Your sex life..

Jennifer - posted on 08/03/2011

my kids are getting little bit older now and girls that all does come back. my time for my husband and i is night time

Laura - posted on 06/19/2011

No, my daughter is 20 months old and we always leave her in her crib which is in other room. We would have sex like once or twice in a week.

Jessica - posted on 06/19/2011

The only time me and my husband can ever have sex is at night when she is in her crib in her room asleep.. and then it usually has to be a quickie cuz she goes to bed so late and we are so tired from chasing a 1 year old around all day.. I wondered the other day that if you had kids did having sex just go down the drain.. Its not the lack of wanting to it is just being soooo tired and you can't do it just anytime you want like you can before kids..

Elizabeth - posted on 06/19/2011

we have never been caught that we knew of until one day his aunt and uncle made a comment about us wrestling naked. (noone knew we were sleepin together we were just roommates to start with) When asked where they got that from they told us that his daughter said it when they had her for the night the week before. and as soon as my baby started to watch us out of the side of her crib she got moved to the kids room. Now we do it when ever we are in the mood cause we have a lock on our door.

User - posted on 06/16/2011

I have a 3 month old and truthfully I want sex all the time but it's almost impossible with her because we are co-sleeping and she comfort nurses to sleep so :/ if we are lucky once maybe twice a week. our 10 year old has never caught us because we have a lock on our door luckily, because before our bundle of joy came along it was like 7 days a week :(( miss those days.

Laura - posted on 06/16/2011

My daughter never catches me having sex because that would require actually having sex and thats something that doesnt happen to often. Its like one day it disappeared and was never seen again the longest I have without sex has been more than 3 months now tell me whay is that when your in a marriage or even a relationship and you have kids the sex isnt there for some reason where does it go how can us women get our husbands in the moo for some good old fashioned love making.

Laura - posted on 06/16/2011

My daughter never catches me having sex because that would require actually having sex and thats something that doesnt happen to often. Its like one day it disappeared and was never seen again the longest I have without sex has been more than 3 months now tell me whay is that when your in a marriage or even a relationship and you have kids the sex isnt there for some reason where does it go how can us women get our husbands in the moo for some good old fashioned love making.

Holly - posted on 11/26/2010

sadly now we are so exhausted we only have time for quickies, worse thing is no romance can occur in that short time. as for our 2 year old she often calls out for me at the door total moment killer...

Nicole - posted on 11/25/2010

My sex drive seemed to vanish when I got pregnant with baby #2 and she is 10 months old now, and it is not back. I also have no desire to have it back. Maybe one day, but I'm not rushing it...

Filomena - posted on 11/25/2010

Me and my partner only have a 17 month son, our sex life is pretty much non existent hes lucky if he gets it once a week. Before my son I would always hear women that had no sex drive cos they too tired, I am now on that boat and understand where they are coming from, it seems more a chore so I do it to make hubby happy. Before our son it was all on lol every morning and night. He complains about it but what can you do when your exhausted all the time.

Bethany - posted on 11/25/2010

Desire: dont be concerned it will come back eventually! if you are really worried talk to your gp, they can help also talk to your man somtimes they are just as tired as u can be! i hope it all comes back with avengence 4 ya love ox!!!

Kiera - posted on 11/25/2010

2 to 34 times a week we seem to have alot less quickies like we used to after our first and are much more likely to ask each other what we would like to do. we have a friend that has a much younger gf and sitting around talkind about their unchild relations made us wake up and realise we needed to pick up the pace b4 we lost it altogether
as for being caught not yet although we have woke them up a couple of times opps.
its never the same after children u do have to make an effort but its totally worth it and if ur smart u'll make sure u get a masage first lol
dont make it a big thing relax and enjoy if the kids catch u explain only if asked that its a mummy and daddy thing and try not to give to much away at least that is my plan if we ever do get caught

Desire - posted on 11/25/2010

I have actually be quite concerned about my sex life because before i had Grace it was an all the time thing. Now i am so tired all the time and have found that i have absolutly no sex drive...i rarley want to have sex. i am concerned thats its going to affect my relationship. I dont know what do eaither. Any advice?

Tah - posted on 11/25/2010

great..often...yes and that's what they get...

ChrisTina - posted on 11/24/2010

Thankfully not really! Sheets are a magical thing and tricky to stay under while...wrestling...lol, however if you dont have a door that has a nifty lock you could get caught! I make sure our son is down for the night and wait an hour or so to pass before ripping off my mans clothes. We are responsible when it comes to our baby boy. He doesnt need to see us getting it on! We are completely active partners but we enjoy our privacy. But if we hear him knocking because of a nightmare or mommy and daddy being loud its all over, Robes are on and tied tight, and then its all about the boy. Moms and Dads need to remember thats part of having kids, you may not get it as often but when the frustration melts away with a sleepy baby in your arms its all worth it!

