When did you have your child baptized? Why at that age....?

Sarh - posted on 10/17/2010 ( 54 moms have responded )

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I was 16 when I had my daughter. She was baptized at about 6 months old from a family member pressuring me into it. I had her baptized non-denominational... same as I was and by the same lady and this way she can choose for herself what religion she would like to follow if any. I do not go to church, but I did go to a private Catholic school from 2nd through 5th grade and had to become catholic or what not. I only went to the private school because I was kicked out of public schools, but that is a different story.
I am now 21, engaged to my son's father. My son is now 4 months old and my aunt... the same family member keeps asking us when we are going to have him baptized. She is Lutheran goes to church pretty often, not faithfully (not every single Sunday). I'm sorry, but it is getting really old. I have even told her that I don't feel the need for him to become baptized yet and we are not rushing it because in my eyes he has not committed any "sins" yet, but she insists that birth was a sin.
I'm not big on religion, we do not go to church... I don't know what to do and what to tell her and still keep the peace in the family. There has already been a big up roar on who would be in the delivery room, we told her no, but still insisted on being in the delivery room, which I'm still very upset about. Anyways.
Just wondering when every had their children/babies baptized and why at that age.
Am I wrong for not having him baptized yet? Am I wrong on my beliefs? I know I will get a wide variety or opinions on this. Everyone one please be respectful of each other and myself.
Thank you all for responding.

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Nicole - posted on 10/21/2010

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Sweetie I know what you mean. I come from a West Indian background and they are big on christening your new born, which can also be seen as a baptism. I know you don't go to church so I'm going to explain it to you. I am a Christian. I got baptized a year ago. I was also christened as a baby.

It is true about original sin. However, Jesus died and rose again in order to save us from our sins. Being baptized into Christ means that you make a voluntary decision to follow Jesus. A baby can not do that. A baby is already protected by God. I do recommend you and your fiance to start to find out the truth because being saved is the best thing you could ever do for yourself and your child. I do not believe in christening or baptizing a baby. I caught alot of flack because I didn't do it for my daughter. I believe it's just a way to make money. You should definitely have a true Christian pray over your baby. You can even pray over your own child if you have any inclination to do so. Just tell your aunt and anyone else that it's not necessary. Jesus has your baby covered. If you want to talk more, please send me a message.

Jessica - posted on 10/22/2010

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If you understand what baptism truly is and what it means then you would know that baptizing an infant is rediculous.The whole point of baptizing is when a person has made the decision in there life to follow christ on the INSIDE therefore after that you make the OUTWARD committment in front of the public to express what you committed on the inside.So long story short,when your child is old enough to understand religion and the path he/she wants to follow only then can your child be baptized and show the world of his/her committment to his/her faith

Katie - posted on 10/20/2010

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Personally I think it is wrong to baptize early. Who are you to chose your childs religion? Also, I think that if they do want to be baptized they should be old and mature enough to do so themselves.

Bonnie - posted on 10/18/2010

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I think the decision is totally up to you. We baptised each of our boys at 4 months old. From what i've heard most people have it done when their baby is around 3 months. My husband and his sister were baptised at around 2-3 months. We had also been told that most babies are baptised by 6 months, so we just used that as a guide and had it done when it was good for us.

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Tamara - posted on 10/24/2010

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Honestly, I feel like baptism should be when a child is old enough to choose for themself whether they WANT to be baptised in the Lord. It's definitely good to raise your child to love God, but I feel there is no point to baptising a baby when it's supposed to be a cleansing of sin and babies are not sinful.

Nikki - posted on 10/24/2010

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My daughters arent baptised yet and they wont be until they are 8 yrs old because my religion believes that children cant sin and that they automatically go to heaven if they die before they are baptised.

Amber - posted on 10/24/2010

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My mother and father never had any of my brother's and sister's baptised because they felt it should be our decision to do it and when we felt comfortable to do so. I feel the same as them..as my children get older I will explain everything to them but I will not have them baptised till they come to me and say they want it. Sounds like everyone has their own way of handling this and I believe the best way is the way YOU want to do it. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing anything you think you do not want to do yet :)

Ashley - posted on 10/22/2010

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my son is 5 and we have not gotten him baptized yet because every place i looked wanted the godparents to be acertain age and his godmother just turned that now. and we are waiting to do our daughter as well because we have to get us and her godparents back to our home state at the same time to do so. so prolly when our son gets it so will our daughter. i also feel wierd getting them baptized in a catholic church when me and their father are not married.

