When should babies sleep in their own room?

Gretchen - posted on 01/19/2010 ( 136 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 7 weeks old and has been sleeping in our bedroom. She makes all kinds of loud grunting noises in her sleep and keeps us awake most of the night. Our doctor said it's not recommended for babies to sleep in their own room until 6 months because of the SIDS risk, but we are going crazy not getting any sleep. Is it too soon for her to sleep in her own bedroom?

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Nikki - posted on 01/22/2010

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My daughter started sleeping in her own room at about one month. I wasn't to sure about when it would be okay either so I kindda read up on it, and what I came up with was that it was better for both baby and parents to be in their own rooms because both were able to get better sleep. Babies do make a lot of noises when they sleep, and if your like I was you're constantly waking up to check on them and you end up constantly waking them up in the process. So, I just went and bought a monitor and put her in her own room and that was actually when she began to sleep through the night. The risk of SIDS was still on my mind but I just did everything they tell you to do to reduce the chances, I mean thats all you can really do.

Cindy - posted on 01/22/2010

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Babies should sleep in there own room all the time. If you have them sleep with you all the time then they will get too used to that and then when the time comes that you decide you want them to sleep by themself you will have a HARD time getting them to sleep by themself in a separate room. Best thing to do is to have them ALWAYS sleep by themself in their own room..........In the long run it will be ALOT easier on you and your children.

Cherish - posted on 01/22/2010

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my sons about to be a year and still sleeps with us some people think we r crazy but I love it! so I think its a personal decision...but the longer u go the harder it is on the both of you...

Eileen - posted on 01/22/2010

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With our daughter (now almost 3) we put her in her crib at 2 months (as first time parents we were paranoid) but she actually slept better once we did. With our son (11months) we put him in his room immediately. We figured since we had video monitors that we could see that he was just fine and all of us would sleep better from the start. Also I highly recommend a book called "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Dr. Marc Weissbluth. It was a godsend with both kids and we still refer back to it when the kids throw us a sleep curve ball. Good luck and go with your gut.

Katie - posted on 01/22/2010

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With all the talk of SIDS, what's best for you is what you feel comfortable with. If you feel better sleeping in the same room, then by all means do that. I do think that at some point it is important to separate yourself and allow your child to learn what it's like to sleep in a room by themselves. My daughter went to her own room when I returned to work, at just about 6 weeks old. She was sleeping through the night, (for the most part) and with the baby monitor my husband and I could pretty much hear her every move. After a while I noticed I didn't need the monitor and was able to hear her across the hall. She is now 10 months old and yes, still in her own room. Do whatever you feel is right, that's what is going to make the transition easier for both of you.

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Jami - posted on 01/22/2010

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my daughter is 20 months old ans she has been in a crib scene she came home but she went in her own bedroom at like 2 months.

Abby - posted on 01/22/2010

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A friend of mine just moved her baby to his own room and has an Angelcare monitor in his crib. She was really worried about SIDS risks and everything too, and the monitor goes underneath their crib mattress and goes off when it doesn't detect any movement for 20 seconds (its sensitive enough to detect breathing as a movement). Im highly considering buying one, i'm pregnant with my second baby now, and my oldest didn't sleep through the night until he was almost a year old and i honestly think it was because he slept with us. I was the one keeping him from sleeping all night lol

Rebecca - posted on 01/22/2010

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welcome to mommyhood!!



sleep? who needs it??? I don't think I've gotten a full nights sleep since I was about 5 months pregnant.



i would leave both doors open so you can keep an eye on her. i used to lay my daughter in her room with the monitor turned up all the way. and still went in every five minutes checking on her. lol..



if you're comfortable with it, i'd say go for it, but ALWAYS make sure you put her to sleep on her back for the night. and make sure that she's warm enough. i know that my bedroom is the warmest in the house that's why I havn't moved her out yet. i'm afraid she'll get cold or have a bad dream and i wont be there to scoop her up right away and get her back to sleep asap.

Kara - posted on 01/22/2010

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My oldest slept in my room until he was around 6 months old or so. My middle slept in my room for the first month. Now the baby on the other hand, he's 10 months and he still sleeps in my room. I'm more comfortable with him with me. If you're comfortable with putting you daughter in her own room already then put a monitor with her and try it.

Jolene - posted on 01/22/2010

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Hi there, I waited until my daughter was 6 months but she was pretty quiet, it was me keeping her awake!! If this situation is stopping you from getting your much needed sleep then I would suggest moving your daughter to her own room and having a monitor for peace of mind regarding the SIDS risk, good luck!!

