Where did your baby sleep as a new born?

Betty - posted on 01/26/2010 ( 177 moms have responded )

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My husband thinks it is safer for a new baby to be in a bassinet but I disagree and I would rather just use a crib from day one. He seems to think SIDS is only a risk if a baby in sleeping in a crib.

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Monica - posted on 01/28/2010

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i kept my first in bed with me, then my second in a crib. you just have to make sure that you lay him/her on their back until they can roll over themselves, and don't keep anything else in the crib besides a blanket!! when they get older you can put soft toys so that they might play a bit before crying for you in the morning! :)

i don't see anything wrong with a crib for a newborn! it's not much different from a bassinet but she might as well get comfortable with her space asap! :)

Allison - posted on 01/27/2010

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Actually my baby slept with me from day one. It can be done safely and we did. It has worked wonderfully for us. We didn't plan to do it that way, we had a bassinette, but even in the hospital, the moment he was laid down in his little cubby thing he'd scream bloody murder. After nearly two weeks of noooo sleep and complete desperation, I turned to our pediatrician. He actually recommended co-sleeping and gave tips on how to do it safely. It was pure heaven. We all got wonderful sleep and it turned out to be extremely conducive to breastfeeding and healing from a c-section.

There have been studies that show co-sleeping can actually reduce SIDS as the mother will become extremely in tune with the baby's breathing pattern and the baby will typically fall into rhythm with the mother's breathing. SIDS occurs in babies that their brains "forget" to breathe. The closer they are to their mothers, their breathing patterns tend to be more regulated. If you do chose to go to the crib from day one, there's the Angel Care monitor that can help put your mind at ease :) Best wishes!

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My daughter slept in a cradle next to my bed. It was more for convience because I was breastfeeding. I could just pick her up and feed her without leaving the bed. Once she was sleeping all night, she was moved to her crib. Just out of curiosity, why do you want her in the crib as oppossed to the bassinet?



And to reduce SIDS, do not put any blankets or pillows in the crib/bassinet. Put the baby on his/her back.

Jasmine - posted on 01/28/2010

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i used the bassinet. and had the baby sleep right next to our bed for 3 months. i was so worried about sids. and its best to do it that way just in case anything happens, your right there. plus, if your breastfeeding.. your going to do it alot through the night so its convinent. make sure theres like nothing in the bassinet/crib. Ive done alot of research about sids when my daughter was a newborn. They said.. one reason how its caused is by the baby breathing in his/her exhale of the air. carbon dioxide. or being too warm....

Lacey - posted on 01/28/2010

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my son actually slept with me in the bed for the first few months he was born..i know its not as safe as cribs are bassinet.but he had colic really bad and would only sleep if he was being held and i don't know about alot of you but i can't sleep sitting up so i would lay him next to me with my arm wrapped around him while i was on my side..and i made sure the cover never came up past my him and i was on my side facing him he never left my arm..it was uncomfortable for me to sleep this way but my son was more inportant then my comfort..i made sure my arm was around him at all times so my husband nor myself would roll over on top of him..which i never rolled over b/c he was on my arm and i woke up every hour to check on him..at 3 months i believe he was finally able to sleep in his play pen and thats when we discovered he didn't like sleeping flat on his back..so i had to get a pillow and lay him on top of it..he is now 21 months old and still needs a pillow to sleep..

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Rachael - posted on 01/28/2010

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SIDS Is a risk no matter where they sleep, when my daughter was born we had her in a bassinet, next to our bed and it worked out well, until she got to long for it and started moving more whe she slept.

Samantha - posted on 01/28/2010

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i used a bassinet untill about now! its easier to get to them for the first few months. but its up to you want a cot or what ever! there is no known cause for SIDS, all they say is things that wont help woth it like goin under the blankets, gettin to hot etc!

Cassandra - posted on 01/28/2010

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My daughter slept in a cradle next to my bed for the first two months and then go moved to her own room in her crib. SIDS could happen regardless of where the baby sleeps unfortunately.

Mikka - posted on 01/28/2010

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When my first son was born I was dead set on having him in crib fromn day one... A couple nights of not getting any sleep (by the time I got up, went to hid room, fed him, and put him back down Id just be getting back to sleepn when he woke to eat again) I changed my mind and he slept in our room for the first few months, and then transitioned to his crib - sleeping through the entire night - at 3 months.



My 2nd son is currently in our room as weel, and will be until he is a few months old.

Cynthia - posted on 01/28/2010

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I used a packnplay & had it right up next to my side of the bed. I didn't use blankets with either of my boys to not have to worry about them getting tangled up in them.

