Worried about baby getting closer to someone else.

Michelle - posted on 03/06/2010

I would say something to my mum. If your relationship is as close as you say, then she won't hold it against you, and she will help you feel better about your bond with your little one. A lot of mothers feel like this when they are awa from their babies and they feel they are not spending enough time with them, it normally happens when the children are put into nursery. A few mothers don't feel comfrotable when their child form a strong attachment with a staff member, its totally normal to feel this way and I'm sure your mum will tell you the same thing.xx

Malinda - posted on 03/05/2010

Thank you all so much, I appreciate all the comments and encouragement. I think it will make going to work and leaving her with my mom so much easier. Thanks!! Malinda

Nicole - posted on 03/04/2010

I know what you mean, my daughter is 9 weeks old and has been in the NICU since day one. I worry consently that she will form "that" bond with the nurses instead of me. But she proves me wrong an awful lot. I spend everyday with her, and right when I get there everyday I say hello and she looks at me like "that's my mom" even if she was sleeping. Your baby knows your mommy and will always have the special bond with mommy and daddy that nobody will be able to replace.

Julie - posted on 03/04/2010

I had the same worries when my son started daycare at 2 months old. One of the daycare workers was a good friend of ours, and I worried because she was so good at getting my son to laugh. But of course, my son still knows that I'm mommy, and we have that great bond. It's actually a relief that he bonded well with the daycare worker, because when he went through that attachment phase at 9-12 months, the only way he wouldn't cry when I dropped him off at daycare was if she took him from me. Then he would still look a little sad, but he would make it through.

Aleashia - posted on 03/04/2010

I was such a momma's girl growing up and no one could ever come between what we have.Now that i have two kids myself i am over joyed that my baby girl loves her Grandma as much as i do.I lived with my parents for two years and my kids are only three and almost two so they became very attached to both of my parents.My son when he first started saying "grandma" would call her "ma" most people thought that he was calling her "mom" but he had a different way of saying my name and we knew he knew the difference between us so it didn't bother me,infact i loved it.My kids love me more than i could have ever imagined they would and the same with their grandma but it's a different love.You gave birth you fed your newborn baby,and all of those things help you form the life long bond that can never be broken.You need to relax and remember that your baby might be so happy to go to grandma's but as soon as she see's you when the day is over she will still know who you are and want to go home with you!:) Everything will be fine im sure.If it helps talk to our Mom,they always know best. lol!

Anna - posted on 03/04/2010

Aww, I understand, the same thing goes through my head sometimes. I dont think that the mommy/baby bond can ever be broken. Or can there be anything stronger. I know that your child will create a bond with your mom but its not like the bond with you. Its much different. i feel the same way though. i almost find myself jealous when my MIL does the whole "my baby" thing. I want to tell her thats my daughter and dont you ever forget it. But I keep my mouth zipped and do a quite victory dance when my daughter cries for me 2 minutes after my MIL picks her up. Remeber, its not like your mom is trying to be mommy and I know that she wont let you be forgotten about. She's just babysitting. My mom babysits my niece and nephews all the time and they are so excited to see their mom or dad come to the door!!

Yinni - posted on 03/04/2010

i was on the same boat as you. my mother has been there for my son since he was born so i could get some work done and some sleep. 12 months later she still wants to play and hang around with him. this is a good thing! my son still knows who his mama is. ill come into the room and hell temporarily forget about grandma. hes all smiles and will crawl and call out for his mama. :)

let your mom enjoy the time she has with the grandkids. time is so precious you dont want to take it away if they unexpectedly go away. i have lost many family members this year due to cancer and i feel horrible that they couldnt even meet my son before passing.

Kimberly - posted on 03/04/2010

you and only you will always have the strongest bond with your baby. Babies know their mother, they know your voice your smell your presence, and they will never forget that bond. Your baby may get close with your mother but she will always know who HER mother is. No worries she will be close with your mom as her "Care giver" and grandma of course but it will never surpass your baby's love for her own mama ;)

Christin - posted on 03/04/2010

it's not always bad. my MIL was there when she was born and in fact she was one of the first people she saw and she was the fist to hold her and she cut the cord. she loves spending time with our baby and will sometimes take her for the weekend and sees her pretty much every weekend. my daughter loves her grandma and loves going over. she grins every time and she is usually really good for his mom and not for us at times, but she also loves her mommy. no matter how much time she spends with her our daughter will come back to me and cuddle with me and fall asleep with her head under my chin. they always know who their mom is and won't forget. plus it's a good thing for her to have a strong bond with her grandma. that way she always has someone to go to for things she can't or may not feel comfortable talking to you about one day.