Writing a letter to childs daycare

Chantelle - posted on 03/08/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )




I need to write a letter to my childs daycare with specific expectations. My daughter has been sick because they do not dress her properly. They take her outside when she has a full diaper and also, when she has a wet shirt. She has been so sick for a while and Im finally getting her better. I also, am trying to get her get on to a proper schedule. They complain that she doesn't sleep long but I notice that she doesn't sleep long because she goes to sleep when shes not very tired. ( Today I placed her to sleep at 12 by 15 mins. after she was passed out. she is still sleeping its been 2 hours.) So i want to make 12 noon this her actually nap time. I understand that they have other children and different schedule to follow but are they not suspose to work with you. Also, i want them to place a sweater on her for when they go outside make sure she is changed before as well and also, make sure she is not wet anywhere. How can i write a letter stating all the things as a parent i need them to work with me on without coming across rude and demanding?


Ajia - posted on 03/08/2009




I wouldn't bother with the letter. I'd find a new daycare. I've worked in daycares before, and honestly the people who don't care about taking care of children properly are not going to change just because you write a letter. In fact, they might resent it and take it out on your child. No one is watching these caregivers and going to monitor that they are doing what you ask, so I think if you can't trust them from the beginning then they cannot be trusted.

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Aislynn - posted on 03/09/2009




I'm the assistant director of a daycare, and I might be able to help with some of your issues. How old is your daughter? I understand all the clothing and diaper issues, that is inexcusable, but the naptime may not be negotiable depending on what age group. You may just need to work with her schedule at home to make it so she IS tired at their naptime. I'm surprised she isn't adjusted to it, unless she recently transitioned rooms. Also, I agree with Jolene, as upset as you are try not to sound like a total b*tch, because all that will accomplish is to make the workers resentful of you and your child and you may get even worse service. Not that it's ok, but it's the truth of human dynamics.

Jen - posted on 03/09/2009




I wouldn't write a letter and instead talk to the director. Just express your concerns and they should be able to help you out. If you don't see a change in a couple of weeks, I would look for a new center. I had trouble with my daughter's teachers when she moved from the infant room to the 1-year-old room. My daughter was coming home with dirty clothes with food all down the front of her even though they have bibs for her. I also wasn't getting a report like I was supposed to be recieveing and they weren't giving her her milk as often as she was supposed to be getting it b/c she was coming home with 2 full cups out of the 3 I send her with. I talked to the director and the problem was fixed that day. My daughter was in clean clothes and I got a report when I picked her up.

As for the day care being mad at your daughter's sleep schedule, it sounds like they aren't doing something right. At my daughter's center and the majority of the cenetrs in our area, the children who are 1 and older eat lunch around 11:30 and take a nap after that until 2ish. I know there are a few cat nappers in my daughter's class so they just let those children play quietly after they've woken up. IT sounds like your daughter doesn't have any trouble sleeping at all. Something you could suggest if they think she's not tired is for them to go outside b4 nap to wear the kids out. Also with the scheduling, they should have their own schedule and then you can just adopt that and alter it some for at home. With my daughter on the weekend we put her down at 11:30 and then she eats lunch when she wakes up, but I keep snack time the same as it is at school and we try to take her outside when we can, but she doesn't have a whole lot of outside toys and we'rer repairing our deck which is where we let her play until she gets a little bigger.

Anyway I wish you the best of luck.

Dina - posted on 03/08/2009




Sickness in daycare is common, kids transfer all kids of germs...if you have proof that they aren't changing her, or she is going outside in wet cloths i would be talking to the director and reporting the daycare. I would also be looking for another daycare centre if that is what is going on.

As for the Nap time, most daycares have nap time after lunch, if you want a different nap time that means her lunch time changes, and then its not fair for her to be eating an no one else,

Daycares have scheduals, if you think they are putting her down for naps to early you might just have to start waking her up earlier in the morning, its up to you BOTH to work together. And if you dont want to wake her up early so she is more tired, you shouldn't expect them to change their daycare schedual, but they also can't expect her to sleep longer then she needs, as long as she is quiet and not disturbing the other kids it shouldn't be a problem.....At my sons daycare they have Quiet Time (not nap time because some kids dont nap) which is a half hour after lunch they all lay down on there matts, all the kids must stay on there matts for 1/2 hour (allowed to have books if they dont sleep) after the half hour of quiet time those kids who are still awake are able to go to the other side of the room to play quietly....i think this is very fair.

Sarah - posted on 03/08/2009




how old is your daughter? I work in a daycare and for every classroom of children over 1 year the nap time thing isn't so negoitiable. but in my class naptime is at 12.

But as for everythnig else just bring up your concerns and if it were my class it wouldn't be a problem at all. If they can't accomodate your simple requests then find a new place!!

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I agree with Karrie, If this is what they do then maybe a new daycare might be right.  They should be doing what is right by your child regardless of what is most convenient.  My son's daycare is wonderful about naps.  He is 3 1/2 and thinks he doesn't need one.  But I beg to differ.  she makes sure he lays down for a nap that works for him.  She has changed his nap times, his napping location and his blankets just to make him nap better.  You shouldn't have to ask them to provide basic care for your child.  If you have to then obviously thay cannot determine how to raise children properly and I would take her out and put her in another setting.  Maybe a home daycare, if she is not in one.  I find that my daycare porvider is amazing, and the children there love her as she really loves each of them.

Stephanie - posted on 03/08/2009




There are daycares near us that are like that and honestly after just visiting I knew I couldn't leave my son there. I've talked to a friend that worked at one (she really cares) and I think by her statements in the past, even if you did write a letter it wouldn't matter much. I would say look for a new daycare too. There are good places out there too who WILLINGLY work with you all the time.

Amie - posted on 03/08/2009




I'd talk to the head of the daycare in person. I had problems with a couple day cares before I finally gave up and started working from home. The head of the daycare is to take care of concerns and deal with the workers if there is a problem.
I'd also start looking at other places though too.

Jolene - posted on 03/08/2009




I wouldn't write a letter but rather talk to them in person. Just don't sound attacking and if they still do not try and work with you on the situation then maybe try and find a different daycare.

Karrie - posted on 03/08/2009




from what your telling us if i were you i think i might try and find another day care it seems like their priorities are alittle mixed up....

Karrie - posted on 03/08/2009




from what your telling us if i were you i think i might try and find another day care it seems like their priorities are alittle mixed up....

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