YOUNG MOMS! 20 && 2kids! am i alone?

Jasmine - posted on 02/16/2012 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I'm 20 I have a 9month old boy && I am 18wks preg with my second. Anyone else in the same boat? Its hard because I feel like NO ONE can possibly understand. My fam doesn't know && I'm not sure how to tell them. Just feeling lost!

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Brittany - posted on 02/17/2012

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im 23 and have two kids. i had my daughter at 19 and 17 months after she was born my son arrived. I do understand more than you will ever know! my daughter is now 3 1/2 and my son just turned 2 and there are days where i just wanna pull all of my hair out. At the ages they are now its really hard and they are constantly trying me. I had a hard time telling my family just because they were so close together. I was married to their father at the time. Unfourtunately the stress of being so young and having two kids and just day to day stresses has caused us to seperate. We will be getting a divorce pretty soon. I will have custody of my kids, no doubt. But its been a very long and hard struggle especially with no help emotionally, or just having someone there to help. As for feeling lost your gonna have good days and bad, but you will not love your babies any less :) but you def have to tell your family sooner or later. and i would just go ahead and get it over with bc the sooner the better and everyone can pick up and start planning for their new addition. I hope this helps and if you need some one to talk to or just to listen send a private message! good luck!

Elizabeth - posted on 02/21/2012

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I had my daughter at 19, my son at 20, when my daughter was 18 months and I am currently 21 pregnant with my 3rd ( a little girl!). My son will be just over 12 months old when my daughter is due. I did not plan any of my pregnancies and my family is happy for me. I am a single mother and all the children are by the same man (seems like I look at him and get pregnant) I work and attend college, because I try to make ends meet, pay my bills, and take care of my kids, my family is very supportive. I told my mom first with the first 2 and when I found out about the 3rd, I told my dad while crying. I started off with I wish my momma was here, she passed away about 5 weeks before I found out. He just smiled and said that it is another baby to love. As long as you are happy with the baby then it doesnt matter how anyone else feels. keep your head up. you are not alone.

Devon - posted on 02/18/2012

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I was 19 when i had my twin girls and it wasn't fun when i had to tell my parents but they got over it quickly. i want another one but if i do i would be afraid to tell my parents even though i am 29 now. but just a few days ago, i told myself that if i ever do get pregnant again with my fiance, that i don't care if my parents get mad or not. i am living on my own, have a job, raising my other one's fine (on top of having two step kids) and i am old enought and been old enought to make my own decisions and live how i want to live. if i were you, i would tell them and not worry about what they think. as long as you are happy thats all that matters. you are old enough to make your own decisions. good luck:)

Malissa - posted on 02/17/2012

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i found it hard to tell me parents i was preg w my 1st at 19. and now my 2nd at 26 with a different guy (we have been together for 4 yrs). I had to quit my job and my boyfriend had to get one. He makes less than minimum wage and i cannot get a job. im getting $100 a month from the other father... I was thinking about sahm babysitter but there are bed bugs in my apt and im not trying to spread them. I also did not finish college. Just tell them they may b able to help. My patents were like wtf at first but than were okay with it. its reality there is nothing you can do about it. i would tell them. What bad can happen? oh and my boyfriend has 3 other kids...

Jessica - posted on 02/17/2012

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YOUR NOT ALONE! I'm 24 with 3 bio kids and 1 step son. I had my first at 17 and second shortly after my 22nd birthday.

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Anitta - posted on 03/08/2012

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i had my 5th at 23. i was worried about telling my parents about the 2nd and 3rd, but at the end of the day your family will support you. the longer you wait the harder it will be and you are adding extra stress that you just dont need. you are not alone...just remember that. good luck with your growing family

Misty - posted on 03/07/2012

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Im 21 and have a little girl whos 2 on march 25,a 6 month old boy and Im expecting again. xx

Christiine - posted on 03/07/2012

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ur not alone i am 22 and i have a 2 year old boy that will be 3 next week and a 7 month old baby girl and both my babies have different days and now im with a 3rd guy (not pregnant on birth control)

Tamika - posted on 03/07/2012

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well i was 20 with two kids..but mine were further apart. I was 17 when i had my 1st son then i had my 2nd son when i was 20!! So at age 20 i had a newborn and a 2 year old! I was a little worried about how people would feel about that but everything turned out fine, i am now 24 and they are 3 and 6 years old!! All i can say is just tell them because eventually they will know and therefor that will give everyone time to adapt and accept the situation..and oh yeah prepare yourself for some hectic days lol because 2 kids are definitely different than just having one!!

Rosie - posted on 02/21/2012

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your not alone i was 18 with two kids by the time i was 23 i had 4 kids. try not to let it stress you out its not good for you. My family was upset but got over it when the baby was born like most parents do.

Briana - posted on 02/21/2012

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I know this is only for 20 to 30 but im 19 almost 20 and i have a 21 month old and a soon to be 2 month old. i was very scared to tell my mother that i was having a second baby when i just turned 19. it took me tell i was 3 months a long to tell my family. the way i did it is i got my bf and we sat my mother down and told her that i was having another baby. now i dont know if that would work for you but i know having my bf there with me made me feel a little more comfortable

Jasmine - posted on 02/17/2012

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My children have the same father but we are not very compatible anymore after 6 years the bby made me realize that. We get along great but he is extremely lazy && not much of a provider. I still allow him in his sons life. My fam doesn't know I'm preg again idk how to tell them. They will be upset even more so b/c its the same guy who does nothing. I am not wrking my temp job ended. I don't want to feel or seem like a burden to my family.

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