why am i being made to feel like a bad mum because i dont breastfeed?

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I have never let it bother me that i dont breastfeed my son, but recently i have been noticing comments to make me feel bad! this is not right, my son loves the bottle and i have had no problems with him what so ever, unlike some of the breastfeeding mothers on here!

Wether that is because i find motherhood easier than others or not but everything always has to come down to brestfeeding, its not all its cracked upto be!

Is there any other bottle feeding mothers out there that feel they get looked down on for bottle feeding??

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Candie - posted on 03/31/2009

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i bottle fed both of mu children and i dont regret at all, dont let it bother you ignore the comments. you shouldnt be looked down on that for bottlefeeding everyone gets to make there one decisions we both did and we both chose the bottle and everyone i know bottle fed there babies and even my mum bottle fedme my brother and my sisters dont worry about it

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Quoting Lyndsay:

I have to say that what pisses me off is when people LIE about trying to breastfeed. It's not something you do one time in the hospital and say, you didn't have milk (no one has flowing milk that early, just colostrum). Just tell the truth and say you just don't want to do it instead of pretending you "tried" and it didn't work. I'd like to hear more people admit that they bottlefed because it was easier.



I've always thought that as well. I know lots of girls who use that excuse "I tried in the hospital but It didn't work" I bottle fed my baby and yes, I did it because I liked it better. For some reason I never felt that 'drive' to breastfeed, but I would not have done so if I really thought I was going to make my baby unhealthy! If a mother is very healthy herself and not eating foods full of their own contaminents, preservatives and other chemicles (which is most foods out there), has no deficiency in any vitamins (which most people do) then sure breast milk would be perfect! That isn't exactly how things work though, and besides breastmilk being easier for baby to digest it really isn't that "superior" to formula unless a mothers health is in perfect balance. There are also so many other factors that play into a childs health other then just breast vs bottle, like the foods you feed them when they start eating, ect. I know a few girls who have exclusivly breastfed and they have babies who are sick all the time! No one should be critisized for their choice or  looked down upon. Breast or bottle is only 1 small factor that will determine your childs health and intelligence for the rest of their life.

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I have to say that what pisses me off is when people LIE about trying to breastfeed. It's not something you do one time in the hospital and say, you didn't have milk (no one has flowing milk that early, just colostrum). Just tell the truth and say you just don't want to do it instead of pretending you "tried" and it didn't work. I'd like to hear more people admit that they bottlefed because it was easier.

Morag - posted on 03/25/2009

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Right... so far I am psychologically damaging my child, not giving her enough nutrition, damaging her relationship with her father, making her clingy, not allowing her to sleep through the night, I can't handle her normally where tantrums are concerned or if she hurts herself, teaching her about sex, poisoning her with harmful contaminants I've come into contact with.... oh yer... and I'm an exclusive breastfeeder :) not a bottle in site and I'm a horrific parent apparently.

Sadly you are going to have to grow a thick skin and get over it. Sorry if it sounds harsh but its true. You are NEVER going to do right by other people, but thats OK because its not their problem, its yours and if you don't see a problem with what you do then there is no problem. You will receive flack from everyone over your parenting decisions regardless of what you do and there will be decisions that you make that WILL be the wrong decision (I'm talking in general here) and you will feel guilty and people will say "I told you so!". But you know what? I've yet to meet a perfect parent who hasn't messed something up at some point, or who will do ;) And I've yet to meet a kid who hasn't been messed up by their parents choices in upbringing in some way ;)

I would always encourage mothers to try and breastfeed. It is proven to be (currently) a better food to formula, it is a fact you can't change, but its not always possible and you can breastfeed all you want, but if you end up then feeding your kid junk food everyday, those health benefits vanish. Being a good parent isn't determined by your decision to breastfeed, being a good parent is determined by your ability to raise a caring, independent, good human being, who treats others with humility and love.

If you can achieve that, then you can never say you were a bad parent :)

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I am a breastfeeding mom and I think its great that you're doing whats best for you and your baby. I just finished reading a book called Perfect Madness by Judith Warner that is about how the united states seems to have a different type of mother. We are made to feel guilty about the choices we make in motherhood no matter what. Whether it be staying at home or going to work, breastfeeding or bottle, going out with friends or not having alife outside of your children. Other countries arent like that. As long as you are doing what is best for your family dont feel guilty!! Your baby looks beautiful and healthy, keep your head up!

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Jennifer - posted on 04/10/2009

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I bottle fed my now 6 year old and she hasn't had hardly any major problems like the upper respiratory or the ear infections near as bad as one of my friends who breast fed her children

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Hi Lauren,

When I was pregnant with my son, I heard all types of horror stories about breastfeeding, so I ended up bottle feeding him. With my daughter, I got the same stories, but I had made up my mind that I was going to at least try it....and I ended up loving it. I have such a stronger bond with her than I ever did with my son. I am not saying these things because I think you are a bad mom because you chose not to breastfeed. I am telling you this, because I have been in your shoes. When I bottlefed my son, everyone called me an idiot without really saying it. Then, when I began breastfeeding my daughter, everyone thought that is must be the most horrible, embarrasing thing that I could do to myself. The moral of the story I guess is that only you can know what is right for your baby and YOU. Keep your chin up...these people will find something else tomorrow that you don't do to their liking. Believe me....I have a mother in law that never lets me forget i'm not a perfect mother. :) Hope it has at least lifted your spirits.

Jaime-Lynne - posted on 04/10/2009

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I bottlefed my 1st son because that's what he got first while he was in the NICU, and he liked that better, I breastfed my 2nd son ( still am ) and they both have their pros and cons, but nobody should make anybody else feel like sh*t about a choice that's theirs to make.. people really need to stop judging other people and focus on themselves.

