You are to young to be a mom!!

Sarah - posted on 12/16/2009

I had my daughter when I was 17,,, I get the same feeling of disrespect from her friends parents who are all well in their 30's. Now that I am actually married and have my twins... I don't get the public stare downs as much... could be all the stress from having three kids though... LOL

Sara - posted on 09/10/2009

well I've got ya beat... because I have a step daughter that is 20 and a step son that is 19 and I have TWO Granddaughters... and when ppl ask me if they are my kids i am like no these are my grand babies and I am 30

Sara - posted on 09/10/2009

well I've got ya beat... because I have a step daughter that is 20 and a step son that is 19 and I have TWO Granddaughters... and when ppl ask me if they are my kids i am like no these are my grand babies and I am 30

Sabrina - posted on 09/10/2009

WOW, we should be bestfriends! Girl I get the same look! I was 20 years old and married while pregnant and still got the looks! Once this lady was staring at my belly for so long i held up my left hand to show the ring and i said "what are you looking at, I'm married" the lady looked down so quick!! Im 22 now with a 13mo old girl and its most old ladies that look at me, like I dont know what Im doing! & the older moms too, I cloth diaper, and this lady came up to me and said my daughter was too young for regular underwear, i laughed and said hunny you prolly wore these when you were a baby, they are cloth diapers!!! Its been going on so long now I just dont care anymore, they know nothing about me so how dare they judge! I bet your a wonderful mother, keep you head up & dont let these other people make you mad, your better than them!

Misty - posted on 09/10/2009

I had my first child at 19!!!!!! and I'm on my 3rd and I'm 24...Ive never been told this...that sucks ma

Bethany - posted on 09/10/2009

I had my first at 23, but I look like I'm a lot younger so I get some weird looks. Never been asked if my daughter was my sister, though, although it has been assumed that I'm just the babysitter. :-/ It's frustrating because everyone in our society seems to assume that it's irresponsible to get married young and have children young.

Jennifer - posted on 09/10/2009

I get that a lot. I have three kids. I was 18 when my oldest was born now I am 26. I look really young too. People say really stupid things but its the profesionals that do it that upsets me. My 3 year old has GI problems and two of the doctors we have seen have talked down to me because of my age. What makes it worse is that I am a nurse. Just put them in their place and move on.

April - posted on 09/10/2009

i get it also. i was 17 with my first baby and everyone looked at me like is was crazy. now im 21 and i have another baby but this time im married. but my husband and i get some strange looks from people cause he is a bit older then i am. but we dont care anymore.

Elizabeth - posted on 09/10/2009

i am currently pregnant with my first baby due to come out very soon :) and i will be 21 when shes born.i coped alot of '"ÿour ruining your life"" kinda comments and i just felt everyone was so negative about it. it never felt like it was out of true concern or worry for me.. it always seemed like a negative attack on my incompetency to be a good mother because i am young myself. I also found alot of the comments came from either older women or from women who didnt even have children of their own! I think we have become a very judgemental society and are very quick to dictate who everyone else should live their lives, before we take a look at our own. All i can say is no matter how much you try to avoid negative people that are only goin to belittle you bout having children at such a young age, the more often then not you somehow seem to attract them. But i have found with a smile and a confident ""YES this is my child and i absolutley adore her! "" Seems to be a polite slap in the face back to them :) I dont give people the satisfaction of knowing they have got to me... REMEMBER no one is better than you no matter how much they think they sun shines out of their own asses. :)

Carolina - posted on 09/10/2009

Yeah it sucks i am a mother of twin boys they are almost 4 years old. I had them when i was 19 years. Everybody likes to tell me that i was to young and i couldn't do it but i showed everybody that they were wrong. Trust me it dosent stop but dont worry about what people say and just live your life and love your family

Christina - posted on 09/10/2009

I know the feeling all to well, I was 14 when I had my daughter who is now 5 years old. My husband is 11 years older than me. But when people ask me questions I just point out that I have been married to my husband for 6 years and i graduated when I was 15 and went to college, that usually shuts them up.

Jamie - posted on 09/10/2009

HAHA! My husband and I are 27 and our kids are 11, 6, and 4. We get it all the time. I've just learned that when someone asks me how old i am, i tell them "you first"!! LOL throws them off!! LOL It's nobody's business how old you are, so just ignore them. Works best for us!!