Cassie - posted on 01/28/2010

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My daughter slept in a bassinet in our room until she was almost 3 months old. Then she started sleeping in her own room in her crib. The transition was very easy! And as for the bassinet...we found it on craigslist for cheap and as soon as we didnt need it anymore, we put it right back on there to get it out of the way. Other people are always in need of things...might as well pass it around.

Lara - posted on 01/28/2010

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My baby has slept about everywhere. I have to say though that I did like having a bassinet, and they say that sleeping in the same room as the parents could have SIDS reductions as well. Maybe you could compromise and put the crib in your room for the early months, I didn't have room to do that.

Megan - posted on 01/28/2010

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SIDS is a risk anytime an infant is unsupervised. The advantage to a basinet is that you can put it in your room beside your bed and don't have to go so far for those in the middle of the night "errands". I don't think it really matters. I used a basinet at first, only because our room was upstairs and I couldn't even get off of the couch without help at the time. (C-section) After we got back to ouir living arrangements and she cold sleep all night through (3 months) she went into her crib. They are so small that they dont notice the transition at this age.

Brandy - posted on 01/28/2010

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She slept right next to me in bed. So much easier to feed laying down that you end up feeling so rested! I was never exhausted due to lack of sleep from my baby.

Ashley - posted on 01/28/2010

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We put both of our kids in a crib in their bedrooms from day 1! Would not do it any other way. They are 2 & 1 now and haven't spent a night in bed with us and are fantastic sleepers! Good Luck;)

Nicole - posted on 01/28/2010

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well my daughter slept with me in my bed til about a couple weeks ago (she's 3 months now). now she sleeps in her bassinette and this upcoming month im switching her to a crib.

Kylene - posted on 01/28/2010

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my daughter used a bassinet for like a week after we brought her home and then she slept with me on my bed. I didn't move when she was in the bed with me and I felt safer because she couldn't move or peep without me hearing it.

Jennifer - posted on 01/28/2010

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When my daughter was 2 to 3 months I mostly had her sleep with me and had her in the bassinet, too. I used the crib from day one as well. When I had her sleep in the crib, I just made sure she slept on her back.

Rachel - posted on 01/28/2010

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I used a bassinet next to the bed for about a week with my son, then into the crib. My daughter slept on my chest for about 2 weeks, then to the bassinet for about a month, then the crib. The only reason that she slept in our room for so long was because she was tiny and had health problems. Otherwise she would have been in the crib a lot sooner. It is all personal preference. If you put a fan next to the crib, it cuts back SIDs rates and might make for a good compromise with the hubby.

Rachael - posted on 01/28/2010

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My son slept in a cradle right next to me. Just in case his blanket got over his nose, or anything happened, I would hear everything. And, every peep he made, my husband and I heard. Better safe than sorry. It wasn't hard at all to get him to sleep in his crib once we were ready (around 2 months). But, his room is also right across from ours, so you may want to let him sleep beside you a bit longer.

Skye - posted on 01/28/2010

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my baby is 5 weeks now and shes slept in her bassinet right beside my bed from day 1... but everyones prefences r different

Justine - posted on 01/28/2010

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our liitle one is in a moses basket next to our bed, we too scared to leave her in her own room at this stage

Melissa - posted on 01/28/2010

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it depends what's more comfortable for you honestly. SIDS will happen anywhere unfortunately it has nothing to do with the crib. i've always had my kids in their crib but in my room at the beginning or a bassinet just so they are closer especially for all the times u need to get up in the midle of the night. i've even sleep with them sometimes because i was breastfeeding and `it was just easier that way but it's a personal choice not a safety issue. good luck!

Michelle - posted on 01/28/2010

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I slept with my daughter on the couch from day one. I was always afraid of SIDS because of the fact my brother died from that. Once she was around 3 months I put her in a bassinet next to my bed and then when she started to roll over on her own I started putting her in her crib. She had no problem sleeping in her crib.

Linda - posted on 01/28/2010

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Both of my Children plus my brothers children all slept in bed with me. I did not feel safe not having them near me. I always had to have my hand on them so that i could sleep. Having them sleep in bed with me was a blessing from day one home from the hospital they slept all night. And i know people say stuff about rolling over on the baby and stuff like that i am here to tell u that u will never do it. You know every little move your baby makes and ever breath he or she takes. My boys and i have always slept wonderfully together when they were baby's. And unfortunately i was in an unhappy marriage i just got out of so my boys are 6 and 7 and back in my bed.

Sheyla - posted on 01/28/2010

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Honestly when my son was first born, we tried the crib but we felt more secure and comfortable with him sleeping in the bed with us! At first we used to argue about it because I always wanted to stick to how everything is supposed to be done but his father won that argument and it worked out for the best because now Joel sleeps in his crib and we have our own space.