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I breastfed my first daughter for a month and then she went to formula. I also got alot of flack just from my own mother, and I felt like a horrible mother for putting her on formula. Now looking back, I can see that I just gave up. B/c breastfeeding is very trying at times, you can have alot of challanges, which makes it hard. Having said that you also can be so stressed out about it that it just make everything worse, less milk production, sore nipples, etc. So in MY OPINION, I think there are SOME mothers who give up to quickley and I was one of them.  I have heard some women say well I just didn't have enough milk. I don't believe that to be true, the only way you can produce milk is to have your baby suck, and it does get tiring, and you have to consume soooo much water, but you have to weight the good.  I understand that some mothers just don't want to nurse or have to go back to work, and thats just there choice and it's an ok choice if thats what you choose. I just know when I had my second child that I took bf on a whole new level, I was more open minded, I was determined, and I was relaxed and that's one of the best ways to keep your milk production up as well. So, I guess my point is that it's fine to formula feed, they obviously make it for a reason. I do of course think breastmilk is the best, but I think everyone already knows that. I just want more mothers to realize that though nursing is very demanding and trying at times,  it is worth the first few struggles you may have, and it doesn't have to be that hard. I just learned this though my own experenice. If mothers want to formula feed than thats choice, nobody should say that your a bad mother for doing so.



 



Ok I didn't realise that I had already posted on this thread....lol. Sorry I have short term memory loss, my bad.





 

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I breastfed my first daughter for a month and then she went to formula. I also got alot of flack just from my own mother, and I felt like a horrible mother for putting her on formula. Now looking back, I can see that I just gave up. B/c breastfeeding is very trying at times, you can have alot of challanges, which makes it hard. Having said that you also can be so stressed out about it that it just make everything worse, less milk production, sore nipples, etc. So in MY OPINION, I think there are SOME mothers who give up to quickley and I was one of them.  I have heard some women say well I just didn't have enough milk. I don't believe that to be true, the only way you can produce milk is to have your baby suck, and it does get tiring, and you have to consume soooo much water, but you have to weight the good.  I understand that some mothers just don't want to nurse or have to go back to work, and thats just there choice and it's an ok choice if thats what you choose. I just know when I had my second child that I took bf on a whole new level, I was more open minded, I was determined, and I was relaxed and that's one of the best ways to keep your milk production up as well. So, I guess my point is that it's fine to formula feed, they obviously make it for a reason. I do of course think breastmilk is the best, but I think everyone already knows that. I just want more mothers to realize that though nursing is very demanding and trying at times,  it is worth the first few struggles you may have, and it doesn't have to be that hard. I just learned this though my own experenice. If mothers want to formula feed than thats choice, nobody should say that your a bad mother for doing so.

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Don't feel bad, breatfeeding doesn't work out for everyone. I had planned to breastfeed but everything worked against it. My Son had to go to ICU for observation after he was born and they gave him a bottle instead of letting me breastfeed as I had wanted, so the first thing he got was a bottle. Then my milk was 3 days late coming fully in so he needed to be suplimented with bottles until I could produce enough. By the time that happened he had figured out the bottle was easier and it was a battle to get him to latch and stay latched. Then came the absolute exaughtion and a touch of post partum depression. After a month of that it was a very simple choice a) Continue to wake up all hours of the day and night to fight with him to breastfeed OR b) Switch to the bottle, let him eat his fill and both him and I sleep through the night.

Obviously I went with b) because it was more important that we were both well rested so I could get over the post partum and be in a headspace I could care for him without crying daily.

If you want something that makes people look down on you say post partum! Suddenly everyone looks at you like a monster who is going to strap your kid in their carseat and roll them into a lake. Thankfully I recognized it, got help, made the choice to switch my son completely over to the bottle, and recovered :)

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Don't feel bad, breatfeeding doesn't work out for everyone. I had planned to breastfeed but everything worked against it. My Son had to go to ICU for observation after he was born and they gave him a bottle instead of letting me breastfeed as I had wanted, so the first thing he got was a bottle. Then my milk was 3 days late coming fully in so he needed to be suplimented with bottles until I could produce enough. By the time that happened he had figured out the bottle was easier and it was a battle to get him to latch and stay latched. Then came the absolute exaughtion and a touch of post partum depression. After a month of that it was a very simple choice a) Continue to wake up all hours of the day and night to fight with him to breastfeed OR b) Switch to the bottle, let him eat his fill and both him and I sleep through the night.

Obviously I went with b) because it was more important that we were both well rested so I could get over the post partum and be in a headspace I could care for him without crying daily.

If you want something that makes people look down on you say post partum! Suddenly everyone looks at you like a monster who is going to strap your kid in their carseat and roll them into a lake. Thankfully I recognized it, got help, made the choice to switch my son completely over to the bottle, and recovered :)

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I had alot of trouble trying to breast feed with both of my kids. I lasted about a week. Dont feel bad for bottle feeding the formulas they have are great these days and at least you know your baby is getting all the nutrients he needs. Dont let judgemental people upset you you sound like a great mum :-)

Emma - posted on 04/10/2009

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I had planned to feed my son, first 3 days was great then my milk come in and my nipples got inverted (I think thats the term) I was forced to use nipple shields which after a week of persavering left my nipples cracked and sore. I even tried expressing till my nipples bled, so many people put their 'two bobs' in and told me to keep going but i was physically and mentally exhusted. Put him on the bottle and he started to sleep, for me the bottle was the best thing I ever done. I was made to feel like a neglagent mother, it even caused baby blues for a while. With my next I will try feeding again but will not hesitate to put baby on the bottle just because its what expected.

Emma - posted on 04/10/2009

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I had planned to feed my son, first 3 days was great then my milk come in and my nipples got inverted (I think thats the term) I was forced to use nipple shields which after a week of persavering left my nipples cracked and sore. I even tried expressing till my nipples bled, so many people put their 'two bobs' in and told me to keep going but i was physically and mentally exhusted. Put him on the bottle and he started to sleep, for me the bottle was the best thing I ever done. I was made to feel like a neglagent mother, it even caused baby blues for a while. With my next I will try feeding again but will not hesitate to put baby on the bottle just because its what expected.

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Quoting Lyndsay:

I have to say that what pisses me off is when people LIE about trying to breastfeed. It's not something you do one time in the hospital and say, you didn't have milk (no one has flowing milk that early, just colostrum). Just tell the truth and say you just don't want to do it instead of pretending you "tried" and it didn't work. I'd like to hear more people admit that they bottlefed because it was easier.