Kristen - posted on 09/10/2009

I was 16,( 9days shy of my 17th birthday), when i had my oldest. I'm 26 now & Just had my 5th child, & get asked all the time if my oldest is my brother. What makes is even worse is that i have a brother that is one & a half years younger then my oldest & 4 months older & 4 day older then another.then i have a 22 year old stap daughter. & a amost 2 year old grandson. My husband is 18 years older then me, everyone always ask if he is my dad & our kids are my brothers & sisters, then when they call me mom we get a bunch of weird looks. Everyone always asks if they are all mine, yeas i know that 16 is young, but i'm not 16 anymore & wish they would stop asking the same questions, yes they are all mine & no i'm not to young to have kids. we do live in the 21st centery, things have changed, people are starting to have kids young these days, just accept it & get over it & let them be parents. Who cares how old they are as long as they care for their kids to the best of their ablity.

Kristen - posted on 09/10/2009

I was 16,( 9days shy of my 17th birthday), when i had my oldest. I'm 26 now & Just had my 5th child, & get asked all the time if my oldest is my brother. What makes is even worse is that i have a brother that is one & a half years younger then my oldest & 4 months older & 4 day older then another.then i have a 22 year old stap daughter. & a amost 2 year old grandson. My husband is 18 years older then me, everyone always ask if he is my dad & our kids are my brothers & sisters, then when they call me mom we get a bunch of weird looks. Everyone always asks if they are all mine, yeas i know that 16 is young, but i'm not 16 anymore & wish they would stop asking the same questions, yes they are all mine & no i'm not to young to have kids. we do live in the 21st centery, things have changed, people are starting to have kids young these days, just accept it & get over it & let them be parents. Who cares how old they are as long as they care for their kids to the best of their ablity.

Sarah - posted on 09/10/2009

I was 20 when my daughter was born, and 23 with my son, people ask me all the time if I am their baby sitter or nanny. It really is annoying!

Michelle - posted on 09/10/2009

oh yeah, and my family ages well so I look like I'm 14! I'm 22 and look 14 not only do I have my 2 yr old daughter but I take care of my 11yr old neice half the week too; and my neice is the spitingimage of me to a tee! So I look younge with an older child and an infant...so I get all sorts of looks and comments, the family combinations some people come up with are crazy! After the inital annoyance and aggrivation I just think "oh yeah I'm gonna look hot as hell when I become a grandma though!" helps me feel better and gives me a laugh.

Larissa - posted on 09/10/2009

i get the odd looks from other mothers as well,there all 30+ and i had my 1st when i was 20 and my second at 22.they all do the "im older so we cant possibly have a thing in common" its soo annoying,but there is a few who actually accept it and who do speak to me as sad as that is..i dont know what there probs are.its like they all have to act better kuz they had there kids older and there for know more then me...so i know the feeling lol

Larissa - posted on 09/10/2009

i get the odd looks from other mothers as well,there all 30+ and i had my 1st when i was 20 and my second at 22.they all do the "im older so we cant possibly have a thing in common" its soo annoying,but there is a few who actually accept it and who do speak to me as sad as that is..i dont know what there probs are.its like they all have to act better kuz they had there kids older and there for know more then me...so i know the feeling lol

Nikkita - posted on 09/10/2009

I'm 22 and pregnant with my first. I look A LOT younger than I am. Shortly after I found out that I was pregnant, I started thinking about all the crappy looks I was going to get looking 16 walking around with a big belly. Once I came to terms with it, I realized that I didn't care. I know my age, and what others think doesn't matter. Plus, looking young doesn't go away. So, if you have your kid now, or five years from now, people are still going to think you're younger than you are. Don't let them get to you love. God bless!

Becki - posted on 09/10/2009

I had my son when I was 21 however I look like I am 12 so everyone that seen me preggers assumed I was 12 and they would say horrible things like "Babies having babies" and ignorant shit like that. I would look back at them some times and say something really fucked up it was normally "I am 32 bitch back the fuck off." They would normally appologize and give me a look of shock. Otherwise I would just walk on. After a while you just get use to it. They dont know what they are talking about and they are trapped in their own time.

Shannon - posted on 09/10/2009

Most of those who have the most to say have the most to hide!

