whats the right age for our kids to learn about sex education? (thats the letter i got from school today!!)

Clair - posted on 01/18/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




i feel in some areas of it they should learn about it from about 4/5 Eg names of parts of the body, but then things like how are babys made should wait until they are about 9/10......... what does eveyone else think????


Carly - posted on 01/18/2010




Because we are having another child my 5 year old daughter has become interested in how babies are made so my rule is if she is mature enough to ask a specific question she is mature enough for a straight answer, explained in a way that is appropriate for her age.

Sarah - posted on 01/18/2010




I really think it depends on the child. My son is 12 yrs old and has never really asked any questions about sex. We have talked about it many times in different forms (body parts to changes in the body to sex and babies). He has gotten the info. from school starting in 5th grade and we have also talked about what he learned at school at home. My daughter on the other hand was asking about babies and sex much earlier. She was in kindergarden and asked what sex was. My answer was sometimes it means a boy or a girl (gender). But the question came up again about a year later. At that time we talked more about babies and where they come from. I think you go with your child's lead for the most part. My son, on the other hand, is not a question asker and we have just talked about things as he has gotten older. I think if a child does not ask before the age of 9 then I would first start talking about the changing of the body and then go from there. Some girls are already having periods at 9 yrs old!! There are girls that are pregnant at 12 and 13 yrs!! So I think talking about things should be before those things have a chance of happening.

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Mary1959 - posted on 04/18/2011




we have a g10b9
they was asking thing lot question
so i sit down with them . i answer it.
they knew about the girl and boy body since they share a bedroom

Gelaine - posted on 01/18/2010




Well I think that maybe you should approach the subject first, so if the school sends a letter home, maybe try and approach it before the unit starts. With that being said, I know children that learned about it from other children, and i think that is something to be avoided.

Christy - posted on 01/18/2010




i think sex-ed at school should wait until middle school, whatever grade they make that in various school districts. i don't think it should out of the parents' hands until the child is out of elementary school but if they haven't approached the topic at home by the time middle school starts then it becomes something the school should do.

i personally would feel very uncomfortable with my 9 year old having sex-ed whether she was ready to handle that kind of topic or not. i plan to teach her age appropriate things along those lines before middle school but i want to have total control over what she learns on the subject while she is still very young. i will teach her the proper name for vagina when she can pronounce the word (right now it's still just "bird" because she can say that- she's only 18 months) and that it is a private part that no one else is allowed to touch. i'm sure that i will have to tell her about her period when she is quite young as i was only 10 when i got mine, but i will look for developmental clues that it's time to approach the topic. i will tell her where babies come from when she asks me but i don't feel as though she needs to know about boy's anatomy without first asking a question (though i will give her proper information if she asks about it). it's not that i want any of this to be taboo but i also want to protect her innocence as long as i can.

Jodi - posted on 01/18/2010




I think your child will be ready when they're old enough to ask. I'm not saying you can't bring it up, but why do they NEED to know about sex and how babies are made if they aren't even curious? I think it's a judgement call for the parent to make based on their child as every child is different.

With that, I should mention I only have a 10 month old, so maybe I will change my mind when she's older! lol

Iysha - posted on 01/18/2010




I got Sex Ed ehen I was at about age 9...in 4th grade, and in 5th, and 6th, and 7th, and 8th. lol. I had mandatory Health class my Freshman year of High School that touched on the subject of sex. I think 8 is a good time to introduce how babies are made. Most of the kids in my class knew before that age. Parts of body should be taught around age 4 in my opinion.

Shinta Dhammayanti - posted on 01/18/2010




I got sex-ed at school when I was in the 8th grade, but by that time loads of my friends had already "experimented" all sort of things about sex. I believe it should have been introduced a lot sooner, around 5th or 6th grade, perhaps, when children haven't started their adolescence years. Maybe introducing sex-ed at school when kids are about 11 or 12 can help preparing them for puberty.
Personally, I too feel that this topic is somewhat confusing. I guess as parents we should explain to them (since their early years) that a girl's body is different from a boy's. My 3-year-old son has already begun asking me why his younger sister hasn't got a penis...!!
Can anyone give me an answer to tell him, please...?
Thanks :-)

Andrea - posted on 01/18/2010




REally? That's a tough question. I agree with them learning about the parts at an early age and about how baby's are made. However, my best friends daughter is almost 6 and she is already wondering how babies are made and making comments and asking mothers whether they pushed their babies out or if they were cut out. Things have changed so much since we were young and children are learning about sex a lot sooner. I think that sex education should be taught starting in the 6th grade, but that parent's should be talking with their children at a much younger age.

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