which part of being a mom do you think is hard?

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Charity - posted on 11/01/2012

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Multi tasking multi tasks LOL I have a 4 year old and 11 month old twins and I could spend every second of the day picking up after my kids. I think it's hard to be expected to have everything in order all the time, some days it is impossible but you get looked down upon if it's not in order. It can be frustrating at times. I also feel as if I have lost friends after my twins but my family comes first.

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the hardest part about being a mom is working thru the fatigue My son is almost one, and there are days when i need his naps to last longer to try and catch up on sleep. At this age, they are ALL energy! But a few extra yawns and a cup of coffee makes it all better

Audrey - posted on 08/28/2009

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This might sound silly, but the hardest part for me is knowing that too soon, my kids will be all grown up and leaving me :( I just know I'll be one of those clingy moms who calls their kids everyday until they're 40!

Michelle - posted on 08/27/2009

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I think the hardest part depends on the day and the child. If your child is sick it is really hard to watch them be in pain and not be able to do anything about it. Sometimes it is just hard to be there for them everyday and give them all you can. Sometimes you just want to quit for a while and you can't. Being a mom is a full time every day commitment. I do get some me time, but that is not always enough when you are driving down the road and you have a head ache after a long day at work and the kids are fighting in the back seat. Good Luck and hang in there. It gets better when one of them snuggles up to you gives you a big hug and kiss and tells you they love you. Being a mom is one the most challenging, heart wrenching, loving, tiring, fulling jobs you can ever choose to do. It only lasts forever.

Susan - posted on 08/21/2009

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Am I doing enough for my kids or am I going to do something that my kids are going to hate me for (it goes threw your mind) because you or a person you know hated their parents for something that they did or said. I know when I was pregnant with my second child I cried (yes preg emotions) because I wanted my daughter not to be left out, to be pushed aside, and how can I love someone else as much as I love her.

Tawni - posted on 08/21/2009

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Quoting Kirstin:

When the father walks out and tells people that ask how his kids are that "he has his own life to live"
Men....


Amen... the hardest part of being a mom is doing it alone. But the way I look at it is I have the WAY better end of the deal... I have my son and his sperm donor will regret not knowing the amazing person my son is becoming!

Caitlyn - posted on 08/21/2009

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I had a very easy labor and delivery, and even afterwards he was a pretty great sleeper. It's now that he's 9 months old and always on the move that I'm having trouble not getting enough sleep. He's already skipping out on naps a lot of the time, and now that I've gone back to work after a few months, I'm even more exhausted. Coming home to a wound up, grumpy 9 month old isn't a whole lot of fun when you can hardly keep your eyes open.

Melissa - posted on 08/21/2009

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i think it's aweful when you need to have time for yourself, and the kids want to be with you. mine are so young, 2 and 1. they don't understand what it means to play w/out me. i want to be on the computer for once, or bead my jewelry. too difficult, nearly impossible. i've had many a frustrating moment like that.

Nicola - posted on 08/21/2009

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When their sick and theres not a lit you can do but give cuddles. Hate seeing my boy ill. And juggling everything from house work to shopping to attention to discipline, my boys 20mths old an started the terrible 2's early, dread when he is 2 an they kick in properly!!

Nicola - posted on 08/21/2009

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Quoting Stephanie:

As I was reading down the list of responses, I could relate to everyone's answers. Being a mom is hard work. I think the hardest part for me lately is doing the everyday mom things, and suffering a spouse who doesn't "get it" I'm not sure if anyone will understand that... but it's like you put all this work into it, and there is not reward. The reward you get you will only see when your children grow up to be good well-rounded people.
Sometimes I think it would be easier to be a single mom...


I totlay understand, and i too feel it would be easier to be a single mum, we do all the work and get no rewards for it execpt for as you said see our children grow up to be well rounded people. for ever telling spouse not to do that dont wind him up, dont shout at him he's a baby. I sometimes wonder who the child is!!!!


Most us mums get no days off, no lie in's, unless we kick our spouse out of bed and no sick days we just gotta keep going no matter what.  Being a mum is hard all round but i enjoy every minute of it although a day off now and again is nice.


 

Jamie - posted on 08/21/2009

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Hi there.. the most difficult thing I have come across is dealing with tween issues. Things are more different now then when I was a tween... any advice?

Emilisa - posted on 08/21/2009

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For me, the hardest part of being a mom is that when you see your child crying out loud whenever she's in pain of something, you need to be strong for her not to see you cry just for her to be STRONG.

