When is the best time to have another one?
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Anna - posted on 05/17/2009
My first two were 15 months apart and my 2nd and 3rd were 18 months apart. I love it this way. I guess I don't know any other way. My daughter just turned 3 in April, my son will be 2 in July and my baby girl is almost 5 months. I love that my oldest two are still into the same things and can play with the same toys. They are so close and love playing with each other. Also when I have brought new babies home there was no jealousy. My daughter has no memory of being an only child and I think that has helped. We plan on having another one whenever it happens.
Jessica - posted on 05/21/2009
I have 3 boys, now 4, 2 1/2, and 1 1/2. The second was very easy for me I think the 3rd should be the harder decision to make. Having them all close in age is awesome, we get to run around and all play together. I would recommend having the next sooner than later. I am one of 3 girls with just about the same age gap and it was great growing up close in age.
Kimi - posted on 05/19/2009
I thought I would wait till my step daughter started saying she wanted a baby brother or sister but she recently showed interest and I'm still not ready to have one. I will wait as long as I can but would like to have two more babies that are as close in age as possible when I'm ready. I don't want to just get finnished potty training my toddler and than have to start all over with the second. Twins would be ideal but you can't really plan that now can you. My brother is one year younger than me and we played well together as young kids, my sister is three years older and we got along so well that we never had a single fight. Your kids will binefit in different ways no matter what the age gap so it's really about when you and your husband are ready for another or surpised with one.
Aleksandra (Ola) - posted on 05/19/2009
I think to start trying when your youngest turns 3. I realized that myself, a mother of a 5 year old and set of twins 3 years old. Because hopefully, the child will be potty trained, and start VPK for 3 hours a day, which will give you a little one- to -one with the infant.
User - posted on 05/18/2009
hey i have 2 children and love them dearly my girl just turnrd 3 and my son will be 1 in june its great there close but i would recomend waiting till one is in primary school 2 have your next just so u can really have that one on one witch kids really want and need as well as it would b a little bit easya on u five 2 4 years isnt 2 far apart eaither so they can still b close but each 2 there own i just say tjis coz iam a fulltime mom my kids r with me 99% of da time and it just goes 2 fast and i dont get as much time as id like with my fist coz my baby needs me more at times :) but i love my kids there great and keep my laughing
Traci - posted on 05/17/2009
My daugter and my son are exactly 22 months apart. My son was quite a surprise, but I'm so glad we conceived him when we did. He and his sister are so close, they play wonderfully and they sure do stick up for eachother! If you can time it so when you get pregnant when the first is 12 months old, that is perfect! I've got another baby who's one year now and I'm trying to convince my hubby for one more, time is running short! :)
Ours are 16 & 20 months apart--not easy! I recommend spreading them out a bit, assuming you get a choice in the matter! Maybe wait until they are potty trained, or have overcome certain hurdles like sleeping all night, weaned from breastfeeding, etc. Mine were still babies when I got pregnant again, and I wished I could have enjoyed them more without the physical aggravations of pregnancy while trying to care for them. I'd say 2-3 years is a good gap.
Amanda - posted on 05/17/2009
My three children are my heart first of all.. My son was 3 when his sister was born.. Then the baby then was only 9 months old when thier sister was born. And everyone looked at me with a pitiful look saying wow. you have your hands full. And to tell the truth about it.. it really wasnt that bad. Yes there were a lot of sleepless nights. But the my oldest loved being big brother.. LOVED it. When my 3rd child was born it gave the girls a closeness . They were walking and talking and potty training around the same age. They have a very close bond. To decide when is the best time sometimes it comes as a suprise.. other times its planned.Either way. whenever it happens.. Thats the time. There is nothing perfect in mother hood. Really all trial and error and make it better the next time around. The best advice for you... Search your heart. If you are ready for another child. then your child will sense that and after the inital shock it will all smooth out. whats the worst can happen.. Your older child wanting the baby to leave??
It takes time and patience to have them close to gether. But children are a blessing. And blessings always work out for the best.
Good luck on your decision!
Leslie - posted on 05/17/2009
well, so far I'm the only one who has done it different... my kids are 15 months apart and it was the greatest thing to happen to us. My daughter is 17 months and my son is 2 months old. When my daughter was 7 months old we discovered we were preggy, after being on the pill and breastfeeding. My daughter LOVES her baby brother, she helps me alot, and changing two babies in diapers is no big deal. I've been telling all my friends that if they wish to have another baby, a 15-18month gap is the best because your kids will be close and care for each other, play together, ect. So, my advice to you is do what is right for your family, but don't wait too long. Also, I felt better knowing that I didn't have to "prepare" my daughter for the new baby as I would if I had a 3 year old, instead to her the new baby was just the way of life, me nursing the baby, no big deal to her, if I had a older toddler I would have to explain EVERYTHING to her, and deal with her annoying questions. There was also NO jealousy, since she didn't know any different. So, go forth and have another baby =)
User - posted on 05/17/2009
I've got an almost 20 month old and i have an 8 week old. The only bad day we had with my daughter was the day we brought my son home from the hospital. The first day she cried and had a tempertantrum but after that she was fine with it, there hasnt been any jealousy. i think it's more about when you feel that you as a family are ready for another one. Every family is different and is ready for these kind of things at different times. It's just important to make your child feel like they are still included and show them even more love when the new addititon comes home. That way they dont feel like it is such a drastic change for them.
Ashley - posted on 05/17/2009
mine are almost three years apart it was amazing how much my son loves his little sister. I think almost three years apart is a perfect gap the older one can help out when you need something and you dont have to worry about buying a new crib.
LIAN - posted on 05/17/2009
ive got a 6 month old and cant wait to have another one but because im due to get married next year we are waiting until after the wedding plus my little one will be old enough to understand that there will be a new family member
Chelsy - posted on 05/17/2009
My daughter just turned 3 in March and i'm due in September so they will be about 3 1/2 years apart and i think thats a good gap. I think the gap will work because i will only have to change one diaper instead of two since my duaghter is already potty trained.
Kimberly - posted on 05/17/2009
mine are two years and two months apart. it worked well. but my oldest was able to talk as good as she dose now (she's 3 1/2) at 18 months. so that helped. i was able to know what she wanted or needed. she was verry patient. she knew i couldn't just stop feeded the baby to get her a drink. she would wait. till i was done. so i'd say look at your child and juge when you think the time is right for you. every kid is differant.
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