Leslie - posted on 01/22/2010

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My son has slept in his own room since the day we brought him home from the hospital. My husband and I have 4 kitties and didn't want to upset them anymore than what they would have already been by booting them out of our (well, their) bedroom. We keep the baby monitor right by our bed and I ALWAYS hear everything that is going on. My son is almost 2 months old and has been sleeping through the night for the most part since he was around 3 weeks old. I feel that having him in his own room early on helps greatly with independence and helps keep peace between baby and fur-babies.

Dawn - posted on 01/22/2010

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my daughter was 6.5 mos when i moved out of my parents house and she finally got her own room. she adapted to it quickly. i have never heard babies shldnt sleep alone until 6mos. i think she wld be fine, just use a monitor, they have ones with cameras so u can see the baby sleeping and everything.

Deonna - posted on 01/22/2010

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My daughter is 9 months now and she has slept in her own bed and room since she came home from the hospital. I think it is how comfortable the parent is with the situation. My other 2 slept in my bed with me and my husband for the first yr. whenever they woke up in the night, so everyone could get some sleep. I know they say you should not do this, but I do what I am comfortable with. If you put her in her own room have a good monitor and my dr also suggested a fan on low. She says it will help her remember to breath and also cut down on the chance of SIDS. I did not do this, because we have central air and not fan. Again it is whatever you are comfortable with and helps you sleep better at night. You can give a try and see how you feel and if it's worse with her in her room. Then give it a little more time. My family have always said this and I believe it fully. It is your child you know what they need and what you are comfortable with. Take every suggestion and use what you want and put the rest on the back burner in case you want to use it latter. Good Luck and I hope you find what help you and your family the best!

Amber - posted on 01/22/2010

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My husband and I decided that we wasn't going to put our daughter in her own room until her 6 month check-up. After we took her for her check-up and the doctor said that she was perfect, we put her in her crib that night and she has been there ever since with no problems!

Angela - posted on 01/22/2010

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its reccommended that you have baby with you till 6 months. however as long as baby room near you and/or you have good monitor and you feel comfortable havin them elsewhere there shouldn't be a prob. i know a few people who had baby in its own room from day 1 and others who kept them in with them past their 1st birthday. i think its really all down to what works best for you as a family. hope that helps.

Stephanie - posted on 01/22/2010

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i would wait until she is able to raise her head witch is about 4 monthes.

Tiffany - posted on 01/22/2010

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what? your doc recommended that?

that makes no sence. it doesnt matter where they are, its not like you can revent SIDS if shes in your room anymore than you can if shes in another room...



Anyways, mine was about 13 wks old when we put her in her own room - mind you, our rooms were seperated by just a wall, so we could hear her really well when she cried at night, but thats when we felt comfortable.



I dont think your doc knows what hes talking about to be honest. The theory of SIDS is thats itsn caused by a sort of suffocation. too much carbon dioxide being breathed in because they are over heated, or the blacket it too close to thier face, resticting oxygen. no matter where they sleep, you cant really stop that. just make sure to put her to bed on her back - blankets tighly wrapped around her, below the neck, and keep her room below 70 F (20 C). Trust me, I was obsessed with the thouogt of SIDS and looked up new info every hour to make sure she would be ok :)

shes 15 mths now :)

Jennifer - posted on 01/22/2010

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oh sweetie that is up to you when you feel that you are okay with her sleeping in her own room then put her in there mine slept with me up untill they wanted to sleep in their own bed my son was two my daughter was 10 months she kept going to her room and getting in her big girl bed and would go to sleep so it all depends on you or her best of luck sweetie

Katie - posted on 01/22/2010

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My daughter sletp in her own room until about 4 months old. It would have been sooner but my husbands dad was living with us for a while. My doctor told me that babies are at risk of SIDS until the age of one. If you feel uncomfortable about it then don't do it. Maybe having a monitor will help. Good luck :)

Stacey - posted on 01/22/2010

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My little girl was a brilliant sleeper and because i put her in a good but strict routine she was in her cot bed in her own room at 12weeks old and never had any probs dont even bother wanting to come into our bed now shes just recently had her bars off into a big girl bed as shes almost 2! and she still sleeps lovely...i say the earlier the better they get used to it! xx

Amy - posted on 01/22/2010

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My son slept in our room until about 4 months. And my daughter slept in our room until 5 months. They out grew and wasn't sleeping good in the bed we had them in. Their crib won't fit in out room so they went in their own room.

Tracie - posted on 01/22/2010

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personally I didn't move our children out until they were 6months and 9months (the second had some health problems so I left him stay longer), but I feel it's really up to when you feel comfortable, If your baby's room is close, and you use a monitor and do all the recomended sleeping things then i see no reason not to

Ashley - posted on 01/22/2010

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My son slept in our room for 10 months... we only moved him because everytime we'd move or cough, he'd wake up. He started co-sleeping with his Daddy when he turned 20 months old and was having a hard time sleeping.