Emilisa - posted on 08/21/2009

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For me, the hardest part of being a mom is that when you see your child crying out loud whenever she's in pain of something, you need to be strong for her not to see you cry just for her to be STRONG.

Leilani - posted on 08/21/2009

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the hardest part for me is the time that u cannot do anything to take care of ur children personally because u have to work abroad for them

Cheryl - posted on 08/21/2009

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The hardest part is the everyday battles. My daughter has had a stubborn case of escema for 2 years now, and nothing is harder then going into her room some mornings and finding the sheets covered in blood. To know that in 110 degree weather she has to have tights or socks in order to stop her from scratching. I don't know if there's anything worse then sitting, helpless to a child's need to scratch until she bleeds, and then keep scratching.

Crystal - posted on 08/21/2009

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i would agree that its hard with your child is sick. my almost two year old is right up my butt when hes sick and i cant get anything done. But for me the 9months a carring him was the worst. i had all kinds of problems with my back but he was healthy so everything turned out ok

Cynthia - posted on 08/21/2009

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Quoting Sharice:

I think that the hardest part of being a mom is the discipline. I know that you have to teach your children right from wrong, and what to do and not to do, but sometimes when they do something wrong you have to let them know that the reason why they are being punished is because they didn't do what they were told, but let them know that you still love them, that's what I do with my son. I know he may not like it when he gets in trouble, but I'm not trying to raise a child who is going to be rebellious, so the discipline has to be taught.


u are so right ...........

Cynthia - posted on 08/21/2009

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the part were u do it all alone and ur baby daddy doest help.................he thinks u can handle it alone

Sharice - posted on 08/21/2009

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I think that the hardest part of being a mom is the discipline. I know that you have to teach your children right from wrong, and what to do and not to do, but sometimes when they do something wrong you have to let them know that the reason why they are being punished is because they didn't do what they were told, but let them know that you still love them, that's what I do with my son. I know he may not like it when he gets in trouble, but I'm not trying to raise a child who is going to be rebellious, so the discipline has to be taught.

Tiffanylee - posted on 08/21/2009

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i have a problem seeing my little one get shots. i also hate when he screams like he is in pain and there is nothing i can do. i kills me everytime!!!

Meagan - posted on 08/21/2009

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Being a young mom is hard enough- but having to juggle goals for yourself and the family is very hard. When you work around people who do not understand what it is like to be a mother, who works and goes to school it makes your life seem hard, but it is all do-able

Jessoliver87 - posted on 08/21/2009

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Being a single mum. It's incredibly lonely :( I don't have many friends left anymore (a lot of the 'friends' I did have never agreed with me having my son in the first place), and not many of the friends I do have left actually have kids. It's also hard when he can't communicate to me whats wrong when he's upset or in pain because I don't know exactly what I can do to help him. I've sacrificed a lot for my son. But in saying that he's the best thing thats ever happened to me! He's made me realise what I want to do in life - I want to get into paediatric nursing and midwifery.

Tanya - posted on 08/21/2009

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so far at 12 weeks old i think taking her shopping is the hardest, groceries, pram, other people...it ends up being exhausting!

Michelle - posted on 08/20/2009

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I think it's all hard, but in a good way. You have the labor, ouch and then you look at them for the first time and love them so much it hurts. Watching them learn to walk and seeing them fall, growing too fast, learning to speak and communicate more with others because they think you're boring, going to school and watching them leave...knowing it's just going to keep happening because that's how life is and you need to let them go to learn and live. Watching them go through their first broken heart, watching them get married....



I haven't done the last two yet, but I can only imagine. I love the saying 'Love Hurts'. Not from a broken heart, but because you love someone so much it hurts and that's how I feel about my kids. It's not a bad hurt, but it does make your heart ache for when they were a newborn and fully dependant on you. :)

Emma - posted on 08/20/2009

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Hearing Nikki in pain like when she has her immunisations or wind and knowing I can't do anything to help, it's heartbreaking. Nothing a hug won't help.

Beth - posted on 08/20/2009

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Not a lot is easy about being a mom, it's extremely demanding, exhausting, sometimes unrewarding, and occassionally frustrating...but it's so worth it at the end of the day when your little one looks up at you and tells you he loves you!