Lindsay - posted on 10/22/2010

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I dont think your wrong at all. My son is 14 months old and I have yet to have him "dedicated". That is something that I wanted to do. I dont attend church regularly but I do have my beliefs. I was babtisted Catholic but i dont consider myself catholic as I do not follow that religion and dont agree in alot of what is preached. I would like to have my son dedicated to God, but as far as a what he chooses to follow... my husband and I have agreed to teach him what we believed in and let him make his own choice. I dont want to pressure him into anything. A member of my family wasnt happy with our decision either but you need to do what YOU believe is right.

Leah Jeppson - posted on 10/22/2010

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In my faith, we actually don't have our children baptized until they are eight years old. I know that sounds very different than most of the post's, but we believe that is the age of accountability. Once a child is baptized they are responsible to God for the good and bad choices they make. So we believe a child should not be baptized until they are old enough to start to comprehend the difference between right and wrong. That is why we wait until eight years old. It should also be your choice, and in your timing whatever you do. It is nice to have advice from family. But you are your own family unit, and it is important for your aunt to know that you are grateful for her advice, but you and your fiance will decide what is best for your family. Hope that helps!

Tana - posted on 10/22/2010

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Baptism is your public announcement that Jesus Christ is your Lord and Saviour and you are committed to living your life to serve him...it is the first step for many religions to being part of that religon, but non-denominational churches believe you should be an adult an make that commitment for yourself not because your parents decided it for you. I was raised catholic and went through every catholic ritual to become fully committed, but now as a mom of 3 kids i dont entirely agree with all of that so we have switched churches and are non-denom. I have had all 3 of my children bapisted before the age of 6 months in the catholic church, but that was only because i was confused on what spiritual path i was on. I follow the bible and our new church quotes specifically out of it that you make a public committment as fully knowledgeble particapiant. Also, we are all sinners. We are born with it, yes babies, but if we are not baptised we will not be punished as long as we proclaim Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior!

Jevonna - posted on 10/22/2010

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my husband and I are having our son dedicated then that way when he is old enough to understand the meaning behind being baptized he can make the decision for himself.

Lois - posted on 10/22/2010

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my mom is a staunch catholic and i was constantly reminded to get my eldest son baptized ...and thought ok mom knows best and living under moms roof i had to listen to her and what made things worse is that my husband wasn't with me as he migrated to Canada...and we will always fight coz mom was always controlling me and id always defend mom....it was the same when i had my second son so they were baptized.....until finally i moved out to live with my in laws who are not catholic but a.o.g(apostle of Gods)then finally was preached differently about baptism and i would always go against them until the day i almost died coz i had dengue and leptos....and was given only 2 hours to live then.. i was also forced to get the last sacrament from the catholic church by my mother and was ready to die until my in law came and prayed over me and saw the miracle there right there the next day the docs x-rayed me there was no blood in my lungs ..i was in shock....and now im with my husband in canada with a new addition to the family and as for baptism i think it should be up to the child as he or she grows up....coz God gave us free will.....but i also advice , always teach your kid about God let him know the wonders of God....and i to am not going to church but i always spare time in the evenings with my family to pray and ask God and my family for forgiveness.....u can pray in your room with your son to give you the strength to stand for what you believe.....i hope this was helpful

Melissa - posted on 10/22/2010

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My girls are almost 4 and 4 1/2 months. Neither of them have been baptized, I believe that it is their choice to get baptized. If they want to pursue it I am backing them 100%, if they want to be confirmed I will back them on that too. I have not gone to church in years, but my daughter will go with a family member when I have to work on Sundays, sometimes she wants to go other times she doesn't but in those instances I don't have much of a choice but to send her. If you don't believe he should be baptized yet then don't do it. It is your child not your families. Stay strong girl and if you think what you are doing is right don't second guess yourself.

Raquel - posted on 10/21/2010

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I'm Catholic and I was baptized at age 3. The only reason why people baptize babies is because of the dark ages and the bubonic plague. if you want to get her off you back though, I'd do the non-denominational baptism again. I know that Catholics recognize one baptism. So if they wanted to convert to Catholicism, they will not have to be baptized again.