 

Laura Ann - posted on 04/10/2009

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hiya, im 35 week's pregnant & the midwife's really want me 2 breast feed but i dnt feal like i want 2 do it, i no its gd 4 the baby but that's the only reason i wud do it. i have 2 other children & i did'nt breast feed them, im just really confused about the situation, i want 2 bottle feed cuz its never been a problem with my other kids,so im stuck on wot 2 do. x

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I Can Relate To How you feel! I am 20 yrs old, i have a 2 Month old baby boy, I wanted to breastfeed  him, that was my plan! but he was too big and ate too much, i wasnt able to produce enough milk, so he is on formula and feels like some of my family & friends dont agree! Thanx for sharing, It sure helps to know i am Not the only one who feels this way! =]*

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Quoting Holly:

Well, I obviously put the wrong emphasis on it. This statement is what I would like people to think about.

"I think that many of the problems have to do with a lack of education about breastfeeding in our country. Breastfeeding shouldn't be difficult and problems such as poor latch or thinking the baby is not getting enough milk wouldn't occur if we and our health-care professionals were educated enough about breastfeeding."

The point I am trying to make there is that most women who "can't" breastfeed really could if they and their doctors had enough knowledge. For instance, many women start giving a supplementary bottle of formula because they believe that they aren't producing enough milk to feed their baby. Since breastmilk functions on a supply and demand basis giving a supplementary bottle actually does decrease the amount of milk a woman produces until she actually isn't producing enough. With education this whole problem could dissapear.

I just feel sad that our society has made bottle-feeding more convenient. It really shouldn't be since breastmilk is the "carry anywhere" food. The whole reason bottlefeeding becomes more convenient is because of societal stigma against breastfeeding and a lack of education, even among, professionals as to how to make breastfeeding work.





Is this really necessary?  I mean, you act like you don't believe that someone could actually NOT breastfeed, it's all just a long line of excuses to justify bottle feeding.  The undercurrent of your message is that moms who don't breastfeed are quitters.  That's a bunch of crap.  I tried to breastfeed.  After 5 days, my pediatrician insisted that I supplement with formula because my newborn lost a pound in 5 days.  So, obviously, I was not producing enough milk.  I took medication to help my milk come in, I pumped, I fed her formula with a syringe so she wouldn't have nipple confusion, and breastfed her before and after the formula.  And yes, it probably did affect my milk supply, but what was I supposed to do, let my baby starve?  My milk never came in.  I never got engorged, I never had let down.  When I pumped, I got about 8 drops of breastmilk from each breast.  I tried all of this for over a month and I finally gave up because I was making myself and my baby miserable.  There are people out there that actually cannot breastfeed.  Enough with the making moms feel bad for not breastfeeding and then insinuating that formula is bad for your baby.  What am I supposed to do, get a second job to pay for the donor breast milk that costs $4.00 an ounce? 






I don't think it matters how you feed your child, as long as it comes from a place of love. 



 



 



 



 



Okay there are a variety of medical reasons why some women can not breastfeed, My son had a perfect latch and we did great right through until we both got an infection. His skin started peeling away as did mine and each time I pushed myself to breastfeed him he swallowed about as much blood as breast milk, It was excruciating, unhealthy, and frustrating for both of us until finally we switched to bottle on the doctors orders so that we could treat the infection. It's gross but if people are being misinformed they need to realise there is a point in certain circumstances where breastfeeding is more detrimental to the child than formula. The infection cleared up and I had the choice to struggle to get him back on the breast, one thing I noticed though: his weight was up, his energy level was back to normal, his iron levels were healthy, and his jaundice was gone so I decided he was obviously better for having the bottle. BTW the best feeding time bonding is Painless and Calming and we didn't get that until he was on the bottle. It's good to put out what you know is fact but don't overlook certain things just because they dont fit into your opinion, some women CAN'T breastfeed for reasons that are beyond their control. Thats just a fact and it has nothing to do with convenience.



 





 

Teryn - posted on 03/31/2009

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... I'm reading some other responses and it makes me laugh. Haven't any of you heard of "Wet Nurses" there ARE people in this world who have trouble breast feeding and those who don't... it's just as subjective as those who are able to have children and those who can't... It's just a fact of life... so judging people and saying that breastfeeding shouldn't be that difficult is wrong.. you don't know what they've been through and what they've suffered and what their body is doing...Science is NOT an exact science and people are not all the same and work the same. ;)

Just thought I'd add that.

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It's a choice, and it's not a good or bad one, it's just a choice.

I breastfed both my sons but only for 3 months. My first son I had to stop because the stress of my job made my milk almost disappear no matter how often I pumped...

With my second son, I made the choice to stop because I was going to go back to work and didn't want the stress of it all again.



So I did, but I was also quick to go back to the bottle.



It's a choice, for those who have the luxury to sit around at home and take care of their babies then breastfeeding is great. For those who have stressful lives and need a more convenient way of managing things, the bottle is great.



Either way, you baby is getting food and is being held and feels loved. No choice is wrong. I firmly believe that.

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I also work and pump so others can feed her too so that helps when I work. great job for all of u who REALLY tried it CAN be hard at first and sometimes doesn't work out and thats ok. You will find some VERY opinionated people when you start talking about Breastfeeding, Cloth diapers, Midwives, Vaccines,home births,organic food,working moms,childcare,and various other things. people do what they feel strongly about and I think if your decision is based on real facts not what people tell you then you can't go wrong.Breastfeeding can be inconvient when in public but it is also nice cause its always right there and the right temp. I wish everyone would and could bf but I know from personal exp. how hard it is to keep going honestly the 1st time I was so glad my milk dried up cause I was so done with it but proud I made it that far. Before you have a baby educate YOURSELF on bf and the facts like less than 1% of women don't produce enough milk. not all babies latch properly right away and that causes most problems and painful but when you have support and proper help it can work most times. oh and I guess my last thing is stop calling it bottlefeeding cause I bottle feed but with breast milk its formula feeding I know splitting hairs. But every assumes in order to bf you have to actually latch child to breast when you can pump and bottlefeed if that suits you better. Also everyone thinks they know best which is not always the case obviously. So you did what you think was best for all of you and thats it.

