Nicole - posted on 11/03/2010 ( 30 moms have responded )
I am worried but I can’t put my finger on what’s wrong.
My son came home from his dad’s place this weekend with a swollen, purple ear. No one mentioned it. I discovered it at bath time. I called his grandma to ask for a ride to the hospital, because both of his ears were continuing to swell and she said he had had a knock on the head at the park, it was nothing to worry about and that she had put a cold cloth on it.
I took him to a doctor and the doctor said his brain was fine, his ear was fine and that he had taken a hard hit, but he would be fine.
Today my son tried to choke another child at daycare. When asked why he was doing that he said, “she wasn’t listening”
I don’t think his grandmother would abuse him. I know that she has been neglectful in the past. One friend told me that she had seen her with him at a bus stop one day and as she was digging through her purse, my son had run away from her and got 5 blocks away on a busy street. My friend had asked her, “do you want me to get him?” She got up and said, “No, don’t worry. I’ll do it” and hadn’t seem worried. She is now watching him every Friday morning.
I know he gets into fights with his stepbrother at his dad’s house, and he has come home from there with bite marks on his arms and scratches on his face. I am told he gives as good as he gets and that they do what they can to keep them apart but they spend one whole day together each week.
What I am trying to figure out is whether or not I should report her for neglect. I am not on easy speaking terms with any of my ex-husbands family. When I told my ex about the choking he was shocked and said Nathan had never done anything like that at his house.
While it’s obvious that there is something wrong, I don’t know what or what to do about it. I don’t feel safe having my son go over to his grandma or dads house, but I don’t know if I have grounds for preventing it just based on what I know.