Andrea - posted on 01/28/2010

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Hi Betty! I'm Andrea Both of my girls used a bassinet, I think you should try the bassinet for now and the crib when your little one is alittle older.

Charity - posted on 01/28/2010

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my oldest who is now 8 slept in a bassinet during the day and a swing at night till he was 9 months old. my daughter now 7 slept in the bassinet 4 about 3 months,then a crib. my 3 year old slept in a bassinet when he first went to bed, when he'd wake up to breastfeed i'd fall asleep and wake up to him still attached to me after hours of sleep.he moved to his crib about 4 months. my daughter now is 4 months, she is still in a bassinet, its just easier with her breastfeeding. i don't fall asleep with her cause i'm more paronoid about sids then i even was.i get no sleep at night cause i'm always checking her and usually fall asleep with my hand on her chest to make sure she's breathing.

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We put our little girl in a bassinet in her own room from day 1. We swaddled her until she was 3 months & after 1 week of being in the bassinet with no swaddle, we made the transition into the cot.... we put the bassinet in the cot for a few days & eventually got rid of the bassinet & she is now in the cot. Simple & easy transition.



SIDS only becomes an issue if the bassinet or cot are inclosed - there must be good airflow around the baby & no doonas, pillows or toys in there with them. Also never put the baby on something that leaves an imprint (the matress must always be firm & upto safety standards). Hope that helps

Tina - posted on 01/28/2010

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bassinet or crib just up to you there is no difference as long as there aren't any blankets or stuffed animals surrounding him. my son slept in bed in the middle of my hubby and i from the time he was home from the hospital till he was two. but if i had to do it over i would have stuck with the crib that way he wouldn't have gotten use to sleeping with mommy and daddy!

Heather - posted on 01/27/2010

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I personally found it easier to keep my daughter "swaddled" in her bassinet. I was able to take a thin light blanket and tuck it under the bassinet pad and around her to give her that tight swaddled feeling without all of the extra material all around her. I also breast feed and having her close while her cry was really soft was helpful. Moving her to her crib was smooth sailing when that time came so if you're worried about that, don't.

Monique - posted on 01/27/2010

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Hi Betty



There are lots of things u can do if u are concerned about sids. If your husband is really worried suggest getting a monitor (baby monitor & breathing monitor). The breathing monitor alerts u if there is no movement - it's a pad u place under the mattress. My husband was concerned about it & made sure we had one. It really does give you peace of mind & it allows baby to sleep in his crib from day one. My baby is 3 months old now & has slept in his crib from day one, and if we go sleep over anywhere it goes with us. You can also get a wedge that is placed on top of the mattress (both specially designed so baby can't suffocate) & we were told to let baby sleep on his side & to alternate sides in order to develop the back muscles equally (important for crawling). Sleeping on the tummy would normally help develop the back muscles but this is another sids risk factor.



Best of luck!

Kenyetta - posted on 01/27/2010

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My daughter slept in her crib and the crib is inside my bedroom so I can get her whenever. Use a bassinet or a co-sleeper.

Cleo - posted on 01/27/2010

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she slept in her bassinet until she could sit up on her own. it was a lot easier that way to get up with her at night

Chrystyne - posted on 01/27/2010

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Sometimes its up to the baby! as wierd as that sounds i know, my daughter started in her bassinet next to our bed but she hated it and would only sleep for maybe an hour or two at a time not matter what, then finally we decided to try and switch her over to her crib to see if that would make a diffrence and now she sleeps threw the night, (and she still wont sleep in the bassinet even when i try) and the thing with SIDS keep them on thier backs nothing in the crib and if i remember right i think its after the first month or 2 months the percentage for a baby passing of SIDS drops greatly!

Tiffany - posted on 01/27/2010

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I used the Bassinet becuz I liked having the baby in my room for the first few months to were that way it was easier for me to keep an eye on them when they were asleep and then when they would wake up at night it was also easier for me to get them and feed them too, but it is really all up to ya'll and what ya'll are more comfortable with doing. I just felt better having them right there next to me at night cuz i was able to check up on them more as they would sleep.

Tracy - posted on 01/27/2010

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Oh! I also remember my mom telling me to let your child fall asleep(when they are older of course) wherever they do: floor, couch, people's houses etc...- just so that when they get old enough for sleepover's they can sleep at somebody else's house without the anxiaty of not being in their own bed.

Angela - posted on 01/27/2010

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My little one started in a bassinet by the bed until she was 2 months old. This was mainly because I had a c-section as was not very mobile and she was nursing. I know lots of people that have had their little ones in a crib from day one, and I was relieved when we were able to move Belle. Every time she shifted or sighed I was wide awake. By the time she was in her own room I needed some space and some sleep.