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I breastfed my 1st one for 4mths milk dried up and didn't really like it but knew it was the best thing for my baby and me health wise. My 2nd I really enjoy it and it was hard in the beginning and she is almost 3 mths no sign of quitting yet. I feel bad that you feel bad but I do tend to think less of a mother who COULD bf and didn't as there are studies to show how good it is for you and your baby so how could someone not want to do the best for their child. But on the other hand if you tried and I mean truely tried which can take weeks not days and you just for some reason couldn't then you did your best. For me too formula is expensive and I don't expect the gov't to pay for formula cause I am uncomfortable. You can pump too if the whole nursing thing weirds you out. Either way it is a personal choice and as for your baby being healthy that is great. It is more likely though that none bf babies have more illnesses and allergies and that is pure facts. You made the choice so for whatever reason stand by it and who cares what others think its YOUR choice.Glad your baby is doing good that is all anyone hopes for.

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I breastfed my 1st one for 4mths milk dried up and didn't really like it but knew it was the best thing for my baby and me health wise. My 2nd I really enjoy it and it was hard in the beginning and she is almost 3 mths no sign of quitting yet. I feel bad that you feel bad but I do tend to think less of a mother who COULD bf and didn't as there are studies to show how good it is for you and your baby so how could someone not want to do the best for their child. But on the other hand if you tried and I mean truely tried which can take weeks not days and you just for some reason couldn't then you did your best. For me too formula is expensive and I don't expect the gov't to pay for formula cause I am uncomfortable. You can pump too if the whole nursing thing weirds you out. Either way it is a personal choice and as for your baby being healthy that is great. It is more likely though that none bf babies have more illnesses and allergies and that is pure facts. You made the choice so for whatever reason stand by it and who cares what others think its YOUR choice.Glad your baby is doing good that is all anyone hopes for.

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You shouldn't feel bad about feeding you baby formula. I tried nursing my first and after a month went to formula,. Then with my second I nursed until he was one.  Yeah I feel bad for not hanging in there with my first and breastfeeding her until she was one. But, that's life and I made that decision, and it is what it is. I do think breastmilk is better for them, of course it is its all natural, but that doesn't make formula bad either. That's obviously why they made it, so mother's had other alternatives. I don't think any child is going to look back and say 'mom why didn't you breastfeed" they love you either way. I actually think my second child who I breastfed is more prone to ear aches, b/c he has gotton a few. Where my first child has never had an ear ache. Now that won't stop me from nursing another baby if I have one, but I think you can have a healthy child either way. Yeah studies show that breastmilk is the best, but it DOESN'T make you a bad mom if you use formula. I just say ignore people you judge you b/c of this, it's really none of their business.

Anna - posted on 03/31/2009

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My son is bottle fed as well, I just think all those breast feeding moms who judge us are jealous that I can just have anyone feed my son if I need to get something done..they can't exactly pass over a boob ha ha the freedom a bottle gives me is worth it, 100 times over

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Hi Lauren, I had my first baby 6 weeks ago and started out breast feeding because i was told that it was best for the baby. I had alot of problems. She made both my nipples bleed and blister. I was made to feel like a bad mother ta the hospital by some of the staff. Now that i bottle feed she is happier and more content than she was breast feeding. I think its wrong for people to judge that don't know your situation but on the other hand if they can breast feed no problems good for them.

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Wow, I cannot believe how bitchy some of these women can be! Seriously, can't we all just get along or at least keep rude, nasty comments to yourself!



I tried for two weeks to breastfeed my daughter, I tried everything to make it work, I was even using a hospital grade breastpump and pumping ever two hours around the clock. My nipples were bleeding and I was miserable so my husband and I made the decision to give her formula. I was devastated that I could not breastfeed her but it just wasn't working. I will definitely try again with our next baby, but if it doesn't work then at least I will know I gave it my best try. There are plenty of other ways to be close to your baby.

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Wow, I cannot believe how bitchy some of these women can be! Seriously, can't we all just get along or at least keep rude, nasty comments to yourself!



I tried for two weeks to breastfeed my daughter, I tried everything to make it work, I was even using a hospital grade breastpump and pumping ever two hours around the clock. My nipples were bleeding and I was miserable so my husband and I made the decision to give her formula. I was devastated that I could not breastfeed her but it just wasn't working. I will definitely try again with our next baby, but if it doesn't work then at least I will know I gave it my best try. There are plenty of other ways to be close to your baby.

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Bottle feeding is great it doesnt matter what you choose its what make life easier for you and your baby ! I breastfeed but i would bottle feed and not feel guilty if i didnt want to breast feed. I think that people like to tell you what to do when you have kids but all that i think that matters is what works for you and your baby . they are not the one up at night taking care of them or putting them to sleep or playing with them or feeding them . So you do what works and dont feel bad about it!!!

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Quoting Holly:



Quoting Sara:




Quoting Holly:

Well, I obviously put the wrong emphasis on it. This statement is what I would like people to think about.

"I think that many of the problems have to do with a lack of education about breastfeeding in our country. Breastfeeding shouldn't be difficult and problems such as poor latch or thinking the baby is not getting enough milk wouldn't occur if we and our health-care professionals were educated enough about breastfeeding."

The point I am trying to make there is that most women who "can't" breastfeed really could if they and their doctors had enough knowledge. For instance, many women start giving a supplementary bottle of formula because they believe that they aren't producing enough milk to feed their baby. Since breastmilk functions on a supply and demand basis giving a supplementary bottle actually does decrease the amount of milk a woman produces until she actually isn't producing enough. With education this whole problem could dissapear.

I just feel sad that our society has made bottle-feeding more convenient. It really shouldn't be since breastmilk is the "carry anywhere" food. The whole reason bottlefeeding becomes more convenient is because of societal stigma against breastfeeding and a lack of education, even among, professionals as to how to make breastfeeding work.







Is this really necessary?  I mean, you act like you don't believe that someone could actually NOT breastfeed, it's all just a long line of excuses to justify bottle feeding.  The undercurrent of your message is that moms who don't breastfeed are quitters.  That's a bunch of crap.  I tried to breastfeed.  After 5 days, my pediatrician insisted that I supplement with formula because my newborn lost a pound in 5 days.  So, obviously, I was not producing enough milk.  I took medication to help my milk come in, I pumped, I fed her formula with a syringe so she wouldn't have nipple confusion, and breastfed her before and after the formula.  And yes, it probably did affect my milk supply, but what was I supposed to do, let my baby starve?  My milk never came in.  I never got engorged, I never had let down.  When I pumped, I got about 8 drops of breastmilk from each breast.  I tried all of this for over a month and I finally gave up because I was making myself and my baby miserable.  There are people out there that actually cannot breastfeed.  Enough with the making moms feel bad for not breastfeeding and then insinuating that formula is bad for your baby.  What am I supposed to do, get a second job to pay for the donor breast milk that costs $4.00 an ounce? 








