when did you allow other family members take your baby for a few hours?

Sherry - posted on 02/02/2010

Sandra,

Let me first say congrats on the new addition to your family. Second,,,You are not crazy, everyone has to get comfortable with leaving their child with family and/or sitters,, the first few times will be hard and you will probably feel the need to call that person over a hundred time in less than 10 min.s but you will get more comfortable with it. Now the only other thing that I find that could become an issue with letting family take your daughter for a few hours is if you are breastfeeding, unless you pump and have milk readily available for her I would wait until she can go for a little while with out milk or food before letting her go.



See if they would be ok for the first few times to let you come along but stay in the background or go do something at the same time in the area so you are close and can check up on them..

KRISTY - posted on 02/01/2010

i let my MIL take my bub over night when he was 8 days old i think it is just a matter of trust and if ur ready to let her go for a couple of hours

Sandra - posted on 02/01/2010

RE: Jade and Stephanie, Jade I see where you are coming from, and Stephanie that is my issue...daycare is not a problem...its leaving her with family i dont trust so much.

Sarah - posted on 02/01/2010

i didn't really have a choice cause when she was just a couple of weeks old i had to go back to the hospital so my mom had to take her over night and it feeked me out as soon as i woke up i made my husband go and get her and bring her to me. she hasn't stayed over night any were sense but she does go and stay with diffrent family members when we are at work.

Laquita - posted on 02/01/2010

i feel the same way about my four month old. she is attached to me already when we're around family if someone is holding her after so long she will start crying and when she gets in my arms she stops. i'm afraid to let anyone else keep her cause i don't want her to be crying and feel as though i abandoned her. but as a mom of three i need some me time. for the first time next weekend i will not have any of my kids. but its time that i need for myself and me and my husband. but she will be a little older before i give her away again next weekend is just a special weekend. so about once a month get you some me time its ok.

Stephanie - posted on 02/01/2010

I agree Jade, I am looking around for a daycare atm and i actually find it easier to think about her going there with professionals who know what they are doing than people that i actually know! I would have absolutely no qualms about sending her to daycare tomorrow if i needed to. Although my situation is probably a little different - my upbringing was rough and i dont feel comfortable leaving my daughter with ppl that hurt me which sadly was ppl that were supposed to look out for me..

Jade - posted on 02/01/2010

I've been reading through replies, and I just think that some people are too protective. Kids start nursery at 3, if your not happy letting your parents for example (people you love and trust) taking your child how will you manage to send them to a nursery for a few hours a day with strangers?

Stephanie - posted on 02/01/2010

My daughter is 22mths and i still have a hard time letting other ppl watch her! I have a select FEW that i am comfortable with and they look after her for two or so hours at a time (but i can only think of a handful of times where they have :P) and she has had about three sleepovers with my fave aunt and that is it. I think it will be a long time before i am comfortable with other ppl watching her, at least until she can talk to me and tell me what happened - maybe im just too paranoid but would much rather be over-protective than nonchalant :)

Lyndell - posted on 02/01/2010

My first baby she was 12months old before i'd let her go, My second baby was the same i was very attached to my babies..................

Jade - posted on 02/01/2010

My parents first took my eldest when she was about 4 weeks old? And that was overnight. And now I have 2 (2 yo and 10 mths) my parents either sit in mine for a few hours or take them to theirs for the night or my sister takes one or the other for the night or for a few hours every few weeks. I find it very important to get a break as I am a single stay at home mum, and after a few weeks of being mum 24 hours a day 7 days a week I need some time to myself.

Also one of my best friends is almost never apart from her almost 2 year old soon and when she went into hospital to have her new baby her daughter (who is 16) had to sleep with him in her mums bed just to keep him calm as his mum wasnt there. I feel this isn't good for the child or for the mother.

