Summer - posted on 02/11/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )
Are there any other young moms who have 2 children from 2 different daddies?!
My first son, Derrel (9years now), was born when I was in high school from my high school sweetheart. We were together for over 5 years, but I broke it off because I was tired of feeling like my sig other was another child to care for. Not to mention I had caught him in several lies and he did not seem to be the dedicated father type.
We didn't see him often after that, even though I NEVER told him he could not see his son. I would beg him to take Derrel for an afternoon, a night, or just out to lunch!! My heart broke when my son would cry and ask about his dad!!
Through college I was mostly single and would do fun things with other single moms who had kids my son's age. It was probably the happiest period of my life if I think about it.
In nursing school I hooked up with another guy. We had a serious relationship, lasting over 5 years again, which led to my second wonderful son named Teagan. I was the main breadwinner of the family after graduation (and before for that matter!).
Last summer we befriended a couple who had just moved in across the street. 6 months ago I find out that daddy #2 and house wife across the street are ALWAYS together when I'm at work (he wasn't working, and called himself a stay at home dad). I let both of them know I was uncomfortable with it, but it continued. It got so bad my older son was being left home alone to play video games all day so my sig other could take the toddler over to the neighbors to "hang out" all day!! It was horrible, because I had never felt like this guy would EVER do anything to cheat on me. He started going out til 5:30 in the morning with her!!! I was having panic attacks. I finally just took the kids and went to my mothers!!
I am now on ok terms with Derrel's father, although he rarely takes his son. Derrel is happier with me and would rather be with me.
Now I feel like life is replaying with Teagan's dad. He has only taken the boys over night 1 time for the past six months!! And seen them a hand full of times.
I feel like I am a mature, responsible, young mother. I've put myself through college to be a nurse. I am skilled in psychology. My children have always lived with me and are happy and treated well. I feel like an idiot to have done the same thing over!! I know I am a good mom, but WHY?
Anybody out there want to share stories with me? I have never been married and most of my old single friends have moved on and are married with new children. I feel like I spent over 10 years being someone's doormat!!