Beth - posted on 08/20/2009

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Not a lot is easy about being a mom, it's extremely demanding, exhausting, sometimes unrewarding, and occassionally frustrating...but it's so worth it at the end of the day when your little one looks up at you and tells you he loves you!

Sabrina - posted on 08/20/2009

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The hardest part for me being a mom is when you there is something that you just can't do for you little one. My 3 year old has suffered from moderate-severe eczema since she was about 6 months old and no matter what we do it won't go away. Luckily now it is under control, not perfect, but manageable. However this is nothing to when she gets a migraine, yes my 3 year old gets a migraine and the pain is so bad it drops her to knees. This is the worst for me cause the only thing I can do is hold her and rub her head till she can fall asleep.



Doing everything in my power and more and it still not being enough to help one of my daughters is the hardest thing ever.

Toni - posted on 08/20/2009

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always worring about the future, about their safety. There are so many bad things in this world and i worry about them all constantly because i love my kids and i want to protect them from everything, even when i know i cant protect them from everything always and forever.

Alisha - posted on 08/20/2009

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I would have to say them being sick. Its the hardest for me, seeing my children sick just hurts cuz u can help them feel better, they ahve to beat it on their own. I find that there are other challanges in being a mom but its like with anything you do.

Mindy - posted on 08/20/2009

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everything, have to get everything you need to do done in one day. plus make sure my timmy is getting enough mommy time.

Crystal - posted on 08/20/2009

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hi, the hardest part for me is trying to give attention to my 18 month old and 2 1/2 month old at the same time lol

Courtney - posted on 08/19/2009

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having a HUGE amount of patience for them when they hit the terrible 2's. I'm currently going through this and it's def. not easy. Also, durring this time make sure to put ur foot down and dont let them walk all over you. its best they know this from an early age!

Emily - posted on 08/19/2009

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Roland's only six weeks old, but the hardest part so far is when he's upset and crying (and/or screaming) even though he's fed, changed, etc. It's all a learning process, I figure, and luckily his dad is awesome :D

Amber - posted on 08/19/2009

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Being the one who has to give up things because the other half doesn't want to help as much with the baby.



Not having Mommy alone time because of the above mentioned statement. His grandma takes him so I can have mommy alone time.

Serena - posted on 08/19/2009

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I think the most dificult part of motherhood, is when your daughter starts to become a preteen.....

Marilyn - posted on 08/19/2009

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Hey ladies, i think my biggest challenge in my parenting is second guessing myself which I do often I am a young mother and as we all know the responsability of a raising a future adult is a big task. I look around and talk to other mothers about what they went through as children and most will say that our biggest concern is how our children will be affected by what we do today...

Katie - posted on 08/19/2009

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The hardest part for me is going to work everyday and having to leave her in daycare! I'd love to be able to stay home full time with her b/c she is AWESOME!!

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Quoting Natalie:

Being divorced and having to hear your son call his step mom, MOMMA....It's absolutely heartbreaking!!!



I feel for you, its really heartbreaking to see a loved one go through that, my partner's daughter is being encouraged by her Mum to call her partner Dad.



My partner is paying child support etc but his daughter is being told that my partner is not her Daddy.

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Quoting Natalie:

Being divorced and having to hear your son call his step mom, MOMMA....It's absolutely heartbreaking!!!



I feel for you, its really heartbreaking to see a loved one go through that, my partner's daughter is being encouraged by her Mum to call her partner Dad.



My partner is paying child support etc but his daughter is being told that my partner is not her Daddy.

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Quoting Natalie:

Being divorced and having to hear your son call his step mom, MOMMA....It's absolutely heartbreaking!!!



I feel for you, its really heartbreaking to see a loved one go through that, my partner's daughter is being encouraged by her Mum to call her partner Dad.



My partner is paying child support etc but his daughter is being told that my partner is not her Daddy.

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Quoting Natalie:

Being divorced and having to hear your son call his step mom, MOMMA....It's absolutely heartbreaking!!!



I feel for you, its really heartbreaking to see a loved one go through that, my partner's daughter is being encouraged by her Mum to call her partner Dad.



My partner is paying child support etc but his daughter is being told that my partner is not her Daddy.

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Quoting Natalie:

Being divorced and having to hear your son call his step mom, MOMMA....It's absolutely heartbreaking!!!



I feel for you, its really heartbreaking to see a loved one go through that, my partner's daughter is being encouraged by her Mum to call her partner Dad.



My partner is paying child support etc but his daughter is being told that my partner is not her Daddy.

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