Brianna - posted on 11/24/2010

are sex life really depends on the time of year in the summer there is lots of sex but in winter when my hubbys job gets really busy and hes working lots of late nights and early mornings sex is out of the question cuz hes so tired. also when was pregnant i didnt like sex at all it was very uncomfortable it would make me feel like i was gonna pee lol

Stifler's - posted on 11/24/2010

Hahaha I'd be like... don't come in unless it's an emergency we're having a private conversation

Charlie - posted on 11/24/2010

I agree Emma !

Bethany - posted on 11/24/2010

what sex life? my 9 mo is my birth control. no matter what time of day/ nyt he always wakes or cries... i miss sex, we had taken to getting him looked after (usualy my mum would come take him for a walk or we would go out) but then on the return find out that he was screaming the whole time and i felt guilty for putting mum through it so it stopped. we also have my 16 step son with us and on the odd occasion my bub wouldnt wake up he would interupt us... alas no lock on the door and bit to wierd to say we're off to have sex leave us alone, seeings as he gets weirded out if we even kiss in his presence. one day they will have left the house and it will be me and the other half maybe then?!

Stifler's - posted on 11/24/2010

Better than before. pregnant sex is fantastic.

Wendy - posted on 11/24/2010

Yes, our oldest son caught us (he was 10 at the time) and I was HORRIFIED! The worst part about it was that my back was to the bedroom door because I was...um...doing something on my knees with my hubby standing in front of me. We heard GIGGLING at the same time and turned around to see a tiny crack in the door with two little eyes peering in. And get this - he was trying to wave his little brother over to watch too! They were supposed to be downstairs watching TV. Sneaky little monster. My husband made him sorry for pulling a stunt like that, needless to say. Although he LAUGHED about it to me and said "that's my boy". *sigh* I have to say though that our sex life never wavered even after having kids. All I have to do is see him standing there in just his pants and socks when he's changing every night after work and my knees shake like it was the first time.

Yolanda - posted on 08/18/2009

Sex life...we try every week or two. We try to do it early in the morning or late at night when the kids are sleep. No afternoon nooky anymore :(

Becki - posted on 08/17/2009

Never been caught in the deed, however I like to make sure to get laid at least once a day. With kids and the hubbs working nights though sometimes its hard to find time to have sex and get that close time with hubbs and myself. hehe. Though when we can sneek off its on.

Amanda - posted on 08/17/2009

Quoting Ashlee:

our sex life has always been good! we didn't even make it 6 weeks post delivery. Our son is only 9 months so he hasn't caught us he is either sleeping or playing in his bouncer or playpen. Even though we are 3 months pregnant with #2 it hasn't affected our sex life so far. Minimum 4 times a week. also we shower together whenever possible it is GREAT!!

Ours didn't take the hit until number 3 was about 2yrs old. Then it started slowing down a bit - don't know if it's because of the kids or just the fact that we had been married at that point for 5 yrs and it was just time to slow down.

Amanda - posted on 08/17/2009

Sex life has taken quite a hit - and the kids have caught us - hmmm - maybe twice? Not bad for having 3 kids!

Ashlee - posted on 08/17/2009

our sex life has always been good! we didn't even make it 6 weeks post delivery. Our son is only 9 months so he hasn't caught us he is either sleeping or playing in his bouncer or playpen. Even though we are 3 months pregnant with #2 it hasn't affected our sex life so far. Minimum 4 times a week. also we shower together whenever possible it is GREAT!!

Uana - posted on 08/17/2009

Quoting Ashley:

hahaha we've done it in front of our daughter before (lol) when she was really little (we covered ourselves with a blanket, though). I really love our sex life; it was really hard at first because the both of us were so exhausted, but because we both understood the importance of our marital intimacy, we made it a point to reconnect again. What I did as a wife was to make it a top priority to please my husband the way he likes, even if I'm not necessarily in the mood. I run a bath for him and put candles around the bathroom to give it a romantic feel, I get the bedroom ready with more candles and the romantic music he loves. Another thing I tried a few months ago that REALLY got him going was to put on this sexy outfit he loves and text a pic of my butt in that outfit while he was at work. He was all worked up for hours after he got home (wagging eyebrows)!!!!! Since Leah was home, I ran her to her crib, threw some toys and juice in there, and got to business!!! :D

GRL I WANNA BE MORE LIKE YOU, CUZ AS IT IS NOW HE'S ALWAYS IN THE MOOD AND I'M LIKE BABY, SLOW UR ROLL

Tabitha - posted on 08/17/2009

Quoting Jessica:

It seems like most people on here have great sex drives. I, however, am the complete opposite. When I was pregnant, I really didn't even want to be touched, and it has just continued. My fiance and I get into arguments because I don't want to have sex, and he has the drive of a 16 year old boy. Anyone know what is going on with me or have any advice on how to get my drive back?