I don't think it matters how you feed your child, as long as it comes from a place of love. 








 









 






 






I'm not calling mom's who bottlefeed quitters. My main point is that breastfeeding shouldn't be this difficult. Situations like yours wouldn't happen if healthcare professionals knew more about how to make breastfeeding work. Your doctor's suggestions made sure that you would NEVER produce enough milk & made sure that you could not breastfeed. A healthcare professional who was well-educated about breastfeeding would have been able to give you suggestions that would have improved your milk supply and had your baby gaining weight while breastfeeding.






 






To tell you the truth, if this had happened to me I would have quit also. When I had a similar situation with my younger child I was lucky and my doctor referred my to a lactation consultant who helped me work on her latch and measured her weekly. That's the thing though, we shouldn't have to get lucky to make breastfeeding work, all healthcare providers should have the knowledge to advise us on how to breastfeed sucessfully.






It wasn't that my doctor was uneducated.  I saw 3 lactation consultants that work at my doctor's office.  It wasn't their fault either because they didn't know what they were talking about, it just didn't work out.

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I didn't want to breastfeed because I already had my two stepkids who were 6 and 7 that I stay at home with and did not want to have to look up from homework and see my breast out. My mother-in-law even tried to convience me to breastfeed. My mom was not able to breastfeed and a friend of ours had to stop early because her son was eating too much. I had a lot of people say that I should breastfeed and how dare you give your kid formula, but he turned out to be one of the healthiest babies our doctor has ever seen. I was also able to get more rest because my husband was able to feed him for me. I was able to do alot more alot sooner and was back to my normal routine in two weeks that included walking 4 miles a day taking the kids to and from school. Don't let the comments get to you, you need to do what is best for you breast milk is not always the best thing a baby can have.

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I, too am a bottle feeder!! And I never got any flak about it until I joined COM!! I never had strangers come up to me and my family was all very supportive. It was best for me and my daughter to bottlefeed. I tried to breastfeed but I didn't like it and had a hard time. (yes, I said I didn't like it!! Bring on your negative comments, I've heard them here before!!)

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I don't care how you're feeding your child, as long as it's the appropriate thing and your child is healthy and happy. I've read countless stories of women who tried to breast feed and had problems, and ultimately went to the bottle. I've read stories of women who have successfully breast fed their child. In the end, it's about the health and happiness of the child and the happiness of the mother. 



That being said, giving your child formula is NOT the same as smoking while pregnant. You can't compare one to the other, and it bothers me when people do. I agree there should  be education and support about breast feeding; however, if a woman is unable or chooses not to do so, it's their decision and if they're baby is healthy, that's all that matters. 



In the end, we make lots of decisions that work out the best for one and not the other, we should support each other, not make people feel like stool samples for whatever decision they choose.



So if you breast feed, feel comfortable whipping out the girls to feed your baby in public, do so. If you feed your child formula, feed your baby formula. If you express milk, do that. 



In the end, I think the internet can be a determent rather than a helpful tool for women at times, because it compounds whatever guilt they feel over a decision that's not 'popular' or 'widely accepted'. It annoys me. I know I'm being ironic, but there's a time to receive helpful advice, and there's a time to realize that what you're doing is okay as long as your baby is happy. 

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i formula feed my daughter and i had problems with people telling me that its not good for her i just told them she is my daughter not yours and i will raise her my way!

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Quoting Holly:

Ok, I'm going to do something unprecedented. It was unfair of me to make a statement that sounded like I was saying that bottlefeeding is as bad as smoking. That was not what I meant it to come across as. I do believe that bottlefeeding is bad for children but more than anything I think that it's just sad how difficult it is to sucessfully breastfeed. We have no real support systems for it in this country.


ok. you are probably the most ignorant person i have encountered in my life. first of all, i wont disagree that breast milk is better in a lot of way for babies. notice how i said a lot of ways not ALL ways. when my son was born he would not latch on. when he was born he had the cord wrapped around his neck and it was over an hour before i was even able to hold him. he was so upset, frustrated and exhausted that i couldnt get him to latch on. every time i tried to put him to my breast he would scream and push it away and start flailing his body. i was NOT going to let him go hungry just because i couldnt get him to latch on. so, i HAD to give him a bottle of formula. after that i still tried and even tried with a nipple shield. still couldnt get him to latch on for more than a few seconds (and yes, he was latching correctly, he just wouldnt stay on) and again, i cant stress this enough...i was not going to let him go hungry because of it. once we got hom from the hospital my milk immediately came in. i went and bought a pump and starting using it. i was able to get 4oz out every 2 hours for about the first 2 weeks. then my son got a kidney infection with possible kidney reflux at 2 weeks old. he was in the hospital for 10 days hooked up to IVs and getting his vitals taken every hour. even through that, i tried to get him to breast feed. but due to the stressful sitiuation, he wouldnt latch which led to a diminshed milk supply. i tried taking supplements for it and continued to pump out every bit i could until finally, it stopped all together.



 



for you to sit here and tell people that the reason is for lack of education or that we think its "too hard" or whatever your ignorant guess is, is just ridiculous. i tried VERY hard to get my son to breast feed. it simply just did not for me or my son. since his kindey infection he has not been sick. he is in the 97th percentile for his age and growth.



 



i think youre the one who needs a little bit of education on the subject.

