When should my son start sleeping through the night?

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My hubby works out of state 5 days a week, so it's just me and my son most of the time. I was wondering when your babies started sleeping through the night?

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Lindsay - posted on 10/14/2009

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My daughter was sleeping 6 hours by 2 weeks and a full 12 at 4 weeks. She is 1 and still does 12 full hours a night 7pm to 7 am. I was a nanny for 10 years before I had my daughter and found that if you want your kids to sleep throuh or if theywake to be able to put themselves back to sleep you have to start from day 1 putting them in the crib when they are sleepy but still awake. Hope that helps!

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Clacy - posted on 10/19/2009

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there is a book call "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Marc Weissbluth, M.D. buy it! It's the best $16.00 I ever spent.

Nordith - posted on 10/19/2009

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when you have the answer let me know...... My youngest is 1 and still doesn't sleep through the night

Katie - posted on 10/18/2009

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Hi. My daughter started sleeping through the night, midnight until round 7, when she reached two months. I started slipping a tiny bit of rice cereal in her milk at night and that did that trick. It gets her digestive track going and she sleeps. Don't do enough to make a meal out of it, because they're not supposed to eat it until they're about four to six months. Try adding some to the milk at night. It worked for me! :)

Jessica - posted on 10/17/2009

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my son is 8 1/2 months and he is still no sleeping through the night every baby is different

Nicky - posted on 10/17/2009

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My oldest was a few months old when she started sleeping through the night. I let her make her own feeding schedule but she was bottle-fed. My second chlid is almost 2 months now and has slept through 2-3 nights but not in a row. I find with her, everything needs to be perfect. She needs a clean diaper, full belly, burped well and warm. It works even better when she's swaddled or in bed with me.

Stefanie - posted on 10/17/2009

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my daughter is 9 months old now n shes probly only slept once through the night. like you my partner works away too n can get quite hard. but the gettin up gets a lot easier the more you do it. its funny, wen she sleeps longer than normal i feel like ive overslept. dont stress. all babies are different hell find his own pattern soon

Jennifer - posted on 10/16/2009

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My son was a preemie and a big eater. He woke up every hour and a half to eat untill we started putting a dash of powdered cereal in his bottle at bedtime, he was about a month and a half when we did that. I would talk to your doctor before you make any kind of changes.

Pia - posted on 10/16/2009

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My fiance is a baker, so he is away 5/6 nights a week also. My son is nearly 16 months old and still doesn't sleep through the night every night. Occasionally he will, other nights he wakes up once, other nights up to 4 times!

It really depends on the child, some start sleeping through really early, others don't until they are 3 or 4! There are methods you can try to help them learn to settle himself so you don't have to keep getting up, but children are unpredicatable and you never know what will work or how long it will work for.

I know how hard it is being by yourself during the nights, especially when they're younger, but it will get better! Or at least your bub will start sleeping longer stretches which means you will too:)

Tequila - posted on 10/16/2009

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I think it all depends on the child cause my daughter is almost eleven months old and is just now starting to sleep all night

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By the way, don't assume that babies who breast feed are the ones who sleep through the night sooner...I said I started out breast feeding my son, but I gave that up at about 7-8 weeks, shortly after I returned to work. The switch from breast to formula didn't affect his sleeping habits at all.

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I agree with one of the previous posters, try a more regular feeding schedule, don't just let him cry for a bottle. I was breast feeding at first and the doctors/nurses/lactation consultants in the hospital were adament about me feeding him every 2-3 hours. I continued that routine when we returned home and at 6 weeks( 3 days after I returned to work, thank goodness!) he started sleeping through the night.



I would put him down around 9pm and he would sleep until I got up at 5am for work. At about 8-10 weeks he scared me a couple of times on the weekends because I would wake up at 10-11am and realize he had never cried for a feeding! He is now 4 months old, still goes to bed between 8-9 and I have to MAKE him get up at 5:45am to eat before we leave the house. On the weekends, he's sleeping until 7-7:30 now. So he's averaging 8-10hrs of sleep.



This doesn't really have anything to do with sleeping through the night, it's just a suggestion for sleeping in general. Do NOT keep your house in total silence and fear waking your child up. Make noise! Leave the TV on at its normal volume, speak in your normal voice, run the vaccum cleaner - do whatever it is that you do in your normal, every day life so that your child becomes accustomed to it. I did these things and you see how my son sleeps. I know someone who didn't - he and his wife would whisper, they would watch tv with the volume on 2, turn phones off so they wouldn't ring when their child was napping, etc. Their daugther is a very light sleeper and the tiniest little noise will wake her up and make her cry.