You can go to the doctors and they can give you a test to see if you have an imbalance of some sort . I think they can get you back on track with meds

Steph - posted on 08/17/2009

oh my god my sex life is AMAZING after havin my lil girl, i think 9 months of dodgy sex has highered my sex drive big time. xx

Ashlee - posted on 08/17/2009

Quickiessssssssss...........

Christine - posted on 08/17/2009

I never had a good sex life when my children were small, especially right after they were born. It would take about a year for the pain to go away, because they tore me so badly during the births. I felt like it was a chore, a duty to be done. But I have since then married a different man, and the sex is amazing. I actually get grumpy if it doesn't happen every day and preferably several times a day! So far the kids have never seen anything, but they might have heard something...

Luisa - posted on 08/17/2009

OUr sex life is still hot! It seems that it just gets better and better. And it is still the same frequency as it was before children. As of being caught, not yet, but interrupted, yes... I also have stepkids who are now teens, one came up and said they don't feel well and to take their tempuratures, and my huzz was ahem... in the peapod... and we're both naked.. the huzz is well, excited.. so we're like hold on a minute... and my ss is like what is taking so long, we are trying to become g rated, and yes finally, the huzz went to go help his son. He kept on asking why it took so long, and then he was like, oh wait... oh my god... ewww... don't touch me.. ahh it was pretty funny... :) So you may not always get seen, but you could be interrupted.

Brittany - posted on 08/16/2009

My sex life is great. We dont miss a beat at all. Its great for the relationship we still manage a couple times a day!

Jessica - posted on 08/16/2009

I had a c section on 7-21 & i'm couinting down the days till I can have sex doc sd start birth control when my baby is 4 weeks which is tues so Im trying to hold out but I'm a nimpho ( however u spell it lol) i guess u could say at lease with my boyfriend never used to be till i got with him he seems a lil less interested then he used to be though we used to do it every chance we had him pursuing more then me so i dont understand it upsets me i feel he isn't attrtacted to me any ideas ladies i could really use sum help ????? oh & yes have been caught by our 4 yr old but he didnt really understand what was going on but def said sumthings about it at the wrong times lol

Diana - posted on 08/16/2009

Sex life? Mine just died after having my son. Dr. said it could last up to a year. God forbid it go that long!

Akeisha - posted on 08/16/2009

Better since we had our baby! ;)

Megan - posted on 08/16/2009

not been caught. my problem is that is just don't want sex. At all. Period. It flipping blows. Damn mirena......... i have 2 kids. when my 5 years of this iud is up....tubes r getting tied.

Natalie - posted on 08/16/2009

Ive just has a really good laugh reading all these posts!

Cinzia - posted on 08/16/2009

I have so many things on my mind in a day SEX is @ the bottom of the list!!!!

Char - posted on 08/16/2009

my husband is a total sex addict... i knew this wayyyyyyy before we had kids!! he will please himself (if you know what i mean... hint hint) if i don't and i hate that he does that so i try as often as i can to do it for him. our older daughter has her own room now but our younger one sleeps in her crib right next to our bed... thank god she is a sound sleeper because no matter how hard i try, i'm not a quiet one. although if you ask my husband, he would say that we don't have as much sex as we used to or as much as he'd like to... but with 2 kids under 4... who does!?! we used to lay in bed all day and do the hibbity dibbity like 8 times in a day... who can do that anymore. these days it's maybe once a day to every other day but who can keep track.

Alisha - posted on 08/16/2009

lol thank god my son has never sawing us doing that. but i do try to remember to keep the door locked. so that way it cant happen.

Debby - posted on 08/16/2009

Quoting Amanda:

Quoting Jessica:

Quoting Stephanie:

Quoting Ashley:

hahaha we've done it in front of our daughter before (lol) when she was really little (we covered ourselves with a blanket, though). I really love our sex life; it was really hard at first because the both of us were so exhausted, but because we both understood the importance of our marital intimacy, we made it a point to reconnect again. What I did as a wife was to make it a top priority to please my husband the way he likes, even if I'm not necessarily in the mood. I run a bath for him and put candles around the bathroom to give it a romantic feel, I get the bedroom ready with more candles and the romantic music he loves. Another thing I tried a few months ago that REALLY got him going was to put on this sexy outfit he loves and text a pic of my butt in that outfit while he was at work. He was all worked up for hours after he got home (wagging eyebrows)!!!!! Since Leah was home, I ran her to her crib, threw some toys and juice in there, and got to business!!! :D

I am so shocked that you could do it in front of your daughter, It dose not matter that you coved yourself up a child should not see that at a young age. And just because you want same sex don't put her in her crib and threw same toys and a juice in there for her. I would never never do that to my child how could anyone do that, When kids are awake they came first no matter how much you want it. Wait till they are in bed and do it then. The last thing I want to say is HOW COULD YOU BE SO MEAN......

