World of Divorcecraft?

Megan - posted on 03/17/2010

I tried to talk to my husband last night... He offered to spend time with me, and it turned into me sitting next to him while he played wow. When I told him I was going to bed, he made a big deal about how HE is tired, and doesn't want to watch our daughter. He woke me up this morning making a fuss about how he wants to go to bed and I should get up, even though I had only gotten 4 1/2 hours of sleep. I'm running on that and caffeine right now.

I used to play WOW, and I probably did get a bit addicted to it, but I quit playing as soon as I found out I was pregnant, and have no desire to play. Granted, I do have a subscription to netflix, and I watch netflix almost everyday, while my daughter is sleeping, after I get the housework done. If I even ask him to help me carry the laundry up and down the stairs, he freaks out and starts yelling at me. Basically when I need something done, I have to ask my dad or brother to help me. I'm not supposed to carry real heavy things because I had a C-section and my incision area is still sore, so I can't really carry the laundry up and down the basement stairs.

I don't want to get a divorce, I'm just upset that he's not more interested in spending time with me and the baby, and he's gotten mean about everything. I suppose it wouldn't be so bad if he had a job, or was going to school or doing something. Then at least I'd feel like he was contributing. But, I stay up ALL day working, and taking care of the baby. I do housework, and cook dinner every night. I'm 21, and he's going to be 27 this friday... You'd think he'd be old enough and mature enough now to want to get a job, move out, etc, etc, instead of living with MY parents. I don't think my parents mind that I'm here, but I know my mom isn't happy with my husband.

Lauren, you're right. I can't cancel the account. He'll find a way to get it back. He pays for the account with my paypal, if I change the password and cancel the payments, he'll just make a new paypal to pay for it, or he'll go buy the game cards to pay for it. I don't know if my husband actually said this or not, because it's coming from my sister who was really upset about it, but according to her, my husband called my one and a half month old daughter a whiny little bitch. She's a baby! She's going to cry and fuss and whine. That's what babies do. I think it hurts my feelings more that he would openly call her a brat for crying, or call her names to his friends. She's got a bad case of diaper rash, and as soon as I put cream on her rash, she quit crying. Is it really THAT hard to change a diaper or put rash cream on a baby?

I don't understand why some guys act like this. It's totally ridiculous.

Lauren - posted on 03/16/2010

I'm really sorry to hear that and I know how you feel. My ex-husband did the same thing after he was born except he would say such horrible things to me when I asked him for help with our son. He would say to our newborn son "well mommy is TOO TIRED to take care of you, that means she doesn't love you." He wouldn't help with anything because he would rather sit and play WOW all day long. I put up with it for three years until I couldn't stand it anymore. He did have a job, yes, and that was good but as soon as he would get home he was on the game and he would stay up till four or five in the morning staying up playing and then sleeping all day. He has no bond with our son, because he never does anything with him, he wont get off the game and play with our son. Its really sad actually. There really isn't anything that you can do because I tried to shut the game off while he was playing and he just got violent with me. WOW is a horrible addiction and those consumed with it don't see how much they are hurting their loved ones. I don't really have any advice because honestly, there really isn't much you can do: you cant cancel it because they'll just turn it back on, you cant delete their characters because they'll just have Blizzard retrieve them again, you cant refuse to give them money for their monthly subscription because they'll just find a way to get the money to pay for it anyway, and you cant tell them that they are too addicted to the game because they'll just come back with some nasty retort like "Your addicted to scrapbooking"...or something lame like that. I'm really sorry this is happening to you and I'm not sure if I can tell you anything that would help. You could try talking with him, but that didn't work for me...I hope this helps I don't really know if it will. :(

LaCi - posted on 03/16/2010

This sounds all to familiar. I had a friend who's husbands was like absolutely addicted to WOW. It was ridiculous, he would ignore his kid and never kept a job because he'd rather play WOW all day. After years of working on that they did finally get divorced. I don't really have any suggestions on how to fix that, and I'm very sorry I don't. They were evicted from many homes, they struggled a lot. Whenever he did have a job he would blow all his money on video games, she did have to get a job. After years of threatening to leave she finally did. its a terrible situation. I think he really just wasn't ready for the responsibility of parenthood, and he didn't shape up.