I also use Johnson & Johnson Bedtime Lotion on my son before bed. It has a soothing aroma that is supposed to help them sleep. Also, I'm not sure how old your son is, but you could try mixing cereal with his bottle to try and fill him up more at night time, which might help him sleep longer - ask your doctor.



Good luck!!

Christina - posted on 10/16/2009

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well my son is 1 month and a half and sometimes he would sleep for 8 hours straight at night sometimes 5 so i guess it depends on the baby n how big your baby is....i know smaller babies eat less so they wake up more often like i have a friend who told me her daighter woke up every 2 hours for the first 2 months.....so i think that its all up to how much your baby eats and also if he gets used sleepin more at night

Bryanna - posted on 10/16/2009

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I sort of understand how difficult it is for, although,my husband is gone for long periods, he does work nights, so I sometimes find it very challenging, as I wake up to him during night, and also look after all during the day as well. Our son is 10 weeks, he sleeps from 4-6 hours, so I find your question very helpful to me as well:)

Natasha - posted on 10/16/2009

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My son has only just stated sleeping through the night for the past month. He is now 9 months old. We only got him to sleep through after we gradually stopped his night time feeding. We only started doing that when he was 6 1/2 months.

Ashley - posted on 10/15/2009

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My daughter was sleeping through the night at 3 weeks! She's now 6 1/2 months and is still sleeping through

Sandra - posted on 10/15/2009

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my sons doctor gave me a really good timeline...but obviously all kids are different. he said at 2 weeks 2 hours, 3 weeks 3 hours, 4 weeks....and so on. by 6 weeks he should be sleeping at least 6 hours. my son has done really well. he's even started sleeping 7 and 8 hours some nights. but i think it helps too no matter how old they are to put them to sleep at the same time every night. good luck :)

Abby - posted on 10/15/2009

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Every baby is different, some are just waaay more interested in everything going on in this world than sleep lol

My little guy is 10 months old and he's still not sleeping through the night. We've had a few really good nights where he slept from 7-5 a.m., nursed, then went back to sleep til 7. I can't seriously count those lucky nights on one hand haha

From talking to other moms, formula fed babies usually sleep a lot better than boob babies. I think its because BF'd babies are used to a lot of physical contact and associate mom with being comfy and sleepy, and breastmilk breaks down way faster than formula. Sometimes it makes me wish that I just formula fed from the beginning, maaaybe my next baby will just get bottles haha

On those sleepless nights, I just remind myself that one day he will be a teenager, and I will take great joy in waking him up at 4 a.m. just for the heck of it :D Good luck with your little one, and enjoy every moment (no matter what time of day or night it is)

Mackenzie - posted on 10/15/2009

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It depends on how good of a schedule they are on, I recommend that you have a routine for him the same time every night, i.e., 7:30pm begin bath time, bottle/breast feeding if infant, then have him ready to be in bed by 8:00pm. He will become used to this routine and will learn when it is time for bath and bed. If your son is not on a routine now it will be hard for a wee or so, but it will pay off in the long run. if he gets up in the middle of the night and he is not really crying, let him cry himself back to sleep. If he becomes restless and overly fussy then absolutely sooth him. If he is just used to you going in there as soon as he cries, you will have to learn to not do that because he is playing you. If he is your first baby this will be very hard... TRUST ME! I felt sooooo guilty when after I had my daughter I was the mom going in her room and letting her see me as soon as I heard her make a noise. She just got used to crying and me coming. After a while though he will learn that you are not going to go get him and he will learn not to "need you if he wakes up in the middle of the night. Try a Passy (binki, nuk, pacifier...), soft blanket, stuffed animal and make sure he is not too hot or too cold. Our son started sleeping through the night (12 hours a night) around 6 months. He is almost 2 and now he starts saying "bath, babo (binki), blankie". He is so easy to put to bed. Every baby is different though so do not get frustrated, Rebecca! If you are stressed out about it in the middle of the night, he can sense that it will only keep him up longer. Babies are so in-tune with emotions. So... to sum this lengthy answer up... routine, routine, routine and routine :-) And don't worry there will still be things that disrupt this i.e., teething, illness and other things... but don't worry. He will do great and SO WILL YOU :-) :-) :-)

Jessica - posted on 10/15/2009

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Thankfully my son started sleeping through the night the week we brought him home from the hospital.