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Quoting Holly:

Ok, I'm going to do something unprecedented. It was unfair of me to make a statement that sounded like I was saying that bottlefeeding is as bad as smoking. That was not what I meant it to come across as. I do believe that bottlefeeding is bad for children but more than anything I think that it's just sad how difficult it is to sucessfully breastfeed. We have no real support systems for it in this country.


ok. you are probably the most ignorant person i have encountered in my life. first of all, i wont disagree that breast milk is better in a lot of way for babies. notice how i said a lot of ways not ALL ways. when my son was born he would not latch on. when he was born he had the cord wrapped around his neck and it was over an hour before i was even able to hold him. he was so upset, frustrated and exhausted that i couldnt get him to latch on. every time i tried to put him to my breast he would scream and push it away and start flailing his body. i was NOT going to let him go hungry just because i couldnt get him to latch on. so, i HAD to give him a bottle of formula. after that i still tried and even tried with a nipple shield. still couldnt get him to latch on for more than a few seconds (and yes, he was latching correctly, he just wouldnt stay on) and again, i cant stress this enough...i was not going to let him go hungry because of it. once we got hom from the hospital my milk immediately came in. i went and bought a pump and starting using it. i was able to get 4oz out every 2 hours for about the first 2 weeks. then my son got a kidney infection with possible kidney reflux at 2 weeks old. he was in the hospital for 10 days hooked up to IVs and getting his vitals taken every hour. even through that, i tried to get him to breast feed. but due to the stressful sitiuation, he wouldnt latch which led to a diminshed milk supply. i tried taking supplements for it and continued to pump out every bit i could until finally, it stopped all together.



 



for you to sit here and tell people that the reason is for lack of education or that we think its "too hard" or whatever your ignorant guess is, is just ridiculous. i tried VERY hard to get my son to breast feed. it simply just did not for me or my son. since his kindey infection he has not been sick. he is in the 97th percentile for his age and growth.



 



i think youre the one who needs a little bit of education on the subject.

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hi lauren im kelly got a daughter called chloe not every mum says bottle feeding is a bad thing you go by whats right for your baby and you if any breast feeding mothers have a dig just ignoe them lol as long as you and your baby are happy thats all that matters. i breast fed my baby so what every baby and person is different. dont let the breast feeding horrid mothers that dictate to you that your wrong bother you hun. and just to let you know im not one of them horrid mothers that dictates to everyone ok. so not all breast feeding mothers are bad lol takecare kelly.

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hi lauren, i know exactly how u feel! I used to go to a 'mothers group' but i was the only 1 who would bottle feed and i could c all the other mums watching me and although they never said anything the looks said it all!


 

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Don't let what others think bother you.  I bf my son but regret it and wish i had off given it up because we had major problems but i couldn't get any help/advice about bottle feeding and everytime i did ask was tell to continue bf and that it would get better.  My son is now over a year old and is no longer bf and i love him so much more because of it!  Stick with the bottle and think of all the advantages of bottle feeding whenever someone makes a nasty comment.

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Yap... Definitely feeling that i am being looked down. Especially when my hubby mom ask me why i don't breastfeed anymore (i bf my boy for 1 month only), i am dumbfound.. I do not know how to let them know or explain to them. Then relative will also questions why i do not bf anymore. There is no particular reasons.. When they qns me that, i feel very gulity. Esp, when i see other mom bfing their baby. I feel abit upset too... Sigh... Breastfeeding to most mom may seem easy, but definitely not for my case..

Lauren, do not mind about their comments. As long as you think that it's fine and baby is getting enough. That's all that matter.

Take Care!

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Hi Lauren,



My daughter is one month old and i have been bottle feeding her since she was 2 days old. The midwives at my hospital were extremely rude and one refused to see me after she heard of my decision to switch Mia onto bottles. Mia had problems latching on and therefore wasn't feeding. I decided to bottle feed her as this way she was feeding. In the end i chose to ignore the rude people and their comments as i had to do what was best for my daughter. Now i don't care what people think as i have a beautiful healthy little girl and she loves her bottles.

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Quoting Emily:

To follow up my comment..Boob Nazi = Holly.
Because APPARENTLY she is better than all of the formula feeders giving their kids cancer :) Dont you know she will save the world from AIDS with her boob juice? Her magical magical boob juice.



lol...i had to laugh at that comment.....that's just too funny!!!......

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Quoting Molly:



Quoting Ashley:




Quoting Holly:

Well, the reason people critisize you for bottlefeeding is that breastmilk is much better than formula. Breastmilk contains antibodies which formula lacks. You can read more about it at: http://www.breastfeedingonline.com/11pdf...)"

Furthermore, when you give your baby formula you risk giving them contaminated formula. As Dr. Newman reports in his book (The Ultimate Breastfeeding Book of Answers) there have even been cases where broken glass was found in batches of formula.

I think that many of the problems have to do with a lack of education about breastfeeding in our country. Breastfeeding shouldn't be difficult and problems such as poor latch or thinking the baby is not getting enough milk wouldn't occur if we and our health-care professionals were educated enough about breastfeeding.

To me, this question is like a smoker asking, "Why do people critisize me for smoking around my kids." It's because it's bad for them!








see it's people like you that make us feel like shit!....it's a mothers choice whether she wants to breastfeed or not and it has nothing to do with anyone else. noone is bad for breastfeeding or not breastfeeding. if formula is sooo horrible why do they have it in the hospitals???...if formula was soo bad how come when my son was hospitalzied for 2 months the nurses or drs never ONCE said a word to me about it...it's because it's my choice andi shouldnt bemade to feel like an ass because of it. Lauren is looking for support she's not looking for facts on why breastfeeding is better. you shouldnt have posted what you posted because it was rude. how do u figure it's the same as smoking around your kids?...so in other words you are saying that we are feeding our children cancer?....because that's what smoking does......i have never read on a tin of formula may cause cancer..but i have read that on a pack of smokes. some of us just dont feel comfortable breastfeeding and i am one of those people. i am not gonna sit here and say i tried it because i didnt. i didnt want to i wanted my son to be on formula and it was strictly my choice. it's my body and this is how i feel. noone is putting you down for breastfeeding so what gives you the right to put us down beause we bottlefeed??...i am quite happy that i chose to bottlefeed and i'm currently pregnant and will bottlefeed this baby as well!. i am sometimes made to feel like i abuse my son and i dont think it's right. when it comes down to it we all have one thing in common and that is we all want what's best for our children. you think breastfeeding is best for yours and i think formula fed is best for mine!!......for the most part every mother that has writtenon here has been super nice about it but i guess no matter what you are always going to get that one!!......









Ashley, if you're pointing fingers at Holly for being that "one" I think you just made yourself #2.  She was quoting facts, and merely saying breastfeeding is best.  She didn't say those who cannot breastfeed are terrible mothers. 