Meaghan - posted on 02/01/2010

You aren't crazy you're just being a mom. I let my son go with my father and stepmom at 1 1/2 months but that was my dad, my mother-in-law only had him for 90minutes while my husband and I went to the gym and he was about 3 months. He's now almost 6months and spends 3hours every friday evening with my best friend's mother, whom I've known since I was 3years old and has spent a good portion of a couple Saturdays with my dad and stepmother. Once you let go of the reins once it only gets easier, plus it isn't good for the baby to only be with you, what will she do if or when you go back to work if she isn't used to being out of your sight. My suggestion would be to start by leaving her for 30mins, go grab a coffee with hubby and then go back for her. It's good for your relationship to take time out from baby to be together again we often forget to take care of ourselves :)

Brittny - posted on 02/01/2010

i think every parent goes through this with their young children so you aren't crazy. i'm a stay at home mom with my 2 month old son so i know the feeling. i think it's up to you and how you feel about leaving your daughter with someone when it's appropriate. you don't want to leave them and then the whole time be worried and not enjoy the time away from your daughter. i left my son with my parents (his grandparents) when he was about 1 month. the only reason i did was because we live in san diego and they were visiting over the holiday. they kept asking to have some alone time with him before they left. my husband and i used that time to go grab some dinner then were back within 2 hours. maybe you could try just for an hour or so and see how it goes and how you react to the time away. i wouldn't worry too much about it even if you get complaints. it's your child and you need to do what's best for you and your family.

Hannah - posted on 02/01/2010

this is a hard subject for me but here goes. I had my son in my last semester of college. I was going to school in Okmulgee and my family to help was in Oklahoma CIty. that's a 2 hour drive both ways. I was only able to stay with him the first couple of weeks then I had to leave him with his father and my mother. It sucked but had to be done. I know you dont want to let her go at 3 months but just think your SIL has to learn about kids if she doesnt have one herself and you MIL has already had kids so she knows what to do! Let them take her for a few hours so you can get sleep or alone time with the husband. Yes your life evolves around her right now but you need your alone time too. TRY it for an hour or even half an hour. and if you cant handle it GO GET HER! but at least try....

Misty - posted on 02/01/2010

My oldest daughter stayed overnight with my MIL at 5 days old. Please take any break that is offered to you by those you trust.

Danielle - posted on 02/01/2010

you know your certainly not crazy. You should just be honest with them and let them know how you feel. I never and still dont like my daughter being paraded around by anyone (my daughter is 18mo now) but myself. I'm sure your inlaws are just so excided and want to show off there beautiful new family member as mine were too. Take your daughter over there and hang out with them let them be excided and do there thing and if there is anything you don't agree with or just don't like done around her precence you'll be there to stop it..Its so had being a mom but your family will always be there to give you a helping hand so don't push them away just yet you'll need them..Always remember trust whats in your heart and you'll always do whats right for you and your family. Good luck

Missy - posted on 02/01/2010

Don't ever feel crazy... Every mother is different and you have to do what is best for you and your kids.



For me I have an awesome younger sister who is great with kids. She lives 5 min's from my house so with our first child it took me awhile but around 3 months I would drop my little girl off and run to the store and what not. As she got older and after 1 she would have little slumber parties with her Aunt =) For me there are only a few people I trust to watch my kids. We just had our 2nd child this past Aug so it was nice having my family there to watch my oldest who is now almost 4. It's nice because we live close to my parents and my sister so they will even come over at night after the kids go down to bed so my husband and I can go have some us time for and hour or two.



I love the fact that my oldest is so close with her Aunt and I hope someday my sister will have a kid and I can return the favor. As for the you don't want people taking and showing off your child.... I look at it from there point of view and the fact that its not so much showing off but that they love your child. My mom will sometimes have her friends come over if she is watching my two girls for awhile.... I do not mind at all because I love the fact that they love my kids so much and they don't act like she is a doll. They just love them so much. I think it's a good thing and I think someday when my two girls grow up and have kids of there own I want to be that proud grandmother!



It is only normal to be so possessive of your child. But at some point you need to just learn to allow them to be able to leave and grow up because they need that time with other people. But you have to trust those people who watch your kids!!!



My husbands mother is a bad smoker and drinker. We have never let her babysit and I know it hurts her feelings but deep down she understands and she can come over whenever she wants to see both my girls. I would never tell her she couldn't come and see them but I am there mother and I will also not leave them alone with her. So you just need people you can trust at the end of the day. But you need to be ready to... lol I think it's harder for us mom's to leave our babies then it is for them. =)

But still at the end of the day you have to do what is best for your family! Don't let anyone make you feel like you are crazy for not wanting to leave your children.



Best of luck ♥

Vicky - posted on 02/01/2010

prob bout 6-8wks old!! x

Emily - posted on 02/01/2010

Hi.