Jennifer - posted on 10/15/2009

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In my opinion it all depends on the child. My son started sleeping through the nights most of the time at 2 1/2 months. My daughter is almost 1 and she still gets up at least twice a night.

Regis - posted on 10/15/2009

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It depends on the child...My first baby didn't sleep a full night until she was like 3yrs old she's 6 and still wakes up sometimes. Now my second baby sleept through the night as soon as she came home I had to wake her up just to feed her and she is 2 now and if she takes a late nap at like 6 or 7pm..she will not wake up until the next day no matter what we do to try to get her up and both my kids where breast and bottle feed and they where on a strict and orgnaized feeding schedule of every hr and half to two hrs.

Libby - posted on 10/14/2009

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My son started sleeping a good bit at 8 weeks from about 10pm to 3 am. Then I read the book "Babywise" and started following that schedule. Almost immediately- after about 2 days he was sleeping from 8pm till 7am. I would feed him at 7:30pm, put him down at 8 pm, and "dreamfeed" (feed him without waking him up) at 10pm, then wouldn't feed again till 7am. At about 15wks we cut out the 10pm feeding and now he eats at 7:30 goes down at 8pm and doesn't get up till 7 am. It is a whole new life!!! I swear by the book and the advice it gives. My child is such a great sleeper now, he is on a schedule, and is the happiest baby all the time! Good luck!

Amanda - posted on 10/14/2009

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my son had his nights where he would sleep through the nights, but very rare. my son never really slept every night through the night until he got his toddler bed at 15 months. he is now 16 months and we eat dinner at 6ish n baths at 7ish then i put this bedtime lotion on him n put him in something nice n warm. and at 8 or 9 he is going to bed. and he wakes up at 6 or so. but the thing is how many naps during the day and if u have a daily schedule.. but all babies are different. my son also didnt sleep good bec he started teething at 1 month old.

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he will do it when he wants to my son is 14 mons old and pick and choose when to sleep all night..it very fustrating...but i know he will get there patience is key

Danielle - posted on 10/14/2009

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my son started sleeping through the night by nine weeks old. i read that when your baby gets to be a certain weight (usually 13lbs) and has enough calories during the day, he'll start sleeping through the night. when he is big enough and received all the calories he needed during the day, it should only take about three days of repetition to get him to sleep through the night. first, make sure he understands the different between night and day by keeping him in lit rooms during the day (especially during naps) and in the dark at night. when he wakes up at night, don't go right over to him. instead, give him about five minutes to see if he'll settle himself back down. if not, offer a paci. if he still doesn't go back to sleep, try changing in while he's still laying in his crib. making him more comfortable may put him back to sleep. if you pick him up or turn on the light, you'll overstimulate him making him more awake. keep this routine for three nights and he should be able to sleep through the night. {i also read Babywise:Getting Your Infant to Sleep Through the Night and that helped out a great deal. I highly recommend it} i hope this helps! :]

Kerri - posted on 10/14/2009

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My son started sleeping through night at about a month. All though a bunch of people told me that I got lucky cause he started sleeping through the night ao early. But hey I like being lucky lol.

Regina - posted on 10/14/2009

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My son didn't start sleeping through the night until about a yr old. He had horrible colic & reflux though, so he was constantly sick. I was still giving him formula a couple times an hour. But once he got better and was able to handle food and formula better he slept through the night. So it depends on the child. They're all different. My brother's daughter has been sleeping through the night since she was 2 mths old, lucky guy. So it depends. Just don't compare your kids with other kids, they're all so different & special.

Kristen - posted on 10/14/2009

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My son started sleeping through the night at 4 month. My daughter on the other hand is almost 13 months old and she's still not sleeping though the night. IDK...I guess it all depends on the child.

Sherry - posted on 10/14/2009

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My daughter is almost 2 and she still wakes up most night crying. I don't know if its her teeth that's bothering her still but that has always been her problem. She is screaming like she's in pain sometimes, I try to give her medicine before she goes to bed.

Carla - posted on 10/14/2009

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well ive a girl i think she was about 4 months when she was sleeping throw night every night ,but my friend has just had a little girl whos now 3 months and she sleeps throw already so i suppose it depends on the child x

Melany - posted on 10/13/2009

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mine started sleeping through the night a little before she was a month old but it all really depends on ur child. I was reading other post that talked about a strict feeding schedule and well this may be what help with my daughter sleeping through the night cause i had her on a bottle every four hours. she woke up for it for this first few weeks but then no longer needed it. i also found that giving ur baby a little baby rice before bed helps them sleep longer. i know alot of people say ur not suppose 2 but i talked 2 my doctor and she said it was ok u might wanna ask ur self first tho. unless he already old enough for it then its fine. best of luck!

