Taylor - posted on 06/23/2010 ( 74 moms have responded )
My boyfriend had been giving me a hard time because his mom hadn't really gotten a chance to watch our almost 4 month old daughter. The main reason is because its inconvenient, she lives almost 40 minutes away and my parents only live 10 minutes away, but the other reason is because she doesn't listen.
My boyfriend and I went out the other night and he begged me to let his mom watch Hattie for the night so she'd shut up about it, I agreed because she wanted to come to our house to watch her so that meant no long drive for me and she'd have everything she needs here. But I could quickly tell things were going to be difficult. She got here early so I went to get my hair cut, by the time I got back she'd already given Hattie a bath without calling me to ask if it was okay or if she'd already had a bath or anything! I am not comfortable with someone else having my daughter in/around water. Plus, Hattie has very sensitive skin and eczema so she can only use a couple of the bath products I have for her without getting a rash. Hattie also HAS to be swaddled to sleep still and my boyfriends mom refuses to swaddle her because she thinks its somehow mean or detrimental to her. And every time she's with her and doesn't listen to me and tries to do things how she wants, Hattie gets mad and she tries to blow it off and blame it on her being "spoiled already".
Anyway, going on 2 months now, Hattie has been going to sleep between 9 and 10 with little to no fight and only wakes up once or twice a night just to fuss for her pacifier.
I gave her VERY specific instructions before we left the other night on when to feed her and when/how to swaddle her and put her in her bed and everything (I even wrote it all down!) that way she'd have no trouble getting her to sleep and getting some sleep herself. We got home around 2am and I come inside to his mom asleep in our bed with Hattie in the bed next to her, laying on her belly (she always sleeps on her back), not swaddled, no pacifier, a comforter over her and barely asleep!!!!! She said it was because she "wouldnt go to sleep"
I was livid! I AM NOT okay with co-sleeping.. nothing against anyone who does it with their own children.. And his mom knows we don't co-sleep, we've told her before. But I definitely do not think it's okay to co-sleep with someone elses baby!!
But here's the best part of all of it.... when I asked my boyfriend to say something to her about making sure not to sleep with her in the bed with her again, HE GOT MAD AT ME!
Does anyone else's spouse/boyfriend's parents just ignore you or tell you you're wrong about everything? And how can I let her know why I never call her to watch Hattie without insulting her or hurting her feelings??