I totally understand why you want to spend time with your daughter and for her not to go out with family yet but I would re-consider. You need time for you and your husband but before you let a member of your family babysit for a few hours away, get them to do it in the house first and try to just let them get on with it. Then if there are no problems it will help you put your mind at rest. I let me family look after my son for a few hours when he was about 8 weeks but I made sure I had my phone and was able to get home quickly if there were problems. It was good for me and I think good for my son. Enjoy your time with your daughter but do let family help.

Falan - posted on 02/01/2010

You are not crazy to feel this way. I know a lot of women who feel this way.... BUT.....





I let my boyfriends parents take our daughter at probably 1 month for a few hours. I know friends whose kids will not stay with ANYONE!!!! I didn't want this to happen. Every parent needs a few hours of alone time whether it be to go out to dinner or just to catch up around the house. My daughter has stayed overnight with my parents at 3 1/2 months and then again for 4 nights with my parents at 5 months ( i have young parents) and she does fine. She sleeps best at home but I want to make sure she can sleep anywhere and be comfortable around family. She is 6 months and is starting to realize who she knows and doesn't know so right now it is super important to let her know who is not a stranger! My boyfriends parents are a little older and out of practice but after keeping her for a few hours here and there, now they are comfortable keeping her overnight and do at least once a month! It is nice to spend time with my honey every once in a while =)

Heather - posted on 02/01/2010

No your not crazy, I was that way with my 1st child. I took him everywhere, even to the drug store for a qick trip. So when he was almost a year I had to leave him and he was very upset. I was only gone an hour and he spent most of the time crying. When I came home I couldn't even leave the room without him having a fit. I would give it some more time but I would take some time out for yourself. Not only will it be good for you , but your baby. Maybe try having them come over to your house and you take a bath or something . That way they can spend time with her and you can be there. good luck .

Julie - posted on 02/01/2010

You need to start slowly. Try letting them watch her at your house for a little while first while you read, take a nap or whatever. Or maybe try going out somewhere

with them & your daughter. I think it is totally up to you & depends on your relationship with them.

I let my parents watch him for a few hours first and my husband & I slowly got to the point where we have now gone snowboarding a couple of times and both sets of parents have watched our son.





He is now 9 months old and I still find it hard but we phone & check on him & he has fun with his grandparents.

Caroline - posted on 02/01/2010

No, you are a totally normal and loving mother. I left my son at six months for about 1.5-2 hours with my mother while my husband and I went to dinner at a restaurant close to her house. Start off slowly... there's no reason to rush it! Start with just an hour or two while you go on a date or run an errand!

Cammi - posted on 02/01/2010

I let my mom and dad have her for a short period of time when she was a few months old so I could get some things done at the house. I only lived a few hundred feet away so I felt comfortable. The only other person she has ever stayed with was my sister-in-law one time so I could attend a funeral. And she's 5 1/2 years old now! I don't think you are crazy at all. If you enjoy spending all your time with her that is wonderful. At some point when you need a break a willing family memeber might be just what you both need.

Keshia - posted on 02/01/2010

Its your decision dont let anyone push you. Its your child and you make the choices for now. My son was crawling before I let any one take him for a few hours. He's is almost one now and now he stays the night with my parents or my fiance's parents just so we have some alone time.

Erin - posted on 02/01/2010

I let my MIL take my son for a few hours when he was about a week old. My older sister was getting married and I was her maid of honor. it killed me to do it I wasn't ready. it was just for the ceremony I didn't go to the reception. But i couldn't let my sister down it was a promise I had made to her and my mother(RIP) long before I met my fiancee. Some people were mad cuz i didn't go to the reception but oh well I had more important concerns.

Carly - posted on 02/01/2010

NO NO NO! My love you are in your perfect rights to feel this way! Oh my god I would! My MIL though is very unstable, alcoholic & drug taker so I dont let her have my son period! But even if she didn't do these thing's I would never let anyone have my child. The only people that look after my son is me, my BF and my Mum if I need to run around tesco for half hour! Haha! You should never give your child to someone if your going to feel worried about him. Just dont do it. Dont worry about falling out with them, all you have to say is;



I am not comfortable in you taking care of my daughter as it's my responsibilty not yours, I am his mother and I decide where he goes and who he goes with. If you don't like it tough! But if you want too she her your always welcome at our home. That way you are always around & they get to see your daughter! :)

Lauren - posted on 02/01/2010

i let my mum take my sone down the shop for a few hours when he was 3-4 weeks old , he is now 13mths old and it is easier when he goes as he is used to being without me, it gives me time to do things i normaly would not be able to when he is here. We are also putting him into child care with me going back to work and with me doing this so early on it has made giving him over easier and with no complaint from him at all.