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I remember asking my mom that question when my oldest son wasn't sleeping through the night and he was over a year old. I got lucky on my second one. He slept through the night two days after i brought him home from the hospital. I used to wake up and check to see if he was still breathing because he didn't want to wake up or eat. My 2 year old...well its hit and miss with him. He was doing really good sleeping through the night at four months but now he doesn't even want to go to bed. They are all different so the best thing to do is make sure he is well fed when you lay him down and get into a routine with him so he starts to understand that its night time

Kathryn - posted on 10/13/2009

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My baby is 6 months old and doesnt sleep through the night, not even close :(. Shes usually up every few hours the most she will really go is 4 hours. GAH its exsasting but i keep telling my self it wont last forever :) Im sorta in the same boat as you accept im alone all the time, but he will start sleeping through when hes ready which could really be at any time. Hopefully you will be lucky and it will happen sooner rather than later :)

Heather - posted on 10/13/2009

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My husband is Air Force so I had to deal with my son all by my self most of the times. I got my son on a schedule when he was first brought home. I was feeding him every 2am, 6am, 10am, 2pm, 6pm, and 10pm. Then at 6 weeks I took away that 2am feeding and uped his oz every so often and he slept from 10pm till about 5am. Then when he got to be a month he got use to that 2am bottle being gone and he would sleep from 10pm till 7am. and he is 6 months now!

Amber - posted on 10/13/2009

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My son is 9 months and still isn't sleeping through the night we were almost there and then he started getting teeth. Some nights it is only one time though that he gets up.

Nicole - posted on 10/13/2009

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First...I feel your pain. My husband also travels and it is often just my son and I. The main thing that I can tell you is to not go in there EVERY time he starts to cry. You know what his I was a bottle cry sounds like. It is hard at first, but sometimes I just had to let him fuss it out. If he is wet, dirty, or needs a bottle, you will know. Also, I started putting a little bit of rice cereal in his bottle at night. This helped him stay fuller longer. My son was 9 pounds 6 ounces when he was born! So he was a big boy and needed that little boost I guess. Good Luck Girl!!!

Sky - posted on 10/13/2009

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Quoting Rebecca :

Thanks for your help everybody! I think I'll try a stricter feeding schedule and see if that helps! Right now I just feed him when he cries for a bottle.



Well you have to give him food if he's hungry.... If he wakes up only because he's hungry feed him.

Thea - posted on 10/13/2009

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My son always did till he was 10 months. My daughter it was 2 weeks. They were both little babies. Feed them when they are ready to go to bed. last thing it should help.

Alisa - posted on 10/13/2009

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their is no right time...my son didnt sleep thru the night until he was 13 months!! While my daughter slept thru the night since she was born...try sleeping with a little bit of music so there will be some noise ..cause if they sleep in silence then every little thing awakes them

Tabitha - posted on 10/13/2009

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My daughter didnt start til this month haha so hopefully you have better luck than i did. I tried everything from warm baths, to full bellys, layin in her bed with her...nothing worked unless she slept with me and husband

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Thanks for your help everybody! I think I'll try a stricter feeding schedule and see if that helps! Right now I just feed him when he cries for a bottle.

Amanda - posted on 10/12/2009

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my daughter started sleeping through the night at a little over 2 months. i have heard from other moms if your baby is on a strict eating schedule they will sleep through the night sooner.

Dana - posted on 10/12/2009

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My first son started at 3months and he was formula feed. Now my second son which is 11weeks old is just starting to sleep until 6am and he is breastfeed!

Lynda - posted on 10/12/2009

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Nether my son started sleeping through the night when he was 2. My daughters 3 and she still doesn't. It's not that they stay up, they wake up and come in my bed.......

Jessica - posted on 10/12/2009

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My son sleeps through the night since a week or 2. So he was 7weeks old.

Here in belgium they have a rule. They say that a baby will sleep through the nigth when his weigth reaches 5 kg. For me the rule is right, that same week Axl reached the 5kg.

Bye

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it depends my eldest wo a bugger n dnt sleep through til he wo 6month n my yongest slept through at 12 week bt all babys r different sum sleep through frm been 6 week or younger

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