when does teh post partum stop....i think its getting worse!!!

Shantel - posted on 03/08/2010

I know the feeling. and sometimes it just seems like nobody understands but there are so many woman out there that feel the same way as you do. its gonna be ok. just hang in there but make sure that even though you are watching your baby all the time that you do take some time for yourself like even if its a hot bath and a movie. ok its important and maybe hang out with friends to help with the lonely part or talk to some family members. but if the problem constantly is there then you may need to contact your family doctor.

Breanna - posted on 03/08/2010

thank you...wow triplets must be way crazier than just one i couldt even fathom....ive been trying to reconnect with friends...im not sure how much its helping...ive been getting out a little more becuase living in reno we get snow... and its constant so i know where your comming from crystal...thanks again i think this is one of the bigger issues, noticing that im not so alone in this is a bit helpfull so thank you for your responses .
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Tiffany - posted on 03/08/2010

I understand how you're feeling. When my triplets were born I started feeling miserable, too. I loved them, but I just really needed a break every once in awhile. And there were days when I didn't want to get out of bed. I realized that how I felt didn't have to be that way. I called my doctor and asked for some help. He prescribed me with Zoloft, which helped a lot. I wasn't on them for long... But just recently my mood swings have been worse. I'm guessing my hormones are still out of whack. So I'm back on the Zoloft again. I don't believe there is anything wrong with asking for a little help from your doctor. And if you can, try and find a baby sitter so you can get out and get a break. It's hard going from no children to having someone so tiny that you're responsible for. I wish you the best of luck with this.

Crystal - posted on 03/08/2010

I was in the same boat as you are; I had post-pardum really bad for four months straight, so bad that my hubby and I almost broke up because of it. What I did to change it was since where I live there is so much snow and I really didn't want to take my newborn out in it and since I was in the house all the time I wasn't getting any vitamin D which was making me worse. So I started to take a vitamin D pill and once I stoped breast feeding I also went tanning as well. Once I started to get vitamin D into my system I started to feel so much better. I also changed my diet and was eating lots of fruit and veggies and fibre. I also got a support system too; since I don't have any friends that have children I started to go to the gym to meet other moms and made my support group that way. I also have a time during the night after my guy gets home for work that he'll watch our son for an hour so I can have "me" time; that helped alot!!!!! I started to go out with my girlfriends more too.

But the big thing that changed my symptoms is the Vitamin D!!!! Start putting that into your system and you'll feel so much better.

Good Luck!!

Christin - posted on 03/08/2010

they say pills, but they have put me on a few and they dont help. the only person that can fix it is you. the best thing is to have a support system, have people to talk to about stuff. birth control does not help, in fact it can make it worse bc of the hormones. if you are like that the best birth control is a hormone free one like a copper iud. i was on depo and i have bad ppd and anxiety and the birth control made it so much worse.

Theresia - posted on 03/08/2010

http://www.webmd.com/depression/features...
I think this might help you

Ashley - posted on 03/08/2010

You need to talk to you ob!!!

Breanna - posted on 03/07/2010

thank you all...it feels better to talk a little bit...i started to tear up reading all of your responses...ive been recommended by a friend to a diff. doc. so im going to go and try again to get some help...again thanks alot

Melissa - posted on 03/07/2010

I felt the same way after my second child. I felt very overwehlmed and had a lot of anxiety about being by myself with both kids. My doctor put me on Lexapro at 4 weeks postpartum and it has done wonders for me. Don't let it keep going make someone listen to you because I know how miserable it is to feel like that.

Laura - posted on 03/07/2010

Hi hun. The most important thing about being a new mom, from what I have experienced, is that you always need to make sure you have Mommy time. The first 6 weeks was hard for me. I was completely hands on and baby daddy didn't have to do much. It wore on me. He needs to help you more. For example, I work and he stays home. No matter how tired I am or how bad of a day I had I ALWAYS take over when I get home. And even still, he gets over whelmed and down.You may need to talk to your doctor to ensure your depression - I have a friend who ended up needing to take some meds for a few months to help her out. She's a single mom and she literally locked her and her son in her room for the first couple of months - no schedule or anything. Take it a day at a time - talk to your man. Communication is the key. If you see or feel its going to turn south, then walk away and drop it for a while and come back to it later.

Nicole - posted on 03/07/2010

Hi Breanna, i can sympathise i felt the same way with my first baby and after my 2nd it got worse i turned into a bitch,not that i meant to but i would snap at everything and for no good reason i spoke to a different gp and she put me on anti depressants they helped SOOO much i was back to my normal self, after no 3 i had to go back on them due to a traumatic labour and again it helped i also started having panic attacks, i know everyone says its a wonderful thing being a mother but we still need sleep and even sometimes me time to keep us on the ball now my eldest is in school my 2 youngest go to daycare 2 days a week this is a great help and i can even have a nap after 2hrs sleep all night! hang in there and dont be afraid to ask for help it only means your in touch with yourself and your making yourself a better mother!

Shayna - posted on 03/07/2010

Alot of the time, new mothers, especially stay at home mothers get stuck in a rut and get are pretty miserable and don't know how to change the way their feeling. Your child needs you, I know as horrible as this sounds you can't just get a break when you feel like it, that's life with children. If you can afford it, then I would suggest getting her into daycare once or twice a week to get a break. Her father should be helping you out though, that's just not fair on your behalf. You really need to be telling him how down and frustrated your feeling. I think you should talk to your doctor and let him/her know about these feelings your having, because It sounds to be you have a more deeper depression then just being stuck in a rut. Try changing things you do through-out the day, get out there with your little one and do new things. Life is what you make it.