Crystal - posted on 01/31/2010

You have never needed a babysitter? You are lucky! I had to go back to work after 6 weeks! But I let my sister start watching her at around 3 or for weeks. Just when we went shopping so the baby could get used to it. I cried the first time, but you get used to it.

Kate - posted on 01/31/2010

its norm but i have a 12week old daughter and ive had a friends 21st and didnt want 2 take her coz i knew some of the people there would get stupid drunk so isabelle went 2 my mums 4 a few hours and had a date night (movies and tea) and she satied at mums 4 that time im a pretty easy going mum im a single mum but i dont mind my family taking her but wot u r feeling is very norm

Stephanie - posted on 01/31/2010

I have let my mom take my 2year old for the weekend and she has even watched her for a whole week when i went on vacation with my husband to texas (we live in georgia), but i have not let anyone else in my family or my husbands family take her unsupervised. No one who cannot perform first aid on an infant/toddler is allowed to take my baby. Personal preference. Don't feel like you are being too possessive she is your baby and you are the one who knows best for her.

Traci - posted on 01/31/2010

Well i let my mom have her at her house, it was a while before i felt comfortable letting her actually take her out. With my mom i felt better sooner though cause i know she wasn't taking her out for the purpose flaunting her!! Unlike the MIL who kept asking when she could take her to church to show her!! Eventually my husband and i took her to the church. My daughter is 11 months and now that i think of it i still dont thing my MIL has actually taken her out with out us! She has babysat but it's usually at our house! I understand the part about having them take her out to flaunt her!! I think what bothers me is that when my daughter gets introduced to new people, i like to be there. I feel sometimes like the MIL is taking credit for her! Hello! Im pretty sure she wasn't there when she was conceived lol!

Lucy - posted on 01/31/2010

everyone is so different when it comes to this situation, my son is 8 weeks old and i still have a problem leaving him, i have left him only a couple of times with family members and when i was without him i was very anxious to get back home to him! What your feeling is completly normal, every mother goes through it!!

Jess - posted on 01/31/2010

my son was a week old the first time he had a sitter. It was my mom, my dad, my two sisters, and my brother while my husband and I went to a wedding he was standing in. we made it through the ceremony, about half an hour of pictures and then I just couldn't stand it anymore so we went to pick him up. Since then, my mom or sisters would take him for an hour or two once a week or every other week. Just time for them to get in some unsupervised spoiling time in, and me to catch a quick nap or do a few loads of laundry. we are a very close family and I trust them implicitly. When my son was seven months old, we moved to a city an hour away from my family. Then came the once a month/every other month weekend visits. My son's five now, and he LOVES his 'alone' time with my family. they spoil him shamelessly while staying within the few hardfast rules I've laid down. When I had to have laproscopic surgery and later a hysterectomy, he HAD to go with one of them for a few days. My husband couldn't get the time off of work, I'm a SAHM so no daycare, and I physically wasn't able to care for him for the first few days after. He'd been to visit them so many times before that it wasn't really an issue for him. he knew the basics, mommy was having surgery and he'd see me in a week. My cousin has a one and a half year old that nobody's been allowed to babysit for yet. mama leaves the room and she SCREAMS! I think it's good for the kids to get used to other trusted people in your family early. It used to take a village to raise a child. I think it worked better that way. I held my baby and snuggled him and rocked him to sleep for every nap till he was a year old. But it was nice to have my parents, sisters, in-laws, and brother to fall back on. and nice for them to get some snuggle time in, too. They're only little once. I say, share the weath! as long as you can trust the person you're sharing with.....

Rica - posted on 01/31/2010

Sandra, You are not crazy!! I will let you know that NO BODY was able to take either of my kids for a few hours until they were at least a year old, and I had to have a great relationship with that person. I had to always be there. Yes a year sounds like a long time but you know whats best for your kids. I know both of mine have really sensitive skin so I had to make sure that people didn't have on anything with a sent to it. Sleep overs even with grandmas didn't happen until they were about two and a half and talking good. So you know when the time is right for your child. If you don't want to let YOUR child out then keep saying no. This is what is best for the both of you. If they want to spend time with your daughter then they can do so with you in the comforts of your home.