Also, about the cancer thing.  Holly didn't really say anything about feeding your children cancer... but YOU bring up an excellent point.  Nobody knows what they put in formula.  Nobody knows where it's made.  Nobody knows how it's made.  The fact that they keep changing it and that there are so many different kinds means that it's STILL not as good as breastmilk. Basically, having 10 options of formula means "pick which one feature is most important to you" when breastmilk covers all of a baby's needs. 






Not that formula doesn't make due.  It does.  All kids end up being about the same in all aspects of life- in the end.  With that being said, mothers who can breastfeed should. 






whatever..i wasnt the only one that quoted her on what she said about the babies and smoking as other mothers did as well........i dont care if u think mothers who can breastfeed should....i dont want to breastfeed and never will.....i probably would have been a great breastfeeder as i had milk up until a month after my son was born...i didnt want to..my choice not yours so go breastfeed your child that's up to you...i will bottlefeed mine that's up to me.....so no ur wrong because i CAN breastfeed doesnt mean i SHOULD!...and dont reply back to me as i honestly dont care what you have to say..........oh ya and all the ingredients are on the side of a can of formula..so next time your in a store..pick it up...read it...and there you go..you just found out what they put in formula!!

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hi! I wanted to breastfeed my son but my breasts were like Sahara (which I did not know and my son fell into a nearlike coma because of the hunger). After that I started with Formula and everything went great-he is now 4. But, I was convicted of being the bad mother because i did not breastfed my son. Hello, I did not have anything to give him to eat! But no, they said I was not trying enough!



Be yourself, just let them talk! Its your decision, your child is not lacking enything, is healthy, happy and you are happy too! And be proud of your breasts the way they are!

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I totally understand where you are coming from! When my daughter was born i opted to bottle feed. But the next day we learned that she was having a reaction to every formula that they were giving her in the NICU. So I asked if it would help her if i just breastfed. They actaully told me "NO" they said that they way she was reacting to all the formulas they werent sure if she would actually react to the breast milk bc of anything that I may have eaten. and of course of all the people my fiancee's mother threw a fit right there in the NICU bc i wasnt breastfeeding. Everywhere I went people were judging me. And it wasnt even my fault. She had to be on Alimentum formula bc it was the only thing her stomach could tolerate (and she still spit that up everywhere, just not as bad) Dont let people get to you.. there is NOTHING wrong with bottle feeding. It's not like breastfed kids are better or anything. People are just rude and love drama and they cant get through a day without bringing someone down to make themselves feel good. If you need anything (even though i dont know you) i will deffinently be here for you. Hope i helped.

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I'm in the uk an have bottle fed both my girls an they are both healthy i did think about breastfeeding but husband likes to feed them too an really didnt like the idea of breastfeeding in the end it is not for me Midwifes are the worst for pushing you to breast feed i put my foot down with first in hospital had my second in december at home an the midwife was lovely no pressure Dont feel bad for bottle feeding my husbands gran who is 93 bottle fed all her kids

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Hi Lauren! I breastfeed my baby practically all the time. Mostly because I am a stay at home mom. Every mom has a method to raising their child. As long as you and your baby are satisfied and healthy, then you are doing a great job! Keep up the good work!!!

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To follow up my comment..Boob Nazi = Holly.
Because APPARENTLY she is better than all of the formula feeders giving their kids cancer :) Dont you know she will save the world from AIDS with her boob juice? Her magical magical boob juice.

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It's because women like to play internet super mommy. If you are feeding your son, whether its formula or breastmilk, then you are doing a good job. Dont let the boob nazis get to you.

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My daughter had a great latch within 30 minutes of delivery and my milk came in very quickly and plentifully. Within 2 weeks though, I got a pretty bad crack in one nipple and that led to thrush. Then I cracked on the other side and was in excruciating, toe curling pain. I didn't know that my pain was being caused by thrush and since my daughter didn't have any signs of yeast, my lactation consultant didn't think it was thrush. After another 2 weeks of horrible pain and several more visits with my lactation consultant and my midwife, I was given an oral medication to fight the thrush. Two weeks later, it hadn't gone away, so my daughter was given an antifungal medication and I got another round of my meds. That still didn't work so I resorted to pumping because it was a little less painful. Then I got mastitis that had me in bed with a temperature of 103. I have never been so miserable in my life. I basically missed the first nine weeks of my daughter's life because I was so convinced that my daughter would die if I gave her anything but breastmilk. Mentally, I was fried. I can't tell you how many times my husband told me to just switch to formula because I had an unhealthy attachment to the idea of breastfeeding. Everything I had read said that "breast is best" and "there is no reason why a woman should not be able to breastfeed." I saw a lactation consultant SEVEN times and it was still a mess. I kept saying, "I was induced and didn't get an epidural. I'm tough. I can keep doing this." I was going crazy, slowly losing my mind, and it was affecting my ability to bond with my daughter.

Switching to formula was the hardest decision I've ever made in my life. I felt so guilty, but guess what? My daughter was fine with it. She's now thriving, very healthy, smart, funny, just amazing. I am feeling more like myself than ever, working out regularly, my relationship with my husband is great, and I'm a better parent, totally bonded with my daughter.

I've condemned myself enough for everyone, though. Please do not tell me that I'm feeding my daughter neurotoxins or whatever other poisons these studies come up with. If I can trust the FDA to regulate the food that I eat everyday, the food that does influence the nourishment passed on through breastmilk, then I have to trust that they appropriately regulate the formula I give her. I know it's been said before, but moms need to encourage each other. The original post was a plea for encouragement, camaraderie, support, validation. While the information about breastfeeding that was presented here may be true and useful for some, that's not what this particular mom asked for. We're all just doing the best we can...

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I was made to feel like crap when I decided to bottle feed my baby. The truth is I went through SEVERE postpartum depression, I wasn't eating therefore my milk didn't come in and my baby was not getting the nutrition he needed. I was bf'ing every hour and still have a cranky baby. I started bottle feeding and had a happy, content baby. We did our research and chose the formula we felt was best for our child. The truth is formula has come so far in these past few years that it's pretty darn close to breast milk. Is it the best choice? Maybe not, but for some women it is absolutely necessary. Do what is right for you and your baby and don't look back! I remember seeing the stares from older women when I was bottle feeding and it made me sick. What I do for my child is no one's buisness but mine and my husbands'. Our son has not been sick once yet, no allergies and he's extremely happy.