When PPL tell me I look to yonug for having 3 kids I say thank you! They usually dont know how to respond! Im 29 but look about 20 if im lucky. lol

Brandi - posted on 09/10/2009

I was 22 when I had my son..I have always looked WAY younger than my age, ever since I was a little kid people have always mistaken my age..so of course when I am very obviously pregnant at the Babies-R-Us store registering for my shower, I am getting plenty of nasty looks and whispers from ladies around the store that havent even taken time to acknowledge that yes, thats a ring on my left hand, I am married, and yes thats the babies father standing next to me and oh by the way, why don't u stop and ask me how old I am if you are THAT curious!!! grr..so yes hun I completely understand what u are saying..and to be honest with u and everyone else, who cares how old u were when ur first or 2nd or 4th child was born..God gave u those beautiful babies for a reason, and no one is supposed to ask what that reason is right!??! That is why now, when I do see younger mom's..(my friend was 20 when she had her first) I know what they are going through, I don't judge, I smile...they are holding the most precious cargo..and thats something that should NEVER be snubbed, or ignored, or made fun of, or put down in any negative way..whether u are so called, too young, too old, black, white, whoever...it doesn't matter.......you are a mother either way, and that my friend is the most precious of all gifts ever given by man:)

Megan - posted on 09/10/2009

I was 20 when I had my son and 21 when I had my daughter. (They are 15 months apart). I get funny looks from people that think I am too young. I too look younger than I am. My whole family and I were at an amusement park a couple weeks ago and my husband and I went to go on a couple big rides while my Mom watched our kids. We were climbing on when an older woman in front of us turned around and said

" Don't have kids cause then they make you do stuff like this!' I just looked at my husband, smiled and said "if she only knew our 2 kids were riding the kiddie rides right now!" It is bothering me less and less and I dont think it has ever bothered my husband.

Michelle - posted on 09/10/2009

I had my 1st child when I was 20 but he passed away. My 2nd came when I was 23. Im still only 28 years old now but Im sure Ill get those coments too. When I had my son everyone would look at me like he was my little brother or ask me arnt you too youg to have a kid. I would say to them no Im not, He is loved and taken care of. It really doesnt matter what other say just smile and walk away even if it hit a nerve.

Charissa - posted on 09/10/2009

I havent personally experienced this as I am currently pregnant with my first and im 24, but I have had close friends have this.. I will probably either laugh or scream if someone is like this with me cause I have been with my husband for 9yrs, completed university and we both have great jobs and I think that there couldnt be a better time for us to have children!



BUT.. what makes me laugh even more is its usually the older ladies.. ya know, the ones that back in their day were married at 16 and had 7 kids by the time they were 25!! talk about hypocritical!! lol

Andrea - posted on 09/10/2009

i was 21 when my olderst entered kindergarten and when i would go pick him up from school or drop him off all the other mom's would stare at me and wisper to eachother. I was asked by his own teacher if i was his sister. it does suck and i wish ppl would just learn that ppl are having babies younger these days and just cause we are younger it doesnt me we can't raise or kids the same as them if not BETTER!

Amanda - posted on 09/10/2009

Frustrating! I know. I am 27 and have 3 + 2 step kids...so when people come in my office, I get all sorts of comments when they see the pics on my wall...lol...I have learned to laugh it off now that I am a bit older, but back when I was 21 and had 2, it was a little harder. I wanted to strangle people, specially the older ones, day care moms were the worst! But, I finally figured out that if I laugh at them when they make a comment like that, and then tell them that I am older then I look, they sort of shrug it off and go on their merry way. In that, I have also made some friends due to my sarcastic personality...

Hailey - posted on 09/10/2009

Post a reply!ohhh tell me about it i was a rsl one night having dinner with my partnermy 6month old son was with us when an old man said gee girls r having kids young these days i replied with yeah somedo i knew he was talkin about me so i also said i was 20 when i had my twin girls, he seemed embarrased afterwards as i wasnt as young as he thought (teens) then he had to come bac with my mother never got money to have kids so i turned and said yeah but in them days women used to have about 20kids the country would of went broke , he went bac to his corner an sat quietly i think i might have been a little rude but so was he when he was trying to emply that i was a teen

Shandi - posted on 09/10/2009

I get the exact same thing, I ignore the people or if I really want to get them I smile and say yes she is (when I only have my daughter with me) and I have four more at home. Their mouths fall open and I walk away amused at them. I have my four year old and four step children. I am only 24 but I love all of my children dearly and that is all that matters to me. I am blessed to have them in my life.