ShawnTai - posted on 01/22/2010

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Well my daughter is 14 months now. She has been sleeping in her own room since she was unable to fit in the basinet anymore. That was at about 3 or 4 months old. We haven't had any problems yet.

JoAnn - posted on 01/22/2010

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i moved my son from our bedroom when he was a month old ..and he did just fine =)

Ashley - posted on 01/22/2010

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I believe it's up to the parents, whenever they're ready. I didn't put my son in his room until he was abt 6 months old. (But he wasn't a noisy sleeper either!) He got too big for his bassinet abt 4 months, so I put his pack 'n play beside my bed! Will she take a paci? I've heard that pacifiers help reduce SIDS. Also put a fan in her room. That keeps the air circulating & also reduces SIDS. Good luck! :0)

Rosary - posted on 01/22/2010

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I waited till 4 mos and that was after my husband made me put her in her nursery i was so paranoid that something would happen to her but she was fine I think when you do move her i would make sure to have a good monitor so you dont stay awake because your worried

Melissa - posted on 01/22/2010

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We put our little girl in her own room at 3 days, with a monitor. She & we have slpt through the night since she was 4 weeks old.

Jennifer - posted on 01/22/2010

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Our daughter was moved to her own room at 2 months. Our son is only 5 weeks, but almost too big for his bassinet. He will be moving out of our room soon. Doctors have to cover themselves and so reccommend a late age.

Frances - posted on 01/22/2010

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Its totally personal, but I have put all three straight into there own rooms, i think the sooner they get used to there rooms then they arent frightened of shadows or noises or anything like that. . actually the last two as there rooms are so far from our room and I had othere toddlers i didnt want to wake I had them in our lounge room close to our room until she stoped feeding at night, so 6 weeks they were rolled into there rooms.

Jillian - posted on 01/22/2010

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I started my daughter in her own room at about 3 months, once she was sleeping all night. With the monitors you are going to be awake with every grunt either way. I used to be up on my feet with every little sound I herd cause I was afraid of SIDS myself. But as long as montiors are there I'd say whenever you thik she is ready.

Brittany - posted on 01/22/2010

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I believe the 3-6 month mark is the best for moving him to his own bedroom, but if you feel comfortable enough to do it now, then I say go for it! I know the risk of SIDS is high, but on the other hand, if you keep a moniter on low, and him away from anything potentially dangerous to his health (radiators, windows, heaters, ect), he'll be fine. Unfortunately for me, my son is 13 months old, and he's still sleeping in the bedroom with me and my husband. I have an adhd stepchild (who is 6) and he can not be trusted in the bedroom with my youngest. So I have to wait until he is at least 2 years before we can even move him!

Ashleigh - posted on 01/22/2010

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My son was put in his own room at 3 Months and he was fine, we have a moniter so we could hear him. As long as you dont have anything blowing in her face or anything that she could suffercate her self with she should be fine :)

Ashley - posted on 01/22/2010

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i still have my daughter in my room she is 3 months and i dont want her in her own room yet but i no alot of people that put there kids in there own room straight away and keep the monitor on so they can hear when they wake up which still wouldnt help yiou because you will still hear all the grunts and grouns lol but you can also buy now a matteress thing where if they stop breathing it make a loud siren noise to wake yu so hat you can check on her/him and get themm breathing again so that could be a good investment for youu i think they are around 200 dollers

MacKenzie - posted on 01/22/2010

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It's really up to the parents to decide. My daughter slept next to our bed till she was 3 months old. Then she started crying so I put her in bed with us. Then I started crying cause i wasnt getting sleep, so we tried her own room and she loved it shes been in her own room sense then. The parents need to do it together especially for the moms they need support i know i did.

KRISTY - posted on 01/22/2010

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ive had my bub in his own room from day one as for the risk of sids there are chocks u can get so they dont roll and u can get moniters now that have a camera aswell so that should put ur mind at ease

Melisa - posted on 01/21/2010

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With each of my boys my husband and I put them in a crib in their own from day one. It was a lot of work waking up in the middle of the night to feed them and making sure that they are okay. I think if you have a monitor and are willing to get up with them then it should be okay to move her to her own room.

Paige - posted on 01/21/2010

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put her in her own room and have a baby monitor on. you need your sleep, as long as you hear her to feed her etc she'll be fine. i had my daughter sleeping in her own room by 3 months and she started to sleep 8hours straight at that point. give it a try and see how you go. i know sids is scarey, but a sleep deprived mother and father can be just as dangerous to a baby! you know whats best for your bub, even though all is new! Maternal instinct. You get through it. hang in there!