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Quoting Ashley:



Quoting Holly:

Well, the reason people critisize you for bottlefeeding is that breastmilk is much better than formula. Breastmilk contains antibodies which formula lacks. You can read more about it at: http://www.breastfeedingonline.com/11pdf...)"

Furthermore, when you give your baby formula you risk giving them contaminated formula. As Dr. Newman reports in his book (The Ultimate Breastfeeding Book of Answers) there have even been cases where broken glass was found in batches of formula.

I think that many of the problems have to do with a lack of education about breastfeeding in our country. Breastfeeding shouldn't be difficult and problems such as poor latch or thinking the baby is not getting enough milk wouldn't occur if we and our health-care professionals were educated enough about breastfeeding.

To me, this question is like a smoker asking, "Why do people critisize me for smoking around my kids." It's because it's bad for them!






see it's people like you that make us feel like shit!....it's a mothers choice whether she wants to breastfeed or not and it has nothing to do with anyone else. noone is bad for breastfeeding or not breastfeeding. if formula is sooo horrible why do they have it in the hospitals???...if formula was soo bad how come when my son was hospitalzied for 2 months the nurses or drs never ONCE said a word to me about it...it's because it's my choice andi shouldnt bemade to feel like an ass because of it. Lauren is looking for support she's not looking for facts on why breastfeeding is better. you shouldnt have posted what you posted because it was rude. how do u figure it's the same as smoking around your kids?...so in other words you are saying that we are feeding our children cancer?....because that's what smoking does......i have never read on a tin of formula may cause cancer..but i have read that on a pack of smokes. some of us just dont feel comfortable breastfeeding and i am one of those people. i am not gonna sit here and say i tried it because i didnt. i didnt want to i wanted my son to be on formula and it was strictly my choice. it's my body and this is how i feel. noone is putting you down for breastfeeding so what gives you the right to put us down beause we bottlefeed??...i am quite happy that i chose to bottlefeed and i'm currently pregnant and will bottlefeed this baby as well!. i am sometimes made to feel like i abuse my son and i dont think it's right. when it comes down to it we all have one thing in common and that is we all want what's best for our children. you think breastfeeding is best for yours and i think formula fed is best for mine!!......for the most part every mother that has writtenon here has been super nice about it but i guess no matter what you are always going to get that one!!......





Ashley, if you're pointing fingers at Holly for being that "one" I think you just made yourself #2.  She was quoting facts, and merely saying breastfeeding is best.  She didn't say those who cannot breastfeed are terrible mothers. 



Also, about the cancer thing.  Holly didn't really say anything about feeding your children cancer... but YOU bring up an excellent point.  Nobody knows what they put in formula.  Nobody knows where it's made.  Nobody knows how it's made.  The fact that they keep changing it and that there are so many different kinds means that it's STILL not as good as breastmilk. Basically, having 10 options of formula means "pick which one feature is most important to you" when breastmilk covers all of a baby's needs. 



Not that formula doesn't make due.  It does.  All kids end up being about the same in all aspects of life- in the end.  With that being said, mothers who can breastfeed should. 

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Quoting Holly:

Well, I obviously put the wrong emphasis on it. This statement is what I would like people to think about.

"I think that many of the problems have to do with a lack of education about breastfeeding in our country. Breastfeeding shouldn't be difficult and problems such as poor latch or thinking the baby is not getting enough milk wouldn't occur if we and our health-care professionals were educated enough about breastfeeding."

The point I am trying to make there is that most women who "can't" breastfeed really could if they and their doctors had enough knowledge. For instance, many women start giving a supplementary bottle of formula because they believe that they aren't producing enough milk to feed their baby. Since breastmilk functions on a supply and demand basis giving a supplementary bottle actually does decrease the amount of milk a woman produces until she actually isn't producing enough. With education this whole problem could dissapear.

I just feel sad that our society has made bottle-feeding more convenient. It really shouldn't be since breastmilk is the "carry anywhere" food. The whole reason bottlefeeding becomes more convenient is because of societal stigma against breastfeeding and a lack of education, even among, professionals as to how to make breastfeeding work.





Is this really necessary?  I mean, you act like you don't believe that someone could actually NOT breastfeed, it's all just a long line of excuses to justify bottle feeding.  The undercurrent of your message is that moms who don't breastfeed are quitters.  That's a bunch of crap.  I tried to breastfeed.  After 5 days, my pediatrician insisted that I supplement with formula because my newborn lost a pound in 5 days.  So, obviously, I was not producing enough milk.  I took medication to help my milk come in, I pumped, I fed her formula with a syringe so she wouldn't have nipple confusion, and breastfed her before and after the formula.  And yes, it probably did affect my milk supply, but what was I supposed to do, let my baby starve?  My milk never came in.  I never got engorged, I never had let down.  When I pumped, I got about 8 drops of breastmilk from each breast.  I tried all of this for over a month and I finally gave up because I was making myself and my baby miserable.  There are people out there that actually cannot breastfeed.  Enough with the making moms feel bad for not breastfeeding and then insinuating that formula is bad for your baby.  What am I supposed to do, get a second job to pay for the donor breast milk that costs $4.00 an ounce? 






I don't think it matters how you feed your child, as long as it comes from a place of love. 






 





 



 



I'm not calling mom's who bottlefeed quitters. My main point is that breastfeeding shouldn't be this difficult. Situations like yours wouldn't happen if healthcare professionals knew more about how to make breastfeeding work. Your doctor's suggestions made sure that you would NEVER produce enough milk & made sure that you could not breastfeed. A healthcare professional who was well-educated about breastfeeding would have been able to give you suggestions that would have improved your milk supply and had your baby gaining weight while breastfeeding.



 



To tell you the truth, if this had happened to me I would have quit also. When I had a similar situation with my younger child I was lucky and my doctor referred my to a lactation consultant who helped me work on her latch and measured her weekly. That's the thing though, we shouldn't have to get lucky to make breastfeeding work, all healthcare providers should have the knowledge to advise us on how to breastfeed sucessfully.

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