WOW... I think you need to CALM THE F*CK DOWN. Her choices are JUST that. You choose what works for you and your family. And I bet no-one gives you the 3rd degree for your choices. Im sure, if someone did, you'd tell them where to go. So, LAY OFF.

I must say that i totally agree with Jessica about lay off the 3rd degree. When you are married or in a relationship it should be about the 2 of you first. Not your kids, as mean as that may sound to you I think its important to have a strong bond and relationship with your spouse or sig other first. When the kids are all grow up and have moved away all you will have is each other, and if you don't protect "our time " now then what does that say later?  Pediatric studies have shown that a child's brain is not "wired for memories" until the age of 3. What she did was no different from simply putting down her child with comfort items while she took a shower. Are you seriously going to sit here and say that you have never put your child down with comfort items so you could take a shower?    I give Kiddos to Ashley for making time "our time" important

I wonder what you think happened in the womb? Really did you just not have sex while you were pregnant so the baby can't hear it? cause they can hear you know. We did it with the baby in the room a few time's, I need to make my husband and I a priorty as well as the baby, there is something called balance....mmm...i wonder if you know what that means. It simply mean's that without mommy and daddy haveing mommy and daddy time there wont be time for the family cause it would not exist. I caught my parent's doing it when i was 2 and 12 and I have not had any damages done to me becasue of it, Chill out!!!!!!! take a pill and maybe think about making your husband #1 you wouldnt have your kid's without your husband. I think that the roles change baised on need, if you baby need's you, then your baby is #1, and when your baby doesnt need you you and your husband should be number 1...but that's just me..

Debby - posted on 08/16/2009

Our sex life is amazing aswell, we do once a day sometime's 2 times a day, I was the one who used to make the first move, but I have taken a back seat in that latley and it seem's dh (dear husband) want's it more when im not starting it...lol, so that's why it's so much more lately..lol..

Becky - posted on 08/16/2009

Well it is easier for me to have some kind of sex life because my son goes to his dads on the weekends. So thats when I would have my guy come over. But that was when I was working a job that did not require me to work weekends, now I work weekends and it is not as easy.

Mikila - posted on 08/16/2009

its still good, it could be better, but it still exsists....

Kimber - posted on 08/16/2009

still great.. just have to make time for it and learn to get in the mood quick and enjoy ever second of it and make sure he enjoys it to so u will get as much as u want

Cheryl - posted on 08/16/2009

Around my second trimester I went through a phase of being totally uncontrollable, like pull the car over cuz I need to mount you NOW. Then my third trimester it was like get the hell away from me! And after he was born I didn't want it for a long time, I had a lot of stitches down there which made it really painful but even once they healed it as like "okay fine...let's do it..." I learned that a lot of it has to do with breastfeeding which, as expected, totally messes with your hormones. So that might be contributing to your low sex drive, I really recommend a good flavored massage cream/lubricant. I had never tried anything like it before but it did wonders! good luck

 

Quoting Jessica:

It seems like most people on here have great sex drives. I, however, am the complete opposite. When I was pregnant, I really didn't even want to be touched, and it has just continued. My fiance and I get into arguments because I don't want to have sex, and he has the drive of a 16 year old boy. Anyone know what is going on with me or have any advice on how to get my drive back?

Jasmyn - posted on 08/16/2009

My sex life is wonderful. Almost an everyday once or twice occurance. I mean now that we have children we cant just drop everything and go make love at the drop of a hat like we used too. But me and my husband enjoy sex and we make sure that we make time for each other no matter what. Right now we have a 12 yr old, a 19 month old, and I about 4 1/2 months pregnant with our third. I cant say it wont be challenging with a third child, but we will find a way to make it work.

Joy - posted on 08/16/2009

Me and my Fiance's sex life as been great after we had our daughter. Now after 10 months with our baby, we want another one, so sex is like 2 a day every 2 days, its great! I love it, If I dont get some in the morning and at night, im VERy cranky! lol. Dawn isn't walking yet.. so we haven't been cause. So far SO good! lol

Antoinette - posted on 08/15/2009

If ur stressed out or tired alot that will affect your drive, ask someone or "him" to give u a day off from the house duties and child duty and that should help peak ur drive. With women we need mental stimulation before were in the mood, with men its mostly physical.

Quoting Jessica:

It seems like most people on here have great sex drives. I, however, am the complete opposite. When I was pregnant, I really didn't even want to be touched, and it has just continued. My fiance and I get into arguments because I don't want to have sex, and he has the drive of a 16 year old boy. Anyone know what is going on with me or have any advice on how to get my drive back?