Petrina - posted on 10/20/2010

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i had my daughter baptized at one month old. but then again, i am catholic, and plan on raising her that way until she makes her confirmation. that is when i made my desision, even though i don't go to church very often. one of my girlfriends had her son baptized at just over a year old. its really your desision. no one in the family should be telling you what to do, especially if you are 21 years old. if you want to wait to get your son baptized, that;s your desision. your aunt shouldn't be telling you when to do things. you are an adult, and doing things your own way. so no, you are not wrong in any way at all.

Crystal - posted on 10/20/2010

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My son was baptized at 5 months against my wishes. And I won' t be doing that again. If you don't want it done then explain to your aunt that those are your children, not hers and though you respect her wishes and beliefs, she needs to respect yours and not pressure you to do something you don't want.

Allison - posted on 10/20/2010

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I didn't have my daughter baptized till she was 15 months, and it was largely due to pressure from my mother...now, I kind of feel numb about it, I almost wish I hadn't...I was raised Catholic, but don't really practice anymore, I believe in God but would rather my daughter find her own path with religion...I say, you are an adult who is responsible for YOUR children, do what you do with every other decision you make for them, what you believe is right and best for their well-being :)



PS per the pastor who baptized E, in the Catholic faith it is more of an induction into the church, not so much absolution of sin. Yes, Catholics believe in original sin/infant baptizing, but the act of baptizing is more a proclamation that you intend to raise your child in the faith...

Sarah - posted on 10/20/2010

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I was baptized when I was 4 months old, so my mom is pressuring me to baptize my son now. He is now 13 months old & I still haven't gotten him baptized. I look at Christianity & religion A LOT differently now than when I was younger. And at this particular time in my life, I do not think I want to get him baptized.
And no you are definitely not wrong for not having him baptized. You should do what YOU feel comfortable with.

Jennifer - posted on 10/20/2010

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I apologize if i misspoke. I was just trying to differentiate between denominational churches and non.

Betty - posted on 10/20/2010

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I'm Mormon. We don't baptize babies. Babies and young children are pure and sacred so there is no need for it. We do however bless the babies and that's a big deal to us.
My sister refused to get her kids blessed and my mom got over it. Just tell your aunt no and she will get over it too or leave you alone for good. It sounds like a win win.

Megan - posted on 10/20/2010

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I know the church I attend does not do baptism till children are older because it is the process of agreeing to attempt to serve God as best you can. Since babies don't understand this, they don't want to force their choices on them.
Also, when my son was newborn, we were not attending any church and I had no problem saying "nope, not going to do it, don't have a church to do it at" which wasn't a lie.

Andera - posted on 10/20/2010

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tell your aunt to mind her own business it's your child your choice...My parents waited until I said I wanted to be..and I was 15 years old when that happened. So, you do what you think is best for your kids.

Tiffany - posted on 10/20/2010

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My daughter is 1 and we still have not baptized her. My MIL is BIG into church and was asking constantly, but we finally let her know that we are not raising our daughter Catholic. She doesn't like this, but she has learned to accept it. She still pushes it on us sometimes, trying to give my daughter a rosary. I just put my foot down and politely said she was too young for it. You need to do what is best for YOU and your child, and while it is noble to want to keep the peace you shouldn't worry about that any more. Obviously she does not care about keeping the peace or she would but out. I would just politely tell her this is your child, and you will baptize him when you feel the time is right.

Maria - posted on 10/20/2010

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I normally Baptize my little one's either when their 6-12 months...just because they're a little bit older and look cuter with their dresses/outfit.......No in my case...I'm Catholic...yes everyone has a choice and they sure will have it but for now. I'm guiding them as a parent. God forbid something happen to ur kids and u didn't Baptize them....dont forget if he's not Baptized..he's not know infront of God...cause when u baptize him you give God recognition of your Baby's Kids....

Jennifer - posted on 10/20/2010

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We're not talking non denominational here.... She's talking about a relative who is Lutheran...Lutheran, Catholic, and Mormon ministries all baptize children. Either for themselves or for deceased. I'm not saying it's right or wrong because it's not fair to judge other denominations and it's not the topic. But, t=the choice of other denominations needs to be kept in mind. I messaged Sarh and said that if she feels her family member is a hypocrite she should just respectfully decline. If Sarh is not "into the church" then she should just say no thank you and move on. I just thought I'd remind everyone that there is alot of historic culture still used in denominational churches...