Destiny - posted on 09/10/2009

The way I look at it is a child was sent from God. Therefore if you had this child at a young age it was to make you stonger and he knew you would be a good mother. There are women out there that had childern at 16-17-18 yrs old and gave them up because they were to young to support or take care of them . I think any young mother is a hero. Atleast they were stong enought to be a good mother and take care of their children. Look at it that way! You go girl!

Holly - posted on 09/10/2009

im 20 but look 16 and i had an elderly woman look at me snide and tell her friend that its disgusting when 16 y/o girls get pregnant. i was already mad so my response was "look lady, im 20 married and have known and been with my man for 5 years i am more than old enough to have a child" I prolly made her feel bad but i was a week over due and very cranky at that point.

Donna - posted on 09/10/2009

I get those looks a lot too, even though i was 19 when i had my little one, which i dont consider too young at all! its worse because i only look 16/17 and my 2 yr old looks about 4! i just ignore them and leave them to think what they like- i made the choice to keep my boy and i am doing my best to raise on my own. he's coming along better than some children with older mums and everyone who knows him comments on how happy and confident he is so i must be doing something right!

In the end- these people don't even know you, or your children- so they are just being judgemental and disrespectful, and their opinions really don't matter.

Donna - posted on 09/10/2009

I get those looks a lot too, even though i was 19 when i had my little one, which i dont consider too young at all! its worse because i only look 16/17 and my 2 yr old looks about 4! i just ignore them and leave them to think what they like- i made the choice to keep my boy and i am doing my best to raise on my own. he's coming along better than some children with older mums and everyone who knows him comments on how happy and confident he is so i must be doing something right!

In the end- these people don't even know you, or your children- so they are just being judgemental and disrespectful, and their opinions really don't matter.

Heather - posted on 09/10/2009

When i was pregnant with my son i was 21 and all the older women who give me dirty looks in stores and look at me like i was a slut cause my husband was not with me and i was to fat to fit into my ring anymore so i got rude looks a whispers and now i get you have a 2 year old how old are you all the time im like im 24 ppl it does not help i look 16 but it gets annoying being judged Its way worse when you go places with out your husband to cause then they look at you even worse

Rebecca - posted on 09/10/2009

People can be so rude sometimes...and it IS extremely belittling when people look at you rude or make comments like you're too young to be a mom. Everyone goes through the stages of life differently and it's no one's job to judge you. If you are satisfied with where your life is...then who cares what other people think.



I'm 23 and just had my first son...I live in a house with my husband. People are always asking to speak to my parent's or don't take me seriously...but they're the ones who like like idiots when you're a young, hip and intelligent SUPER MOM! :- )

Alison - posted on 09/10/2009

I feel your pain!!!

Asha - posted on 09/10/2009

Do not worry about what others are going to say because there is there opinion and there is always going to be someone in the world of today that will have an opinion about everything we do. As a 21 year old mother-to-be I have a lot of people who star at me because of he fact that im so young and they think becuase i'm so young that I will not be able to take care of a baby. Eevrything is going to be wonderful and long as you have God, your husband, children and family.

Kasie - posted on 09/10/2009

I had just turned 20 when I had my daughter and I hated when people would ask me if she is mine. Its very offending. I used to take my daughter to a play group at a park every Thursday but none of the moms would speak to me even though our kids played great. It was very uncomfortable. My daughter made great connections to kids but due to their moms being so rude she never got to play with those kids once the winter hit because none of the parents would talk to me. I think that you just need to look past it and realize that yes you may be young but at least your mature. That's how I dealt with it.

Denise - posted on 09/10/2009

I had my first daughter at 16 I was imbarressed at first but after I didnt care. I had my second child at 25. Part of me looks back an cant belive I had a child at such a young age an how these other young girls have babeis. I guess it bothers me now because my oldest is going to be 10 and she already talks about boys and it scares me! Like I cant belive the ages now that girls get pegnant you hear about 11 12 year olds being pregnant. I wouldnt know what to do?