Stephanie - posted on 01/31/2010

my daughter is 4 months old and ill say prob around 3 months maybe 2 1/2 i let my sister take her for the whole night. it didnt bother me, i trust my family and plus they live 2 mins away/ oh and when she was a month old my mother in law watched her for about 10 hrs while we went to holloween horror nights in orlando fl. everyone is different, i like getting a lil break even tho shes perfect but it helps her to get to no her family.

Miranda - posted on 01/31/2010

i totally understand , i have a case of possession aggresion with my kids lol, i guess i didn't let my kids go till i was done nursing , to each thier own tho some ladies can part sooner , if your worried then you should wait , it is;nt healthy unless your happy right?

Arrica - posted on 01/31/2010

I have a 4 1/2 year old and a 6 month old. From experience, take it from me to do whatever your gut tells you. If you're not ready, than tell them. If they don't like it than they'll get over it. I let my daughter go spend the night with my MIL when she was only a month old. My husband talked me into it even though I wasn't ready. She then called to ask if she could keep her another night. Of course, my husband was the one who talked to her and he said "sure, why not?". I have regretted it her whole life. Nothing happened to her and she was fine. It was just too soon for me and it has made me even more protective of her ever since. My MIL keeps making hints that she wants our 6 month old son to come spend the night. I have made it clear though that he will go when I am ready. If it's only for a few hours, why can't you come as well? Like I said though, trust your gut.

April - posted on 01/31/2010

I usually not let anyone take my babies until after 1 year old. I am very protective mother.

Annie - posted on 01/31/2010

I had a very hard time leaving my first born with someone. It happened to be my own mother but I felt like she was still not as good as me. My husband and friends almost peer pressered me into leaving her with my mom and dad OVERNIGHT! and it was a rough night. We went to a club and had a few drinks but all i could think about is my small little baby girl....was she ok.....was she crying....did she miss me. By the end of the night I was so upset that I called my mom at about 1am to make sure she was ok. Of course she was and I went to bed and slept great that night. The next day I couldn't get over fast enough to my parents house to ge my baby but I realized that even though I missed her so much it was something i needed! I needed to get away from her for a night.....and now today even though she is 4 years old I still miss the HECK out of her when she is gone to grandmas to stay the night but it IS somthing I need. (ps my daughter was about a month and a half old when she had her first sleep over at my parents)

Sandra - posted on 01/31/2010

i totally agree about the sharing part...my family calls me selfish because i wont let them take my daughter to their friends house to show her off, i wont let my daughter sleep over at family's house etc. I dont get how i can be selfish for my own child...i respond by "who does this benefit? me? you or my daughter?...it benefits you only, and thats selfish"

Kristina - posted on 01/31/2010

My kids are 4, 3, 1, and 5 months.... They are rarely if ever away from me.... infact my baby has only been away from me once at about 3 months old.... I had the flu and needed to take some Nyquil.... I hate leaving them, no one takes care of them as good as I do, I'm mommy.... My family gets annoyed that I'm not sharing.... Well, THEY'RE MY KIDS I DON'T HAVE TO SHARE!!!! Anyway, just my thoughts.... Do what feels right, one day you'll have a "God I wanna have some time to myself" thought and those eager helpers will be much appreciated!!!

Cassie - posted on 01/31/2010

My son is 4 months old now and he is having his second overnight visit. He had his first overnight just after a month because I was seriously lacking in the sleep department. He was up every 3 hours on the dot and I didn't have too much help at night time. So he stayed with his grandparents. Now I'm back at work and he is in daycare. It's up to you when you want to leave your child with family, but you have to be ready. I cried my first time leaving him for like 2 hours. It was really hard and I was just around the corner. Do what feels best for you but remember you also deserve some time to yourself.

Nicole - posted on 01/31/2010

My son is 10 months old. I was the same way as you. He has not been away from me for more than 2 hours and that was only with my husband or my mom. The only problem with not letting them leave your side is that when the time comes that they understand you are gone (around 7-8 months) they will never let you leave! He cries as soon as I am out of site! Even with my husband and mom! If I could do it over I might let them watch him without me around so he got used to them more. This way if you need a break for a few hours you won't worry she will cry the whole time you are gone like my son does! Hope this helps. However of course make sure you know where she is....I wouldn't let them take her to anyone else's house besides there own. Also if you don't feel they know how to take care of her maybe pick someone else.