Linda - posted on 10/20/2010

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hi my name is Linda i adree with u i go to church every sunday and i try to go every time church is open but the thing is most churches willl not baptize that young cause they do not know what sin really is yet he is your child no one can tell u want to do i hope this helps your friend Linda

Aizah - posted on 10/20/2010

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im having my baby baptize this December. she's 1 year and 1 month by then. we wanted it early but you know there are things to be planned. anyway, for me i wanted my baby to be baptized as early as possible. we believe baby really need it to be blessed and to be guided by the spirit of God. specially when baby travel to be safe from accidents. and bad spirits that we dont know if theres really any. Lol.. Well thats what they say here.. but my mother sometimes says , Hey, Jesus has been baptized when he was 20+.. =)
and please dont get me wrong. im not saying that not being baptized means not being blessed.

Patrice - posted on 10/20/2010

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Oh! And this type of ceremony does NOT gaurantee salvation or that your child will get into heaven. There is only ONE way and that is through Jesus Christ. It is a personal relationship and can only be entered into by that specific person. You can not do it for your child.

Patrice - posted on 10/20/2010

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Can we clarify baptized? To my knowledge baptismal takes place AFTER a person, whether an adult or a child, has accepted Christ as his/her Lord and Savior. However, a christening or dedication ceremony is usually held for babies to mock the time in Bible when a lady prayed for a child, can't remember specific names rt now, and promised to give her child back to God or the church. I believe it is a way of saying Thank you to God. That being said, it is completely your, the parent(s), decision as to when/whether you will hold this ceremony. Your aunt should not be pressuring you and you as an adult and the parent have every right to respectfully tell her off.

Sarh - posted on 10/19/2010

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Deborah, I also see MANY "Christians" doing the same things as what you have listed. My family on my mother's side, the aunt who is pressuring me is on my dad's side, but they are all hypocrites! I honestly believe that they are a big factor into why I'm not so religious. They told me when I was about 10 yrs old that I was going to hell because I listened to "rap" music. My great aunt plays the organs for her church, gets like $300/month or something from the church (she does not NEED it) and still takes money out of my great grandmother's bank account! All her children mooch off of my great grandmother. Sorry to offend anyone, but they are in deed hypocrites. That was very nice of you to baptize your child for your husbands family. Maybe if my aunt would bring it up in a different manor or fashion showing that it truly means something special to her then I would be more willing to do so, but not in the manor of which she continues to bring it up.
My fiancee doesn't really care (maybe I should it doesn't matter tremendously) whether or not we baptize our son. No one else in either of our families have even mentioned Cade being baptized yet.
Thank you for your response.

Deborah - posted on 10/19/2010

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This was something me and my husband had to decide upon also. I grew up in a sort of baptist church but in my family's belief we don't baptize till at least age 12 when the child is old enough to understand what is going on and can make the decision themselves. But my husband who was born and raised in Southern Africa was raised in a catholic church where they baptize babies soon after birth. I agreed to baptize our son because it meant so much to his mom, she really believes that if you don't something bad will happen. So when he was about 6 months old, I found an Episcopal church that would baptize our son even though we are not practicing catholics. We also only chose a Godfather no Godmother which was a problem with most catholic churches and the Godfather is not a practicing catholic either. It was a nice little ceremony, they did the lighting of the candle and the prayer and the blessing with holy water. It is a nice memory but we are not raising him Catholic, we are raising him to believe in God and treat others nicely, the basics of all religions pretty much. We pray and trust in God but don't attend church. Not going to church is based on a couple of reasons when I moved to NYC after attending the same church back home for over 20 years I just couldn't see myself going to any other church. And then after we had our son Sunday became one of the only days we have the the whole day together for family time. I work Monday through Friday, and my husband works Monday through Friday with possibility of Saturdays. Sometimes I wonder if our son would benefit more if he was going to church but i feel that as long as we teach him the values we grew up with then he's fine and if he wants to attend church later he can. I baptized him to give my husband's family peace of mind and what the ceremony was really doing was having us promise to raise him in a loving environment and with with God's word, and he can choose what religion he wants later. I see so many people going to church every Sunday but then all week long their behavior is reprehensible. They are cursing and swearing left and right, teaching their kids this language, threatening to fight people right in front of their kids, teaching their kids to be greedy, selfish and even dishonesty. It's kind of hypocritical, they figure if they go to church on Sunday then it doesn't matter how they act during the week. But like you said everyone is entitled to their opinion. And remember that for yourself, do what you feel is right.

