley - posted on 01/27/2010

yeah i would have to go with thank you also.. i get some faces from my husband's work.. and from new people i meet i will be 24 at the end of Feb and at the begining of April i will be a mother of 4*suppose to be 6 but i lost the other 2* and yes i'm so done LOL..

Chelsea - posted on 01/27/2010

i would of said "its my choice when and when i dont want to have kids. Aren't you rude?"

Kerri - posted on 01/27/2010

I agree with everyone here, it's a compliment and an insult all at the same time. I get it all the time from strangers and they don't say it like they are complementing me on my youthful looks either! I'm 24 and I know that I am a good mom, and it doesn't matter what age you are, as long as your child is happy and healthy and loved that's all that matters! It's just something we mommies have to deal with ;)

Trisha - posted on 01/27/2010

I know xactly how u feel and its not a nice feeling. i use to take offense to it and get really mad, but now i just blow them off or say thank u your are so kind. its really none of there bussiness but people never mind there own buss. and never will. i had my 1st son when i was 19 and my 2nd son when i was 23 and just had my 3rd and im 25. so i know xactly how u feel.my 1st son wasnt planned but what n life is planned out perfectly. i wouldnt take back anything and have no regrets.if some1 wants to spend there time judging me then they have no life. im going to live a happy life with my 3 wonderful kids. my advice dont let them get to u.

Amber - posted on 01/27/2010

UUUGH!!!!!! i hear that alll the time. i was 17 when i had my baby. and people have the neave to say that shit. alot of people have babies when they are in their 40s so we should go tell them they look a little old to have a baby! how would they feel!? god. well i just say yeah its cuz i am young. and i was ready and we planned it. so what if im young i wanted to start my life. is that so wrong? its pathetic. those judgemental people will get whats coming to them. KARMA.

Sheryl - posted on 01/27/2010

i would have said thanks but i am not. that young! a lot of people from 40-60 think its young in the 20 to 30's but really it not. i mean come on poeple in the old had kids like when they where 14, 15! i at least most people are not having them that young. an anways what does it matter if we are taking care of them and being good parents! age does not make you a better mother! its the person!

Ashley=) - posted on 01/27/2010

Yes i look 16 but i am 24.its bad when sales people come to the door and ask for the woman of the house.lol the are left wide eyed when i Say your looking at her lol.

Amber - posted on 01/27/2010

I've gotten a lot of looks, especially while I was pg, but no one ever actually said anything to me. I was 22 when I had my son, I'm 23 now, but if anyone said something like that to me I'd brush it off with "Well obviously I am old enough to be a mom cuz here's my baby." My mom is only 44 so she gets the "you look too young to be a grnadma" quite a bit, which of course she takes as a compliment.

Jamie - posted on 01/27/2010

I have had a couple of people say that to me and then they are shocked when I tell them that I am 24. I just take it as a complitment.

Hayley - posted on 01/27/2010

i get that all the time, i was 18 when i had my daughter, im now 21 and i get people staring, or asking if shes my little sister, my daughter tells them now, an old man said to her on the bus 'is your sister helping by taking you out for your mummy' and she said 'this is my mummy' while pointing at me

Anna - posted on 01/27/2010

I would have laughed! I, too, was 21 when I had my daughter, and sometimes people would say that I didn't look that old. I'd laugh and say, "How kind of you! Some days, I certainly don't feel young at all, what with getting so little sleep, but I'm glad to know I still look it."

Rachel - posted on 01/27/2010

no! I would of told him if I wanted his opinion, I would of asked for it, and until I ask for it, dont give me anymore of your opinions, also if you havent disrespected him, then he has no right disrespecting you

Jessie - posted on 01/27/2010

wow! that was rude of him. It's one thing to say you look so young to have a child, but to ask it that way was completly wrong. I am 24 and had my baby 2 months ago so I had her fairly young but I look like I could be in high school still so I get some looks sometimes. When I was pregnant with my little girl, I got some ugly looks bc I'm sure a lot of people thought that I was 16 and got myself knocked up. Kudos to you for being able to ignore it, it really isn't any of his buisness, and even if you were too young that would be still very rude to be pointing out.

Donna - posted on 01/27/2010

You say thank you.. I used to get that all the time. I am 28 and I have 3 girls now.. I still get that on occasion. My oldest is 12 and people always ask if she is my little sister. So don't let it bother you. Just say thanks and go on..

Christy - posted on 01/27/2010

My child's pediatrician said that to me! I am 23 also and find it rude that people say that stuff, esp a doctor! I've heard that phrase many times, and though they may mean no harm, I do find it offensive.

Natalie - posted on 01/27/2010

haha, i'm 25 and my mother had me when she was 20, so she's 45.She gets it lal the time when she tells people that she has 3 kids and 2 Grandkids... they tell her she does not look like she could have a 25 year old child.

Make her feel great! :-)

Nikki - posted on 01/27/2010

I'm 28 and I had my son @ 27 I have been married for three years. My husband and I qaited till we were financially stable and we planned to have our son. But when I walk down the street with my son I get all the looks and comments and people coming up to me asking how I'm dealing with being a teen mom, single mom ( despite the fact Ive got rings on my finger. I know I look young , but I'm not and it pisses me off big time. I speak my mind to them! I tell them that it's none of their business , I tell them how my husband and I adore him and I tell them Im not into having kids in my forties that I wish I had him younger, I did this right and Im so f'n sick of people making their own judgements and opinions when they have absolutely no clue how it is.

Ayrjia - posted on 01/27/2010

I get this too. Brush it off. Assume they think you look 16. As annoying as this is you will hope for it when you're 30! And when you're a Grandma you will be begging for this kind of response!

i just tell people I'm older than I look...it stops them in their tracks.

Stephanie - posted on 01/27/2010

I've just asked "If I already AM a mom, how am I too young to BE a mom?"

Natalie - posted on 01/27/2010

I would've said "Obviously i'm not b/c i am a Mom"

Sarah - posted on 01/27/2010

personally id glare back with the reply of well i guess better than looking past, it, smile and make a quick glance towards his partner, see what his reply would be then! chin up girl xx

Kari - posted on 01/27/2010

I get this ALL the time I had my daughter when I was 19 and I'm 20 now but everyone that doesn't know me thinks I'm in high school still! I always get weird looks and people ask if I'm old enough to have a kid. It doesn't bother me any more I've always looked younger than what I am. I wouldn't let it bother you if your a good mom don't worry about it.

Jenny - posted on 01/27/2010

I'm turning 30 in a matter of days and the receptionist at my daughter's doctor's office said I look too young to be a mom. I was mortified! What if I had been a teen mom? People just do not think before speaking...

Melodie - posted on 01/27/2010

I would take it as a compliment! I am 23 but look younger. It could be worse, they could be saying that you look too old to be a mom. :)
I understand how frustrating people adding their unrequested opinions can be. It was funny how that changed as soon as I started showing. Everyone has an opinion on how you should raise your child. I have had to tell off a couple people. It is definately annoying. I'm sure that so many people approach me because I do look young. It is definately one of the drawbacks!

Becka - posted on 01/27/2010

I was 22 during my first pregnancy, and many strangers made comments about my age, I looked younger, but people would ask if it was safe to have a baby before I could get a driver's liscense. Depending on my mood I would cry, shoot back a nasty comment, or tell them I had surgery and I was really 40 trying to look younger, thanks.... that one always made them walk away b/c they couldn't comment back :)