Fanny - posted on 01/31/2010

you are not crazy! you have every right to wanting to keep your daughter close by you and shes only three months old ( thats actually very young on my count ) My daughter is almost 4 years old and i still don't let anyone take her except her father and grandpa, but that is because we all live together. i wouldnt let her go anywhere with others without me or her father so dont feel like you have to because others think you should

Tara - posted on 01/31/2010

This is a bone of contention in this house.

In the coming months we have 2 invites to meals, 1 is in our town the other is in London. I have not been apart from my daughter since the day she was born and I love this fact, I expecially love that I am the only one to feed her also. My boyfriend and I agreed that I would be the sole feeder as it was more natural.

I long for our romantic part of our relationship to come back as he has gone out for drinks/meals etc but we haven't gone together. (I am going out for a meal in feb though, in the evening!)

It is my partner who does not want to leave Erin with anyone for a while and his reason is that she can't express if she is unhappy properly or if their is something wrong. So we have agreed to start trying to see how she goes. Next week we are going out for a drink, my dad is coming down when she is asleep and will be here for 30mins, and we will see how it feels for the both of us.

My parents see Erin more than anyone does, so they have a wonderful relationship with her, I feel comfortable in leaving her with them, but I did promise my boyfriend that if he feels uncomfotable at anytime we dont go to the meals :) x

Tara - posted on 01/31/2010

This is a bone of contention in this house.

In the coming months we have 2 invites to meals, 1 is in our town the other is in London. I have not been apart from my daughter since the day she was born and I love this fact, I expecially love that I am the only one to feed her also. My boyfriend and I agreed that I would be the sole feeder as it was more natural.

I long for our romantic part of our relationship to come back as he has gone out for drinks/meals etc but we haven't gone together. (I am going out for a meal in feb though, in the evening!)

It is my partner who does not want to leave Erin with anyone for a while and his reason is that she can't express if she is unhappy properly or if their is something wrong. So we have agreed to start trying to see how she goes. Next week we are going out for a drink, my dad is coming down when she is asleep and will be here for 30mins, and we will see how it feels for the both of us.

My parents see Erin more than anyone does, so they have a wonderful relationship with her, I feel comfortable in leaving her with them, but I did promise my boyfriend that if he feels uncomfotable at anytime we dont go to the meals :) x

Jessica - posted on 01/31/2010

we let my mom take our daughter for the weekend when she was a month old. I trust my mom 100% with our daughter since she raised/is raising 6 kids. There's still 3 at home who can help look after her when she's there. She didn't spend the night with my brother and sil until she was around 8 or 9 months and my sister and bil after 1 yr. it's all about the comfort level. I have to admit that our daughter just turned 2 and I still cry when she goes somewhere for the weekend and that's generally about once a month to once every 2 months.

Cassie - posted on 01/30/2010

We let them take her right off the bat (she was 2 weeks). We wanted her to get used to the family and not have stranger anxiety. Ur not crazy for feeling like that it's normal. Your MIL & SIL are proud of her and that's why they want to show her off. I'd say go for it and if you don't like it wait until she's older.

Susan - posted on 01/30/2010

I had the same thing happen with my daughter. She is 4mths old and I am just now tying to feeling comfortable with the idea of people taking care of her. I had felt like everyone wanted to take her away from me, show her off and parade her around which really bothered me. The thing i found the hardest to handle is when my MIL would take her from me and go to her room for 15 minutes at a time to play with her. Even though i was in the same house, having my daughter taken from me and out of my sight brought the worst feeling of panic and worry. It didn't matter who it was, my little girl had to be in my sight at all times.



You're definitely not crazy to feel this way, it's instinct, motherhood to have your baby with you at all times. Having someone take her even for just a few minutes when your not comfortable with it, is hard to handle. Take your time, and let people take your baby only when you're ready for it. Your the mother and you know what's best for you and your baby.



I unfortunately had not choice but to let others take care of her, i had complications and was in and out of the hospital, so my mother and in-laws had to watch her for a few hours; if i didn't have to go through that, she wouldn't have been out of my sight at all.



Trust your instincts, don't do it to please other people, do it when you feel it's right.

Best wishes :D

Amber - posted on 01/30/2010

You could be setting your daughter up for attachment problems in the future a good relationship with others is healthy and much needed it allows for you to have time alone and your child to make other bonds and connections. I say try it on a day when you need to run errands or take a nap for a couple hours.