Sarh - posted on 10/19/2010

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Layce, I think she had her children baptized like w/in the first month. I'm not sure when but it was very soon after birth. It is very nice to hear from religious people that I am not wrong for not having him baptized yet.

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We have chosen not to have our 10 month old son baptized. I was baptized Catholic and brought up in that faith. My husband on the other hand was not baptized and isn't religious at all. I now consider myself athiest. We would much rather Logan has the choice to find his own religion if he wishes to do so. It is your choice as his parent what you do. Don't let anyone pressurise you into it.

Lacye - posted on 10/19/2010

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I'm Methodist. My daughter was Christened a week before she turned a year old. It was my decision to do it because no i'm not very big on going to church but I am religious. And as to why at that age, well I have a niece who had a daughter 4 months after I had my daughter and another niece who has a 4 year old and we wanted to do it all together. To me it was very important.



With that said, it is YOUR decision. don't let anybody tell you what you need to do with your child. If you don't want your son to be baptised, then don't do it! It won't make it meaningful. That is what is most important. Let her throw a fit. She will get over it. You are not wrong for not having this done. When he gets older and decides that this is what he wants, then let him. Besides, did she have any of her kids baptized? If not then she really doesn't have any room to say you should do it to yours!

Shanna - posted on 10/19/2010

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Interesting topic... I never baptized my oldest (9 yo) and have no intention on having my son baptized. I do not believe in any one organized religion, and even when I had (yrs ago) I did not have my daughter baptized because I felt that is a decision that is hers and hers alone. It is not my place to baptize you into a religion that you may or may not one day call your own. I figure when the child is old enough to understand its purpose and they then seek it out then great, but until that point my belief need not be theirs.

Lady Heather - posted on 10/19/2010

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This is a personal thing, so you are definitely not wrong when it comes to your kid. Myself, I did not baptize my daughter and I never intend on it. I was baptized at age 8. My sister was baptized shortly after birth. My godson was baptized at three months old. We do all different things in my family so I guess I think that pressure from family members is totally odd.

I don't see how anyone can be wrong in their beliefs. You believe whatever you happen to believe. I don't believe in a god but I don't not believe in a god. It's agnosticism and I didn't choose it, it's just how my thoughts seem to go. If your belief is that there is a god and he's not going to blame your little son for being born, I think that sounds just swell.

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I don't think your aunt is right for pressuring you to have your son baptized. He is YOUR son, it is your decision whether you do it or not. If you're not religious and don't feel you need to, then you shouldn't. If I were in your position, I would tell your aunt that you've come to your decision, it's final, and she needs to respect your wishes and not bring it up anymore.

That being said, my daughter was 19 months old when we had her baptized. We did not attend church regularly when she was born (my husband and I were both raised Catholic and I just refused to bring my daughter into that giant guilt trip....no offense to anyone who is Catholic!). We found and joined a church that we love when she was a little over a year old and chose to have her baptized because it was important to us. I'm pregnant with # 2 and she'll be baptized at when she's 6 months old (our church only performs baptisms a couple of times during the year during regular services, and we chose to wait until it's a little warmer out before doing it).

Good luck!

Christine - posted on 10/19/2010

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I don't believe that anyone should be pressuring you to do something like that. He can be baptized at any age. My son was 4 months when he was baptized. We are not very religious but we do want him to go to a catholic school. We just did it that early so it was done. But its completely up to you. Its YOUR child. You shouldnt be pressured to do anything you don't want to do. I'm sure every family has someone like that. Just stand your ground. Good luck

Jennifer - posted on 10/18/2010

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Yeah I'm cool with everyone doing what they like but to satisfy the people who are about infant baptisms if you'd rather wait... try a dedication...quick and painless and kind of bonds your whole family to lift you all up...

Sarh - posted on 10/18/2010

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Thanks, Jennifer! Seems to be a Lutheran thing as both your family member and mine are both Lutheran. Not offense to anyone who is Lutheran.

Jennifer - posted on 10/18/2010

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I was not into baptizing my daughter when she was an infant but a family friend (Lutheran) kept pressuring me too....I had my kids dedicated instead. The pastor/minister/reverand stands with you guys as a family with the baby and prays the the child be drawn to Christ and that you as parents are blessed with God's presence when making parental decisions... Basically your family is prayed over and you are making a public declaration that you will raise your child to know and love Christ... My daughter has been talking about being baptized lately and I just keep telling her that that is a decision between her and God and it's up to each person to decide that.... Those are my thoughts.. Hope they helped.