Brandi - posted on 01/27/2010

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Our newborn slept in between us in a co-sleeper, which makes sure that babies are safe. It was easier for me to breastfeed that way and also I read that SIDS is less likely to occur with co-sleeping because the mother's breathing stimulates the baby's breathing. When our baby turned about 5-6 months, we transitioned him to his own room in his crib.

Tracy - posted on 01/27/2010

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hahahaha... my baby would ONLY sleep if she was in her swing with the music on! So, that's where she slept! We got her introduced to a crib later... but if i wanted to sleep, she was in her swing! LOL! But, Cribs are deffinately not bad! I couldn't stand seeing my little girl uncomfortable in her crib so she slept with a pillow... And she is Healthier than a horse! Nothing has ever happend to her in her sleep. But everybody has very different ways of caring for their children and you have to do what you think is good for your child... and you! ;)

Rosemary - posted on 01/27/2010

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my son slept in a bassinet in my room for the 1st 2 weeks. then i moved him to his room. at 2 months he started sleeping in a crib. i just wanted him to grow a little before putting him in a bigger bed. but its up to you. whatever you feel more comfortable with. plus it helped me because i had a c-section and it was easier to get to him in a bassinet compared to the railing on a crib.

Rebecca - posted on 01/27/2010

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I tried to put my daughter in her cot at night but found it much easier for her to sleep in my bed, she slept ALL night thru and i wasnt scared thinking she'd choke or woteva, she was right beside me!!

Ashley - posted on 01/27/2010

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with my son it was a basinet in my room till he got older then a crib in his room.. my daughter is in my room now so she sleeps in a crib..

Staska - posted on 01/27/2010

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My husband and I used a bassinet for the first 2-3 weeks. By 4 weeks, our son was sleeping in his crib. It really depends on your child and your persistence/patients with the transition process. We started by letting our son take his day naps in the bassinet and then put him to bed in his crib. Then we would rotate sleeping areas (crib, then bassinet, then crib...but always crib @ night). Just try different things....it will work out!

Mackenzie - posted on 01/27/2010

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you should get on the SIDS website . its very informative but it says that a baby should sleep in your room in a bassinet till they are 6 months and then go to a crib with a firm mattress with no blankets .

Brandi - posted on 01/27/2010

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both my kids have slept in bed with me and my husband i feel safer that way because i could wake up in the middle of the night to check if theyre breathing. and i also had a c section so it was alot easier for me.

Holly - posted on 01/27/2010

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my son wouldnt really sleep in the bassinet which i had next to my bed cuz i was nursing him. so what i did was use a swing for the first couple of weeks and that worked really good. he woke up 2-3 times during the nite and he went back to sleep. when my incision healed from my emergency c section he went to his crib and he slept all nite w/o wakin up.

Jovan - posted on 01/27/2010

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My son is now almost 7 weeks old and never slept in his bassinet. He HATED it. So we have always slept in his crib. Sometimes I do fall asleep w/him on the couch though just because he will hardly fall asleep in his crib by himself. Also they say to lay your baby on their back but my son wont fall asleep that way either so we lay him on his side and roll up a light blanket and put it in front of him so he wont roll onto his tummy. (Which he trys anyways). Good luck, try both if you want but in the end its more the baby who makes the final say.

Charlene - posted on 01/27/2010

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My son was the sameway....he wanted that closeness and the only thing he would sleep in for weeks was his little bouncy chair....He slept in his pack and play with the bassinet attachtment for the first 2 months and now he is in his own crib in his own room. Once in awhile I will bring him into our room to his pack and play especially when my husband is working overnights. He sleeps really well, I guess technically its considered through the night for a baby...generally 6-7 hrs but I'm guilty of bringing him into the bed with me after that. It's all preference but I love cuddling with him.

Angela - posted on 01/27/2010

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Its up to you what you feel best. I used both a bassinett and a crib. Until she was 1yrs of age and i tried putting her in a single bed. Did no harm to my 2 children

Cassondra - posted on 01/27/2010

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I had a problem with separation with my son. I put his bassinet by the bed. I chose it because it rocked and he had colic. Once he got about 2 months old I put him in his crib. He sleeps wonderfully now. It is truly your preference.

JoAnna - posted on 01/27/2010

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My daughter's father didnt want to buy a crib becuase his nephew died in 1,,,so my daughter had a bassinet but she didnt like it,,,then i tried to let her sleep in the bed with me & she didnt like it,,,,she would only sleep in my living room till she was 6 months old then she started sleeping in the bed with me i just dont know what imma do when i want her to sleep in her own bed since she is 1 now,,,,

Tarah - posted on 01/27/2010

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the risk of sids is not lower with co sleepers www.sidsandkids.org they recommend putting the baby in a cot or basinette next to the parents bed

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