Davrina - posted on 09/10/2009

i understand completely on what your saying... i had my first child when i was 19 and people keep asking me if he's my little brother i am like no he's my son and they look at me like i did something wrong. i hate a job i support my son and i am a single parent trying my hardest not to go insane. Atleast you have a husband.

Emily - posted on 09/10/2009

I get it everytime I go out about. I even have people come to my house and ask if my parents are home.I had my first child at 16! I'm 22 now with a 6 year old and a 4 year old. And will be married to my husband for 7 years in Jan.

Kristine - posted on 09/10/2009

I get this all the time! I was 19 when I had my daughter, now I'm 24 and have an 11 mo. old son as well. People still think I look 16. You'd think after 2 kids I would look older...but I guess not. It kind of gets on my nerves because older mothers definitely don't have the same respect for me, and I can tell because they won't talk to me!!! But I just keep thinking that at least I'll look younger later in life, and at least I'll have the energy to keep up with my kids now. Most of them are just jealous anyway. I don't pay attention to em anymore!

Alana - posted on 09/10/2009

I had my first kid at age 20. I was a couple months shy of 21. The thing I hated the most is nurse practicioners would treat me like I didn't know my ass from my elbow when it came to my daughter. Yes I was a new mom, but I definitely wasn't stupid. I did my homework, read current books and magazines, and had a lot of experience taking care of children. Just because I'm young doesn't mean I'm incapable of taking care of my child properly. Thats the only thing I ever wanted to be was a mom, so I prepared early for this.

Jo - posted on 09/10/2009

im 28 yrs old i had my son at 16, i always get thats your son i thought you was his sister i just laugh it off and say yes thanks young genes lol.....i uesd to hate it when i was younger the looks i got but now im proud to walk with my son hes grown up a well rounded child i dont care what people think no more, they just jealous dont look young like us :0)

Shelsea - posted on 09/10/2009

i know what you mean! i had my son at 19. we were going to a play group at a church, even though me and my fiance are not religious, and i just stopped going because all the moms were so much older and married when they had their kids and they made me feel real uncomfortable and none of them really spoke to me. now that i am 21 people think i look 16 so i get dirty looks from older people all time but i know i am an awesome mom and thats all that matters =]

Danielle - posted on 09/10/2009

I have run into the same problem. I am 21 and have a 7month old daughter, she was born two months before I turned 21. I get the comment about how I am too young all the time from others at her daycare, and even some family members. God gave her to me for a reason and I am taking awesome care of her!!! It also doesn't help that although I am 21 which is pretty young, I look like I am 16 or 17 so people ask if she is my sister or if I am babysitting her... You will like it when you are older and your children grow up because it will be easier for you to relate to them! It doesn't matter what others say- you are a Mother... and its the most awesome job you could ever have. Your children love you and your age doesn't matter to them... you are their Mommy and they will love you no matter what. Also if others make those judgemental comments they are not happy with themselves, and may even be jealous that you are blessed to have children at a young age. Stay strong and know that you are an amazing Mother, and God blessed you with your children for a reason! :)

Torie - posted on 09/10/2009

i had my first child when i was 16, the midwife that delivered my son was rude and looked down her nose at me everytime she walked into the room because of my age, she assumed i couldnt cope with a child (yes it was hardwork but my son now 12 is polite, caring, and willing to help any1), so younger parents can bring up children in the right way they can do just as good as job as an older parent, we also have the benefits of being able to run around after them. its wrong with the way people look down at younger parents, just listen to the news the pnes that have been abussing their children are not teenagers, so y do we get all the bad reports, looks and always being told we cant do it!!

Catina - posted on 09/10/2009

I get that alot.. Im twenty and by daughter turned 3months last week.. I always get asked if she is my neice or if im babysitting her or something.. i find it very disrespectuful.. i just smile knidly and say maddalyne is my daughter..

Sara - posted on 09/10/2009

Oh, and my mother-in-law is flattered they think she is the mommy! I think it's funny when people are surprised that I have 2 under 2, happy, smart and under control!

Sara - posted on 09/10/2009

I am 21, with two boys... When I get the look like- You have 2 children?? How? I just smile! I know how hard I work, and how dedicated I am to my children... I am appreciated & acknowleged by those who know me as mother/wife. So, yes it's annoying when I get that 'kids having kids" BS, but if they only knew what a mother I

am, what an amazing father my husband is! Stare all you want!