Brittany - posted on 10/18/2010

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I'm just putting this out there because very few people know and I think a lot more people should--- Unitarian Universalism is not a well known faith but it's a non-creedal religion which means it accepts everyone from different faith backgrounds and cultural backgrounds. It's principals are non-judgmental and respectful towards everyone. just in case anybody is interested in learning more about it, here is a link to the UU association and a more detailed description of it's principals: http://www.uua.org/visitors/6798.shtml

Emma - posted on 10/18/2010

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i didnt get my baby boy baptized, i am a spiritualist so we had a naming ceremony for him it was the choice of myself and my husband, we do not believe that babies are sinful we believe that they are pure so he has a whole community of sponsers so we give flowers to show its a symbol of purity

Sarh - posted on 10/18/2010

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Thank you all!!! This(the comments) really turned out a lot nicer then I had thought! I was afraid I would get people telling me I HAD to do it and for whatever reason. Thank you all so very much once again! :) The child dedication ceremony sounds very nice. I'm also glad there is another person in the world that agrees w/me on newborns being innocent! I do want to have him baptized so the god parents feel official as one of you had stated was a reason for baptizing your child.
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Nicole - posted on 10/18/2010

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My daughter was baptized at 5 months mainly because she was 3 months before we even remembered we were going to baptize her and another 2 months to get the church and make sure the godparents could make it since they live 15 hours away. Nobody said anything to us until we started making plans but it was just them trying to get the details of where and when. A newborn baby I believe is the most innocent creature with no sins and there should be no pressure to baptize. I know a couple of people that weren't baptized until they were teenagers. When you and your baby are ready...that's the right time.

Brittany - posted on 10/18/2010

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It's your decision not anyone else's. Obviously your aunt really believes in her religion and cares a lot about your baby being baptized. That's great but you will have to tell her that and tell her that she also needs to respect your own beliefs. I go to a unitarian church that encompasses all religions, which I really love. We have a similar ceremony for children called 'child dedication'. Each dedication service can be totally different. For the ceremony you can do whatever is meaningful to you. The purpose of this ceremony is to welcome your baby to the family and the world and bless them with the love and acceptance of your community and the prosperity of their future instead of washing them from sin and making them clean like other religions...
In our church, a certain day of the year, we each bring water from somewhere, like some visit from other states or countries and bring water from there or from their home or from other special places like where they went fishing with their parents as a kid. Everybody pours the water into a big container at church and tells their story of where it came from and what it means to them and it all becomes one body of water filled with different cultures and stories and love! After that, the water gets boiled and then frozen for child dedication services. My daughter is 11 months old now and in 2 months, she will be dedicated this way because I think it will be lovely and I want her godparents to feel like they are official.
If you don't like the idea of any type of baptism, it's okay no matter what anybody says! just listen to your heart =)

Jessie - posted on 10/18/2010

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2 months old. we did it then because family was supposed to be coming from another state to visit and wanted them to be there. turns out my grandma (who was coming from the other state) got really sick and couldnt come. I went through with it anyways because he was having umbilical hernia surgery the next day and I wanted it done before then, just in case. my boyfriend didn't want it done at all (he isn't a believer) but we did it anyway. tell you aunt to keep her opinions to herself you will do/or not do it when you are ready/or not ready to. family think they have the right to tell you how to raise your children. my moms family are pretty much all against breastfeeding (fricken ridiculous right?!) but I just ignore them or tell them how ignorant they are as the situation dictates and keep on doing things the way I deem best. by the way, I kicked my own mother out of the delivery room for annoying me and the nurses wouldnt let her or anyone besides my bf over the threshhold so i dont see why you had to deal with her there? good luck with the aunt.

Miki - posted on 10/18/2010

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I am Catholic and I do believe in infant baptism because I do believe that we are born with original sin upon our souls. That being said, if you do not believe that do not let anyone pressure you into something you don't believe in.

Sarah - posted on 10/18/2010

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i think every1s beleifs r there own and your aunty shouldnt have the right to pressure you no matter what she thinks or believes in. Making decisions for your child should be made by you and the babys father. I have not baptized my 16 m/o daughter yet as i think it should be her own decision. I would ask ur aunty to respect you and your partners decision and you will not be pursuaded to do anything with your child.

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