Miranda - posted on 01/21/2010

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I slept with my son in our room until he was 3 months old. I began placing our son in his bassinet and then leaving him in his room to self soothe at 2 months of age, I would then wheel him into our bedroom and let him sleep in there. When he turned 3 months I began putting him in his crib and having him sleep in their with a monitor on so that I could hear him, etc...Every doctor is different, my pediatrician said that the route I took was absolutely fine and that no matter where the child sleeps there is always a risk of SIDS. I would allow yourself to at least try it out. If it doesn't work for you, than at least you know. Just keep your childs crib free of stuffed animals and the least amount of loose blankets as possible while keeping her warm too (swadle if she likes it). Some advise to remove the bumpers, I left mine in until my child was 6-7 months old (that was when he started to move around in his sleep). When my child went to his 6 month check up I was concerned because my son started to flip himself over on his stomach, and every time that I went in to check on him I would flip him on his back, and the next time I went in he was back on his tummy and I was sooo concerned because of SIDS, and my pediatrician let me know that if he has the capability of flipping over he is strong enough to prevent himseslf from suffocating, etc. It is hard not to worry, but you also need to let your daughter develop the skills that she needs to go to sleep on her own and in her own room (so she can get used to it, and not wake up and be scared), plus you need to get back into a "normal" bedtime routine yourself! :)

Catherine - posted on 01/21/2010

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All my kids slept in their cribs from the time we brought them home. We just followed the recommended directions to prevent SIDS and they were happy, I was happy. If they woke up at night, like all new babies do we just brought them to the feeding spot for a bottle or the recliner for a cuddle and back in the crib they went. The music player helped tremendously.

Whitney - posted on 01/21/2010

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My son has slept in his own room since Day 1 when he slept 11 hours straight. Always has slept all night, too!

Leah - posted on 01/21/2010

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I would say its about time to put her in her own room..there are amazing baby monitors that allow you to hear your baby breathing if you worry about SIDS. It is definately hard to make the transition as a mother...we moved our son into his room around 7-8 months and I know lots of people who do it before three months is up! Good luck and I wish you the best.

Sabrina - posted on 01/21/2010

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My daughter was sleeping in her on room by 3 months we had a t.v. type baby monitor... made us feel better about it.

Lindsay - posted on 01/21/2010

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Our daughter is 5 months old and has never slept in our room. She sleeps in her crib and we use a baby monitor. You all need to let her sleep in her room because you won't be able to give ur daughter the best care if ur always tired. Just so you know a way to reduce sids by 80% is to turn on the ceiling fan. Good luck!

Kristi - posted on 01/21/2010

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My son started sleeping in his own room @ 6 months, but I have a baby monitor which helps me relax b/c I can see and hear him whenever I want.

Ginny - posted on 01/21/2010

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I am just now putting my baby ta sleep in her own bed/room. She is going on 9 months on the first. I myself liked to respond to every cry when she was under 6th months old so it helped to be in the same bed/room with her. I easily transitioned her into her own bed/room in as little as three night and am now able to get her to sleep for 11-12 hours when before she woke up 4 times a night ta nurse. I myself and her get more sleep when we are in our own bed/rooms. It will be easier for you in the long run with her being able to sleep in her own room. And you will start to get used to sleep through the grunts and awaken from the real crys! Just give it time! and your baby will be fine. :)

Steph - posted on 01/21/2010

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My son was in his own room from the first day we got out of hosp, had a monitor and he was fine, second we couldnt have him in his own room, so he was in our room till about 2mths old but if his room was free i would of put him in his own room from as soon as he was home from hosp. i think even if they sleep in ur room, there is no sure way u will wake, to stop sids.

Jessica - posted on 01/21/2010

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My first daughter slept in my room till she was 1, but my other two daughters went into their own room at 3 months. Baby monitors are great.

Trina - posted on 01/21/2010

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My best reply is, as soon as they sleep through the night. I was a lucky one, I could wake up at any sound, as soon as my son was sleeping through the night, I had that monitor on full blast, and even when he started sleeping longer, I would check on him. If they establish the self-soothing methods at a young age, it will carry forward when they are older. Just my opinion, but every mother and baby are different. When you feel comfortable, i guess give it a try.

Casey - posted on 01/21/2010

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i started putting my daughter in her crib in her own room at around 8weeks.. i think we both sleep better now...

Ashlea - posted on 01/21/2010

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My daughter was asleep in her own bed from the time she was brought home from the hospital. And, no..it is not too soon to have her in her own room. That's what they make baby monitors for :-) And, you can have blankets with your child...I do with mine...she wakes up every morning. And, I also put her on her belly to sleep...she slept that way from birth. Do what YOU feel is right for your daughter!

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